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He says I'm difficult

Q.   I'm still trying to get over the man who left me for his baby momma and i have another problem. i promised myself after this relationship i would give myself time to see what i want and not give into mens demands unless i'm ok with it. I have met ...

A.   17 October 2007: hi Alicia i think you had it right the first time when you refused, going in to a hotel room by yourself with a man you do not know all that well is taking a very big risk, just because he say nothing will happen does not mean it wont, i think in... (read in full...)

We're awkward alone together

Q.   Hi! Ive been dating this guy for a while now. and every things fine when where hanging with some friends.. but when where alone there is just this awkward silence. My mind goes black and i cant figure out something to say. And sometimes just sca...

A.   17 October 2007: hi it is strange how some people can talk to each other in a crowd,but find it harder on a one to one basis,i think you are trying to hard that is why your mind goes blank, you must have a fear of saying the wrong thing, but if that is the case... (read in full...)

Does he love me, or is he neglecting me?

Q.   Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, and it hasnt always been the best, as we are both the eldest child, therefor always think we are right, leading to quite a few arguments, these are usually resolvedn shortly after, and i don't ...

A.   17 October 2007: hi blue eyes 89 the position that you are in at this time is hopeless, you should be with some one who wants to be with you, to be honest if some one put there xbot, before me and my feelings, i would be out of there like a shot, your relation... (read in full...)

I'm waiting it out to see if he calls me.

Q.   An ex is calling to let me know that he has arrived safely to his out of town worksite. He says he wanted to let someone know that he was ok and how to get in touch with him in case they needed to. Strang thing is he had already called his best ...

A.   17 October 2007: hi there could be a couple of reasons i think,one could be to see how you react to his calls, another reason could be to see if a male voice answers instead of you,which in turn means he is checking up on you or maybe he is just lonely on the site... (read in full...)

Doesn't he get it?

Q.   Dear Friends,my bf has made all plans for him to go on holiday, without taking me into consideration at all, and YET he claims that he Loves me, and wants to be with me! I dont know if im exaggerating,but if i Do love and Care for Somebody, would ce...

A.   17 October 2007: hi Mitchel After reading your letter it seems you know the answer yourself,he is selfish and does not consider you,or your feelings this not a good place to be as you have said, you are wanting to be in a settled relationship with some one who ... (read in full...)

Should I let him come back if only for the sake of the baby?

Q.   a man that I love is very ill - we weren't get along very well. we just had a baby - the baby wasn't even a month old yet and he left me.... if he gets feeling better - should I let him come back - even if that means us fighting alot and me being ...

A.   17 October 2007: hi i can tell you what has caused three of your husbands complaint high blood pressure,is an affect of diabetes,congestive heart failure is cause by a natural chemical in the body cholesterol, there are two affect to this one is a good part whi... (read in full...)

Should I let him come back if only for the sake of the baby?

Q.   a man that I love is very ill - we weren't get along very well. we just had a baby - the baby wasn't even a month old yet and he left me.... if he gets feeling better - should I let him come back - even if that means us fighting alot and me being ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi because you have a baby i believe you have enough on you plate to cope with, it is true what others have said, baby's do pick up on moods and argument that adults have in ear shot of then, they are very aware of there surrounding at a very you... (read in full...)

It looked like they took a photo of us . . . . . .

Q.   i was with my freinds and we were just talking bye the gate at school (there is a football pitch right bye our school) there were two men on a buggy cart (i didnt realy know what it was but they suddenly stoped (directly in facing us)and we saw a ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi it is not normal for adult to take pictures of school children, if i were you i would inform a teacher at your school, and if these people come back again i would go straight to a teacher and tell them to call the police, do not worry too muck... (read in full...)

When I was left alone with my daugyhter's best friend, we touched each other intimately; my daughter knows I'm a lesbian. Help?

Q.   i am a woman and im alesbian my daughter knows about this and doesnt mind but recently whenever her best friend comes over my vagina starts throbbing in a good way and i think i luv her, when i was left in a room with her i touched her breasts and ...

A.   16 October 2007:  i think if you are a member of this web site, and you are planning on abusing a 16 year old girl, then you should be removed from here forthwith without any delay, how can a child abuser give children sound advise ???, ... (read in full...)

We used to be all over each other, now he won't even kiss me when he goes somewhere! What's wrong w/ him?

Q.   hiya guys!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxx I have been with my boyfriend for about 3-5 weeks and we used to be so close and everthing. We went to the cinemas together and hanley and everwhere together and we used to be all over each other all the time!!!!...

A.   16 October 2007: hi Jodie 3-5 weeks is not a long time to be in a relationship, because you seemed concerned about the way he is treating you, i would ask him why he is not showing you the affection he showed you through the last 5 weeks, if he gives you an answe... (read in full...)

