I'm a grown man and yet my mother controls my life. Help
Q. My mother hit me, threatened me, and made me break up with my girlfriend after one day. Here's what happened: Throughout my entire life my mother has disapproved of any women that I choose to bring in it. I know now that she is a classic example ...
A. 21 October 2019:
Your mother is doing your job for you. Since you have not man up, or grown up, she feels she has to look after her little boy.
You have to show her you are man enough to look after yourself and her. If you have a job, pay rent, do your own lau... (read in full...)
I feel so overwhelmed but I don't want to run away
Q. I feel overwhelmed and I don't know how to juggle everything and give it my best shot. Basically, in just under 2 weeks, I'm having my first driving test. I passed my theory on the third try. If I don't pass this practical test, I have to renew my...
A. 28 August 2019: Hi Op,
What exactly are you overwhelmed about?? You have individual situations happening. You are the one putting them all together. Focus on the most current one, deal with it and get that done. Then move on the next.
Life is not a cake...Whe... (read in full...)
How to make an approach to the guy I can't stop thinking about
Q. I met someone about 5 months ago and I haven't stopped thinking about him since , does this mean I have a crush on him or im obsessed with him ? I know a lot of the time I think about people especially people who have meant a lot to me , who im f...
A. 21 August 2019: Hi Op,
Look up and watch the movie..."Memoirs of a Geisha". In the early parts of the movie, a young woman is taught how to use her womanly skills to attract any man.
I am not saying you have to use all those skills, but it will give you an... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to approach and meet new people?
Q. I have never had a boyfriend and sometimes I will admit it can upset me and sometimes im not too bothered about it . I had had guys show an interest in me in the past but most of the time id mess it up and was scared of getting to close so it didn't ...
A. 20 August 2019: Hi OP,
Your face and body language can drastically leave you lonely for a long time. Men are looking for a woman who may seem fun, opened minded, and confident. If you are walking around with a look of leave me alone on your face, and your bod... (read in full...)
I'm upset that he stopped during sex and blamed my noise. Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for a couple of months so yesterday I tried to get things started. While we were in the middle of doing it he kept putting his hand over my mouth, I thought it was like some sort of dominance thing because he...
A. 20 August 2019: You leaving him over sex bad? NOPE!! You are a woman with needs, and he obviously does not seem to need1q you, or a physical need to please you.
A guy is more likely to lose interest ina silent woman, than a woman who expresses her pleasure... (read in full...)
How to make an approach to the guy I can't stop thinking about
Q. I met someone about 5 months ago and I haven't stopped thinking about him since , does this mean I have a crush on him or im obsessed with him ? I know a lot of the time I think about people especially people who have meant a lot to me , who im f...
A. 20 August 2019: You are making the situation more complicated than it should be. Men are not scary monsters that you have to figure out some special way to approach them.
Just walk up and say "Hi...My name is..." Then see where it goes from there.... (read in full...)
How would you handle losing friends?
Q. When you lose friends or realise life long friends are stepping away. What would you do? When people suggest to work on myself, I find it depressing because I always look after myself and have gotten what I want so when I lose friends the suggestion ...
A. 20 August 2019: As others have said...You never lose real friends. People who are not really your friends will leave. A real friend you may not see for years,and when you see them again, it's like you were never apart.
Do not focus on what you have lost, but what... (read in full...)
Would a man be put off by a woman in her 30s if she isn't that worldly?
Q. I had a general question about men and their opinion on women they date and the amount of life Experience they have or expect them to have ? I am in my 30’s have been abroad a couple of times but by no means much, I have had a small handful of...
A. 20 August 2019: Hi Op,
If you find men confusing, then you are really over thinking men. Trust me, we are not that complicated at all.
You do not have to be Worldly at all. Why??? If you have done all the sky diving and so on, what is left for you and your par... (read in full...)
30 years old without a degree and a career. I feel like such a failure
Q. I am feeling so depressed. As a child growing up, I always wanted to be a doctor. When selecting my courses my parents told me I should do business management instead. I started pursing business management but had no passion for it. I was accepted ...
