Why am I attracted to younger guys now who are no good?
Q. My whole life I've been pretty level headed with men and tended to like the older "mature" guys. I was in a long term relationship with a guy who was six years older and he wanted marriage and commitment, which is what I thought I always wanted too. ...
A. 4 July 2019:
You can attract regular older men...You are actually afraid to.
You want an older man to have fun with, but who does not want kids and marriage and so on. An older man for sex and play, but who is not ready to settle down yet.
There are l... (read in full...)
We have been dating for 9 months no sex getting frustrated!
Q. I'm 29 and my girlfriend is 26. She's a virgin, specifically never had sex, kissed, or even had a boyfriend before me so I do know a lot of stuff makes her nervous. She told me all this after our first kiss. I told her I would be fine with not ...
A. 4 July 2019:
Question...
Are you with her for love or sex?? If you are with her for sex, then dump her and find someone who just want sex. If you are with her for love...then keep your relationship destroyer in your pants and wait.
Look around you..... (read in full...)
Our marriage has gone stale after 2 years
Q. Hi everyone? I would really appreciate othet opinion's on this as maybe I am being too sensitive. Here goes... I got married 2 years ago now- the first year we were living with my in laws and it had a massive strain in our marriage. His mo...
A. 3 July 2019:
Ask him this question....
What have you done to make our marriage better??? Would you say any other wife would be jealous of me because you treat me so...??? If you cannot make the wrong woman happy, how did you plan to make the right one ha... (read in full...)
I am in a sexless marriage! What can I do?
Q. Hello. I have been married for almost three years now. When we were dating our sex life was great. My then boyfriend was spontaneous, he would initiate most of the time. But after we got married and I got pregnant our sex life just dwindled...
A. 3 July 2019: Hi...
The other aunts are all correct. Fear of hurting the baby. Not seeing the changes in your body as sexy, and of course PORN being a number one factor.
However...Having all this info can do more harm than good, if handled incorrectly.
... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to put up with my husband's mouth and his cheating?
Q. Thanks in advance My husband is so mentally abusing. It’s beem a difficult time for me. He does disrespectful things to me. He goes on instagram and follows escorts , naked women and if I tell him nicely this bothers me, he gets livid! He...
A. 9 June 2019: OP...Honeypie is dead on. Would you another 5 years of this life?? If yes...then there is no problem. If no...then...... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you cant be happy on your own, then you wont be happy in a relationship?
Q. I am sure you guys have heard the saying " if you cant be happy on your own you wont be happy in a relationship" in your guys opinion do you believe that this is true. If someone isn't happy with there life and who they are and they just keep j...
A. 9 June 2019: Very True...Why???
If you are not happy with your own life, how do you expect someone else to be happy with it??
The happiness in a relationship is like a glass half full. Someone can add to your half glass of happiness to make you even more ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is illegally in my country, wants to marry me so he can stay on and is planning our wedding which is going to happen in a week!
Q. Hi everyone, I have a situation. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he does everything for me and my kids. We first met online, he had come from a far country to visit me and he decided not to go back to his country. So now he has ...
A. 1 June 2019: DO NOT DO IT!!!
LEAVE HIM!!!
WHY?????
He has been with you for a year. He knows the rules right?? If he loves you as much as he says he does, he would have done all the RIGHT things to say in the Country. You don't screw up your chances an... (read in full...)
I want to date but don't even know how to get someone interested in me
Q. So I've gotten myself into probably common predicament and so far I haven't been doing well to get out of it. I'm twenty-six now, finished school last year, have a job but trying to break into a career and eventually be moved out of my parents house ...
A. 24 May 2019: Meeting people is a lot easier than people say it is.
You meet people every day. Buying a coffee, or lunch, shopping and so on. Make eye contact as much as possible, smile, and say hello. It is that simple. Treat everyone in the same way you woul... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd
Q. Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...
