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writes:So I made a fake fb when I was like younger and lied about my age and name and put a fake picture...well I started that just for fun, but Never stopped using (about 2 years later aka now) I fell in love with a guy that I started talking to... He says that he loves me and we've have this online relationship going on, it's been like 2 years . He says he loves my personality and everything but he doesn't know what the real me looks like. I'm not as pretty as the girl in the picture and I also told him a different name (I made u) and different name.I really fell in love with him and I don't know how to tell him this big lie I can't seem to get myself out. Please help? Should I tell him? If so how? I'm scared he won't talk to me anymore.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Yeah but he doesn't know that. He doesn't know when you're telling the truth or when you're lying since you have lied to him for so long.
Go your separate ways, you screwed up. Just chalk it up as a mistake and tell the truth next time. No one likes a liar.
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (3 November 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey so I told him everything and he doesn't talk to me anymore he said we should go our own ways ..do you think I should just let him go and not try to fix anything??
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (30 October 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease please please help!!! So I told him the truth but he keeps saying that he wants emily( the girl I made up) but technically I am her. Why doesn't he realize that???
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (30 October 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice, he's only 18 by the way. So it's only a 3 year difference. I've been trying to tell him anything but I keep chickening out.. but I know I HAVE to tell him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 October 2010):
You lied and made up a completely fictional person this guy likes. Since you made a false Facebook, how do you know this guy is who he says he is?
It might be a good idea to come clean about your age and your appearance. However, you've never met this guy..Do you have any intentions to? A little on the safer side if you keep it as an online relationship. Although if you do plan on meeting him then you need to come clean, can't start a relationship off of lies. In which all you have now is a fictional relationship. He thinks he's dating the girl in the picture but with your personality. Assuming he's not lying on his end either.
Bottom line, there's no need to make up a fake person who posses qualities that you already have. Be yourself.
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reader, JoshB667  +, writes (28 October 2010):
You haven't said how old he is but can I assume he is significantly older ? (hence why you have come here for advise).
It is very easy to 'fall' for someone online because you're not really actually getting to know them person to person, so you are not seeing their body language, their demeanor or anything like that, so your imagination fills in all the gaps, and naturally it fills these gaps with your idea of the 'perfect' person, when in reality, its nothing like that at all. Clearly he has fallen into this trap, and so have you, but it also makes walking away easier.
You have to tell him the truth, and the sooner the better - that's all it comes down to really. If you continue to lie about who you are and your age then there is only one way this can end, badly.
Like I said, I do not know his age, so perhaps there is a slight chance that a) he is not 'too' old for you and b) he will be okay with continuing to talk to you and pursuing it further, but its probably a slim chance.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 If you want a proper chance with this guy, you're gonna have tell him the truth. It won't be easy and he probably won't react well but I think you really need to stop this fake account. It's backfired and it's potentially dangerous too. I think the best method of telling him would be by email or some form of letter. That way you can explain everything without him reacting and stopping you from giving a full explanation and some kind of reasoning. You'll have to hope for the best I'm afraid, and hope he comes round. You're still the same person deep down after all.
Something else I'd like to add, if you have this 'fake' identity then are you absolutely sure he's not fake either? Online relationships can be dodgy so just be careful, in case.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): if you treat it like a huge secret then it will be oneand come across as one. short of changing your name forever and getting plastic surgery you cant change who you are if he cant cope with it he is not worth it.
you said he likes your personality... then you looks shouldn't matter. just make sure that went you tell the truth that you do offer him a real pic and one with flatters you.
it is perfectly okay to pretend your someone your not ... i have done before on accounts to make sure no one knows who i am. you just have to be honest, tell him without sounding crazy - explain why you did it without panicing.
hope this helps :)
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (28 October 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI made up a different name and told him a different age. *
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