My husband can be such a baby, and I worry he won't be strong enough if we ever encounter larger problems in our relationship and in life. What do you think?

Q.   Hi i have been married now for 2 years, i think i love my husband but i'm not sure if i have married a man or a big baby. For example if i am ill he is ill as well, he lays it on thick in front of his mum. We had a holiday in Florida, and he ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi forgive me for saying this, but in your letter you said i think i love my husband, not that you do, is there other underling problems that you have not mentioned, i would be grateful if you would write in again and clarify this before i give y... (read in full...)

We keep fighting and breaking up. What should I do now?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are going out for about 6 months but everytime we fight we break up and then 2 or 3 days later we make up again but the last time he left me for another girl and we were out for about a month and then he came back to me and asked ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi i agree with the comments made above , it seems you are not suited to each other, some times two people get together and no matter what they do, they cannot get on with each other at all, your both wasting each others time, giving each othe... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I want a relationship?

Q.   I have a friend who ive known since Feb this year. Ever since me and my ex broke up 2 months ago, he has been showing me alot more attention. He has told me he likes me alot and we went out last weekend and we went for a walk along the beach and he ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi I think you should go out and enjoy each others company for a while longer, then you will have a greater bond between your selfs, when the time is right all will fall into place, do not rush yourself into a situation were you may frighten... (read in full...)

What does it mean when my ex girlfriend asks my friend for my phone number... in these conditions?

Q.   What does it mean when my ex girlfriend asks my friend for my phone number?...We talked and everything was cool. We talked like nothing even happened, it felt natural. She says she wants to hang out..blah blah blah. hasnt seen me in a long time. its ...

A.   16 October 2007: hi i am not the best judge of woman to be honest, but it seems to me that she is trying to make a fool out of you, she firstly want to see you ,then she has a bloke she works with, then she going camping at the week end with her boy friend, ... (read in full...)

This person is flirting with me but says they don't like me.

Q.   Hey my name is charley and i was wondering, how can you tell if someone likes you even if you ask them alone and they say no but they are consistently flirting with you?...

A.   16 October 2007: hi Charley if this lad said when you were alone no he did not want to be with you, then i am afraid that is what he means, the only reason he seems to be flirting with you is because he can, you should put this person straight and tell him you ... (read in full...)

Sometimes he likes me other times he's distant. What do I do?

Q.   Okay I am 16. I known this guy since year 10 and we have gotten really close this past year. We both have really bad homelifes, we both planned to move away and he moved to Cardiff (which with me being in manchester is really far away) I went do...

A.   15 October 2007: hi do not hate me for saying this, but it sounds like he is using you, he is telling you the things you want to hear so that you will go to Cardiff to satisfy his lust, and not showing you the love and care you deserve, next time he calls you ask ... (read in full...)

Want to feel worth of proper relationship

Q.   right my dilema is... basically i got to know this guy right and he seemed to proper like me until today i found out that he dont like me 'in that way' and he was just horny. to be honest i think i'm coping well even though i was upset a bit earl...

A.   15 October 2007: hi well i am sad to tell you that there maybe more people about like him, but they are a rare breed,it is not nice for some one to use you for sexual purpose, but that life, once in a while we bump in to these people, even i have been taken ad... (read in full...)

Too early to commit?

Q.   i have been with my bf for one and a half years its really serious and things are going great but most recently i have been thinking about engagements. Is this way too soon to be thinking this serious and this committed??? ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi if things are going well in a relationship, then i can see no reason why you should not think in these terms, but before you make any decisions you must discuss this with your bf, or try to find out if he is willing to take this step, there is... (read in full...)

My husband needs to read or watch lesbian porn to get aroused. Is this a behaviour problem, or just a sexual preference?

Q.   I feel like I'm alone. I haven't found another woman who shares my heartache. Here's the problem in a nutshell... my husband can only get aroused reading, watching or talking about lesbian sex. Before we make love, he prefers to read lesbian porn ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi I am sorry to say that the porn he is watching has rotted his brain, this is not the way an adult male should act, best thing to do is get him to see a councilor, or make an appoint for him at some form of addiction clinic,i believe they exi... (read in full...)

Is this flirting or just plain silliness??

Q.   today me and my freind were taliking bye the gate at high school (there is a football ground bye our school)somtimes the players drive past today they did and they rodomley waved and smield at me and my freind were they flirting or am i just being ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi I think you will find this is an event which happens every day of the week, a load of jolly lads go past two beautiful young lady and whistle or wave, do not take it to seriously, i will give you an example, twenty blokes working on a building... (read in full...)

I fear that my husband will leave me

Q.   I am married and my husband likes to search for gays and transvestites in the location we live. We are moving soon and he was searching yesterday for people like that. I have talked to him a month ago and i was ready to leave when i heard about it...