A. 20 August 2019: The only thing you have failed at is...seeing how much you have accomplished in 30 years.
Kids...home of your own, able to find work, heck...able to actually go to work.
You can plan your life all you want...But life has it's own plans for yo... (read in full...)
Nervous about returning to abusive husband
Q. When my husband gets jealous he sometimes assaults me and becomes very intimidating and threatening to me and I get very scared. It’s even worse when he’s been drinking alcohol. I have been with him for nearly 8 years and he had jealous rages wi...
A. 20 August 2019: Do not return to him unless he has got the help for his conditions.
If you do go back and something worst happens...then what???
This is a time to use your head, not your heart.... (read in full...)
I'm upset that he stopped during sex and blamed my noise. Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for a couple of months so yesterday I tried to get things started. While we were in the middle of doing it he kept putting his hand over my mouth, I thought it was like some sort of dominance thing because he...
A. 20 August 2019: Hi Op,
Why have you not had sex in a couple of months??
As a man...with free access to sex, and not taking the opportunity...I would say your boyfriend is not really a boyfriend.
I have not known a man yet who does not enjoy hearing his wo... (read in full...)
Why does my stepfather treat me better than my own mother?
Q. I don't know my biological dad and I have never been really close to my mother, she doesn't seem to care about me a lot. She does the basic parental obligations - feeding me, etc.- but she doesn't care much what's going on in my life and how I feel. ...
A. 8 August 2019: Hello Good Sir,
Do you know the back ground story why your dad is not around?? Do you know what kind of person your dad was?? Do you know the reason she is a single mom??
Your dad could have been a very bad person to your mother. You may ... (read in full...)
My wife and I are sexually incompatible and I'd like to know how I can kill my libido
Q. I am 30 years old and married. I love my wife very much but we have never had the best sex life. I knew from the beginning that we weren't a perfect match sexually but, when we talked about it, she always said that she thought she would get more ...
A. 7 August 2019: Super LOL,
Kill your sex drive...Ha...no sir, you are going to need every ounce of it as she gets older....Trust me.
I have been exactly where you are, thought exactly as you did, felt the way you did....and guess what??? I was dead wrong every... (read in full...)
He wants phone sex but I don't should I give in?
Q. My boyfriend and I are long distance right now and will be until Christmas. We're living at opposite sides of the country. We can see each other a couple of times a month. For the in-between time, he wants us to try phone sex. I find the whole idea ...
A. 1 August 2019: Honeypie is correct...You do not owe him anything.
2nd...He is ONLY a boyfriend. He could b
e gone tomorrow, with no investment into your long term future. It is also YOUR body, not his. When you say no, it means no. Let him get pissed off a... (read in full...)
My husband wants us to go to a psychic and I think he's lost his mind.
Q. My husband and I went through some trauma and conflict lately. Well after work last week, he decided to see a psychic. He told me everything they said except the relationship part. I said that he could tell me and it's ok if the psychic said we ...
A. 29 July 2019:
Hi OP,
You are the smart one here. Psychics are not real. No one can tell you the future and not know their own. If they were so good at what the did, they would know your time of birth on their own.
How rich would I be if I knew the future... (read in full...)
He said he had been celibate but after we had sex he told me he had herpes.
Q. I'm so afraid right now.Here's a summary of what happened. I recently connected with my ex and we attempted to be intimate but he could not become aroused,he said it was because he was nervous and that he hadn't had sex in 4 years. I found it really ...
A. 26 July 2019:
Hi Op,
I have to be blunt because of this your statement here...
"So my question is should I never speak to him again or how should I go about this conversation?"
You almost sound sorry for him, and wondering if things can still work.
... (read in full...)
My husband spends large amounts of money on prayer and food for God. I find this strange
Q. Thanks for your advice My husband does things that I find someone concerning. He is from Africa and he spends large amounts of money on prayer and eats food with God only knows what is in it. When I tell him to pray without giving these peo...
