I always turn down girls due to my lack of confidence.
Q. hi i dont know what it is but when im around a proper nice girl i fall to pieces, by that i mean; i was with my mates and these two girls, i never spoke to them before, but my mates went and asked one if i could have her number. at this point i ...
A. 1 November 2010: It's because you don't have enough confidence in yourself. So firstly, don't worry because this is common. It's not nice though, but you will get over it eventually.
One of the best ways to feel more confident is to act it. If you can fool thos... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should dump my needy boyfriend
Q. well im dating this guy he is a very nice guy but he calls 24 seven. he never leaves me alone. i need time for my self and he wants me to be around him and i have things to do he would yell at me some times for saying i couldnt come over or talk he ...
A. 1 November 2010: It doesn't sound like you can carry on as you are. He sounds insecure and being with someone like this is difficult. I'd suggest you try talking to him first, but if it's just not getting through then it's probably best to end it. There's no point ... (read in full...)
Should I text again or just leave it?
Q. I met a girl yesterday through a mutual friend and I like her, am quite sure she was flirting with me but not 100%. I thought things were going well but now she hasnt text back, is she just playing 'hard to get'? I've texted her twice and she hasn't ...
A. 31 October 2010: Give it time. If you've texted her twice in quite a short space of time then you might be coming across a bit too keen. Leave it for a few days and see if she replies. If she doesn't, try one more text and see what happens. If there's still no reply ... (read in full...)
Facebook lie has gotten out of hand
Q. So I made a fake fb when I was like younger and lied about my age and name and put a fake picture...well I started that just for fun, but Never stopped using (about 2 years later aka now) I fell in love with a guy that I started talking to... He ...
A. 28 October 2010: If you want a proper chance with this guy, you're gonna have tell him the truth. It won't be easy and he probably won't react well but I think you really need to stop this fake account. It's backfired and it's potentially dangerous too. I think the ... (read in full...)
My mate and I fancy the same guy but the rumor is that he likes her!
Q. My mate and I fancy the same guy but there are rumors that he likes my mate. me and him are just friends and i dont want to ask him out myself. please help....
A. 27 October 2010: Well if you're not going to make a move and he doesn't fancy you, then chances are nothing will happen between you. If your friend and him like each other, then consider how you'd feel if they got together. You might be hurt to begin with if she ... (read in full...)
Should I walk out of her life? She doesn't want an LDR and has a boyfriend!
Q. So, i fell for this girl and it was the biggest mistake of my life because when she found it hard to have a long distance relationship she broke up with me. 3 days later she got a new boyfriend and it hurt me, really did kill me inside that i ...
A. 27 October 2010: I think it's time to move on. She doesn't seem interested. LDRs are difficult and you need to be commited for it to work. If she can't handle it, then it's probably because it doesn't mean enough to her. If she makes no effort to get in touch with ... (read in full...)
How can I make him stay at school so I can get to know him better?
Q. hi how do i convince this boy i like not to leave school because in the UK you can leave school and get a collage thing this summmer and i want him to least to stay on so i can know him better and be with him i just really dont want him to see ...
A. 27 October 2010: You can't force him to stay on at school if he doesn't want to, especially when your motives are purely so that you can get to know him. If you want to get to know him better, then you're going to have to think of other ways. Why not ask him to meet ... (read in full...)
I wanna end it with him and shouldn't have to keep pretending.
Q. Iv'e only been going out with this guy for 2 weeks and i did think he was good looking and had a great personality so he asked me out and i said yes. we've kissed and everything but for some reason i dont feel like he is my boyfriend and i dont know ...
A. 16 September 2010: Finish with him. He might be upset but it's better than leading him on. The longer you leave it, the worse it'll be. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Very irregular periods at 13?
Q. I am 13 and 1/2 and i have been gettign my period for about 3 years now and when i first started for the first 2 years it was very regular about 25 days apart right, now for the past year it isnt anymore. Between 40-50 days apart and sometimes ...
A. 14 September 2010: Your period normally takes about 5 years to settle down and irregular periods are very common at your age. So it seems pretty normal to me. There isn't anything you can do to get your periods into a regular pattern. Just make sure you have a healthy ... (read in full...)
I think she likes me! what do you guys think?
Q. There's this girl in my English class and I think she might like me. You see on the first day of school the teacher made us do this thing where we have contact buddies and she was mine. A contact buddy is someone who you give your number to just in ...
A. 11 September 2010: Yeah, I think your instincts are right. She definitely seems to like you. So if you're interested, go for it! ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted, and find out he's seeing another girl
Q. My ex boyfriend sent me a text sayin that he misses me and that he loves me so i went to see him he told me he wanted to get back together so i ended up staying with him for the night and we had sex now i really wish we hadnt because the next ...
