Should I be worried by the texts I have read? What should I say to him? Is he scared of love?
Q. Hi there. I've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now. At the beginning he was a bit of a commitment-phobe but after a few months he said that he wanted to commit to me. Everything has been going well, he's mentioned our future together ...
A. 18 April 2012: HI
I wouldn't tell him about snooping down his phone, but never do it again, if there is no trust then whats left??
If he thinks he has to hurry up with love then he clearly is still not ready for a relationship, i would go now before thing... (read in full...)
If I am not gay, what am I?
Q. I am over thirty and until very recently I tagged myself as a gay. I had same sex fantasies from my puberty, and a couple of times I had sexual experience with guys as well. However I never could engage a long-term relationship with a man. In the ...
A. 18 March 2012: your not gay, you just appreciate a good looking person. take time out for yourself instead of thinking you have to be one or the other. I think you could be Bi, but have you been with a women yet?... (read in full...)
How do I talk to this guy without sounding like a blabbing idiot?
Q. I recently started a new class that takes place once a week and was struck dumb by one of the most handsome man I've ever seen (he kind of looks a bit like Viggo Mortensen). I could be wrong, but I think he noticed me too because I felt his eyes on ...
A. 2 March 2012: HI
Well the first thing a man looks for in a woman is confidence, so you really need to show you have it even if you haven;t :) So dont put yourself down before you even said anything to him. Many women make the mistake thinking wow this guy... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you go out with a guy who asked you out straight away?
Q. As the above question says, would you go out on a date with a guy who you had only met on that occasion asked you out at the end of the evening? If you perceive that as needy, if a guy fancies a girl when should he ask her out?...
A. 1 March 2012: HI
Not unless I had some background information on him ( from a reliable mutual friend) Other than that yeah why not, you got to start somewhere right :)
Mandy x... (read in full...)
Is going to the gym scary?
Q. Hiyaaaa, Well, I've got to a stage in my life where my body isn't going to go any slimmer and as in 6th form (college) we stopped having P.E lesson even though it wasn't exciting I still had fun and its you know exercising! I wanna start going ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
I used to suffer with eczema and used drapolene antiseptic cream, and went on a sun bed for 2 minutes, twice a week. Its all gone and never had it since. Sweating in the gym WILL aggravate it, but dont let that discourage you, just make sur... (read in full...)
Is this wedding invite a sign that he wants something more?
Q. I have had a crush on this guy for sometime, and I have been invited to his family wedding. Its 4 months to go. It will be around 200 guests and very family orientated. We have been more than friends for a while, but not into a relationship enough ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
Why dont you just go to the wedding and find out, who knows if it is just an invite as friends, you may end up meeting someone at the wedding anyway :) keep your options open lol...But im guessing its from him, and maybe its a way for him to g... (read in full...)
How do I get my best friend back?
Q. Hi, I'm feeling rather depressed now as my best friend has not been talking to me for 2 months. Basically, this year, we both transferred to a girls' school and I told her that I wanted to make more friends one day when she actually kept getting ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
Yes that was a pretty awful thing to say, one she was your best friend, and two there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian or gay, just because its different from what you believe or been grown up to believe they are still human beinging... (read in full...)
I want to move on from the first man I was with, but I feel like I have no desire for anyone else!
Q. hii all i am gay and i was kinda relationship with a man but he was just sex freak.so, i just stopped srring him.and now the situation is that i am unable to forget him,i want him badly he was the first man of my life with whom i was having p...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
What you had with this man was lust, no real connections, just sexual. So now its gone your craving that side of him, not the relationship. You just HAVE to move on and find the right guy to have a meaningful relationship with, not on... (read in full...)
Liking a friend's ex?
Q. I really.like my friend's ex-bf. They have broken up many times when they dated and got back together. They broke up again and now my friend has a new boyfriend. I'm afraid to tell her that I like her ex. But i want to tell her I like him but don't ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
That would be a BIG FAT NO GO for me. Not only is that going to cause conflicts, it could possibly have her thinking your going to fancy her new boyfriend too, and her guard will be up big time, I doubt she would want to stay close friend... (read in full...)
My ex is insulting me! What should I do?
Q. Hello Dear-Cupid-Team, I'm having trouble with my ex. When i met him he was a real Mr Right but then he dumped me because of his ex. After that incident he totally cut me of. I found out he cheated on me - what he is doing at the moment with his...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
This is a case of ( if I cant have you , no one will ) regardless of the fact he dumped you. His ego is so far up his bum he cant even smell the roses any more. Be strong, be possitive, the boy your with knows you and knows he loves you so... (read in full...)
