My gut says he's cheating but I don't want to believe it
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years is also the father to our 1 year old daughter. Ive always been scared that he would cheat on me. A couple of months back I checked his email and a girl wrote scandoulous things to him saying how she missed sleeping with him ...
A. 19 October 2007: hi
afraid to say i agree with my other two friend,there is something strange going with these text messages but without proof you really cant say he is having sex with any one, please dont be too get to upset you must think about yourself... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong?
Q. I'm sorry if this is really long but I desperately need some advice. I've just turned 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over 8 months now and are madly in love with each other. It would seem from the outside that we have this ...
A. 19 October 2007: hi
get your boy friend to go back to the Doctors there are several medical conditions that can cause this problem and one of them is dangerous to his life if it is not treated,he must get medical treatment as soon as possible. ... (read in full...)
I feel he should be more committed and that he treats me poorly but my shouting and crying don't seem to be working. How do I spend more time with him without feeling I'm forcing him to?
Q. Hi. I've been seeing a guy on and off for the last nine years ... a long old time. We got together when we were still at school, I'm 25 now. After an 8 month break we got back together in June 07. In the past we have both hurt each other - we ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear Anon
Some relationship are difficult to sustain, because you have been with him for such a long time, your not doing badly, some married people dont last as long as you have, the sad bit is that you are the only one in your relation... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always intruding into who I see and why. What should I do?
Q. I'm been with my boyfriend for almost 3 yrs. and I hate it when he tells me a story and leave out (the important parts) but when his friends are over he tells them the real thing. Also I don't like it when he gets to stop and talk to females he use ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear mute
it seems that your bf is a control freak, you must talk to him and get him to see how much he is hurting you, it seems strange after three years of you living together that he is treating you like this, dont let him get the better o... (read in full...)
All of the pregnancy tests were negative - including the one performed at the doctor - but I still have no period!
Q. I posted a question before asking if there was a chance i was pregnant, lots of people gave me different answers saying yes u could be and others sayin no.Well i have done 2 pregnancy tests since then in a 1 week with 3 days apart and have also been ...
A. 19 October 2007:
I dont really understand why you have written again,if you are under medical supervision, then it would be wrong to guess at what may be wrong with you, i believe what your Doctor has told you is correct, you must chill out, calm yourself,take regu... (read in full...)
How many dates should I have with him before we sleep together?
Q. First date with recent divorcee is imminent. What I want to know is how many dates should I have with him before I sleep with him? I'm separated, and haven't slept with anyone except my husband of 20 years!...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear Anon. this is a difficult question, most people take a well deserved time out after a divorce to put there house in order, so to speak, i would not be to keen to go bed hopping to soon, this at a future time may come back to haunt you, but i... (read in full...)
Should I go to more chat meets??
Q. I was chatting in an chat room for a long time, sometimes these people would have meets (get-togethers). I never wanted to go to one, but last Friday I got invited and thought I'd go just to see what they were like. I stood around waiting (not ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear Tommy 2K7
great news tommy,if i were you,i would continue with this venture, the greatest thing in life is to go to a place as a stranger and leave with a few friends, bet your over the moon, i wish you well.
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My bf's constant calling is driving me crazy!
Q. My boyfriend likes to spend hours on the phone everyday he phones me about 20 times a day, this is driving me mad and I don't want to spend all the time on the phone he thinks it's because I don't want to be with him anymore which isn't the case ...
A. 19 October 2007: Hello Jane 1983.
it seems that your boyfriend is very insecure,you are going to have to get the fact across to him that he is causing you problems by phoning you all the time, assure him that your relationship is ok, then if he persist have it ... (read in full...)
How can he say he loves me and I'm his soulmate but still leave me??
Q. hi, I've been split up with my bf for 3 months now and it seems to be gettin harder. I love him so much and miss him more everyday no matter what i do i can't seem to move on . He told me that we needed to sort our heads out and he would love th...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear Anon
I have heard this type of story in my life hundreds of time,when people start a sentence with the following phrases,' i need some space,' 'i need to clear my head', 'we need time apart', 'i need thinking space', 'i want to be on my own f... (read in full...)
What is going on with this guy? Does he really like me?
Q. Met a guy six weeks ago who is 27 (i am 19). He only looks about 22 at oldest. He seems ok. I have only seen him once more since we met. We have spoken on MSN quite a lot (though I have been deliberately appearing offline a lot to let him think...
A. 19 October 2007: dear anon
dump him your relation ship is in pieces as it is going no ware,... (read in full...)
She moved away.... Can it last, I don't want to lose her?
Q. ok well me and my gf have been going out for 4 months and she recently moved to washington a few weeks ago and I was woundering if loong distance realationshipd work out? because I don't want to lose her...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear anon
I do not now what your relationship or girl friend is like, so i cant comment on that, but i do now that 99 percent of distant relationships in the U.S fail, sorry to say that but it is a fact, you never know you may be the one percent ... (read in full...)