A. 21 May 2019: Sorry to say....But only in North America is this idea of privacy a thing. I grew up in the Caribbean. I ran around naked everytime it rained. All the kids, boys and girls did the same thing. We only became private when we understood the changes in ... (read in full...)
Its hard to see him but I need him in my life
Q. There is a boy that is intending to have a relationship with me,we really are into each other but we hardly get time to be together or see each other. he doesn't live that far from me but its just a difficult situation when it comes to seeing each ...
A. 21 May 2019: First of all...YOU do not NEED any man in your life. It would be nice to be with him...but you do not need nor should you want a man.
Things may be difficult because you need to learn that lesson. What may look good because you can't have it, may ... (read in full...)
Its hard to see him but I need him in my life
Q. There is a boy that is intending to have a relationship with me,we really are into each other but we hardly get time to be together or see each other. he doesn't live that far from me but its just a difficult situation when it comes to seeing each ...
A. 21 May 2019: First of all...YOU do not NEED any man in your life. It would be nice to be with him...but you do not need nor should you want a man.
Things may be difficult because you need to learn that lesson. What may look good because you can't have it, may ... (read in full...)
He talks about sex but never performs. Is he gay?
Q. I have been with a man for 15 months, We are both in our mid 50s . He says he loves me but he has NO passion. He kisses me but they are little pecks. He will some time kiss my neck and when I am feeling a little excited, he pushes me away. He says ...
A. 21 May 2019: It took you 15 months to finally write this post to say how unhappy you are. You plan to sick around for another 15 months to post how completely unhappy you are???
I am sure you saw the signs 6 months into this relationship. But you chose to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes too quickly during sex. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I don’t know how to talk to my boyfriend about this without him saying i dont like out s*x life or making him feel bad. I love what wr have but he tends to finish too quickly, 2 days ago it was probably 30 seconds, and it has happened before but it ...
A. 21 May 2019: Hi op,
First off...If your boyfriend has not grasp the difference between fantasy (porn), and reality (You), then maybe he is not ready for a girlfriend, until he learns the difference.
No where is it written that you must suffer unhappine... (read in full...)
My 24 year old son is physically abusive occasionally
Q. Hello I really appreciate this site. Thank you for making it. I’d find it very helpful. This time I have a family related question and I’d appreciate an suggestions/recommendations you can give me thank you. What’s happened is that I have a ...
A. 21 May 2019: Hi Op,
Unfortunately your son has made his own path, and there is nothing for you to do now.
The fact that he apologized shows he knows he was wrong. But he still chooses to continue with his foolishness.
We all have our own road in life to ... (read in full...)
I feel my husband and his friends are exploiting me
Q. Hello and thank you My husband is black and I’m white. He says somethings that bother me sometimes. His dream is to be very weathly. Nothing wrong with that. He lives large likes the finer things however those things come at my cost. He likes ...
A. 23 April 2019: Hi OP,
I am milk chocolate...father side is white, mom side is black. My grandmother raised me. Guess she was all old school. Growing up on a small island in the Caribbean, I never heard of a woman providing for her man. Even if the woman had mone... (read in full...)
How do I meet new friends?
Q. A lot of my friends, I know from my local bar. After a very bad night where I got extremely drunk, I decided to quit drinking. That was about a year ago and I have not drank any alcoholic beverages since. The problem is I no longer see my "f...
A. 18 March 2019: Making new friend is really hard...I will tell you the secret I use..works like a charm...ready???
Make eye contact with the person.
Smile
And here comes the hardest part...ready for it???
SAY SOMETHING!!!!
Say hi or hello... (read in full...)
Why would a man leave like this, could this be related to anything I could have done without purpose? Is there any possibility to get him back?
Q. I dated a guy I work with for a month(I started working at this place 2 months ago),but we don’t work in the same office. It was a really intensive dating. We met almost everyday, spent a lot of time together. He was really into me and I liked him a ...
A. 14 March 2019: Hi OP,
Older man here...He was never into you as you thought. He was into what you had to offer.