I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
How DARE he tell you such a thing. Get out of this marriage now, and be yourself. You were truthful from the start, what did he think, that it was a cold that you could recover from? you are who you are, and if you want to be happy in lif... (read in full...)
My friend and love interest is in an abusive relationship!
Q. im a black 40 year old woman whose in love with my 41 year old best friend whose white we get alone great our time together is so deep she say she have feelins for me and she knows how i feel about her we been friends for about 5 months and i love ...
A. 29 February 2012: The Only way she can do it is by just telling him its over, and if he wont leave call the police and get a restraining order. But is going to want to have to do this for herself, not for anyone else, not for you , but for her. Any pressure form ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this beautiful girl who has a boyfriend? Wait and see what happens? Or run?
Q. I have been talking to this girl for a couple months. She is really nice and it seems like she likes me. The way she talks to me in person and when we text seems like she does. Its just really flirty.The thing is I did not start the flirting. She ...
A. 29 February 2012: Flirting with eachother as just the same as cheating, yes its hitting on her. I would just stay friends, no flirtting.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I can't imagine leaving my family to move to be with my boyfriend!
Q. Hey all, I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, he's a US Marine and is currently stationed in Hawaii and I am in NY. He is done with his contract around the same time I am graduating from college. He has asked me to move to North Dakota ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
I was so nervous when I left home, I thought I was going to have a breakdown ( and I was 19 lol), But when I moved into my new home it was the BEST thing I ever did. Your BF sounds like he is very much inlove with you, and cares for yo... (read in full...)
After our good living together trial period, everything has gone downhill!
Q. Ok so im having a big issue here and im looking for advice or peoples opinion on what they think. So, one day after being tired of being alone, and also needing a place to stay, i decided to look online to try and find a compatible match for my ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
Firstly I wouldn't have moved in with a complete stranger to begin with, Why did you move in before asking about him? weather he smoked. or drank, and anything else that you wouldn't like? He is using emotional blackmail to keep you there fo... (read in full...)
Pregant and feel alone and lost .. want advice
Q. Need helpful advice from anyone. Feeling very lost, I'm 24 and six months pregnant. I didn't want to pregnant, and I feel awkward when anyone talks to me about it. My boyfriend of five years is very happy about the whole thing, but he doesn't seem ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
Your not alone hun, so many women feel exactly how your feeling right now. All your plans have had to change because of an unwanted pregnancy, its a scarey road for you right now. But it will get better :/ your bound to be anxious, your goi... (read in full...)
I was trying to be friends with my ex, then he started yelling at me!
Q. So i was dating this guy and we dated for about 3 months then we broke up and we agreed to be "friends" as almost every couple do and then about 2 weeks ago he text-ed me saying shut up because i said hey sup then we went on and he just kept ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
He is a young boy, and boys are not as grown up as young girls, his being very childish, you dont need a boy like that in your life. Just play it cool, dont talk to him, dont text him, ignore him completely, when he see's your really n... (read in full...)
How can I learn to overcome homosexuality?
Q. Hi cupid, quick question. I think I might be gay but I don't want to be. Nowadays when people say they are gay everybody jumps up saying its ok and that you're born that way and we don't have a choice and stuff like that but I don't think I believe ...
A. 29 February 2012: HI
I have to disagree with some on here (sorry guys/gals)lol
You are NOT born gay . And its ludicrous to think so. However over time you begin to learn life, and who you are, wether you like who you are or what you become is a choice. Some wil... (read in full...)
My friend and love interest is in an abusive relationship!
Q. im a black 40 year old woman whose in love with my 41 year old best friend whose white we get alone great our time together is so deep she say she have feelins for me and she knows how i feel about her we been friends for about 5 months and i love ...
A. 28 February 2012: Then the best you can do right now is remain her best friend, be there for her when things are looking bad, let her know she has a shoulder to lean on. Just no pressure, cause this must be all very confusing and hard for her right now.
Man... (read in full...)
Never so much as hugged a girl, and I'd like to change that
Q. Hey guys, well basically i’ve got a question regarding myself. It’s a bit embarrassing, but is it normal for a nineteen year old to be a virgin. I’ve never done anything with a girl, never been kissed, never even held hands with anybody. In fact now ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Well it sounds like your doing the right things, How would you rate yourself in the looks department? This may sound like a shallow question to ask, and I apologise if I offend by asking, but many people go by the looks before they ... (read in full...)
So what is a good way to meet someone as it seems like I have tried everything?
Q. So I have been single for years and really need to meet someone soon, I feel overwhelmed with loneliness. I should have no problems meeting someone because I'm attractive, educated, intelligent, and I have my crap together. My problem seems to be ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Have you thought about taking a year out and traveling? backpacking, doing charity work in third world country's? You will have the best time of your life, and I bet you will find the perfect man along the way.
