I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 17 June 2010: My advice to you would be to steer clear from guys until you feel better about this situation. What's done is done. It's just a matter of getting over what happened. You realize that you made a mistake and you've learnt from it. So you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this girl?
Q. I met a girl whilst on a school trip in Italy, she was Smart lovely and made my smile. I fell for her. The problem is she is two school years older than me, and she is soon departing to Uni, in October time. I asked if she would to grab a coffee, ...
A. 16 June 2010: I think, if you really like her, then you should tell her how you feel. She may like you too but feels that it would unfair to you. Then see what she says and decide on that. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Tell me about an aries-sagittarius relationship please..
Q. Hi! I am sagittarius girl. My boyfriend is aries. He is too strange. Sometimes he is warm and deep, and says he loves me, sometimes he doesn't text me and says he is busy.He plays some mental games with me. I don't know whether he cheats me. Is ...
A. 14 June 2010: You can't base relationships on astrology. You can read about Aries people as much as you like, the fact is that it's just a very general average of what those people are perceived to be like. In reality, you can have two people born the same day ... (read in full...)
After our first kiss..everything has become awkward between us...
Q. Well, I'm a young teenager and just got my first kiss. My boyfriend and I are both really shy so it sort of shocked me. It's been a little awkward since, but we still talk some. It has got me kind of worried because even when we were shy before ...
A. 11 June 2010: I don't think you've done anything wrong. I think he may just not know what the next step is. If you're both shy, then you'll have probably built up to that kiss for a long time. He's probably not sure how to behave around you now or what to do ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance for me and my teacher to be together?
Q. I'm 15, and I think I have a crush on one of my teachers. (he's around late-30s/early-40s). I wouldn't be interested in having a sexual relationship, but how reasonable do you think it would be? I know it's not very normal, and I'm not crazy enough ...
A. 7 June 2010: No, there is no chance at all.
As your teacher, it would be illegal and the end of his career if he approached you. Secondly, relationships with an age gap of 20-30 years rarely succeed. This is especially true when one of you is just a child. Due ... (read in full...)
How can I talk some sense into my friend? She is having sex but not using protection!
Q. Right well this question concerns my friend, not myself (And I'm not just saying that.) My friend is the same age of me (15) and has recently started having sex with her boyfriend (Whose the same age) but she says she's too embarresed to buy cond...
A. 7 June 2010: I think you and your friends should just get her a load of contraception. Give them to her and tell her to use it. If she doesn't then whatever happens is not your problem. You'll have done your duty as a friend and it's her choice whether she ... (read in full...)
Possibly pregnant for the first time, I need help...
Q. I need a little bit of help. I am 17, and...well...there is a posabillity that I may be pregnant, and I am scared to death. I don't know what the signs are, and I dont know what to do to find out if I am pregnant are not. Me and my boyfriend had sex ...
A. 5 June 2010: Wait to see if your period comes first. If it's late then take a pregnancy test. The pains could just be signs that your period's coming on.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend fears...
Q. Hi I am 15 years old, and I am a girl. I am a virgin and I'm afraid of having sex, a little because I'm self concious, but more because I am afraid of the pain! I don't want to be scared of it, and I don't want to be old and a virgin. I knw qu...
A. 5 June 2010: First off the right age to lose your virginity is when you're ready. 15 is not old and you shouldn't be feeling under pressure to have sex! Sex should be out of the question when you're under 16 because it's illegal anyway. It's an 'adult' thing, so ... (read in full...)
I told him how I felt and he stopped all communications with me. What happened?
Q. There's a boy I love and I told him how I feel for him. After that, I tried to contact him to talk to him more about it and find out how he feels for me. He stop all comunicational links to me and, now, I don't understand much. We were very good ...
A. 27 May 2010: I don't think he knows how he feels. It sounds like you've really freaked him out! He probably thought of you as just friends, so telling him you like him must have shocked him. I don't think he knows how to behave around you now and, by stopping ... (read in full...)
Is the height difference between my boyfriend and me normal?
Q. Hi friends! I need your advice.I'm 17, my height is 153cm. It has always bothered me. I do not know, tell me, please, is it too short? My boyfriend is 179cm. Is the height difference between us normal?...