Does he want it to be over deep down and do you think he will be back.
Q. I'm 19 and I have been with my fiance 3 years. He lived in Lincoln and moved here about 3 and half years ago. When i first met him he was into drugs and drinking every night. I dispise drugs, but i gave it ago. We became close and he stopped doing ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear anon.
sorry to hear that you have had a lot of problems with your bf,it seem a strange way to behave,i do not want to hurt your feeling but i think for your own sake it would be better for you in the long term to leave this relation... (read in full...)
We haven't even hugged/kissed once!
Q. hiya... I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6months now after a long time being good mates , but we havent even hugged/kissed once, With his X he hugged her all the time, i don't understand why he wont, i admit that im to shy to make the ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear anon
I think the only way you are going to resolve this problem is to discuss it with your boy friend,when i was sixteen if i had a girl for a few weeks, i used to hug and kiss her all the time, because that is how much i adored her,i ca... (read in full...)
My mother commited suicide, My fiance just ditched me - and he tells me to learn to love myself?
Q. Me and my fiancé just recently broke up. We were together for four years. He said that I need to be on my own and deal with things from my past. That he was exhausted because he felt as if he had been living for two people for the past four years. I ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear K821
may be the best thing for you to do is go and see your Doctor, he may then pass you on to a councilor, you seem to have issues to resolve, until these issues are sorted out you will never be able to live a complete life, life some tim... (read in full...)
Getting a new friendly, sexy girlfriend feels like it's a long time away. Am I overreating?
Q. Hey Aunts/Uncles. I'm a 19 year old guy. I think I'm fairly attractive (Not very, but fairly), and have a good personality. I've only ever had one girlfriend. We were together for just under 2 years and ended up parting ways because she thou...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear anon
you are putting yourself through this worry for nothing, your only 19 so what is the big rush all about,get your self out there enjoy every second of freedom while it lasts,then when you do settle down you will be a better person, ... (read in full...)
I lied about my sexual experiences - is there a way he could know?
Q. ok so i told my boyfriend that i'm a virgin which is true but i also lied to him and told him iv'e been fingered and eaten out when i really haven't my question is will he know that i haven't actually had that experience when he eats me out or ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear anon
I do not know why you are worrying over this, it is not a broblemo, example if three blokes did the same thing to you, you would react differently in three different ways, because every one does thing in a different way,so how would he... (read in full...)
Our life schedules clash...Wheres the time for me, his wife?
Q. My husband and I have different schedules. I go to bed, he is downstairs on his computer. I wake up, he is asleep until 10am (he works from home). Then he takes a nap during the day so he can stay up at night. Do I have the right to ask him to ...
A. 19 October 2007: Dear Anon
i am afraid that is how it is with some men, before they get married they are all over you like a rash, then when they marry they just treat there wife badly, not being romantic with you is a sin to your woman hood, your going to have ... (read in full...)
My bf takes 'speed'..can that affect me having a baby?
Q. My boyfrend takes speed. do u think that can stop me having a baby...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear mharding011
having a baby with a junkie is the worst thing you could ever do, most baby with junkie mothers or fathers are born with the worst illnesses you could ever imagine, 99 percent die within the first hour, kidney failure, heart fa... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I'm actually ready.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i'm not sure i'm ready yet, we've been together for 3 months now, what should i do?...
A. 18 October 2007: dear anon
Dealing with sex is hard enough at my age,never mind yours, if your boy friend only wants you for sex then he aint worth knowing,if you believe your not ready for sex then do not do it,see how simple life can be, if he tries to force yo... (read in full...)
How do I get over this guilt so that I can have some self-confidence and be the girl that he loves?
Q. Hi... I'm 22 and in a serious relationship that has had its ups and downs. To begin: Let's call my current boyfriend "B." We've been seeing each other for about 2 years "off and on" and have broken up twice. The first time we broke up basical...
A. 18 October 2007: dear Oscar
sorry to hear that you are troubled, guilt has a funny way of coming back and haunting us, there is clearly nothing you can do,but forget it, the more you dwell on it the worse you will become, do not spoil your life over this event,if... (read in full...)
I was bullied for years and because of that am having boy troubles!
Q. I really really want a boyfriend how can i allow my guard down. i find it hard to realte to boys because i was really badly bullied for many years and really want tpo allow myself to be excepted by a boy but i simply don't know how also how do i ...
A. 18 October 2007: dear Lilyfoxy
it may come as a suprise to know a lot of people are in the same situation as yourself, people who get bullied a lot then cant get a boy friend,if i was you would not look for a boy friend, but instead find boys who want to be yo... (read in full...)
