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We're getting married but he's interested in someone else. Help!

Q.   My boyfriend and I of over 5 yrs have been having some problems lately. We are engaged and are planning on getting married. But something has changed because he has met this girl who lives and hour or more away from us. He is all of the sudden ...

A.   25 January 2008: Hi. I really do not want you to think that i am trying to hurt you or your feelings in any way,the problem is that your relationship is 5 years old and because he has met some one a week ago and decided to change your marriage arrangements, you real... (read in full...)

My estranged wife wants me back now I have met someone new. Help!

Q.   My wife and I have been seperated for a year. I made it clear to her that I had no choice but to move on. I tried for 9mos to get her back and she said no at every turn. I recently met someone. My wife started looking into the divorce papers and ...

A.   24 January 2008: HI. A few years ago i went through the same problem, my ex found that i was seeing another woman a year after we seperated , i tried to make things right for a year then i gave up moved on, and found some one who really loved me, she tried ever... (read in full...)

Am I history?

Q.   I've been dating a guy for two months now. He's in love with me and i'm with him.Problem is, his ex is pregnant. He didn't believe it could be his child, hence he wanted dna testing done the second the child was born. Now, she just gave birth ...

A.   24 January 2008: Hi. I am sorry to say your instinct is more than likely correct, it seem the best thing for you to do is move on from this point,After all two months is not a long time in a relationship, if you stay it will only bring you pain and heart ache... (read in full...)

He has a gf! But I love him and just cant let him go

Q.   hey this is Taylor well my question is ..... i have been talking to this guy for a while and we have been messin around for a long time and he just got a girlfriend not to long ago. he didnt tell me about it until later on but i tried to refuse to ...

A.   22 January 2008: hi Taylor. It sounds to me that he want the best part of both worlds, he wants a g/f and want to use you for his sexual pleasure, think you need to talk to him, and tell him that your not going to be used in this way. He has used you because... (read in full...)

Marriage problem - midlife crisis or age difference?

Q.   Hi I have been with the same (only) woman for nearly 30 years - she is older than me and has children from her first marriage. I love her very dearly, but aargh! I'm experiencing a real sense of restlessness - looking at other women, wanting t...

A.   21 January 2008: Hi It seems to me that you are being very selfish,you have spent 30 years with some one who must really love you and now on some sort of silly whim you want to destroy your long term relationship,have you really thought this through, all the hurt... (read in full...)

I'm so moody even my family cant stand me!

Q.   Hello well ya see this i really need help its for any doctors out there please help me im so moody even my family cant stand me i dont want to make anymore problems i just wanna get on with my life is there any medication out there that i can take ...

A.   21 January 2008: Hi Cyprus-Gal. Sorry to tell you this but most teenagers are moody, i think the only thing you can do is go and see your own GP, and explain to them what your symptoms are, without an examination no one can tell you what your problems are related ... (read in full...)

Not trusted yet! How do I handle this?

Q.   My boy friend says I am the love of his life but he doesn't trust me. And wants to know eveything I did when we were not together. What do I do? ...

A.   21 January 2008: Hi My feelings are what ever had taken place between you, and any other person before the relationship you are having now, is none of anyone else's concern but your own, if he is not mature enough to take you and love you as you are, then that is ... (read in full...)

How can I put a stop to her being abused?

Q.   im close friends with a girl who is in an abusive relationship, but shes too scared to finish it incase things turn really nasty. what do i do to help her? he repeatedly beats her and has even attacked her with knives, resulting in numerous ...

A.   20 January 2008: Hi. I am sorry to hear that your friend is being hurt by this person, after i read your letter i went onto the net and found an address that may be some use to her, it is:www.womansaid.org.uk Hope this will help.... (read in full...)

I feel old at 15....is there any way to make myself feel better?

Q.   I have good friends, i have been told i could be a model you think i am lucky!! wrong!!! Last year was a great year for me i was 14 had great friends and had no worries and i went on loads of trip. Since November i had a dream of last day of schoo...

A.   20 January 2008: Hi. Feeling old at 15,no way, your at the most wonderful part of your life,you should be happy that all the wonderful events in your life are yet to happen, you seem to have got yourself into a bit of a rut, come on babe break out of it, your doin... (read in full...)

