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I love my long distance boyfriend, but I've also liked another guy, and I feel like I'm breaking my boyfriends trust. What should I do?

Q.   Hi. im a teenager. I have this mind buggling question. It's about my boyfriend and I. we've been going out for about 4 years but he's studying in another country because his family had to relocate.it's about a year now. we really love each other, we ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello Jessie. Do not blame you one bit, time for you to go out and enjoy yourself, if your boyfriend has been away for over a year, then you deserve to treat yourself,i really do not know how your going to manage for another 6/7 years, i hope all... (read in full...)

Do I have something to wory about?

Q.   Hi,I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months and its been going great untill now , he seems to be not as loving towards me and i was looking at photos on his myspace an it has him kissing another girl(only on the cheek) and ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. hate to say this babe, but it looks as if you have got problems with your boyfriend, and if he is not showing you the love and affection he was, then it seems that what you have seen on my space, is an indication that he is cheating on you ... (read in full...)

He went and told his friend.

Q.   I gave my boyfriend head in the school bathroom and he went and told his friend and she asked me about it i told her no i didn't how do i tell him to not tell our business to anyone?...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello what a let down he cant keep his mouth shut, you had better talk to him and tell him you are not happy that he has told people you private affairs, to other people,if he continues to do this then you need to dump him, he is too immature... (read in full...)

Is she giving me the 'come-on'?

Q.   Hi my wife is currently working away so for the past few weeks i have been going next door for tea each week. i have always liked the lady next door and more i see her i think shes giving signs to make a move on her. she was sat with her legs ope...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. If you live in Australia,how surprising is it to see a woman wearing shorts, letting the sun on her legs, you should not be thinking these though it may only be in your mind, what if this woman is only being kind to you because your wif... (read in full...)

Should I wait until we're a bit older?

Q.   hi im 15 and ive been meeting with a girl of 12 recently i think we really hit it off and i know she fancies me, and i really like her too. But i dont know what i should do, should i wait till we are a bit older or should i just go through with a ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. The best thing to do is be her boyfriend for now and wait until she is older, because she is twelve she is not as advanced as you are in the relationship area, she is slightly less mature than you,(no offense intended) and because your nee... (read in full...)

Every area that she has pointed out I have worked on but I feel she hasn't. Any help/suggestions please.

Q.   Just like to say thank you for taking the time to read this question! I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months. She's the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. But recently we have been having problems. We have had a few seriou...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. In a relationship you are both equal, ask her why she keeps going on about you having to change, why is she not also changing herself to suit both your needs, if she does not feel secure in the relationship, then it is her to blame for your... (read in full...)

Is he lying about his internet activities?

Q.   Is he lying? Yesterday I was looking in the computer's history. It was not where you put in the web addresses, it was under the favorited websites, I guess there is an area that you can look at the history and I didn't know that. Anyway...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. Please Do not take offense, but you are has they say,are making a mountain out of a mole hill, because you are pregnant and your hormones are slightly out of tilt, you are seeing thing out of context, (no offense intended)why would it... (read in full...)

Would I destroy our friendship if I 'came out' to her?

Q.   i don't know how to ask this so i'll just go on with it. first, i'm a bisexual but the world doesn't know that (yet). second, there's this girl. we've been friends for two years now. to make the story short we "went out" last weekend. (whether it ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. I am an open minded person so i am not shocked that you are a bisexual, what ever you want to be is O.K, because it is your life and you should enjoy it as much as you can, but not all people are as tolerant as myself, I believe that you... (read in full...)

He thinks our relationship is getting too serious and wants to think about it...

Q.   I was in a relationship for three years, two of which I lived with the guy and we were engaged to be married next year. I began having doubts quite a while ago but stuck it out to see if things changed, which they didn't. During the last month or ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. I think after three years in a relationship if you start to have doubts and the situation does not recover then it is O.K to leave that situation, but it is not a good idea to go into another relationship when you are both on the rebound,... (read in full...)

How can men move on so easily? Do they actually move on easily?

Q.   Why do men jump from woman to woman, are they in love with anyone or just themselves. How can you be sure if he loves you, if he is constantly with this one, that one, the next one. How can men move on so easily... ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. Every person is different and we all react in different ways in each given situation, some guys are loving and mature and like to be settled in a loving relationship, some guys who cant settle in a single relationship because they cant mak... (read in full...)

Does he know his own mind?

Q.   My boyfriend left me then wanted to change his mind and come back. The question is how can you change your mind, surely thats fixed, and only another person can change it. I say he doesn't know is own mind. Who is right. Thanx...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. Some times in relationship people seem to become unsure of them selfs, they need to take a short break to gather there thoughts, especially as the relationship may be going at a faster pace than he thought, i believe that he does now his ... (read in full...)