Please help me. I love him and will never be able to forget him!
Q. Hi! I had posted a question but I think the readers dont get a proper idea of what Iam trying to say.So I clear it again. I love a guy who is younger to me.I told him about my feelings and he said he only wants me to b his friend.His behaviou...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear anon
I love the way you said he is indifferent to you and does not realize he does love you, i liked that bit the best, tears are still running down my face,the reason he is indifferent to you IS BECAUSE HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, what bit abou... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend and urgently want one! I don't want to be alone forever! Any advice?
Q. i really need help. it may not seem like a big problem but i'm beggining to think there is something wrong with me. i have written before but only got one reply. i really want a boyfriend but i can't have one. whenever i fancy someone and (som...
A. 18 October 2007: dear anon
i do not think there is a cure for your problem,you are causing it to happen because the excitement you feel when a guy ask you out,you need to chill out more, relax and try and control your self, example when a guy comes up to you and ... (read in full...)
I'm happy without him... But am I still in love with him?
Q. Im really unsure wether im still in love with my x we were together for over a year and he made me so happy and since i split up with him even though i spilt up with him as i thought i was no longer in love with him now since we split up ive not ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Anon
sorry to say this but it is all your fault, you loved him,played with his mind, then you did not love him,(broke his heart) and now he has some one you, NO the only thing that is bothering you is the fact that some one else has him, and... (read in full...)
Is it selfish of me to feel uncomfortable when giving an ex relationship advice?
Q. I was in a relationship recently with a girl, but we split up. We're still friends now, and we still care a lot for each other, so we talk about all sorts. She's moving on and has starting dating someone, and she sometimes asks my advice. In a way ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear anon
I think maybe it is time your friendship ended, the more you help and advise your ex then the harder for you to move on, it is putting a great strain and burden onto you, especially as you still have romantic feelings for her, but she ... (read in full...)
Why do I stay with an abuser?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years. I thought we had a great relationship. He asked me to marry him, told me how many kids he wanted, where he could see us in 10 years time. For the past year, it has been bad, he has cheated on me, hit me, last ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear anon
I have heard and seen some strange things in my life, but i think rat poison tops the list, why are you putting up with this bozo he must be out of his mind, if i was you i would be out of there like a bat out of hell, if you continue... (read in full...)
I can't see that it's over
Q. have been having an affair with a man who i taught was my soul mate.. we meet on friday night, booked into a hotel and had an amazing loving night.. i have txt him twice since and he has not replied.. should i just move on? its very hard to be like ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Sandyo
sorry to say this is what happens when you have an affair,it sound if he used you, had his wicked way with you on Friday night, and now has dropped you from a great hight,i would not let any one do this to you, if he wont contact ... (read in full...)
How can I get more optimistic about my new date?
Q. I decided to leave the man that i used to date the last year after he made clear that he doesn't want a commitment with me. Now i start dating another man that seems to be interesting in me. However, i haven't forgotten the ex-boyfriend yet. I am ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Anon
Instead of enjoying your new friendship, you are already comparing him to your old boy friend, which is the wrong thing to do, forget about the ex, two people are not a like you could be spoiling your chances of having a wonderfu... (read in full...)
Scared because I feel empty inside
Q. Where to begin… I’m a 22 year old student. My parents divorced when I was 7. My father left my mother and I in a bad way both financially and psychologically. I changed my name and my father out of my life in 2004 and feel better for it (although...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Hannah 5066
Even thou you have had a lot of stress in your life, and of course has you are a student, i suppose that wont help, i am glad you have decided to contact us, because if you reach out to some one, it prove you that you are aware of... (read in full...)
How do you know if a guy wants to break up with you or not?
Q. How do you know if a guy wants to break up with you or not?? I have been seeing a guy for 3 months, we get to see eachother bout once a wk but lately this has become less and less and i feel that he has withdrawn from the relationship. We have up ...
A. 18 October 2007: dear spice
i really do not want to burst you bubble, but i think this guy is using you,the lamest reason i have ever heard is, 'I DO NOT WANT TO GET TO CLOSE BECAUSE MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME' your not his wife, why did he not make it clear to you t... (read in full...)
The guy says if she keeps the baby she'll have to sue him for money. Then he pays for the abortion and is ready to marry her, but not yet to have kids. What does it mean?
Q. If a guy has unprotected sex with his gf on knowing she is not on birth control. Then she gets pregnant and he tells her to have an abortion and says that if she does not she will have to sue him for money. Then he takes her to a clinic, pays for ...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Anon
why are you still with this selfish slime ball,you wont get anything for the child but, i will pay for abortion, i will pay for your wedding, what type of person would do a thing like that to you of all people, good grief, why are you ... (read in full...)
I never seem to last very long during intercourse. Any advice please?