Is 3 a crowd? Should we keep his 3'some fantasy just that...a fantasy?

Q.   hi everybody please can somebody help me. i have been in my relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and he keeps asking me to have a 3some with him me and another when, i keep saying yes but i really don't no if i should, he has done this before ...

A.   19 January 2008: Hi Little j I always ask myself when a question like this comes up, why on earth would your b/f want to share a bed with you and another woman when he is supposed to be in love with you?. It is alright to have a fantasy about all sorts of dif... (read in full...)

I want to know whether I should go to boarding school or not..any advice?

Q.   hey iv posted loads of questions of all sorts on this site and would just like to thank you all.Hehe. Just one more question to ask- I really want to know whether i should go to boarding school or not- i know its a stupid question but all my...

A.   19 January 2008: Hi. The answer to your question must be yes, boarding schools are great, you will make a lot of friends, then when you start working for a living, you will already know a lot of people who may help you advance your career, plus the fact that more... (read in full...)

Will I ever get another chance to be a mother?

Q.   When I was 21 I had to make the most difficult decision of my life, to have an abortion. Myself and my partner have been trying for a baby for over a year. Because I haven't conceived yet, we are both blaming ourselves as he suspects he maybe ...

A.   18 January 2008: Hi Hanna. If you think one or the other may be infertile you may both make an appointment to see your GP who after test will give you the result and that will give you peace of mind, however some times it take some people a little more time to ... (read in full...)

I want to be friends! He wants to be action man.

Q.   ok, is it just me or can me and women not be friends unless the have some sexual intercourse? i have this guy whom i attended college with and he is an awesome person, but everytime we hang out its like all he is worried about is getting a little ...

A.   18 January 2008: Hi The answer to your question is yes woman and men can be friends without intercourse,it seem that you need a friend more than a lover, which is ok, you really need to talk to him and tell him that at present you see him as a very close friend, ... (read in full...)

BF of a year doesn't love me or think he ever can and prefers his ex.

Q.   OK a shorter version of my 'boring' one...my bf loved me once many months ago but doesn't now and doesn't think he ever can - or anyone else supposedly - yet having been with me over a year still prefers his ex (who dumped him). He's a good bf, but ...

A.   17 January 2008: Hi pinkcat I am sorry to say that he is a lost cause, if he is still hanging onto his ex after a year with you, then you are totally wasting your time with him,you deserve a lot better from a relationship than hanging around with this looser, ... (read in full...)

She broke up with me and now doesn't speak to me. Whats going on?

Q.   So my girlfriend of about three months told me about a week ago that she wanted to "take a break" because she needed to focus on her schoolwork, and that there's some problems at home. I come to school the next day (Friday), and she doesn't say hi ...

A.   17 January 2008: Hi jusca It may be that your friend is going through a difficult faze because of the problems she is having at home, this will make a difference to her private life and school work, she may not be able to deal with all the pressures in her life... (read in full...)

White discharge from vagina

Q.   i am 12 yrs old nd need help! i am getting like a white discharge substance cuming out of my vagina, i havnet started my period yet either and dont know what to do about it! i have made sure i'm clean down there nd stuff!!!!!! what could it be?...

A.   11 November 2007: Hi. If you are so concerned about this condition, the best thing for you to do is see your GP, best to make an appointment as soon as possible, the GP cannot tell any one what your medical condition is, so your safe on that score, he cant even tel... (read in full...)

Is a death-bed request to be ignored?

Q.   My fiance won't help me collect a debt from the son of my ex-best friend, whose wife asked him to see that I was paid back- a death bed request. "It's none of my business" says my fiance - "I don't want to get involved." - although she was...

A.   11 November 2007: Hi. You should not continue with this death bed Request, unless you have about 50 people who witness this event, and if he was on medication at the time you will be told it was the drugs talking and not his actual wishes, unless something is writt... (read in full...)

I'm too antisocial to meet new friends.

Q.   As I am getting older I am getting more and more unsociable. I am bored with everything. I only enjoy my family and husband. I feel I am hurting my family because I come up with excuses like I feel sick to not attend social functions I feel ...

