He's acting more distant. But I can't see what I did wrong. What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing someone and we have been getting on so well he knows a lot of my friends too so it's not like I am any girl. He has just acted so distant and failed to make plans with me over the last few weeks! I have seen him as we have all ...
A. 15 August 2012: HI
If your looking for an honest opinion, then I think you should just move on. It sounds like he got what he wanted and was just a weak man, so rather than tell you the truth he was stringing you along in hoping you would just leave him alone. I... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is acting differently, and I can't seem to talk to her about it!
Q. I started seeing this girl about two months ago. We met online. She lives about two hours away. The first moment we physically met, there was chemistry. It was immediate, and we got along incredibly well. Better than I even knew was possible. I ...
A. 2 August 2012: HI
sounds like your new girlfriend has some serious issues to deal with before trying to settle in a new relationship. Be careful of this typr of girl, this will only bring you down. If she continues to behave this way with you I would cut your... (read in full...)
I want to leave my daughters father but I am scared he will take our daughter!
Q. I feel completely lost. I want to leave my daughters father, and take my daughter with me and move back home. Bit of a background story I moved here to Louisiana from California to be with him, its been 3 years now and I am miserable. I hat...
A. 2 August 2012: HI
here is no way he will get custody of your daughter, unless he has proof of you being an unfit mother. Firstly I would Go back to work and start saving money of your own in a seperate account from your husband. You may find that going back to ... (read in full...)
She broke up because she says she needs to be alone. Will she come back? What if she doesn't want to come back?
Q. I've been with this wonderful and amazing girl for 4 months and it was 100% happiness for both of us, she wanted to see me, I missed her, she missed me, it was passionate and there was soooo much love! It was perfect. I met her when we were bot...
A. 2 August 2012: HI
Run as far away as possible from this cruel women, she knows exactly what she is doing, and that is using you when she has nothing better to do, and huge mind games. You dont deserve to be treated this way. She is obviously still very chi... (read in full...)
How can I leave her slowly so she doesn't feel she's done something wrong!
Q. Hey guys... I ll come straight to point ... I have a girlfriend... She is beautifuk classy hot n everything dat i wabted ... One thing i wnted most is her virginity... But she s wasnt ... She had a asshole first bf ... So i still love her so much ...
A. 2 August 2012: HI
Sorry but your a grown man who should be with who ever makes YOU happy. Your parents will one day not be on this earth but you will be, if you keep living your life for everyone else you will never find happiness. That said your better just... (read in full...)
She's messing with my head even though she says she's not!
Q. Me and my ex split up in march, she fell pregnant with my child and she is 4 months gone. We are trying to get back together or try and attempt but its going wrong all the time. We always argue, she never trusts me and wont let me do anthing wi...
A. 30 July 2012: HI
That is no way to be treated. Firstly she does seem like she is the controling one, yet willing to do just that her self. Firstly I would want a paternity test done for peace of mind, then I would suggest she see's a councilor for her trus... (read in full...)
Did my counselor speak in an incorrect way to me in offering to help?
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently I went through a difficult time at home; my mother had a near fatal car accident and is still in the process of recovering. The counselor at my old school heard about the accident and contacted me. He told me that if ever nee...
A. 30 July 2012: HI
I think your all over reacting. You were once a pupil at his school, therefore feels he should try to help you still. He can see your having a difficult time and just wants to reasure you that there are people out there that can help, an... (read in full...)
I don't know how to find my soul mate
Q. hello onliners and dears my question goes like this...am now 26 year old middle height length boy i appreciate cute girls, i frequently get such kinds of girls do not get along with me for a long time just because they might love sex or money or sth ...
A. 30 July 2012: HI
Your trying to hard , love will happen for you when the time is right, you will find your soulmate when she wants to show herself to you. Sometimes in life when we are looking to hard for something we never see whats right before our eyes... (read in full...)
How should a man treat a women, now a days?
Q. How should a man treat a women now a days, anyways? We se so many shows and have so many social pressures, both on men and women, but mostly on women. Also though i think it's difficult to get to know someone, becuase of that persons past, with ...
A. 30 July 2012: HI
What is wrong with today is that there is too much technology. No one writes a letter any more, no one goes to visit as much, people would much rather phone/text/email/tweet/fb etc. With this people forget how to good old fashion woo a pe... (read in full...)
My twin sister and I are dating twin brothers. Is that weird?
Q. We are identical twins and the guys we are with (4 months) are identical twins and we only just found out because we hadn't met each other's boyfriends before and I'm not sure what we all think of it. It's a bit strange. What should we do?...
A. 30 July 2012: HI
Its very strange that none of you were aware of this, but other than that so what, your all free to see eachother, you all have the same tatse in the person you chose, just make sure no one gets mixed up lol hope it all works out for you.... (read in full...)