Q. Hi, i'm abit shy about talking about this but it's easier on the internet than to a persons face, when i have sex with a girl, i don't worry about things like foreplay etc but when it comes down to having intercourse with the girl i never seem to ...
A. 18 October 2007: hello Anon
unless you are a person of the judaism then i would not even consider being cicumsised, firstly at your age not only would it be painfull but complication would set in and you may never get an erection again, the only thing i can sugg... (read in full...)
Ever felt like their actions don't tell you they love you but their words do?
Q. Ever feel like you are in a relationship where you loves a person very much and they say they love you back but their actions don't it at all? I do everything for my bf but i feel that isn't not equally back. He gives better attention to his...
A. 18 October 2007: Dear Anon
sad to say been there, done that, got the teeshirts,I have been in the same situation, more than once, it hurts to see some act as if you are not there then their friends come to the door and they are all over them like a rash, hurts li... (read in full...)
Should I have kids with my boyfriend when I can see an example of what our kids will be like?
Q. I'm 24 years old and my boyfriend is 26. We have been dating for 2 years now. We are planning to move in soon. I was just thinking the other day I don't think I want to have a kid with him. I love him dearly, but I don't know if I can stand for my ...
A. 18 October 2007: dear Yuna
after reading your letter, please forgive me for saying this, but I do not think having children is the problem, as you have said you are an Asian woman and maybe the culture that we have is a bit of a shock to you, maybe you should t... (read in full...)
Looking for long term at fifteen
Q. dear cupids. i really want a long term boyfriend that i can call mine. i can say yeah im in a relationship. been with my boyfriend a year now. you hear it all the time but my relationships dont seem to work out. i have had too many boyfiend...
A. 17 October 2007: dear anon
by what you say in script, you are trying to run before you can walk, take live easier, relax, be cool, do not rush into the first relation ship that comes along, that is why they are not working out, you have plenty of time in your lif... (read in full...)
Is this normal lovey-dovey stuff?
Q. right... well... i have been with my fiance for 6 years now, we started seeing each other when we where just 13 and now iam 19 and he is 20. i love him to bits and wouldnt change him for the world. lately i have been acting a bit strange, even i ...
A. 17 October 2007: dear anon
I agree with Kenny,what a wonderful feeling it must be after six years still feeling for each other in such a loving way, you must love each other very much,how lucky your bf is to have you and how happy you must feel going through ... (read in full...)
Am I losing the baby?
Q. i found out i was pregnant about a week ago. i started spotting very lightly yesterday. could this mean im having a miscarriage? i have not had any alcoholic beverages since i have found out but i have had a couple cigarettes (i know, im horrible! ...
A. 17 October 2007: Dear anon
some time i believe that pregnant woman can loose a few spot of blood, but i think for yours and the baby's sake, you need to see a Doctor or practice nurse as soon as possible, not only to check that all is well but to give you peace of... (read in full...)
Why do I stay when he beats me?
Q. why does my boyfiend beat me up? i have been with him just over 6 months and we have started having sex but only because he wants it. if we aregue he always hits me. he starts arguements to bilittle me and he says hes scared of me breaking up with ...
A. 17 October 2007: dear Anon
if as you say you are 13 to 15 then you are in deep trouble, men who hit woman are total scum of the earth, and he beats you up for sex that you do not want, the word for that is statutory rape and carries a prison sentence in the U.K,... (read in full...)
He rows with me every time I wish to go out with my friends but he goes on holidays with his wife and says they're just friends? Am I a fool?
Q. i have been seeing a man for three years who has been seperated from his wife for 5 years, however, he phones her every day, spends one day a week with her, and has now gone away on holiday with her. he says they are just friends and that they are ...
A. 17 October 2007: Dear Tranquility
I am sad to hear that you are in such a terrible relationship, why do you punish yourself in this way, he has you just ware he wants you, speaks to wifeee every day, spends one day a week with her, and if not to insult you enou... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that he is back with his girlfriend? or should I take a risk and tell him how I feel?
Q. I recently met a wonderful boy whilst i was overseas. Although we only spent a short time together, the connection between us was beautiful, we were constantly laughing and i felt like a changed person. During our first meeting we discovered were ...
A. 17 October 2007: hi
because this guy come home and and returned to his girl friend says a lot about how he feels,i believe it would be a mistake for you to reveal the way you feel about him, he may not feel the same way about you, he may only see you as a friend a... (read in full...)
He says I'm difficult
Q. I'm still trying to get over the man who left me for his baby momma and i have another problem. i promised myself after this relationship i would give myself time to see what i want and not give into mens demands unless i'm ok with it. I have met ...
A. 17 October 2007: hi Alicia
i think you had it right the first time when you refused, going in to a hotel room by yourself with a man you do not know all that well is taking a very big risk, just because he say nothing will happen does not mean it wont, i think in... (read in full...)
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