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writes:Hi:My girlfriend recently went away, and while on her trip "bumped" into her ex boyfriend. I asked if she had emailed hi to which she replied "no". I later found out she did in fact email him but the email bounced back at her. Her claim was that because the email didn't go through, it was harmless. But now I wonder if the trip was deliberate to see him him knowing full well I could not be there. I love her very much and have moved my life for her but her lies keep coming through. She says she will stop lying, but how can I learn to trust again? Please help.
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reader, yazanco  +, writes (22 March 2011):
Honestly and take it from me, once a girl lie she will continue for ever.
If i were you i wont trust her, i have been through before, and i promise you she will keep on contacting him.
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all the best
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you're feeling this way..no one should live life wondering, stressing, checking on ur partner to see if they're lying. Its wrong, its sad, its unfair...
May I say few words through my own experience. My ex-partner/ex-bestfriend of 10 years lie to my face, looking straight in my eyes about serious stuff & stupid stuff. It was unreal, saw w/my own eyes, had undeniable proof still lie in my face, tried to put the blame on me, tried to convince me that I was crazy..
Its not good people/ bad people, I just learn that some people are like that..
As for your girlfriend, I believe her that it was harmless, no intentions, but unfortunately, that's how affairs begin..little lie here, there, innocent grab a cup of coffee & soon happens"
I don't want to upset you more than you already are. I would suggest you to have a serious honest talk, tell her what's bothering you, how you would prefer things to be for now on, etc.. Sincere, open heart talk..
I tried that, didn't work for me, but hopefully will for you"
I believe in 2nd chances, I believe people change, I believe that her email had no intensions, not important, was not hoping/planning to keep in contact any further than that 1 casual email so probably that's why she didn't tell you the truth, because it meant nothing to her & it was not a big deal. For now, don't stress too much, keep yourself calm, because nothing happened, you don't know & have no proof. If you keep asking her too much, that might push her away..
1 honest talk & let things go & go back to ur old normal life as before... (Just keep an eye open w/out her knowing) for now both of you need a break, let things settle...
Hopefully this help...
Good luck my friend, remember you're not alone!
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