When a man thinks you are the one, he will start a war for you. Most men today are in for a quick fix, not long term.
Never give the man th... (read in full...)
I don’t know how to deal with his awful moods!
Q. Hi, i just wanna ask someone here if you have this kind of experience. Im living with my bf. Yes i do love him and i think he love me too. But this everyday dealing with his i dont know how i can call it " sometimes he is fine, he is happy he is in ...
A. 14 March 2019: Hi OP,
BF means....boy "friend"...not husband. Boyfriends and girlfriends are only there to help us make the right decisions for marriage...LOVE has nothing to do with making a common sense decision. Such as...is he or she someone I want to marry... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding love ? Does it happen when you stop looking?
Q. How do I go about finding love ? Does it happen when you stop looking? I am a single female that turns 33 in a couple of months and everyone around me is married or on their second child- I feel the pressure and loneliness of being single but...
A. 14 March 2019: Hi Op,
Finding love is a lot easier than finding a life partner. You might of heard this a million times, but loving yourself first is the first step...why??? Very hard to find love in others, when you do not have it for yourself.
It does matte... (read in full...)
Why would a guy hold back from sex?
Q. Why would a guy hold back from sex ? ive started dating a guy for the last 4 week (we only see each other no-one else ) we have done everything apart from sleep together. He did say he wanted to wait until date 5 before sleeping with me. He ...
A. 2 January 2019: Hi Op,
You do realize if the guy had come on to you too soon, you would be making a different statement right??
There are some guys out there who actually look at other guys behaviour, hear the complaints of women, and do not want to be like ... (read in full...)
I am never approached by men
Q. I am about to turn 23 in a year and I have never ever been approached by any guy anywhere before in my life nor have I ever dated anyone. I know it is not due to my weight because I am thin and petite (some people tell me that I even look as young ...
A. 22 December 2017:
The question is...What kind person are the men approaching?
Are they approaching and insecure and low self-esteem woman? Or a confident, happy go lucky, and bubbly woman?
You will not be approached by many men if we can sense your negativit... (read in full...)
How can I slow a guy down when he's getting physical too soon?
Q. There's this guy I went on a date with. On the first date, he kissed me, and I wasn't expecting him to use tongue, but he did. I usually don't kiss guys on the first date, but I kind of wanted to kiss him. Later on in the date, he managed to ge...
A. 12 December 2017:
Sorry...There is no graceful way about it. He already has one thing on his mind, and he is push for it.
Want to find out what kind guy he is??? Tell him straight up you are not ready for sex.
Then sit back and watch...He really likes you, he... (read in full...)
First time sex was this normal?
Q. I had sex for the first time and I noticed it wasn't that comfortable. As it was my first, I assumed it was just a matter of getting used to it. However at one point, it really hurt and was uncomfortable around my bum which I wasn't sure about. L...
A. 12 December 2017:
Yes...first time sex hurts...Normal.
Hurts more if the guy has no patience, and no clue.
You need to relax...or try going on top so that you control how fast.... (read in full...)
I am lonely and get depressed and can't seem to make friends. What can I do?
Q. Hello everyone in dearcupid. I have a situation I would like some advice. I am due to be married soon me and my fiance have been together 5 years and we have been living together only for 2 years I love my husband so much I call him my husband ...
A. 12 December 2017:
I get where you are coming from...hard to deal with...yes...but not impossible.
You let your mind wonder off to areas of depression, loneliness, and boredom... why?
You could be thinking of some fun (hint hint) stuff to do to your hubby whe... (read in full...)
Religion may be the stumbling block for us
Q. I'm an atheist (born to Christian parents) and my fiancé is Christian. We both want kids. She recently asked me if I was willing to give them a Christian upbringing when they arrive. I want them to make the decision about a deity when they can think ...
A. 12 December 2017:
If you truly understood what Christianity wants from us, then you would gladly bring you kids up with as much of it as possible.