A.   11 November 2007: Hi. Do not worry to much you do have a medical problem, but because of the present laws in this country, i can not give you a diagnosis for your condition it would not be the correct thing to do without an examination, you need to be seen by your ... (read in full...)

Guys always like me as a sister! Whats wrong here?

Q.   I am attractive,better looking than alot of my friends they even say so but I cant get a guy to look twice at me. I don't know whats wrong! Have I just not meet the right guy??? I know I shouldn't care but when all my friends have bad days they go ...

A.   11 November 2007: Hi. There is nothing wrong with you, your an ok person, what an honour to be thought of as awesome sister great, you seem to be mixing with boys who are not seeing you has you truly are, you need to go out and enjoy yourself, have fun the guy your... (read in full...)

I want to get my sister into bed

Q.   i am 14 i like my sister wont to get her in to bed but she it 19 and has a bf plzzz i no i wont to do soo if any one can help me on it hlep me two get my sisert into bed wat am i meen 2 she is 19 i am 14 but i no i wont 2 do this ...

A.   10 November 2007: Hi I think you really needs to see a psychoanalysis,if you have these feelings towards your your own sister then i am afraid i cant help you. Judging by your letter it seems that you are having a break down of some sort, go to your GP, and mak... (read in full...)

How do I let him go with the least amount of pain for both of us?

Q.   I fell in love with my best friend 4 years ago. I still love him but I gave up on him when he didn't like me back. Now he admits he has liked me the whole time but I'm seeing someone else at the moment. I know I don't like this guy I'm seeing even ...

A.   10 November 2007: HI Eve Thanks for the net address, i looked it up very interesting. ... (read in full...)

I want to give my baby to a couple I know.

Q.   im 5wks pregnant and want to give my baby to a couple i know personally who cant have children of their own - is this possible? i was going to tell the biological father that i aborted the child. can i leave the fathers name blank on he birth ...

A.   10 November 2007: Hi. As U.K. Law stands if you do not want to put father name on a birth certificate you do not HAVE TO, our USA friend has different laws than ours, if you are giving your baby to another couple it would be best for you to go through some form of a... (read in full...)

I recently had a miscarriage and now I'm having discharges in between my periods, what can it be?

Q.   I had a miscarriage 3 months ago, and haven't been taking my pill since. It was an early miscarriage - 6 weeks. We haven't been using contraception - Yes stupid of us, but I've been trying to get my head round that I was actually pregnant. But...

A.   10 November 2007: Hi. I agree with waterloo sunset, if you are loosing any fluid you need to see your GP, he can give you an examination just to be on the safe side.... (read in full...)

Why is it that people call anything they don't like by female words?

Q.   So I was playing Halo with a couple of girl friends the other day,and than her boyfriend and some friends showed up,and there was this one guy that I just wanted to punch in the face. Why is it that people call anything they don't like by female w...

A.   10 November 2007: Hi Dizzycat. Its alright for you to to complain, just get it off your chest, the things you have mentioned i believe come down to the fact that some people are more mature than others, all the things you have mentioned are a part of growing ... (read in full...)

Do you know what may be causing this?

Q.   this may sound like a really dumb question but im kind of worried. i dont think theres any need to be worried but id like to make sure before i come to nay conclusions. it isnt a question about relationships o anything but its quite embarrasing you ...

A.   6 November 2007: hello. this site is very helpful to people with relationship problems ect, even thou we have more than one Doctor on this site, it is illegal for some one to give you a diagnosis of a medical problem, you could have one of several conditio... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 18, I've have spent time with him in a group but want more, am I wrong?

Q.   ok well im 15 and i recently started hanging out with this guy not alone but in group company i see him now almost every weekend and occasionly through the week i really like him the one problem is that he is 18. we chat on instant messaging and he ...

A.   6 November 2007: hello again, sorry for delay in answer had to see to the shelf,it seems that he likes to talk to you on MSM, maybe you should start dropping hints to him when you are on, such as I'm 16 whatever date, see how he responds to you,just keep talking ... (read in full...)

Why wont she do with me what she did with him?