A.   15 October 2007: hi I am sorry to hear that your husband is hurting you in such a cruel manner, the main reason i find why people stay together is trust,truth and loyalty,regretfully he has broken all these vows by looking for gay and transvestites, by his acti... (read in full...)

Are my feelings OK with him impression of me.

Q.   Hi all- Ok, I must admit first off to being a bit of a snoop. My boyfriend checked his myspace account on my computer earlier, and when I went to sign in later his home page was still up. I listened to the little devil on my shoulder and looked i...

A.   15 October 2007: hi yes i agree with the comments already made, this guy must think the world of you, he did not sneak off behind your back, he told her he was involve with you, and that is a great asset to say your relation ship is stable, best wishes ... (read in full...)

Thanks DearCupid

Q.   Dear Andrew. hello my name is david but you may now me better as dapone 1, i was searching the net and came across your site by accident, i looked at a few of the letters and found i may be able to help with that, so i replied as they say the rest...

A.   15 October 2007: hi every one. I wrote a letter to Andrew and must have pressed the wrong link, to my surprise the letter ended up in the column, i wish to thank all the aunts and uncles who responded to my letter, and a very big thank you, to all for your kin... (read in full...)

I have a crush on my personal trainer. Do I confront him?

Q.   Hi, I recently joined a fitness club and also took personal training sessions. My personal trainer is good looking and cute while I'm juz a normal looking overweight girl trying hard to loose weight. I have started fallen for him and I think I ha...

A.   15 October 2007: hi the main thing for you to do right now, is pull your self together, stop and think, you are making a mistake, this guy is your trainer and some times when people are nice towards you or even me, we pick up signals that are not there, you can beli... (read in full...)

Is he jerking me around?

Q.   my ex and i have been off and on for 3 years.. and ive known him since i was 7.. i just recently went to his place and he admitted he was messing round with this girl but shes nothing to him- just a hit and quit type of thing.. and hes told my ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi krissi I think if you have wasted three years with this guy and he is still messing about with other girls, then i am afraid you are wasting your time and life with him, when people admit to messing around and say they mean nothing to them,it ... (read in full...)

I've fallen for my boss's boss.

Q.   help me ive got myself in to a tricky situation im having an affair with my bosses boss! its been going on for 4 months now and i am really falling for him. he has told me he is leaving his girlfriend so we can be together as we are both sick of ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi i wonder why you went into a relationship knowing that your bosses boss had a girl friend, until he leaves his girlfriend i would be very careful, of what you do with this guy, he may be leading you down the garden path, if you are having a... (read in full...)

Is there any possibility hes interested in a relationship or is he just using me for sex?

Q.   i have been seeing this guy for 4 months but he only texts or phones me on a saturday night to meet and come back mine when hes out with his mates, is thier any possibility hes interested in a relationship or is he just using me for sex, i really do ...

A.   15 October 2007: hi i am sorry to tell you but it seem that this guy is only using you, to relieve his sexual needs,if he is not listening, to you or not treating you as a special person, and only turning up at your house once a week on a Saturday night after he... (read in full...)

My friend is depressed. What can I do?

Q.   i have a friend. He is in love with this girl, they've been best of friends and one day, they decided to give it a shot. It went alright for awhile till she pulls out. It breaks his heart and he is sincerely sad. After a couple of weeks, they resume ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi I would like to say how sorry i am about your friends medical condition,the relationship you are talking about is a loose loose situation, for one reason or another an abused woman who has a child with an abuser, will never leave the abuser, ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with 2 men.

Q.   I have a problem. I'm in love with two men. I'm married to john and have two beautiful boys. We've been married almost a year, and have been together for 5. I have been really unhappy lately, and when I try to talk to him about it, he doesn't ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi i am sorry to say this but it seem like your marriage is in a mess,you are only considering your own feelings and not thinking about your husband and children,after five years of marriage one of the partners some times feels that the grass will... (read in full...)

Does he like me too and should I make a move or should I just get over him?

Q.   I really like one of my friends but i'm not sure if he likes me to. We talk for hours on msn nearly every night, he teases me and jokily calls me names, waits for me when we have classes together and whenever we make eye contact he smiles or pulls ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi i agree with Kenny you could be making a big mistake letting this lad go,all you have to do is ask him out, take the lead show him how mature you are and that you care, but remember to ask him some ware private when you are together, hopefull... (read in full...)

I haven't had a period yet. Is this because I masturbate?

Q.   plz someone i need help badley! ok here is is...im 12yrs old and i masterbate... all my friends a skwl hav startd there p.m.t (periods) and i havent yet. is there n e chance that i will never start my periods because i masterbate??? i...