A. 25 July 2019: Hi op,
There was a news report recently about African so called churches scamming people out of money like crazy.
First of all...What does GOD need your money for???
Your husband had been brain washed into being a stupid follower. GOD doe... (read in full...)
Why do some men perceive women as entertainment
Q. Why do some men perceive women as entertainment . I’ve seen this attitude from so many men and even seen it stated here on this round that women are men’s entertainment . Why do some Men think women are here solely for their viewing pleasure...
A. 24 July 2019: Hi OP,
Both men and women are each others entertainment. Hence they have strip clubs for BOTH men and women to entertain both sexes. Porn sites and such.
Women DO wear clothes to attract the opposite sex, as do men. However, women are still ... (read in full...)
Fiance won't end things with emotional affair woman
Q. My fiance and I are going through a rough patch. He recently sat me down and told me that there's something he needs to tell me. He told me that for the past three months, he had been texting with a woman from work. He said that although they ...
A. 23 July 2019:
"My fiance and I are going through a rough patch."
See your statement above...The only one going through a rough patch is you. He is happy with his emotional woman. You are also going through a rough patch, because you still have a man in your ... (read in full...)
My Baby Daddy never follows through on promises, how can I make him happy?
Q. I have been with my baby Daddy boyfriend for almost two years. I have stayed with him when he was unemployed for 6 months, quit jobs and been broke. I have worked full time even when I was pregnant. We split up for two weeks because I finally ...
A. 23 July 2019:
Your first mistake is having what you call a baby daddy. That term says it all.
You do not have a husband or a boyfriend, or partner...You have a man who got you pregnant...nothing more. If that relationship was going anywhere, you would have h... (read in full...)
My relationship is good, except for the sex.
Q. Hello. I am in a relationship with a guy for 4 months now. He is a really nice person. We always connect on so many levels. He loves me and i love him too. He understands me and supports me. He is like a backbone. He is very romantic and very loyal ...
A. 23 July 2019:
Code Warrior is right!
If you go to the store to by a dress, but the sales person keeps giving you a pairs of pants. Would you just pay for pants even though that was not what you wanted??
No...You would leave and go get your dress somewhere... (read in full...)
I'm off to a spa weekend by myself, my boyfriend didn't want to come and he wants to stop me going too!
Q. I have booked myself a spa break in a classy hotel as a treat and my boyfriend is saying its a dodgy place to go in a hot tub with strangers in a bikini for a woman. He kept saying men could try and chat me up. I don't understand this Im going ...
A. 22 July 2019:
LOL...Love this...Man logic fail. :))
If he doesn't go to keep men away from you, whose fault is that?
Plus...if you look that good in a bathing suit that men will chat you up, more power to you my dear. Maybe the right non jealous man, who... (read in full...)
I'm single and pregnant, despite complications with the baby the father doesn't want to know about us.
Q. So I was dating a guy for 2 months, going really well then he ended the relationship due to the fact he didn't like the fact I have children, 3 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with his child, (implant broke) he said when he found out he ...
A. 22 July 2019:
Simple question... You plan on being an awesome loving parent to you child right?? Do you really want someone less than that around your baby??
This is no longer just about you. It's also what kind of people you want in your child's life.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend constantly complains about her weight but wont do anything about it!
Q. How do I deal with my gf complaining about her weight. I used to pressure her to keep an eye in her weight but she loves eating junk. I gave up about 3-4 years ago as we went from size 10 to 16. She is adamant it’s because it’s certain parts an...
A. 22 July 2019:
What have you done about a healthy living?? Have you joined the gym yourself? Go for walks? Bike rides? Buy healthy foods, and eat healthy yourself?
As you said...she complains and does nothing about it...well neither are you. Want her to do th... (read in full...)
Emotionally abusive friendship is there a way out ?
Q. I'm in an emotionally abusive friendship with another girl, we have been friends for many years. Its so hard to let go because when we get along its like the best friendship ever, we connect she totally understands and supports me, and vica versa, ...
A. 22 July 2019:
You are NOT in a friendship...sorry. Friends look out for each other, love each other, and care about what happens to each other.