Q.   my girl friend has been dating me and another guy. she told me that she was a virgin. i am a virgin and i found out she was having intercourse with the other guy. she said she thought of it as dating two guys. it's obviously not a level playing ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello. when you are in a relationship, it does not matter what that person did with some else,it is wrong of you to want her to be the same with you as she was with him. you are two different people and should adjust your relationship to ... (read in full...)

Is he in it for the money or me?

Q.   So I dated this guy for a really long time, we broke up and now are kinda friends but I am still in love with him and he says he is still in love with me. Although, unfortunatley I'm still really wrapped around his finger and still let him borrow ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello. I think because you are giving him money he is only telling you the things you want to hear, eg i love you, he is more likely to love the money more, if you stop giving him money say for a month then you can see how long he stays around y... (read in full...)

I told my guy I would not cheat on him but I did, he has found out and we are working through it. Why do I do it?

Q.   i have cheated on every guy i have been with. when i met my partner i promised him that i would not cheat on him because i really did not want to, but i did. not once but three times in 9 years. he found out and now we are trying to work it out. i ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello. I think that you should rephrase you question and add more details of the events that made you cheat,because we do not know you in person i would be wrong to to guess, otherwise you may receive some very strange replies. ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 18, I've have spent time with him in a group but want more, am I wrong?

Q.   ok well im 15 and i recently started hanging out with this guy not alone but in group company i see him now almost every weekend and occasionly through the week i really like him the one problem is that he is 18. we chat on instant messaging and he ...

A.   6 November 2007: Sorry should have put who is antone the shelf in kitchen fell down scared life out of me. sorry ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 18, I've have spent time with him in a group but want more, am I wrong?

Q.   ok well im 15 and i recently started hanging out with this guy not alone but in group company i see him now almost every weekend and occasionly through the week i really like him the one problem is that he is 18. we chat on instant messaging and he ...

A.   6 November 2007: Sorry but who is antoe... (read in full...)

I think I'm pregnant. I am young but I still want the child!

Q.   i think im pregnant! im young but i want this child! i am having cramps in my stomach and it seems like something is moving in their! my back has been hurtin and earlier i have been feeling queisy.....am i pregnant or am i not!!!...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello, You really need to see your Doctor, the symptoms you describe could be one of a dozen things, make yourself an appointment as soon as possible, at your age your health and well being are very important and it is pointless that you are suff... (read in full...)

How do I tell if my supposedly hetersexual partner is really gay and prefers his best friend

Q.   I have been in a relationship now for just over 3 years. I am 44 and my partner is 49. It has been suggested to me (and i've wondered) that he is gay. How would i know, being heterosexual and knowing nothing about gay men, if he really was gay ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello. I have only worked with 2 gay people and they have never shown any attraction towards woman in any way, shape, or form, so i think you are on the wrong track thinking this because you have a sexual relationship on a regular basis, some men... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 18, I've have spent time with him in a group but want more, am I wrong?

Q.   ok well im 15 and i recently started hanging out with this guy not alone but in group company i see him now almost every weekend and occasionly through the week i really like him the one problem is that he is 18. we chat on instant messaging and he ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hello. I now that you like this guy, and provided you have not had sexual contact, then you have nothing to worry about, but you must remember until you are 16 then you are still a minor, you could just have a general friends type of chat with him... (read in full...)

Quick orgasm - less pleasure for a man?

Q.   If a man orgasms quickly does he enjoy it the same as if he lasted longer?...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello. YES no matter how long it takes once a man has ejected that is his orgasm. ... (read in full...)

I like this guy, but am I just a booty call to him?

Q.   How do I know if this guy is into me? I have been seeing/dating this guy since August. We have been intimate sexually with each other. For him to contact me, I have to text him. If I dont text him, he doesnt contact me nor call me. If I send hi...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello. This guy is a player he is using you as you have said, Booty Call,he is not interest in you, if he did care why would you have to do all the running, he will also be using other woman in the same way, your the only one who cares about hi... (read in full...)

I feel so ashamed..

Q.   I'm in my earlier 30S and am falling for my girl friend of 10 years daughter who is in early 20S dos this make me a sicko i feel ashamed of my behaviour. ...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello. I do not think you are a sicko, as long as she is 20+,it seems you are going through an emotion that some people go through at some times in there live,I bet she is bright, bubbly,smiles at you all the time, eye contacts you, makes you fell... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello again, thank you for you response, my heart really goes out to you, i now some of the things i said may have seemed a little harsh, i really was concerned that you were not coping, which i really understand, i was afraid for your health a... (read in full...)