A. 7 September 2010: Don't see him again. As hard as it is, it sounds like he used you for sex. You might love him, but he doesn't treat you right. He's your ex for a reason and I think it needs to stay that way. Don't give in to him again no matter what he tells you. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend tries to ignore me kissing her
Q. Okay so, I'm kinda paranoid - everytime I kiss my girlfriend, she just don't really respond and trys to ignore it but she loves me? I don't know what it means, she ain't ready? I would appreciate someone to set me straight on this, thanks in ...
A. 6 September 2010: She's probably insecure about something. Firstly, is she definitely into you? Does she seem to be interested in you on the whole? If you're sure that she fancies you, then my thoughts are that she's probably quite self-conscious. She might feel ... (read in full...)
Do people who are meant to be together always find their way back to each other?
Q. Do you guys on DearCupid belive that people that are meant to be together always find their way back in the end? x x x...
A. 6 September 2010: I believe in fate but I also believe that you have to work for what you have. Life gives you opportunities, it's up to you what you do them. You might get a second chance with someone one day but you can't rely on that. Life is unpredictable, random ... (read in full...)
Do texting like this and the situation mean its more than friends?
Q. We've been close friends for a year at university, and recently we've got closer since we saw each other with other friends in a small summer get-together. Nothing happened but afterwards since we've parted again, for about a week since, we've been ...
A. 4 September 2010: So we know that the reason you talk to her so much is because she means so much to you. So why do you think she treats you the same? ;)
You definitely sound like more than friends to me. You want to spend more time together, just the two of you,... (read in full...)
He turned me down a few years ago when I fancied him. Now I think I love him, could he fancy me now?
Q. i once had a crush on a guy, so i asked him out but he rejected me, about 6 months later one of my best friends (also one of his best friends) told me that he had been talking to her about asking me out (this never happend though). now its been 1 ...
A. 4 September 2010: I think you need to investigate more before you make a move on him. You don't want to risk losing what you've got and being rejected again. You need to be sure that you're not seeing these 'signs' because you want to. As in, you could be reading ... (read in full...)
Did she actually like me? Or was it just a dare? Have I missed my chance?
Q. I really like this girl and I thought she liked me too but one day one of my friends who is quite close with her ( I think he likes her) told me she was going to say she likes me but it's a dare coz everyone was joking we were practically going out. ...
A. 3 September 2010: You must have meant something to her if she's upset about it. I wouldn't trust what this guy's told you. It sounds like he's been stirring so I think you should try talking to this girl. Tell her what he told you and how you felt. Don't be afraid to ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but haven't had a period since June?
Q. I started my periods when I was 12. I am now 14 and I havent had a period since June, I am a virgin and there is no way i could be pregnant. What is happening to me?...
A. 2 September 2010: Don't worry. This is totally normal. Irregular periods are common with teenagers. It normally takes about 5 years for until they settle into a pattern. If you're still concerned then go see your doctor, but it sounds fine to me :)... (read in full...)
I need your opinions guys... Is he going off me???
Q. Am I being silly or should i be feeling like this? Do you think he's going off me? I want honest answers please! My boyfriend cheated on his last girlfriend and so i can sometimes be a bit worried about who he's with. He has this friend Emelie ...
A. 22 August 2010: I don't think he's treating you right at all. When the boyfriend you love calls you pathetic and makes you feel worse about yourself, there's something wrong. It definitely sounds like there could be something going on between him and this Emelie ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling sick and my tummy is getting bigger...help
Q. i need some help i`ve been feeling really sick lately and my tummy is getting rounder and bigger and it feels like i`m pregnant but i know i can`t be because i`m a virgin mum thinks its because i don`t eat enough i should weigh 8 stone but i`m only...
A. 22 August 2010: This sounds strange to me! You're showing symptoms of pregnancy yet you haven't had sex...
I think you should definitely get yourself checked out at the doctor's.... (read in full...)
How can I get this guy to like me?
Q. How can i get this really amazing guy who is in love with my best freind. my bestifriend doesnt even feel attracted to him but hes in love with her still but i feel like he does to him and i really wanna be with him so please give me some aadvice on ...
A. 22 August 2010: If he feels that strongly for your friend, then I don't think there's much you can do. It doesn't matter if she's not interested in him; he still fancies her. I think if you tried to approach him he would probably see it as an opportunity to get ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 16 year old to go out with a 11 year old?