I feel totally rejected - couldn't we have discussed it?

Q.   Was dating a guy and we got on famously, walks, meals, fun nights out together and we really clicked. We fancied each other quite a lot and then after a few weeks made arrangements to sleep together. Anyway I've always found that when I sleep wi...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. I do not want to hurt your feeling, it seems that you have dated a man who has no feeling for any one but himself, his only plan to make you believe that he was a genuine person, so that he could get sexual gratification from you and do ... (read in full...)

What does it mean when a girl plays with her hair whilst she's chatting to you?

Q.   Hey What does it mean when a girl plays with her hair whilst she's chatting to you?...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. yes i agree with my friend this is a good sign, but as Kenny has pointed out make sure it is not just a habit before you take any action.... (read in full...)

Should I draw his attention to this matter or not?

Q.   Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. It would not be a good idea to get involve in this situation, they are both adults and he will soon see through her rouse at some point, if you get involved then it will seem that you are the ex who has been dropped by her and you will loo... (read in full...)

Do men realise they really like someone after they get dumped??

Q.   Question for men.. do men realise they really like someone after they get dumped?? May sound like a silly question but I had to break up with someone I really like because he wasn't sure about whether he wanted a relationship, just wonderin...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. From my point of view, if a person does not want to be in a relationship, they do not want to be in a relationship, there may be a good reason for that, he could have had a bad relationship and was not over it at the time, and did not want... (read in full...)

When is enough, enough?

Q.   I've had some bad luck in the past with boyfriends. Fell pregnant when i was 19, and my daughter is now almost 5. I met a guy 18 months ago, and fell in love. It was the same for him, but he just came out of a failed engagement, so things took a ...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. I think that you need to sort yourself out, there is nothing wrong with your boy friend it is you that is at fault, he looks after you, baby sits for you, pays for you to go out, he does not buy you flowers, then when he does thats not r... (read in full...)

25, about to get engaged... but still have feelings for me ex. What can I do?

Q.   Im 25. Have been with my partner for 3 years. we met immediately after a messy breakup with my ex of 5 years - who was my first love but completely broke my heart. Im still in love with him but im also happy with my current partner. My ex called me ...

A.   30 October 2007: hello I would say do not bother getting engaged, you have been going out with this guy for three years, the other bloke just rings up and said he wants to make things work, and that confused you. If i were you i would give then both up and take... (read in full...)

He ignores me, now I've got someone who wants to be with me, what should I do?

Q.   I love my boyfriend. We have been together for over six months, and I have never had a problem with how much time he spends with his friends or what he does while he's with them. But lately we never spend time together unless I go over to his house ...

A.   30 October 2007: hello. The time as come for you to move on from your boyfriend, and let him and his mates continue to have a great time together, if you are only going over for a booty call (what ever that means) then you are totally waisting your time and effo... (read in full...)

My ex won't leave me alone and I'm scared of dating.

Q.   When I was 15 i starting dating a guy who was really nice. We got engaged after just a few weeks, fast I know but we were young. After about 9 months during an argument he hit me across my face. I was really confused at the time I thought he loved ...

A.   30 October 2007: hello Toi. When this guy hit you you really should have exited the relationship straight away men who hit woman are total coward and scum of the earth, you should have gone to the police earlier and made an official complaint,now that he is exces... (read in full...)

Breaking up, best friends, a teacher that hate me...

Q.   My boy friend just broke up with me and I don't why. Everybody told me that I still have fellings for him and one person told me that I was smothering him, but I never hang around him! I also have another inquiry about my best guy friend. I just g...

A.   30 October 2007: Hello. I wonder how old you are, according to the heading at the top of your letter, you are 41 to 50??. Depending how old your boy friend is if he felt that you were smothering him that could be the reason or maybe he just did not have the ner... (read in full...)

What's your opinion on my friend's situation.

Q.   she's been going out with this guy for a month, known him 5 months... they had sex the 4th time they seen each other... she saw her boyfriend 5 days ago and he still hasn't called her or texted her since then and she's called him twice and texted...

A.   29 October 2007: Hello. Sorry to say it sound as if he is only using your friend for sexual purposes, five month is no time to really get to know some one, he certainly has something to hide if he does not respond to phone calls and texts, maybe he is married. ... (read in full...)

Why is he accusing me of having chlamydia???

Q.   my so called boyfriend has accused me of having chlamydia,which is so untrue,why would he say this unless he has got it and thats why he`s done research i havent got any symptoms to indicate this and ive recently had tests which dont show anything ...