Why do footballers wave at me?

Q.   ok i am 14 i have blonde hair and about 5'3 and at school me and my freinds hang out at the school gate (our school is bye a football training ground) you see all the players cars and i they keep on staring at me and i find it very embaresing ...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello Anon. when they started writing these letters in i believed the same as you, but when the letter keep coming in and over 25 people have advised them, then they still keep writing in ... (read in full...)

My ex keeps sending me flowers, its messing with my head, how can I find a way to end this?

Q.   My ex-boyfriend bought me flowers to bring to work, but I was off today. We only work in the same place once a week, and this week I didn't work there at all. He called me several times not using his cell phone so I didn't track the numbers and one ...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello. there are very few options to this problem, you could either refuse to accept the flowers and who ever delivers then tell them to take them back, or you will have to ring him and tell him not to send them because you wont accept them,or ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my mom I want to live with my dad instead?

Q.   Right now I live with my mom and step dad. I would like to go live with my dad who lives 2 hours away from my current house. The problem is i don't know how to tell my mom I want to move in with my dad... I know I really want to move in with my dad ...

A.   5 November 2007: Hello. The best thing to do is talk to your dad first to make sure that it is alright for you to live with him, if he says yes, then ask his advise about telling your mother, he knows your mother better than i do and will know how she is going to... (read in full...)

Why do footballers wave at me?

Q.   ok i am 14 i have blonde hair and about 5'3 and at school me and my freinds hang out at the school gate (our school is bye a football training ground) you see all the players cars and i they keep on staring at me and i find it very embaresing ...

A.   4 November 2007: thank you again. sorry that you seem to be as upset as you are, if you have a real problem, something that is giving you grate concern in your life, that affect you deeply, write back to me on this page and hope fully we can discuss it, i dont wan... (read in full...)

Why do footballers wave at me?

Q.   ok i am 14 i have blonde hair and about 5'3 and at school me and my freinds hang out at the school gate (our school is bye a football training ground) you see all the players cars and i they keep on staring at me and i find it very embaresing ...

A.   4 November 2007:  I have only been on this site for two weeks plus and in the logs on machine it say,me and my mate stood at school gate near foot ball ground, a bus went by people waved at us what does that mean me and my mate stood at school gates two bloke wa... (read in full...)

Why do footballers wave at me?

Q.   ok i am 14 i have blonde hair and about 5'3 and at school me and my freinds hang out at the school gate (our school is bye a football training ground) you see all the players cars and i they keep on staring at me and i find it very embaresing ...

A.   4 November 2007: Hello. you want like what i think, in the past eight days you have written in with three, stories of men waving at you, the story about people taking your photograph, there was a third one but i cant remember at the moment, you two must have a g... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   3 November 2007: Hi Anon Thank for your reply, it looks as if were not the only ones with this problem, hope your over yours, and life is better know without him. thanks you.... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   3 November 2007: Dear Annon. Thank you for you response, yes i do know what is its like. i found by wife in my bed with a younger bloke, thats why i Divorce her,the point i was trying to make was that is over now and to keep going over and over it is not doing he... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   3 November 2007: hello again. It is time you pulled yourself together,you really do need to see a doctor or some type of medical person, you keep going on about this 18 year old girl but she is not the problem right now YOU ARE, all the ifs, buts, and dont now... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   2 November 2007: Hello again. you have admitted that you have depression, for a longer period of time than i had realized, you could leave the situation if you wish but that will not help your depression in any way,you and your children need to be supporte... (read in full...)

How can I get over his betrayal with a teen lover?

Q.   I'm depressed and upset about my husband and his affair with an 18 year old girl. I've stressed about it since I found out 4 months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I had my new baby 6 weeks early due to all this trauma. The birth was ...

A.   2 November 2007: hello. I am sorry to hear that your life is not as happy as it should be, and the actions of your husband, you really seem to be going through post natal depression at this time, you should go to doctor and get yourself treated for this conditio... (read in full...)

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