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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My whole life I've been pretty level headed with men and tended to like the older "mature" guys. I was in a long term relationship with a guy who was six years older and he wanted marriage and commitment, which is what I thought I always wanted too. Until I didn't and broke up with him.I'm 30 now and I've been single for over a year and now all I want is younger guys 20-25 to have fun with. The problem is that I'm so attracted to their looks and lifestyle and they usually only want a one night kind of thing which I've done a few times but I'd like something a little more stable. It's like a game or something where all I'm chasing is the f-boy types who don't care about me at all. The irony is that I want a relationship with one of them like the one I had before with my ex. Since they want nothing to do with that, I end up settling and getting hurt. Why can't I be attracted to regular older men again?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 July 2019):
You can attract regular older men...You are actually afraid to.
You want an older man to have fun with, but who does not want kids and marriage and so on. An older man for sex and play, but who is not ready to settle down yet.
There are lots of men out there like that, but you have to want it more than being with the younger guys. When you meet an older man, tell him straight up what you want in the relationship. You do have a say in what you want, and not just what you are given. It's your life...not theirs.
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