A.   29 October 2007: Hello. One thing you should stop doing is crying over this jerk, hes not worth a single though in your head, what a terrible thing to accuse you of, how does he now about chlamydia odd thing that, this STD shows no symptoms what so ever, people ... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?

Q.   Hiyah, well this is probably gonna be reali confusin n long and you're all gonna think omg when you read it but its worth a go.. I'm 13 and I got with my bf in feb.. at the beginning everything was fine.. I trusted him round other girls and when ...

A.   29 October 2007: hello. seems that you have become involved in a multiple love triangle, come on babe this guy is no good for you, he is playing on your emotions so that he can be with you and when it suits him and with other girls as well. This is no way for h... (read in full...)

We have been having sex for 3 months but she is still tight. How can we loosen her up?

Q.   Hi me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and we started having sex three months ago and for sum reason she is as tight as the first time we did it any advice on how to 'loosen her up' cheers...

A.   29 October 2007: hello. There maybe a lot of people reading this page and thinking god what a lucky bloke why is he complaining, and they would be right. if your problem is that you are getting discomfort while in the act of sex then that is a totally a differ... (read in full...)

I'm the one doing all the running - should I just call him when I feel like it?

Q.   hey ok so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months now, we had the exclusivity talk 3 months ago and everything is going pretty well between us. he treats me right and is sweet to me. the first 4 - 5 months of our dating period, he ...

A.   29 October 2007: hello I agree with my friend eve, if you are doing all the running after him then he is making a fool out of you, you need to tell him how you fell then drop this person out of your life for good. ... (read in full...)

He has a low sex drive. What can I do?

Q.   I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfrined for 3 months, he is 28. We had sex a few times a month or so after we got together (3 to be precise) but since then we haven't had any, not even any foreplay. It is a struggle just to get him to give ...

A.   29 October 2007: hello. I think there maybe more to this condition that your bf is saying, some time the cause of low sex drive can be a few things, but at his age group it must be very rare, there are a several thing that can cause this condition, some are mino... (read in full...)

What are my rights as a father?

Q.   i have a daughter who is 1 years of age. me and the mother are seperated. we were doing it that we would have are daughter a week each, which now my ex has stoped me seeing my daughter alltogether. how do you advise me about my rights as a father...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. the problem you have is very common,the mother has nine tenths of the law on her side, if she refuses you access then there is a course of action you can take,it is a costly affair, you may go and see a solicitor who on your behalf will wri... (read in full...)

Is he stringing me along?

Q.   dear aunt, iam 20 and have been dating my boyfriend for 9months. he seems to love me just the same way that i do. but the problem here is that he has a baby with someone else but told me he's gonna part ways with her soon. he told me he only wants ...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. I think that because he has a baby with some body else then he may not love you, as much as he has made out, when people have a baby together then it bonds them together, most of time it is hard to brake that bond, that is why it is more tha... (read in full...)

Can my friend stop the drug dealing father from seeing his child?

Q.   hi,a friend of mine has a four year old child,the childs father has not wanted to see the child before,because it could'nt walk or talk,but now after four years he has gained interest,and is taking court action out on my friend for visiting ...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. sorry may not be much help but will try, your four year old son has no rights in court because he is a minor, and at the age of four it would be seen that you have coach him and this will not count, because of his age, he cannot make a decisi... (read in full...)

She's 15 and sleeping with an older man... what can I do?

Q.   my daughter is 15 and i just found out she has been having sex with a 26 year old man and i just don't know what to do she said they are in love but she is only 15 she don't know what love is please please please help me!!!!!!...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. Your daughter is classed as a minor under UK law, the guy that she is having sex with is an adult, if you wish you can report him to the Police, because she is protected by the criminal justice system. She is to young to consent to a sex... (read in full...)

How can they make you fall in love, break up and pretend they never cared.

Q.   Man! i keep thinking about this guy...i cant get over him..we went out for nine months and then he started changing..he was treating me like crap and putting no effort into the relationship...we eventually broke up im ajunior in high school n we go ...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. thank you for your reply i am happy that i was able to help, keep your head up high, keep smiling, now go out and get yourself a great life. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Doctors haven't helped... HELP!

Q.   i've had this problem for about a month now. I need to pee every 5 minutes! at firt i thought it was cystitis, so i went to the doctors an altho they cudnt see any clear signs that it was cystitis they treated me for it. However after finishing ...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. go to the chemist and ask them to do a blood sugar test on you, to make sure your levels are normal,do you have any other symptoms please let me now asap.... (read in full...)

My b/f and I can't talk without getting into a fight!

Q.   My b/f and I can't talk without getting into a fight! It seems like he feels the need to challenge everything that comes out of my mouth, even the most benign statements. He corrects, or contradicts with attitude. It's getting to the point where I ...