Texting: What boundaries are acceptable?
Q. I was just curious what boundaries various people think is acceptable when it comes to texting, having a few issues in my relationship because of this at the moment. In my opinion when you get in bed together to watch tv etc phones should be left ...
A. 26 July 2012: HI
I agree with you completely here. Your GF is obviously addicted to her phone, however the more you argue about it with her the more she will try and proove a point and do it more. I would suggest moving out to her and maybe finding ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for reaching out to someone who hurt me?
Q. I was in a LDR for a year and a half. There were ups and down. The man himself was not happy with where things were in his life so he was messing up our relationship without realizing it. To cut the long story short, after realizing he called my ...
A. 6 July 2012: HI
You asked your questions and answered them yourself. so just continue on that path cause its the right one.
Mandy... (read in full...)
Is anything, of what this friend of my husband told me, true?
Q. When I started dating my boyfriend (now husband) I talk to his best friend (male) about these girls that always calls him seeking advice and talk, he explained to me how he promised himself to never trust a woman with guy friends. I asked him why ...
A. 6 July 2012: HI
Says he who is already betraying his freind ( your husband) by talking to you about him behind his back!!!! I would stay well clear of him. At the end of the day we all need someone in our life we can talk to if need be, man/woman who care... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision in ending this relationship?
Q. My ex boyfriend came to the statse with a visa that expired a few months ago. He told me that he was planning on going back to mexico this summer to obtain a new one, but evaded it last minute byecause he didnt want to risk not being able to come ...
A. 6 July 2012: Aunt Honesty couldn't have said it any better, I totally agree with all she has said. Your a very bright intelligent young lady and your making the right choice here. your still young and have the whole world to conquer :) and when your flying high ... (read in full...)
My partner want to try sexual positions like in "50 shades of grey" and I'm not confortable with it
Q. Hi there, sorry if this seems a bit long but here I go. I've been with my partner for 4 years now, we're in a loving relationship, lifes been good, however, the sex part's worrying me. It's not that we're having too much or too little sex, it's that ...
A. 5 July 2012: HI
I would not doing anything that your uncomfortable with. If its not right for you you should not be made to feel pressured. Trying new things in a relationship has to be what you BOTH want. If you want to try however, tell him what your wil... (read in full...)
Boyfriend mentally abusive because he cannot forget my escort past
Q. This situation is extremely complicated, but here goes. I am currently teetering on the verge of insanity due to an extremely psychologically, and emotionally abusive relationship with a man who cannot forget my past as an escort. I met this man...
A. 5 July 2012: HI
I am going to keep this short and sweet.....DUMP HIS ARSE!!! and if you fear for your life at any time call the police A.S.A.P.. dont put yourself through anymore stress, or you could end up doing something you will one day regret.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
Are we going through a phase? Or has the flame died out?
Q. Ok i dont know how to start but i guess i have to start somewere,its quite a story but thanks in advance to who ever might be patient to go that far i'v been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months now,things zoom of so fast,we were chatting...
A. 5 July 2012: HI
Yes most people will agree that after a certain amount of time with someone things start to calm, fall into place so to speak, you cant expect someone to be overly happy and excited 24/7. Also if your on the phone with eachtoher all the ... (read in full...)
My husband always has to run the show
Q. How can a man say he loves you and yet say such awful things? Is it a lack of self control? My husband thinks his job is do all the solving, planning, thinking and decision making. Whereas, I came from a family where the husband and wife worked as a ...
A. 5 July 2012: HI
Yes I think a cultural diffrence will also add to this, as different cultures have their own way of up bringing, and dealing with things. Being Asian too he would of had a very strict childhood, I can see this being very difficult to get s... (read in full...)
How should FWB relationships operate? Do guys get jealous if she sleeps with other guys in a FWB?
Q. I was just reading an Article about FWB relationships. The guy in the article stated a guy who is in a FWB relationship can still feel jealous if the girl sleep with any other guy. Even though they aren't emotionally attached to each other. W...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
These relationships are soul distroying. However most guys/girls will get jealous because they want the FWB ,but they dont want you to sleep around. They want their cake and eat it. Also why would any one want this kind of emotional detached... (read in full...)
He came home from a strip club wanting sex
Q. My boyfriend of over a year now came home the other night from hanging out with his friends that had come into town. I thought nothing of it, they usually just go out to eat or play video games, etc. But, when my boyfriend came home this last time, ...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
Firstly I would ask how your sex life with him is right now anyway? and would question why you felt you had to ask him why he wanted you and was turned on ? If my man came home to me and wanted to make love I definately wouldn't be complain... (read in full...)