Christianity has a LOT of false teaches, and GOD already warned us about them.
But true Christianity is this... (read in full...)
My sons are using the house for dating. What should I tell them?
Q. I’m a single dad of two teenage boys, one is 17 (almost 18) the other is 15. My oldest has a girlfriend and recently I found out they have been using my house after school for their hook up spot. I came home from work last week and found an empt...
A. 8 December 2017:
Who is the parent in the house?
Your kids pay rent to live there? To use your house like a love shack hotel?
Does your kids pay any bills, or pay for the right to live there?
So why asking what you should do? Are you not the one that sho... (read in full...)
I’m worried commitment means forfeiting sexual fulfillment, any advice?
Q. I’m in my mid-twenties and have been in a loving relationship six years, but I’m frustrated by my attraction to others. Whilst my partner has a colourful sexual history, I’ve only ever been with them and I feel by staying, I’m losing opportunities ...
A. 8 December 2017:
" I feel by staying, I’m losing opportunities for experiences that won’t always be there"
I would like to hear ONE opportunity you would miss...Just one.
Find one other woman in the world who has more body parts that are different than your ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married but in love with a man who's engaged but hesitant to leave his fiance
Q. Please could I ask for some advice on my situation... I have been married for 3 years but for the last year the marriage has been very difficult and we both feel that we have grown too far apart to fix things, although haven’t yet said we will div...
A. 8 December 2017: You ever notice how all of a sudden a man or woman shows up when your marriage is at it's worst???
When you were first get married and in love...not one comes by. But as soon as things gets rough...oh look...Mr. Right.
WRONG!!!!
... (read in full...)
On dating site for six years. Should this be a worry?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a month and a half now. We text everyday, talk on the phone and we have been on multiple dates. Each time he is initiating it. So far things are looking spectacular! However, when I asked him how long he has been on the d...
A. 8 December 2017:
Your warning bells are already going off. I am not even in your shoes, and my warning bells are going off.
Very slowly, oh so slowly, with this one.... (read in full...)
Should the other woman tell his wife about the affair?
Q. Should the other woman tell his wife about the affair? I know many would use harsh and negative remarks on such question. I did no Contact and he reached out and I caved in. I am thinking of telling his wife so that I can move on for good forever...
A. 28 November 2017: WOW!!!
Cheating and heartless.
Did you tell his wife before you started sleeping with her husband? But you are willing to do it now because thinks are not going your way.
... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid about why he doesn't make eye contact during sex?
Q. Eye contact during sex? My husband usually turns his head away from me or closes his eyes. I dont remember having a problem with it years ago... but recently he holds me close with my head buried in his neck and almost forcibly stops me from bei...
A. 27 November 2017: I would ask him about it...because it is weird to me...even as a guy. I would want to see if you are enjoying yourself. Ask before you create a worse case scenario in your head.... (read in full...)
Mum kept hitting me with a shoe
Q. I can't talk to my mum and I think she's being abusive. So this is the thing right. My mum just loses it all the time. It's like there's a war going on in my house. It always happens when I come home from school. We just yell at each other. She ...
A. 14 November 2017: Do you plan to have a boyfriend some day? Maybe get married, have a house of your own? Maybe your husband wants to have a family of his own.
How on this planet do you think you can handle any of that of you cannot deal with it now???
How are... (read in full...)
Is $3000 too cheap for an engagement ring for a high maintenance girlfriend given my income and background?
Q. Hi, I would appreciate if you can help me with my question. If a guy is a university professor, in his mid 40s with some debt from divorce, planning to propose to his high maintenance girlfriend who is beautiful and highly educated do you think ...
A. 13 November 2017: First of all...Rings are actually useless when it comes to marriage.
A ring is a like a police badge. It lets other people know you are married.
Your vows is what makes you married. Rings are just for show and tell. Love is not how much you spe... (read in full...)
What does his taste in porn say about what he's actually fantasizing about?
