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I'm thinking of having anal sex with a man so I can experience what my GF feels with me...

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Question - (15 April 2008) 14 Answers - (Newest, 30 April 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm thinking of having anal sex with a guy so i can experience what my gf does with me .will i get the same sensation?

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (30 April 2008):

oldfool agony auntYou sound like an experimenter, maybe a little hot and crazy!

If you do this with your girlfriend's permission or in her presence, then that's fine (it's a matter between you two). If you can keep it within your relationship, it might be manageable. But keep in mind you could be opening the door to some scary developments. What if you became addicted or if it becomes a habit?

As for whether it would feel the same, I really don't know. I understand that for many men it's the pressure on the prostate gland that makes it so pleasurable. Since women don't have a prostate gland, the feeling could be quite different.

Several female posters have commented how uncomfortable they find anal sex. My understanding is that not all women find it uncomfortable, and some women get quite turned on. Probably the same for men.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008):

See if your girlfriend is open to showing you what it feels like. She can use either a strap-on or you can get a Feeldoe (they're awesome!). You never know-she might just go for it...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

Honey don't cheat on her!! And I doubt it would feel the same. But the pain would probably be around about the same. Let me tell you this though, it kills. Or for most normal people anyways. I don't believe that many people find it pleasurable, and to be honest, your girlfriend won't see this as empathy. She will see this as dishonesty and start to wonder if you are gay. Even if you explain, it's hardly the world's best idea.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

love-him agony auntHEY !!

Don't cheat on your missus !! It will hurt her a lot.. If you are experimenting then you should break up with her for a while and then experiment.. That is the only way i would find it okay.. From where you have said 'what my gf does with me' Do you mean does she use fingers on you? If that is what you mean.. It will be a lot more different than fingers.. Honestly anal is completely different than a couple of fingers..

I hope i helped, Feel free to mail me at any time x x x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

That would be cheating on your girlfriend. Like others have said just use a dildo. Tell your gf you're interested to know what she feels when you have anal sex and get her to do it.

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

BigSis agony auntCollaroy...did you know that if you said the word 'Gayman' in Greek ~ it means 'Mince', as in 'Minced meat'....how ironic is that?

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (16 April 2008):

Collaroy agony auntDude,

seriously, who are you kidding?

I think it's time to come out of the closet. At least for your girlfriends sake. She needs to know she's with a gay man.

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A female reader, asian tealeaf Canada +, writes (16 April 2008):

asian tealeaf agony auntwhile dildos can simulate the real thing, nothing does the job like a real dick. experimenting just to see what ur wife feels is NOT having gay tendencies. people need to read and study what really being gay or homosexual really is and what is the make-up for men with homosexual tendencies. if u have NEVER ever had these thoughts, and u consider urself to be very manly, but ur intentions here are to only experience what ur wife feels when u fuck her in her anal cavity, then ur not gay. i say either go for the dick with ur wife there, or, take thye strap-on. its awesome that there are men like u out there who want to know what the women go thru. because i will tell u, its not always a great awesome thing for women to engage in. it can be degrading, painful etc. a lot of women feel pressured to do anal and then have inner resentment and grief over it later. why men even want to do such horrible things to women, including fisting their vaginas and sticking weird objects like beer bottle neckes, magnum fladshlights baseball bats etc in a womens privates are beyond me.in my opinion, if u can give it, u better be prepared to take it. if u cant man up and take it then ur a bigger pussy then we thought. i had an ex bf who wanted to fuck me anally, so i playfully said ok if i can fuck him afterwards the same. he got all angry and i told him to go fuk himself then.wwho the hell did he take me for?

yes sir. i say go for it. then u will have a greater appreciation for ur wife and her ass. literally!

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (15 April 2008):

Hi

as the others have said i think you may be thinking about being guy. a friend of our would alway have anal with his wife when she was drunk. so when he got drunk she used a strap on on him. he didn't like it

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (15 April 2008):

kenny agony auntThe decision is yours to make, you are obviously having gay tendencies otherwise you would not even be contemplating doing this act with another man. I think if you value your relationship with your girlfriend i would do what Misskin says and get a dildo.

Good luck

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (15 April 2008):

Danielepew agony auntI wouldn't know, but I think the answer is no. She's a girl, and you just came out of the closet. It's your life; be yourself.

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (15 April 2008):

BigSis agony auntYou cannot be serious!

If you're that interested, do what MissKin says...get a vibrator.

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A female reader, MissKin United Kingdom +, writes (15 April 2008):

MissKin agony auntWhy are you going to have sex with another guy to get this sensation? Is your girlfriend okay with this? She could use a dildo on you, it would be basically the same thing. Or even a strap on. Just a thought.

And as for getting the same sensation. It'll be incredibly similar but everybody feels slightly different during these situations and it'll feel slightly different to you than it does to her. Some people also enjoy things that others don't - this shows that people react differently to the same thing. Your girlfriend could love anal sex - you mite find it excruciating and not enjoy it at all. Or vice versa.

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A female reader, GONZ91305 United States +, writes (15 April 2008):

GONZ91305 agony auntI dont know what to say but are you sure its to ssee what she feel or is it that gay urge...whta do you think and what does she think???????????

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