You have put yourself in this position because you feel you can't do better.
If you have a sharp object stickin... (read in full...)
Do I continue in my loveless marriage? I reconnected with my ex
Q. I have been married about 21 years. The last 7 have been really bad, it is almost just like sharing a house with a roommate. My last kid will be moving out is September. This opens a new chapter. Do I continue this loveless relationship? ...
A. 22 July 2019:
Normally, the one who complains about a loveless marriage is the one who does then lease to bring love into their marriage.
The old truth...You get what you give... Don't expect your wife to be all over you with love, if you are not all over her... (read in full...)
How Do I Begin Feeling Happy About Other People Success?
Q. How do I begin being happy for others? Two years ago, I lost my job and got into a car accident. While I’m trying to get back on my feet, I see that my friends are moving out of my parents’ homes. I still live with mine. A majority of people I know ...
A. 22 July 2019:
See your statement here..."I don’t believe that I will get to their level."
So you have already given up before you tried??? If you believe you are a failure, when opportunity for success comes along, you will screw that up because you believe ... (read in full...)
A Male Coworker/Friend is Confiding in Me About His Marital Problems. How Should I Handle This?
Q. I've been at my current employer for two years. I enjoy what I do as a paralegal, but most importantly, I've collaborated with a great group of smart, distinguished professionals at my company. Everyone is helpful, friendly, brilliant. We work hard ...
A. 17 July 2019: Hi Op,
Just speculating...He may have married someone who used him to get status in your country, hence the quick downfall of the marriage.
Nonetheless, you do not want to be caught up in an emotional state in this situation. Women have big h... (read in full...)
If I could see into the future and see that our marriage would be the same for the next 20 years, then that is not what I want for my life.
Q. Hi, I need help with something. I am a 23 year old Christian man, I have been married for two years and the last year has been sexless. My wife and I got married two years ago and initially I could tell that she was nervous about sexual intimacy (we ...
A. 17 July 2019: Hi Op,
You have to become the leader here...Note...not the boss, but a wise leader.
Stop looking at your wife and all her issues, and taking on her feelings. To help someone who fell into a hole full of misery, is not to jump in the same hole... (read in full...)
For the men: Do you say I love you during sex?
Q. Dear Gentlemen, If you are in a committed relationship do you say "I love you" during sex? If you don't say it please tell why? This is purely about the phrase "i love you". THANK YOU!!!...
A. 16 July 2019: Hi Op,
To be honest...the feeling of love has to be there first....before sex. Saying I love you during is like so in love with the sex, that I say those words.
Men need sex to feel love. Women needs love to give up sex.
If he only says... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me and how do I fix it?
Q. I don’t know what is wrong with me… I learned something about myself and I cannot pretend that it is not there. I decided a long time ago I didn’t want to have children. I just couldn’t bear the thought of bringing a new being into this world,...
A. 16 July 2019: Hi Op,
You my dear are a wonderful person. Caring for others more than yourself is an awesome trait to have.
You feel apart for your dog, because that is how a loving parent would be if their child went missing for that long. So although you ... (read in full...)
I guess he's cheating? Pantyliner found in boyfriend's bathroom trash
Q. I found a panty liner in the trash can in boyfriend's bathroom in his room. Mind you, it was on the top of the trash and there are 2 other bathrooms in his house before you get to his bedroom bathroom. He said he didn't know how it got there and ...
A. 16 July 2019: Hi Op,
Does not sound stupid for wanting the truth. However, women are know for their "Gut feelings", and if mine was screaming at me, I would not be waiting for the truth.
... (read in full...)
My husband leaves our 2 children to go help his ex get their child ready for school
Q. I am a bit confused as to how co-parenting works when a man has a child with his ex. My husband and I have two children together. He helps organize our daughter's uniform before he leaves on mornings. Then he would leave early to assist his ex ...
A. 16 July 2019: Hi There,
Very interesting situation. However, as husband and wife goes...YOUR husband must look after his house hold first before anyone elses. He must make sure his kids are looked after, on their way to school, and to help you out as needed. ... (read in full...)