Q. does a 5 year age gap matter between a boy and girl? i am 16 and this girls 11 years old really like each other and she said that she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend i love her enough to be her boyfriend but is it wrong for a 16 year old ...
A. 22 August 2010: When you're young, 5 years is a lot. Personally, I would say this age gap is too much. 11 years old is incredibly young and this girl is basically a child. She's only just finished primary school! On the other hand you're 16 and old enough to have ... (read in full...)
Should I get a boyfriend so I can fit in with my friends?
Q. Im a 16-year old girl who is in the 11th grade when I look around in my hallway at my school i feel upset cause all of my friends that i've known for a long have a boyfriend and im get sad cause i get called a tomboy by my friends and even guys i ...
A. 19 August 2010: No. Be yourself. There's nothing wrong with being a tomboy or not having a boyfriend. You're perfect the way you are. You're you and that's what matters. You're still very young and you'll find a boyfriend one day who loves you just the way you are. ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my weight what can I do!?
Q. hey, im using my friends account but i dont know if there's any difference. I'm very concerned about how I look! I'm going to be 15 in december, and i weigh a direct 160 pounds. i'm 5 foot 7 just about but i dont look like i weigh 160. my doctor ...
A. 18 August 2010: If you're not massively overweight then I'd advise you not to diet. You're still growing so you don't want to mess up your diet and you need to make sure that you get all the right foods.
I think the best thing for you would be to eat normally but ... (read in full...)
Why has my friend stopped talking to me?
Q. okay well my friend and i talk about everything together but for some stupid reason hes ignoring me. For no reason wat so ever. It makes no sense whenever i trace my steps in the story. What is going on? well i have been talking to this guy he ...
A. 18 August 2010: Probably. He's probably annoyed that you're talking to this other guy. I wouldn't be surprised if he sees him as competition and feels quite jealous of him. Ask him why he's ignoring you.... (read in full...)
Does he love me? Do I love him? What do I do? So many questions...
Q. There's this guy I like. he's a leo and i'm an aries. our star signs are supposed to be cool together. but I don't know if I 'love' him or if he 'loves' me. he's a year younger than me, i met him in april and he's the one who first came over to me ...
A. 18 August 2010: I'm not sure if I'd go as far as love, but you definitely like him very much and he clearly means a lot to you. You'd know if you were in love with him. As for him, he seems to feel the same way about you. He wouldn't make an effort to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Please help I want to be with her
Q. Ok there is a girl that I really really like I've only known her for 6 months but it feels like I've known her for years I have told her that I like her but she never tells me how she feels towards me this has me unsettled I don't think it's for me ...
A. 18 August 2010: If you want to know how she feels, then you'll have to ask. It doesn't matter if you're shy or if it's not your place. Asking her is the only way you'll get proper answers. Knowing how she feels about you would allow you to take the step or move on.... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but doesn't want a relationship, do I even have a chance with this girl?
Q. my question is that you are in love with this girl and she tells you that she loves you but she is not ready for a relationship and she wants you to be there for her and yet you want her to be near her but you get hurt because she say she loves you ...
A. 17 August 2010: Don't use her for sex!
It's hard to tell how she feels because it sounds like there could be a chance she's taking advantage of you. If she genuinely loves you and cares for you then why would she reject a relationship with you? It's difficult to j... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? My boyfriend is boring and this other guy isn't.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend for 4 months now. I have been talking to this other guy who is 18. I like the boy who is 18 but I also like my boyfriend. My problem is my boyfriend is very committed more than I am. The 18 year old is very funny an...
A. 17 August 2010: If you're sure that you're not into your current boyfriend, then break it off with him. But like the others said, make sure you're kind to him. He's done nothing wrong so don't drop him insensitively - don't tell him he's boring! As for this other ... (read in full...)
Need advice on enhancing my bustline.
Q. I'm fifteen years old, and I am still in my 34 A's in bra size. This may not be a major problem, or something to worry about, but I just don't want my breasts to be this small, especially not at my age. Maybe I'm going through the road when everyone ...
A. 16 August 2010: I know I'll just repeat what everyone else has already said but I know how you feel! I'm a small 30B, and it's very embarrassing! Throughout my teens I was desperate to grow and ashamed of the way I looked. I'm still very self-conscious, especially ... (read in full...)
Will I look too eager if I text him?
Q. i met this guy on a night out and we really hit it off. we exchanged numbers and we were texting for a while and he was asking to meet up, but we were both going on holiday. Ive been home 2 weeks and we havent spoke.. he knows im home etc. Does i...
A. 15 August 2010: No. If you don't text him soon he'll probably think you're not interested!... (read in full...)
Why am I still nervous?