What can we do? I feel pressured into what names we should give our children
Q. I have recently become engaged with my boyfriend of 4 years and we've been having talks about when we'll start a family. He's named after his Father (who wasn't named after anybody) My partner's Grandfather was called a traditional name in the fami...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
I dont think your being unreasonable at all. Firstly you are not even pregnant yet and you have an idea of how this will end dont you? if your partner is trying to control this situation already how will he be once married? how will he be wh... (read in full...)
I can hear my parents having sex, and really would rather not
Q. Don't know whether this is the right site but I need some advice. I can constantly hear my parents having sex. I completely understand that this is a natural thing and I am happy that they are still in love and can still experience that together but ...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
Ok this is a tricky one , especially when you say they are not easy to confront, because they will always say this is our house if you dont like it move out your an adult. HOWEVER from your point of view I totally agree they should concider... (read in full...)
My husband always has to run the show
Q. How can a man say he loves you and yet say such awful things? Is it a lack of self control? My husband thinks his job is do all the solving, planning, thinking and decision making. Whereas, I came from a family where the husband and wife worked as a ...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
This is not the right way to go in any relationship, so its no wonder why your so frustrated with him. Could it be that as a child he was not allowed have a opinion in his household? sometimes when your younger and you have things to say and ... (read in full...)
Asking out a girl at work?
Q. This is a sequel of sorts to this question, read this first just to get a feel of my situation: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-let-this-crush-just-die-the.html I've decided that I want to take the plunge and ask this girl at work out...
A. 2 July 2012: HI
I really would re-concider asking this girl out, going out with someone you work with will complicate things, if it dont work out your working life will be hell for both of you, and you would not be able to endure work this way. However ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is under stress and being grumpy and short tempered. How can I help him?
Q. Hey guys i really need your help i feel like im going crazy. Well tomarrow is me and my bf one year anniversery and i love him so much. The problem is he lives with his ucle and his uncle is the meanest and rudest person i have ever met. His uncle ...
A. 29 June 2012: HI
thats just so sad, the poor lad dont have a chance in hell if he dont get out now, but expecting him to show you any kind of affection or love right now just isn't going to happen, as you said ontop of everything his putting up with he ... (read in full...)
Former big guy looking for gay dating advice
Q. For most of my adult life I've weighed well over 300lbs, because of this I didn't date, flirt with guys or get hit on, this was simply a fact of my reality. over the past year I've dropped down to 200lbs and after swapping out my baggier wardrobe ...
A. 28 June 2012: You will be surpriesd by the amount of gay guys go to regular places, I have many gay friends and they hate gay bars, they get to meet plenty of guys in what most would call "normal" bars. Try not to over compensate, just be yourself and you will be ... (read in full...)
Why does every boy I meet end the relationship so soon? Is it me? Or is it the abuse my ex gave me?
Q. Heya, this may sound silly as partly it's my own fault but just so fed up. Right it all started with my ex. He used to make out I was lucky to be with him, he use to say things like: "You should be grateful I'm with you because no one else ...
A. 21 June 2012: HI
I think you just have very low self esteam and no wonder why with your awful ex. I think you may be giving off a vibe that your not worthy of them, and trust me there is nothing more off putting than someone always putting themself down, As... (read in full...)
Ex called and I missed his call. Should I call him back?
Q. Hi. I posted on here recently about when i was in a pub with my boyfriend , and we saw my ex, and my boyfriend got jealous. The title of my post about my problem was " Three's not company, my boyfriend and my ex ". I had a phone call from my ex ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
ALARM BELLS ARE RINGING HERE!!!, your ex is an ex for a reason, weather it was your reason or his, he knows you are with someone so why cause problems for you by phoning you? it sounds like to me he see's you out with another guy and is j... (read in full...)
Past rejections killed my confidence
Q. Based on the amount of rejections I suffered in the past, I have developed fear and anxiety when I feel like approaching a woman I'm interested in. How do I get rid of these negative thoughts? ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
When you try too hard its easy to fall into that trap of falling too quickly, its because you wear your heart on your sleeve. Even when you think your begining to fall for that woman, you need to take hold of the situation, know that the... (read in full...)
He is moving out, will he cheat on me?
Q. I don't have any way to express my heartbreak right now and so I apologize to you dear readers with whom I also need an advise. I am currently living with my boyfriend. Unfortunately, unmarried couples are prohibited in this country but we m...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
I think you need to concentrate on the facts. He is very religious and does not want the temptaions there when ramadan arrives. Also the cost of a studio flat can be expensive. I dont feel at this moment in time you have anything to worry... (read in full...)
How do I make my mom see that she is better off without her boyfriend?
Q. My mother suffers from a lot of anxiety and has had a history of depression and is dependent on alcohol. She's going through a rough time right now and a lot of her anxiety comes from not having much money. Her boyfriend puts her under a lot of p...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
Sadly you cant :( the only way things will change is when she is ready to admit that this is a problem. yOU NEED TO PUT YOUR ENERGY into your studying you are the child she is the adult.( you know what I mean) I appreiciate you want to ... (read in full...)