Do I just have to put up with him staring at other women?
Q. Hey everyone I’m in.a relationship for 6 years now my boyfriend has always stared at women in front of me for the first couple of years it really upset me then he stopped but now I have caught him loads of times doing it he nearly put his neck out ...
A. 15 July 2019: Hi op,
Let me explain a little about men...well humans in general.
A lot of times, people get comfortable in their relationships. All the cute sexy things you did back then to get your guy's attention, you may no longer do. You got him, it's be... (read in full...)
How do I succeed in getting a job and moving out of my parents home?
Q. Hello, my question is this: how do I succeed in getting a job and moving out of my parents home? When I was in high school, I wanted to get a part-time job and start driving lessons so I continued onto community college (I rode the bus each day...
A. 12 July 2019:
If you are like most young people who want to be management before having any experience...then you are screwed. A job is a job.
I am sure McDonald's, starbucks, a cleaning company, and jobs as such are hiring. You have no work experience, ... (read in full...)
I can’t seem to break this loneliness/unhappy spell
Q. Can I ever be happy? I have tried to find happiness in many things but I can’t seem to be content and I’m not sure why I am this way? I grew up in an Eastern European home so my parents always were neglectful on my feelings and just neurotic and ...
A. 11 July 2019: Hi OP,
See your statement here..." I have tried to find happiness in many things but I can’t seem to be content and I’m not sure why I am this way?"
Believe it or not...There is not a person on this planet that can make you happy, if you ar... (read in full...)
Should I believe my married man?
Q. Just decided to break up with my MM after over 12 years We had a lot of ups and downs as well I just got to the point now where I had enough He tells me i’m the love of his life the woman he loves with all his heart , but that there is no way ...
A. 10 July 2019:
OP...Honeypie just laid down the law....And I am pretty sure you feel the same way inside.
Now from the male side of things...Women have what we need, and we need it bad...cost... Commitment. But with you, there is no cost...you give it away... (read in full...)
To very submissive people out here with partners that want them to be dominant, what did you do?
Q. A bit of a dilemma, looking for some advice! First off, I love my husband and absolutely want to please him. Second off, I'm a highly submissive person by nature, in everything, not just the bedroom. Being dominant assertive is difficult for me...
A. 10 July 2019:
There is a saying that is very true...Two personalities of the same type cannot live in the same space. They will always argue and fight.
You and your husband match up good, and he should try to make you something that you are not.
Huma... (read in full...)
Is dating supposed to be this difficult?
Q. I feel very abnormal as a 23 year old girl. I am 5'4 and about 130 lbs. I have never dated anyone simply because I barely get approached, hit on, and I have never been asked out before. I hate dating websites because men who wouldn't even talk to me ...
A. 10 July 2019:
Meeting a guy is very easy...why? You have what we want...and we want it very badly. What we don't want I will explain.
First thing we don't want is a woman who says this..."because men who wouldn't even talk to me or take a 2nd look at me i... (read in full...)
I need some words that will make me feel better! I’m heartbroken.
Q. Heartbroken I'm hoping someone can day the right words that make me feel even a little better. My husband and I broke up a few mths ago after 19years of marriage, I've been left heartbroken. I thought I was coping ok until he told me he has a new ...
A. 10 July 2019: Hello Heartbroken...
Sorry hear about you situation. It can hard to move on after 19 years plus of invested time and effort...That be said, let ask you these questions that you can answer foe yourself.
- Have you learn anything from your marria... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to younger guys now who are no good?
Q. My whole life I've been pretty level headed with men and tended to like the older "mature" guys. I was in a long term relationship with a guy who was six years older and he wanted marriage and commitment, which is what I thought I always wanted too. ...
A. 4 July 2019:
You can attract regular older men...You are actually afraid to.
You want an older man to have fun with, but who does not want kids and marriage and so on. An older man for sex and play, but who is not ready to settle down yet.
There are l... (read in full...)
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