Mandy xx... (read in full...)
I am gutted that he's only looking forward to seeing me because he thought he was going to get his leg over!
Q. hello all, well i'm 36 and after a crappy divorce am back with my parents, had one disappointing boyfriend since but have been single for a good while and would like to meet someone now.. well i have and we went for a drink last night, hes 31 and a ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I think his just nervous and playing it safe, as you both had a little fondle pryor to this. Just text back oooh cheeky, not just yet lol. If his been single for four years, his probably right out of the dating knowledge.
Dont take it to h... (read in full...)
Online dating dilemma!
Q. I have recently met a man online. Initially we emailed each other for about three weeks and each time he responded timely and clearly put a lot of effort in his responses. After nearly three weeks of it, I casually suggested that maybe we could ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
It sounds like his probably met someone else online. Maybe he thought when he put all the efforts in for the first couple of dates he was going to be getting more than a kiss and cuddle, and as this never happened his moved on to someone ... (read in full...)
I feel like an outsider after our discussion about wills and money!
Q. HI guys. I have posted questions on here before and had some really good advice so hope you can help. To cut a long story short, I have been with my partner almost four years and we are reasonably happy. It started out long distant but i mo...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I think I would be upset about this too. However its only been four years, so things may change. He may be just testing your reaction towards it. Seeing if your more interested in his will or him. I know that isn't the right way to go about... (read in full...)
Should I dump this guy and get on with my life?
Q. Ive being in a relationship for the last 15 month. He is 7 years older than me not that you would think it as he quite immature for his age. He told me he has being in a relationship and lived with someone and that he got hurt. I have no evidence...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I cant tell you what to do, but if it were me, I would never have got back with him in the first place. He sounds like a right soul crusher, draining you of your spirit. Why be with someone who you will always be wondering what his up to? a... (read in full...)
My friend and love interest is in an abusive relationship!
Q. im a black 40 year old woman whose in love with my 41 year old best friend whose white we get alone great our time together is so deep she say she have feelins for me and she knows how i feel about her we been friends for about 5 months and i love ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I think you should let her try to work out her marriage, unfortunately many women go through this kind of abusive relationship, and are affraid to move on. She may very well have feelings for you, but I doubt they are the same as what you... (read in full...)
How long do relationships last?
Q. Simple. how long does an average relationship last? I don't know much about this and I'm curious. it would also be helpful if you knew when a guy might want to break up? I'm not having trouble at the moment with my current bf or anything but I want ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
dont look for signs of a break-up, because ou will be paranoid with everything being said or done. A relationship will last for as long or as short as you both want. If you are getting on really well, then there is no reason to worry. J... (read in full...)
Should I try getting back with my ex?
Q. Its been a year. After my really bad rebuking mail, we stopped talking; but she still called back once or twice . And then the last one was an apologizing mail a few days back. We were in contact for around six months, but I stopped talking ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I wouldn't ask her out just yet. She could be simply apologising because of the way things ended. Just try being friends for a while, and see what happens. This way your not putting your emotions on line, and you can both get to know eac... (read in full...)
I have no idea if he likes me or not!
Q. Hello! I have a question about wether a guy likes me or not. We are in the same grade and have most of our lessons together. He is fairly tall, like me and we are both thin and have several things in common. My friends keep on telling me what a ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Its sound like he likes you too :) just be yourself, and time will tell. Im sure one way or another you will find out.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
Still grieving over a failed relationship, how do I move on?
Q. Hi! Any words of wisdom appreciated. I broke up with someone about 3 months ago. He was a friend and former housemate. We always seemed to be more than 'friends' but things were awkward as we lived with another guy who was his friend and who liked ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Im sorry your feeling this way :( but other than time will heal, theres little else you can do about it. His moved on now, and things were just the wrong time for you both. Just rememeber for next time that pride is a horrible dark shadow t... (read in full...)
I don't want sex anymore because we are not trying for a baby and I simply don't feel like it anymore, so should I end the relationship because this is not fair on him?
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other having both come out of long term relationships 3 years ago, him a marriage with 2 kids and me long term partner no children. We are both 40 years old now. We discussed having children about 1 year into the ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I have just spoken about this situation from a different perspective. Do you love him? if so have you thought about couples therapy? Alot of women can feel like this, ( if we are not getting anything from this i.e a baby whats the point) T... (read in full...)
Problems with my dad.....
Q. hello, I hate to ask this but I have a question about my dad ... I just dont know what to do :/ I am full time uni student who has a lot of time off through the week but this is filled up with my uni work and also i have a part time job wher...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Its always very sad to hear when a family breaks down. But this is not your fault , neither your sisters or your dad's. You cant walk on eggs shells, your dad has to snap out of this or he will loose you all. His obviously still very h... (read in full...)