I am scared and don't believe men when they say "I won't hurt you"
Q. ok whats wrong with me ? this guy i have meet an i think we hit it off . but he keep wanting me to come over to his apartment i told him no i didn't think this was a good idea . then he says i am scared well yes i am . an now i am trying to keep ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
this guy sounds like he just wants to have fun with you , I would not go to his house. Why dont you just date people with just friendship in mind nothing more, and let things develop in there own time. Most guys will say i wont hurt you, bu... (read in full...)
Past rejections killed my confidence
Q. Based on the amount of rejections I suffered in the past, I have developed fear and anxiety when I feel like approaching a woman I'm interested in. How do I get rid of these negative thoughts? ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
This is so normal and very common so your not alone in this. I would suggest going out with a women with purely friendship in mind, just out for a meal once in a while, or out for a drink or even to see a movie, and let it develop. Thi... (read in full...)
B/f says he feels guilt because he cheated. Should I let him go?
Q. okay me and my guy have been together for 5 years now. and our begaining wasnt the greastest . lets just say we end up togther even though we were with others but now he tells me about all this guilt he has so about it . so my question is should i ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
Its sounds like to me he has had his cake an eaten it, now the novelty has worn off he acts like he feels guilt, I would definately let him go, and what kind of relationship can you really have when you both cheated to be with eachothe... (read in full...)
He's separated from his wife. But now he's shutting me out. Should I give him space?
Q. My friend and his wife recently seperated, and now hes without a job, and might be relocating to Texas. I think he starts to feel depressed and shuts me out, I try to be inspirational and give him kind words but he doesnt really respond , as if he ...
A. 17 June 2012: HI
He is obviously going through a very difficult time right now, I would deffinately give him the time and space he needs, to reboot and know where he wants his life to take him. Just let him know your there for him when his ready to talk.
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She avoids being alone with me. But does she have feelings for me?
Q. I've been pursuing her for 3 months now. During that period, we've been out couple of times, we often kissed, have great conversations on the phone but she won't tell me how she feels about me and she avoids being alone with me at my place....
A. 17 June 2012: HI
maybe she likes your company, but just as a friend but dont want to offend you or loose your friendship. why dont you back off for a bit and see if she comes to you. being to eager can also be off putting.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend likes my best mate... HELP!!! xx
Q. Hello:) Right, I think my boyfriend has a thing for my best mate! This might be a bit long winded, but a bit of background information about me. I was cheated on by my first love, and one other boyfriend.. and it has resulted in me being paranoi...
A. 15 June 2012: HI
You are right to be concerned. Your boyfriend is showing no concideration to your feelings, if he is so interested in how your friend is doing, and what shes doing, and who,what,when,why....tell him straight out! what is your fixation... (read in full...)
I think of him and want to talk to him, but don't want to ruin our friendship
Q. I've been best friends with this boy for 8 years and last year he told me he liked me, we spoke about it and i said i wouldnt go out with him because i see him as a friend only now i've started to think about him a lot more than i should, and like ...
A. 15 June 2012: HI
I can understand your struggle with this one. you have one part of you thinking maybe every great relationship stems from great friendship, then the other part saying but what if it dont work out? Do yourself a favour and dont live by what ... (read in full...)
Why do teenagers feel like they know it all?
Q. My question is, "why is it that TEENAGERS think they know EVERYTHING?" Why is it some are very Stubborn and wont listen to their parents? At one point in our lives WE WERE all TEENAGERS. I remember when i was a teenager,i was with my friends we ...
A. 1 June 2012: HI
Because they are inbetween childhood and adulthood, so its a very confussing and frustrating time of there life. They are told they are old enough to do this and do that, but when they have an actual opinion most parents are quick to tell ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that I'm pregnant at 14?
Q. I'm 14 yrs old. Me and my bf had sex awhile ago and I just found out im pregnant. A couple ppl know and he knows. I need help on how to tell my mom. Im scared that if I do then she will never trust me ever again and kick me out the house and never ...
A. 1 June 2012: HI
The first thing you need to be worring about is your health right now and the babys, have you been to see a Dr ( this is private and confidential) and unless they have your aproval they can not tell your mother. Also I know many will disa... (read in full...)
Should I be worried by the texts I have read? What should I say to him? Is he scared of love?
Q. Hi there. I've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now. At the beginning he was a bit of a commitment-phobe but after a few months he said that he wanted to commit to me. Everything has been going well, he's mentioned our future together ...
A. 18 April 2012: HI
I wouldn't tell him about snooping down his phone, but never do it again, if there is no trust then whats left??
If he thinks he has to hurry up with love then he clearly is still not ready for a relationship, i would go now before thing... (read in full...)
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