A.   14 October 2007: hi little miss helpful the problem you have is not just yours, there are people of your age who have not had a period yet, it is nothing to do with the M thing, and nothing to be ashamed of, its your body it has decided it does not want to chan... (read in full...)

Long distance 1st choice or local 2nd?

Q.   I need advice. I met an amazing guy over the summer when i went abroad. We really hit it off even though i thought it was impossible to feel anything after my last messy relationship. We both knew that we couldnt be together right now because we ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi even thou the choice is mainly your,i have found over the years that holiday romances do not work or last for long, i think if you like this new guy in the UK, then i would go for him, try it out if it all works out OK, then you have nothing to w... (read in full...)

He's a father but not a daddy

Q.   I had a child when i was 15, i reget having a child so young but i dont regret having my daughter. Her dad came from a well off background and because of this didnt want to help raise her, he just sent money every week. I really wanted him to help ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi cant really see your problem here, ask him again to let your boy friend adopt your child, if he refuse then tell him you will write a letter to his wife, and report him to the police, for having sex with a 14 year old girl, which is illegal in t... (read in full...)

I have kept in touch with my ex while out of the county. Should I call him when I get back in town?

Q.   I went out with a nice guy 3 times, knowing I was about to leave the country for work. He knew, too, and it wasn't a problem. While away during these past 8 months we've exchanged brief emails every so often to stay up to date. Although he's gone ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi you seem to take it for granted that this guy want to see you again,i think before you make such a big decision, you should ask your self,does this guy mean anything to me, because you have only seen him three times in 8 month,would it be fair... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my BF's ex?

Q.   My Boyfriend and I started dating under unusual circumstances. We met through his ex and at the time my best friend. I wasn't going to make a move on him unless it was o.k. with her but I never got the chance to talk to her before I hung out with ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi if i were you i would not at this stage worry myself to much, because this will cause complications in your relationship, instead be aware what is happening between them, say for example he start to spend as much time with her as he does with... (read in full...)

How do you know if your'e bestfriend likes you for more than a bestfriend??

Q.   Help!! I know his is gonna seem dumb but I do need help. Okay I like this guy. Everyone says he likes me.He even acts like he likes me. HE has a gf but is gonna break up with her when she gets back from a trip she went on. Should I tell him how I ...

A.   14 October 2007: hi this is one of the times in your life that you should be enjoying your self and not getting to serious, about a complex situation, before you make your mind up think about the easy option before you get hurt, wait to see if he does break up with... (read in full...)

Is there any hope for us?

Q.   My question is this. How can i get the love of my life to stay with me even if she says she is in love with her first love and wants to leave? Also is there any hope for us? We have been together for almost 20 years and she says she does love me and ...

A.   13 October 2007: hi i am sorry that you are in this position after 20 year, and i can understand the hart break you are suffering,i am sorry to say that this person is not worthy to have you as a partner,coming up with such a lame excuse after such a long period of ... (read in full...)

Should I give this guy a chance? Or does he have too much baggage?

Q.   Hi, I met a guy through dating website. 3 weeks ago... I'm 40, divorced 5yrs with 2 children, only had 1 other partner for a couple of years which ended earlier this year. 1st 2 dates were fab and very intense. He has 2 ex's with 3 children betwe...

A.   13 October 2007: hi i think that you may be making a mistake to continue at this time with this relationship, you have said your self that you are in need of emotional support,if your partner is also in need of emotional support what will happen if everything ... (read in full...)

Shall I take her back? She's lied to me in the past.

Q.   My ex left me 3.5 months ago because she lost her love for me. She's sort of seeing someone else at the moment but nothing serious for about 3 months although she had lied about not seeing anyone, I accidently found out. Her reason for lying...

A.   13 October 2007: hi all relationships rely on honesty and trust,i feel that because you do not have either of these in your relationship its is safer to move on and not take her back, i have found through life that if some one lies to you once they will lie again,i ... (read in full...)

He said he liked my nest mate and we broke up. While we were together he joked about me giving him a bj. Now I feel he's using me as a back up plan?

Q.   My bf broke up with me about a week back. He said it was bcos of instincts but i wasnt that sure. Later on the SAME night he slips out that he fancies my bestmate. I dont trust her enough to think she didnt do anything for him to dump me for her. ...

A.   13 October 2007: hi it seems to me that you are making your life to complicated, there is a simple answer here,when you were together he cant have taken in to account what a great person you must be,he only though of himself and how to loose his virginity, and when... (read in full...)

Anal sex instructions, please

Q.   i want anal sex so badly......could someone give me a step by step guide? and any tips on the first time? Thank you Mia...

A.   12 October 2007: hi,the first time you have anal sex ensure that you are lubricated first,get yourself laid face down on a bed,let your boy friend put oil on his finger and gently rub your anal,then put more oil on his fingers 2 and massage your passage again. A... (read in full...)

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