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Why is my ex harassing/verbally abusing me?

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Question - (11 February 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2008)
A female United States age 26-29, *rknHrted writes:

I have another question. I don't know why my ex keeps contacting me. He told me about a month ago that he didn't want to talk to me for a month or two. But several times I have gotten IMs from him. In the IMs he says horrible things to me. He says no one wants me for anything else than what's between my legs, Im a bitch, no one likes me, everyone hates me, Im fat ( I know Im not fat,I weigh like 110 to 120. He knows that I am insecure about getting fat), everyone laughed when he broke up with me, Im trifiling, go drink bleach etc. I don't understand why he keeps doing this to me. Every time I start to forget about him, he comes back. It wouldn't bother me so much if he was being nice, but he is being a complete dick head. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to confront him because maybe that is what he wants, but at the same time he pisses me off and I want to tell him about his self. I am bewildered. You told me to stay out of your life, why are you in mine. One time, he printed out our IM conversation and showed it to his friend and my best friend at school! All it had was the nasty things he said to me and a couple things I said. I am so tired of it! Him and his friend lie and say I keep calling/messaging them when it is COMPLETELY the other way around. Someone please tell me, WHY IS MY EX HARASSING AND VERBALLY TRYING TO ABUSE ME?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

see the police, people like this can be described in one word -TOXIC.

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A male reader, dapone 1 United Kingdom +, writes (12 February 2008):

dapone 1 agony auntThe first thing you need to do is chill out, calm down, take control of the situation, when people IM you take a copy of the conversation,this guy needs to see a Doctor, it seems he is not right in the head,you need to collect proof of what he is doing to you, it is called victimization by electronic media, i believe that the US justice system has now clamped down on this type of bullying,you need to collect evidence print out the IM conversations and report then to the police, you should also speak to a teacher or if you have one at school councilor, do not keep this to yourself, i know it is difficult but do not take anything they say to you to heart, they are bullying you and you should stand up for your rights, do not let them get the better of you, after all you are a better person, than they could ever be.

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