Q. im 14 and i have a crush on this guy that is super nice i've talk to him a couple of times why do i still feel nevous around him ? ...
A. 15 August 2010: It's because you like him. You're probably worried about making a fool of yourself in front of him, whether you realize it or not. A lot of people of all ages feel nervous around someone they like so it's totally normal. It'll probably wear off once ... (read in full...)
Guys don't like me so whats wrong with me
Q. i have no self asteam and i'm very shy is that why guys at my school don't pay any attention to me? HELP don't know whats wrong with me...
A. 15 August 2010: I'm pretty sure there's nothing wrong with you. You might not be as confident as other girls, but you're still there. It's just that most teenage boys tend to notice confident girls who make themselves obvious rather than the ones in the background, ... (read in full...)
We like each other but he won't ask me out!
Q. I really like this guy and he has gone to school with me since kindergarten and we have been kinda best friends for a year. He knows I like him and he says he likes me too but he won't do anything about it. We know everything about eachother ...
A. 11 August 2010: The easiest thing would be to ask him out yourself. I know it's traditional for boys to ask girls out, but some boys are just too shy or too clueless as you said.
If you really want him to be the one that does the asking, then you'll have to drop... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me?
Q. Hi, I wanna know if this guy fancies me. We were mates before i moved and have talked on facebook. Now I've moved back were talking till late hours. The night before last he said I was good looking and asked if I liked anyone. Also at the end of the ...
A. 5 August 2010: Definately looks like it. If you want to know for sure, ask him.... (read in full...)
Not eating! Love sickness?
Q. Since I started seeing a new guy about a month ago. I've stopped eating, not perpously, I didn't even notice until about a week ago, I do eat, but like once a day if that sometimes. I don't know whether love sickness is making me not feel hungry ...
A. 4 August 2010: I think if you were love sick, you'd know about it. You wouldn't be able to eat because you'd constantly have butterflies in your stomach. If it started around the time you started seeing this guy, then it could be linked to him. So think about how ... (read in full...)
Should I just blank him completely and get on with my life?
Q. Okay, so this isn't much of a big dilemma. I'll tell you the story from the beginning. I fell in love with this amazing guy, Who I thought was actually a genuine person; He was really sweet, nice, funny and understanding, But It was all too good to ...
A. 3 August 2010: By the sounds of it, he has no idea what he wants. I don't think you should risk being in a relationship with him again because he'll probably end up liking someone else again.
I think it'd be best for you to steer clear of him. Don't ignore him.... (read in full...)
How do I keep track of my period?
Q. I had my last period on June.24 or 25 .. Ended in about a week .. Anyways when will I get my next period .. I don't keep track so I'm going to starts doing that now :)...
A. 19 July 2010: Periods happen about once a month, but anything between 21 and 35 days is normal. You're quite young so it's unlikely your periods will be regular yet. It normally takes about 4/5 years for them to regulate. Keeping track is a good idea because ... (read in full...)
He caught my eye, but he never texts me first
Q. Sorry it's a long story I'm just very confused. Okay, so about a month ago I got into swimming and a guy caught my eye, my friend said that when i wasn't looking, he would stare at me, so i thought he might be interested. on friday, of the first ...
A. 28 June 2010: I think you should lay off him for a bit. You're the one making all the moves. No matter how shy he is, if he really liked you he would make the effort to text you. Since you're not going swimming this week, it'd be a good opportunity for him to ... (read in full...)
Why don't I love him? Help!
Q. My bf is hot,cute and honest and loves me like hell. And here is the turning point. I dont love him. Why why why wont any one love some one like that? And thats why i broke up. But he still loves me and i still think why dont i love him? I want to ...
A. 24 June 2010: Sometimes, there's something missing and that's stopping you from loving him. He may sound perfect in theory, but love is unpredictable. You can't help who you fall for and you can't control how you truly feel. Wanting to love someone is often not ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl sighs or breathes deeply around a particular guy?
Q. *OP's Original Title* So there's this girl and I think she likes me. Among the usual things (eye contact, glancing, shy when I talk to her .etc) she sometimes sighs or breathes deeply when she passes by me or is in my vicinity. She is also clumsy ....
A. 21 June 2010: No, not many girls do this but some do. I'm one of them. I've noticed that I sometimes sigh around someone I like to get their attention. It's a way of getting them to notice you without actually having to say anything. I don't mean to do it and he ... (read in full...)
I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 17 June 2010: My advice to you would be to steer clear from guys until you feel better about this situation. What's done is done. It's just a matter of getting over what happened. You realize that you made a mistake and you've learnt from it. So you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
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