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writes:Hi,This time last year I got together with my ex boyfriend. We split up last July, after quite a short relationship, but we had known each other for a year before that.When we split up in July, on my doing, I was very angry with him because of what he said and did, and while we tried to stay friends, it sort of went wrong when rumours spread that I had a new boyfriend, when I hadnt, since I had cared for him and his family and friends knew I wasn't the kind of girl to jump from one relationship to another. Since then we haven't really seen or spoken to one another. I did find out that he was going to ask another girl to marry him on New Years Day, but on NYD she dumped him, saying she was just using him to see what she could get out of him.AnywayLately, I have been having flashbacks of a kind of the periods when we used to be happy, before it went sour, the things we used to find mutually funny and I wonder what it means. I know I don't want to get back with him, he caused me enough trouble the last time round, and I know I'd be a fool to go back.I feel I should send him a message and just see how he is, but I want other people's opinions.Can any of you agony aunts and uncles help? I can't ask my family and friends because they are biased and would tell me to stay away from him.Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): hey sweety, i'm in da same situation as u r. things got rly messed up wid me n an old mate way back in july. we both rly liked each other (unfortunatlly i fell in love with him, e dnt no tho). i'd known him 4 7 years.
at 1st i was hurting a lot a lot, n i was rly angry, but then i stated missin him...
we r semi tlkin now...but thats only cos we're havin 2...
my quesinon 2 u is how will u feel if he doesnt txt u back?? n how will u feel if e txts u back tellin u to leave him alone???
if u think u can handle it go ahead,
hunnie im not tryin 2 be negative, but 4m experiance i say be ready 4 any possible outcome..
wish ya all da best
with love x-ME-x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 There is no harm in sending him a friendly text to ask how he's doing. As long as you don't give him the wrong idea and get his hopes up and make him think that you want to get back with him again when you know for sure you don't.
Eve
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Just because you can't have a good one on one relationship with someone doesn't mean you cannot care about him.
That is just how friends are. To be a friend doesn't mean you need to be romantically involved. If that was the case my best friend might have second thoughts about our relationship. lol
Sure, go ahead and text him. He might like to know that you still care about him as a friend. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): Based on what you have said, I think you should go ahead and text him. If you feel you want to know how he is, just ask. You seem to be a nice genuine and caring person. It cant hurt anyone if you just text to see how he is. You never know, he may reply and you may even become friends again.Good luck and take care
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