Isn't there usually a spark when you're dating?
Q. A few weeks ago, I started seeing this guy named Alex. He's a good friend of my best friend. She set me up with him. He turned out to be really nice, funny, cute, and we have a lot in common. Even though I had fun with him, there's just not...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
You have never had sex before, yet your talking about being freinds with benefits??? woooow slow down !!! You really DONT want to start your sexual life with meaningless sex or you will never have a true long lasting loving relation... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a wandering eye
Q. I feel the pressure to look good because my boyfriend has wandering eyes and constantly look at pretty girls. How do I assure myself that one day when my youth is gone and he'd find someone else??? Is this normal?...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I think we can all have a wondering eye, I mean I cant walk down the street with horse blinkers on, If I see an attractive guy, im human, of course im going to look. Why not look at beauty? after all its only looking. Unless his taking i... (read in full...)
My wife the party girl, how do I get her attention?
Q. I have an issue that is somewhat hard to articulate. My wife is a very outgoing person, who has the ability to connect with people very quickly. She is excited to joke around with other people, and they with her: so much so that in social settings ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Your wife sounds like a down to earth fun woman to be around, She has never given you cause to believe she has been unfaithful. She ( because of you ) is a very happy woman and is enjoying her life to the full. I can see why it may upset yo... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to move in with him. Do I have to be the one to make all the changes?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 years wants us to live together, with me moving into his house and then his idea is we split all the bills 50 - 50, including me paying 1/2 his rent. He feels it is not convenient for him to move in with me because my place is ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
I think his being unrealistic. It sounds nice when you think about it, but the reality is with your mortgage and work responsabilites, and his more demanding house bills and children ie extra living expense, unless your super woman, or willi... (read in full...)
So much love-So little sex
Q. I been married for 13 years. Both 41, with no children. I do ALL the things every wife wishes for: Flowers, many vacations,, cook dinner, weekend get aways, cards, notes, gifts, hugs, kisses (but told don't get myself excited). In return, I get ...
A. 28 February 2012: After your reply OP, I think it sounds like she just isn't interested in sex any more. I would definately suggest seeing a your Dr who can give you all the information you need in regards to seeking help with couples sex thereapy, this is of course ... (read in full...)
Could fate bring us back together?
Q. Do you honestly believe if two people are meant to be together that they will meet again? Because I made a stupid, stupid mistake! I'm not going to go into what happened. It was down to miscommunication and things being twisted and misconstrued. ...
A. 28 February 2012: If you love someone enough you let them go, and if they love you enough they will come back. You can either spend your life wishing, hoping or waiting, or you can get on with your life, I believe in fate, and that everything happens for a reason. If ... (read in full...)
So much love-So little sex
Q. I been married for 13 years. Both 41, with no children. I do ALL the things every wife wishes for: Flowers, many vacations,, cook dinner, weekend get aways, cards, notes, gifts, hugs, kisses (but told don't get myself excited). In return, I get ...
A. 28 February 2012: HI Rob
Sometimes women can go through a phase, and are just not interested in sex at all. And its also possible she could be going through the change? you say everything else is perfect, so she is definately still very much inlove with ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my friend ever compliment me?
Q. Why does my friend behave this way? I'm I overreacting? My friend I thought we were close doesn't compliment me.. She never tells me when I look nice or if she likes my bag, hair etc: nothing like that. Today I met up with her and a few othe...
A. 28 February 2012: HI
Could be one of two things,
1) she feels she is a good enough friend, and loves you like a sister , so dont have to tell you , you should know if she thought you looked wrong she would tell you, or if your things you buy are horrible she... (read in full...)
I really want to change my promiscuous ways! Please help!
Q. I was a very promiscuous girl, from 18-24. I would sleep withguys (oral sex mostly) without knowing them that well, it was REALLY easy to get me in bed. I couldn't form lasting relationships b/c of this. I didn't want to be with a guy i slept ...
A. 27 February 2012: HI
I think you have very low self esteam, you think by letting these guys get what they want you will be in their good books, and maybe have a chance of a relationship. I think you cover this fact by saying its all about the mystery. stop kid... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this beautiful girl who has a boyfriend? Wait and see what happens? Or run?
Q. I have been talking to this girl for a couple months. She is really nice and it seems like she likes me. The way she talks to me in person and when we text seems like she does. Its just really flirty.The thing is I did not start the flirting. She ...
A. 27 February 2012: HI
I would not even go there....she is a player, its NOT ok when men are players, and its NOT ok when women are. Your worthe more than that, and deserve to be with a girl who is not a two timing flirt. She obviously rates herself. Even your fri... (read in full...)
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