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writes:My current bf and I were each other's first sexual partners. In the four years since then, he's gotten skilled at making me feel amazing. Myself on the other hand, well,any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both.Blowjobs make me gag after just two inches, handjobs cause this burning ache along my forearm, riding him from above makes my legs turn to jelly, and I can only support his weight when he tops for ten or fifteen minutes before it starts to hurt.I want to satisfy my man as much as he satisfies me, so I was hoping you'd recommend some 'extra-curricular' practice to improve my general fitness level, but most importantly in the areas that'll help me rock his world. =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): Other aunts said well. I'm not going to repeat what they said. Just to add a male point of view:You don't have to consume a lot of energy to make him happy. The good thing about being a woman is that you can turn a man on by just letting him look at you for 2 seconds, and you can satisfy him by just laying on the bed. His instincts guide him to take pleasure of you. Just make him feel comfortable with you and be a little bit open. That's it.If you put yourself under pressure and force yourself to do things for him, it won't feel good. (unless he is dominant or something)Just do whatever you CAN do for him, but DO IT LIKE YOU WANT IT. Take only one inch of him into your mouth, but lick it like icecream, like you love to lick it. Keep eye contact and smile for him. This feels much much better than having all of your penis in a girl's throat while she frowns/gags/etc.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 February 2012):
 Blowjobs: So don't go past 2 inches. Most of the sensation is in the tip of the penis. You should focus your mouth on that part (the very tip) and use your hands on the shaft. It's a heck of a lot less tiring on your jaw, won't trigger your gag reflex, AND it feels better for the guy.
Handjobs: You're going too hard or too fast or both. Get some lube and be a little gentler.
You on top: Your legs shouldn't be providing all the support. The way they do it in movies where the woman is sitting straight up and bouncing around looks nice on film, but is really difficult in real life. You should try leaning forward and put your hands on the bed and use your arms to help move around. You can also do one that I know a lot of women enjoy where you get on top, then lean forward and put your hands on the bed and your chest as close to touching as possible, then extend your legs behind you. It's very untiring AND gives a lot of friction AND a lot of skin on skin.
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reader, eek  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 for sex try spooning or doggy. Either might prove more pleasurable for you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 February 2012):
 1. Stop trying to stuff the whole penis in your mouth. Deep throat is for people who have practised it a lot. Use both your hands on the shaft and your mouth on the "head" only if that doesn't make you gag/jaw ache.
Try doing it while spooning.
Find positions that works for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): I don't know if this is true.. But supposedly smiling stops that gag reflex..
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (21 February 2012):
 HI
well the burning in the forearm is due to being a little to vigerous, slow it down a bit and alternate the hands. as for the legs you should try doing a daily routine of bike riding and lateral thigh training to strengthen your leg power. BJ'S is not for everyone, but if you do enjoy doing it, try plenty of licking and nibbling as well as the obvious, just take it a little bit at a time , then eventually you will start to feel more relaxed and comfortable about it, which in the long run make you much better at this and able to insert more! to help with being on top why dont you try this........
instead of just up and down and grinding, why not slowly push down and just as you reach to the bottom of his ( magic wand) lol slide back away from him then slowly slide back towards him then up again! not only will this heighten your experience, it will make him wild. or you could sit on him but face the other way, sit on him, then bend your legs back so your on your knees, put our hands on his thighs for support and the rest well you will know :)
hope this helps
Mandy xx
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