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Why doesn't anyone ever like me?

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Question - (14 February 2012) 9 Answers - (Newest, 16 February 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, *eilta writes:

Okay so valentines this year has me thinking. I never had a boyfriend ever. The guys I always like never like me they always see me as their bestfriend. I am a smart girl, I'm chubby but I look good, I sing,have a nice personality,nice style I'm always looking good. I am friendly easy to talk to and funny. I think Im a good catch. But no one ever likes me why ?

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A female reader, dr.2.be United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

dr.2.be agony auntThe way I look at it, its not that nobody likes you, its just not your time yet. I strongly believe that serious relationships happen when one is at that particular point in their life where they are able to handle sharing it with someone. Its much better that way.

I am 24 years old and I never had a man tell me he loved me, never had a man take me out or give me flowers for valentines day. Never had a man refer to me as his girlfriend. I have liked many of the men I dated in undergrad and would have gladly been their girlfriend, but for some reason it didn't happen and I think its because I was not ready and unable to invest the appropriate amount of time to a relationship. Its been that way for me. But you know, its okay. I am still young. I have a lot going for me and when my time comes it will happen.

My advice is to Concentrate on your school and getting together your life goals. Don't base your self worth on whether or not a guy likes you. In college you will have many guys after you, but just be careful and wear your heart on your sleeve. Have fun, go out with these guys and be safe but respect yourself at the same time. Never loose sight on what you really want in your life.

If a relationship happens, it happens. If it doesn't then no big deal it wasn't your time. You have bigger things comming to you. Thats how you have to look at it.

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A female reader, bardia United States +, writes (15 February 2012):

bardia agony auntJust an extra word of encouragement: My first date I was 23. My first boyfriend and first kiss I was 35 (yes, you're reading that right!). Everyone's always said "you're so cute & pretty & funny & smart & talented & blahblahblah..." And it still took that long. We only lasted about a year. And now there's someone who came out of nowhere who adores me & tells me the most lovely things every girl wants to hear! Like everyone already said, be patient. It might take (a whole lot) longer than you'd like, but "he's" out there waiting to find you!

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (15 February 2012):

person12345 agony auntYou are still very young. I didn't have my first bf until I was 19. When you're in college guys will be all over you. Valentine's day is just a silly day anyways. It makes single people feel bad and couples feel stressed out. Go buy yourself something delicious and chocolatey and have a fun night.

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A female reader, Deagan United States +, writes (14 February 2012):

Deagan agony auntDon't worry about it, dating in high school isn't that much fun anyway. You're going to love college, and you're going to meet many mature men focusing on the same major of yours. Things always fall in place! Just keep your head up!

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A female reader, OscarsMummyReturns United Kingdom +, writes (14 February 2012):

believe me i would rather be someone who the lads want to have a laugh with than some boring hot girl with no personality, at school i was ugly no one wanted to know me everyone fancied my friends, so i got funny, got a personality no one cared what i looked like they just wanted to hang out with me cause i was lively and fun - believ me the hot girls at school will get plain, they peak too soon - you just let your circle of freinds grow and grow be the girl that people want at their party.. guys arent daft as they get older they know whats more important, i laugh at good looking girls who are out and just stand there, no one approaches them, not because they are intimidated but because they are boring - you have something that you cannot learn or buy - a personality !! Be happy, always take pride in your appearance and you will be beautiful i promise xx

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (14 February 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIF you get caught too soon you have to be thrown back...

wait till the right fisherman comes along and it will all fall into place.

you sound delightful!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (14 February 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYou "sound" like a delightful young woman, from your description of yourself.... Now....

BE PATIENT!!!!.... we (young) guys take an excrutiatingly loooooooonnnnnng time to grow up and look beyond the obvious (appearances) to learn about great girls like you.... BUT... it DOES and WILL happen.....

Keep up the good work that you do... with your studies, your smile and your winning personality.... and some day - that's SOME DAY - one of "those" guys will wake up (and GROW UP) and express interest in the REAL YOU .... and you will have found yourself a great friend.....

Good luck....

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A female reader, Dear Mandy United Kingdom +, writes (14 February 2012):

Dear Mandy agony auntHi hunnie

I think maybe your trying to hard to please everyone, ( without knowing ) I say this because sometimes we go about our life being a nice decent person, yet so many people cant except it, you see have you ever heard of the sying treat them mean to keep them keen? well to a point that works, but eventually as you grow wiser with age you will see that only works if your happy with second best. you carry on being yourself babe, because one day you WILL find someone who appreciates you for just being you. be happy with yourself, because there are girls out there who will do anything for a bit of attention, you have pride, self respect, and dignity, that goes a LONG way xxx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (14 February 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntYou have quite a bit going for you that's for sure except for maybe one thing...patience. It will happen but you have to wait for it. While you are waiting have some fun with your friends and make some teenage memories.

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