Q. Would love some male opinions on a porn question.... My husband watches "cheating wife" porn. The "subject" confuses me. Is it a fantasy about cheating with another married woman, or a fantasy about his wife (me) cheating with someone, ie: cuc...
A. 13 November 2017: "It's NOT power at all wheh women are viewed as purely physical and strippers and porn stars are seen as something desirable ."
Mr dear...I am sorry that some guy has hurt you so bad.
Really...and Honestly...men are not what you think they a... (read in full...)
What does his taste in porn say about what he's actually fantasizing about?
Q. Would love some male opinions on a porn question.... My husband watches "cheating wife" porn. The "subject" confuses me. Is it a fantasy about cheating with another married woman, or a fantasy about his wife (me) cheating with someone, ie: cuc...
A. 11 November 2017: "Brown wolf, then why should women bother with men if all they are going to do is fantasies about being with someone else anyway ? Sounds like a total lose lose for women."
Response...
How is it a lose lose for women?? He is not fantasizing ... (read in full...)
My best friend is faking he is straight even though we had sex.
Q. I'm a bi man and in the last year I've had intimate moments with my best friend, for whom I have always had doubts regarding his orientation. It's true that we have both enjoyed it but recently he seems to distance himself from situations where ...
A. 11 November 2017:
I have not been in the same situation as you, but have known a lot of people like your friend. They were not gay or Bi. Just because some engages in something that they would not normally do, does not label them as such.
I myself if been in a th... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my boyfriend! How much longer do I give him and how far does “for better or worse” really go?
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for 7 years, engaged for 6. I’m at the end of my rope and I know what I need to do but lack the ability to do it. I’m 28, a recent college grad, and have a job working at a hospital which supports me completely. He’s 34, ...
A. 10 November 2017:
So he cannot look after you now, or be your support now..after more than 7 years.
So if you marry him...POOF!!! Magic happens and he will all of a sudden be successful, have clothes, and be the kind of man you always wanted.
Lots of marriages... (read in full...)
What does his taste in porn say about what he's actually fantasizing about?
Q. Would love some male opinions on a porn question.... My husband watches "cheating wife" porn. The "subject" confuses me. Is it a fantasy about cheating with another married woman, or a fantasy about his wife (me) cheating with someone, ie: cuc...
A. 10 November 2017:
This is mostly due to the excitement or adrenaline rush that comes with cheating. He may not want to cheat, but he may be feeding the rush of getting caught.
All men...Yes...ALL MEN... love and live for the thrill of the chase. To somehow fina... (read in full...)
Why did my LDR boyfriend block me after I made a comment on one of his photos?
Q. ok this is short but I just can't understand it.. my bf blocked me from his facebook as soon I commented one of his recent pictures, (i said: how long is this pic?) and he blocked me after it. I am from the USA he is from Iraq, we have been together ...
A. 10 November 2017: Because you are not the only female looking at his pictures. Guys normally do that to avoid other girls asking who is she that is commenting on your photo.
I would block him out of your life permanently. ... (read in full...)
He never wants to spend time with me!
Q. Hi everyone I've been with my fiance now for 4 years we have 2 children I already had my daughter when we met then we had a baby girl who is now 2 the problem is he never wants to spend anytime with us he goes to work on a morning comes home at 4.15 ...
A. 9 November 2017: If he is like this now...what happens when you marry him? Marriage will not make it any better. Take this as your warning.... (read in full...)
I'm growing uncomfortable with his questions! Should I go meet him for coffee?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met a 41 year old guy who describes himself as sophisticated, also wants a sophisticated lady, online.He writes he is ready for a new relationship. He writes he has never been married, has no children and lives alone. He has a ...
A. 9 November 2017: Hi OP,
Do you not see the warning sign???
Let's flip this around and use yourself. Do you see yourself a sophisticated woman, with a bachelor's degree, and not having a chance to be married, have kids, and surrounded by good things??
If y... (read in full...)
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