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writes:What should i do my boyfriend slapped me? What should i do for him to forgive me?me and my boyfriend got in a big argument about where we will spend thanksgiving and i said a few things and kicked him where it would hurt the most.. cause he was pissing me off... so anyways i said something that i shouldn't have said.. and i keep yelling at him and saying bad words... then he SLAPPED me!!! did i really deserve to get slapped? i really really like him and i want him to come and spend thanksgiving with me and my family :( what do guys like girls to do when they are mad at the girl? i am up for anything to make him not mad at me any more please please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): you kicked him in the nuts because you were upset about his Thanksgiving plans? Was his slap in an effort to wake you out of your rage? A reaction to getting his wedding vegetables mashed? Or a tit-for-tat you hurt me, I'm going to hurt you?
You have serious issues, and do not need to be in a relationship. He may have issues, but he's not writing us, so till he doesn't no reason to advise him... but you kicked the guy because you were upset. Man, what would have happened if the topic was serious? Stab him in his sleep? Boiling water on him? claw hammer to the head? Get some help!
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (27 November 2009):
 The two of you need to separate. Obviously, you have anger control issues as does he, especially if you're arguing over something like where to spend Thanksgiving. Jesus, what's gonna happen when you argue about serious issues? One of you is going to end up in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Violence, I don't like that. I'm gonna have to agree with QuirkLady and strontiumdog here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): I'm all for not hurting women... but when a woman kicks a guy in the nuts... well... thats pishing things a tad.It is just bad form to kick a guy in the nuts unless you are beiung raped or attacked by some psycho on the streets.You are both as bad as each other. He probably only slapped you because you started the physical fight by hitting below the belt.Flynn 24
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reader, bitch +, writes (26 November 2009):
Nobody in a relationship should hit, punch, kick,slap or in any way violently touch one another. It is all wrong. You both are immature and not well educated it seems. Why yell, why fight and why try to hurt one another? It is pointless and should not be done. Why can't you talk to one another about your feelings without it getting so heated? That is my question to the both of you.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 November 2009):
 There's something wrong with both of you.
Neither of you should be laying hands on each other. Where do you get off kicking him? That's assault! This is a totally unhealthy relationship and both of you need to learn that it is NEVER EVER appropriate to hurt someone you love.
Both of you need to pick up some books on anger management and learn how to argue without hurting each other.
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reader, Garm +, writes (26 November 2009):
If you think he will EVER hit you again, stop talking to him. period.If you REALLY just pissed him off, and he's an immature little punk (judging from your age it seems possible), TALK TO HIM about what happenned, and why it must never happen again for either of you!
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reader, tamashck  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 You need to get out of this relationship ASAP. I mean when emotions are running high and the anger becomes uncontrollable, physical violence is often the only outlet in the heat of the moment - i am in no way standing up for what he did, no man should lay a finger on a woman. Ever. Thats just how it is.But as a guy, i can say that kicking him "there" was just plain out of order, no matter what he was saying/doing. No forgiving should take place, just put as much space between you and this fella as you can.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 November 2009):
You are asking him to forgive you! There is no forgiving! There is only you DUMPING HIM before he does it again! All right, you said some things to him. But if the only thing he could do was slap you, you need to get away from him now. No, you did not deserve to get slapped. No woman does. Ever. Period. It's simple, you're not safe with him. I know what you're going to say! You 'love him!' Well forget that, and think about your own safety and whether you want a life and children in the future. Because a slap turns to a punch so easily. Then a kick. Then you become one of those women who dies in a domestic violence attack. also, if you kicked him, you need to address your own anger too. Don't hit your partner, that's not healthy at all. Get out of this relationship.
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