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writes:Dear agony aunts, it's valentine's day today and I gave a valentine to the guy that I rejected a few months back but really liked a lot(the thing is, I don't know what kind of way I like him!) . And he was astoundingly cold to me, as though I was close to nothing. It really hurt a lot, and I didn't know how to reply either apart from shoving the card in his hands and walking off. I'm not sure what these feelings are exactly; why does my heart hurt whenever I see him? And why did it hurt when I went out with him as something more than a friend, but not exactly a lover? I really do not know what to do anymore and I really would appreciate your advice :(. Thanks in advance, and have a blessed valentine's day too. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 Sorry babes, but your only feeling exactly how he felt when you turned him down. I think the valentine's day card was a nice gesture. At least he doesn't feel so much a fool and knows there was some type of interest.
I suggest you write a letter of apology explain everything, just like you did here. It probably won't make him like you better, but at least it will help him understand and you'll know you did everything you could to fix your original mistake. Wait a while though, he's just got one card to deal with, give him time to think it over, then follow up with an apology letter.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Domolovescookies took the words right out of my mouth. If your going to blow hot and cold how do you expect the poor guy to react? I suggest you work out what these feelings are before you contact him again, as no-one likes mind games.
Happy Valentines day :)
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 You are somewhat selfish to think that you can reject this guy and then come up to him months later with a valentines day card, and expect him to be super happy about it.
You don't seem to know what you want from him, and it's not fair to string him along.
Figure out what you want. Yes, you feel hurt, but at least you know how hurt he was feeling prior.
You're going to have to accept that he's been rejected by you and thus, not interested in you.
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reader, Domolovescookies +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Well.. you blew him off , thats what he thinks. And he's either moved on or not moved on and is just putting up a front so as not to get hurt twice.
You're going to have to do a little more than just give him a valentine... try giving him a call on the phone instead, or talk in person... cuz you have some explaining to do.
Imagine how confused you would be if you were him: First she rejects me... then she gives me a valentine.
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