A.   29 October 2007: hi, Sorry to say he has a big problem, i bet he only corrects woman, he is mentally bulling you and the sooner you get him to stop the better, because if you do not it will only get worse, i think you need to see some one about this, it may be a... (read in full...)

A few weeks ago my boyfriend confided in me that he drinks.

Q.   A few weeks ago my boyfriend confided in me that he drinks. He didn't tell me before b/c he was afraid of how I'd react. I'd told him I didn't like people that bragged about drinking. I went to a halloween party my friend was having at her ho...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. you need to take your boy friend to see a doctor so that he can be sent to rehab, the amount it seems he is drinking is way in access for his KIDNEYS AND LIVER to take, i have never known a person of his age to throw up for two solid hours he... (read in full...)

My self-consciousness in interfering with my life

Q.   Im 15, and i know pretty much all i should know about sex before i have sex. i am in a serious relationship, he has fingered me and i have given him a hand job. We do that every few times we see eachother and im fine with it, and want to have sex...

A.   29 October 2007: hi. bearing in mind that you are between 13 and 15, i would wait another until you are 16 before you have a full sexual relationship, your breast still have time to developing and that should not be a problem, some woman are still not properly... (read in full...)

Is he playing me?

Q.   Hi all, thanks for reading this. I've been dating a guy casually since January of this year. We're not exclusive. We hang out in the same social circle. He says he doesn't want anyone to know we're dating, because I once dated someone else in the ...

A.   28 October 2007: hi. sorry that he did that to you, but you did for some reason go into a casual relationship, did you not see the signs, he is a player OK, and he is very good at it, all the classic signs were there , would not admit you were involved with eac... (read in full...)

I hid my son from him, and when he found out he treated me badly and was uncompassionate towards me. How could he??

Q.   Hi I was seeing this guy for over 2 a months.He was saying how I was the girl for him and how much he realy liked me.There was something I kept from him and that was that I had a son. I was quiet lonely before I met him and I wanted the feeling ...

A.   28 October 2007: hi. i do not understand why he reacted in this way, if he loved you, then he should have loved your son as much, some men like to only go out with single woman, and do not like the though of bringing up another man child, but maybe you are al... (read in full...)

How can they make you fall in love, break up and pretend they never cared.

Q.   Man! i keep thinking about this guy...i cant get over him..we went out for nine months and then he started changing..he was treating me like crap and putting no effort into the relationship...we eventually broke up im ajunior in high school n we go ...

A.   28 October 2007: hi Anon. I am sorry to hear that you have broken up with your BF, these things just happen in life especially at your age, do not be too concerned, if he was treating you the way, you said he was then that is his problem, and no way to be in a rel... (read in full...)

I still love my "sort of" current boyfriend, but I'm not sure if our time is over... I'm so ashamed...

Q.   I have a question I feel very ashamed about. I'm currently in a relationship that has lasted over a couple years. We've been through a lot together, including almost breaking up several times, and breaking up once that lasted a week - overall ...

A.   28 October 2007: hi. To be honest if your relationship is in such a bad state,and he has started going in a different direction to you. IE doing his own thing, then there are two ways to sort this problem out. One would be to get together and talk the problem... (read in full...)

We've been going through a hard time, how to work through this.

Q.   I have been with my partner for 6 1/2 years. Just a few days ago, we had been out drinking and met from friends out who had some of there friends with them. We then all came back to our house and had more drinks and etc. I went to bed because I was ...

A.   28 October 2007: hi. I have read your letter a couple of times and find there is something i do not understand, maybe after you have read my reply, you can write back and let me now what you think. you went to bed early than your BF, then he turns up in the ... (read in full...)

How can I find the right guy?

Q.   Hey. well, it's been like 2 1/2 years since i had a relationship. I want to get back out there. I am ready, it's just, with the guys i've liked, it never works out. Like 2 summers ago, one guy was too far away, this summer, i lost interest i...

A.   28 October 2007: Hi Anon. You seem to be having a bad time of things at the moment, not to worry thou things will soon change, i believe even thou the net is a wonderful tool, and is great for meeting and making new friends, it is not really the place to meet boy... (read in full...)

She's 15 and sleeping with an older man... what can I do?

Q.   my daughter is 15 and i just found out she has been having sex with a 26 year old man and i just don't know what to do she said they are in love but she is only 15 she don't know what love is please please please help me!!!!!!...

A.   28 October 2007: Hi lmewards. It depends on how far you are willing to go, the up side is in UK, there are laws to protect your daughter, at 15 years of age she is classed as a Minor, and is not legally responsible for her action, But a 26 year old man (Adult) ... (read in full...)

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