A. 26 May 2010: Yes, it's normal. And I think it's cute too. So long as you're happy together, all is good.... (read in full...)
I have trouble reading the signals -- does she like me?
Q. I really like this girl, and im fairly sure she likes me too. she says things like "if you stopped talking to me, my life would end" and how when we have missed opportunities to meet up she regrets that we didnt. My question is does she like me,...
A. 24 May 2010: It seems that she likes you. She wouldn't talk to you that much and say that her life would end without you unless she liked you.
I think you should ask her if she fancies you. If you get the answer you want then you could go on from this to ask ... (read in full...)
Karma the love story
Q. *OP's original question, Okay, My story is one of those "created a fake account and fell in love" ones :[ Alright so letsee, Long story short, 3 years ago I made an account on myspace to get back at this one girl, but It was going to be a joke s...
A. 23 May 2010: Wow... I guess you won't be doing anything like that again!
In response to your question, this is a difficult situation! Imagine how you'd feel if someone did that to you. You'd be shocked, disappointed, angry, sad, annoyed, the list goes on. The ... (read in full...)
Guys utterly confuse me
Q. Guys utter confuse me. Lately I've had a bunch that have suddenly started liking me. Only one really caught my interest cause he is so funny and random, like me! Anyway, I recently made this new guy friend (I will call him Cay). Cay normally l...
A. 22 May 2010: I reckon there's a pretty good chance that he fancies you. It's hard to tell for definite because every guy is different. If you want to know for sure, then ask him.
But he's showing a lot of signs that he could like you: staring at you, find... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me if we don't have sex?
Q. hi aunties and uncles. my bf wants to have sex with me. we have been going out for a year now. i don't want to because I am too young - plus there is a chance I could get pregnant, so I said no to him. BUT, he keeps touching me and kissing me and ...
A. 20 May 2010: Do what you feel's right, and if that's waiting then fine.
You feel too young to have sex, and you're too young in the eyes of the law also. Sex under the age of 16 is illegal.
Your boyfriend should respect your feelings. There's no point having s... (read in full...)
He wants me to do sexual things and I don't want to.
Q. My boyfriend found out that i have had sexual activities in the past, and he wants me to do sexual things with him. I don't want to, but I feel bad not doing anything because I know he reallyy wants it! I feel horny at times, but when it actually ...
A. 20 May 2010: If you feel pressured and uncomfortable about it, then don't do it. If he leaves for refusing to do it then you don't deserve him. Do what you feel's right.... (read in full...)
How can I get more confidence around the girls that I like?
Q. hello, so there is this girl i have a huge crush on in one of my classes at school... i'm in 7th form and shes in 6th, i don't think iv'e ever talked to her in person, but i did ask her some silly question on Facebook about when an assignment is due ...
A. 19 May 2010: Sitting next to your friend would be a good idea. Talk to your friend and try to get this other girl into the conversation as well. Make sure you seem friendly and interested in what she has to say. That would be a good start.
You could also do litt... (read in full...)
My irregular periods are worrying me, could I be pregnant?
Q. please i really need helpp jan i had unprotected sex w.my ex my period came 2months late march i started in the middle of the month.i lasted 8days i always last 6days but i had unproetced sex again w.my ex during my period sounds gross but ...
A. 18 May 2010: If you've had your period, then you shouldn't be pregnant.
But since you're periods have been so irregular, I suggest you go to the doctor's to check it out. You could take a test, but I think going to the doctor's would be best.... (read in full...)
I've been trying to get thinner in time for summer but I seem to be getting fatter! What is going on?
Q. my friends say im skinny... but i dont think i am. im going to kennywood is june with a guy im practicly in love with and i want to loose weight. for the past three weeks ive been throwing up and starving myself. i know thats not the way to go...
A. 18 May 2010: What you're describing is an eating disorder, namely bulimia.
The thing is about hardly eating and making yourself is that you actually gain weight, especially for the first few weeks/months. Your body's receiving hardly any food so when you eat ... (read in full...)
I am desperate how can I get him off my mind?
Q. im desperate... i dont know what to do anymore. how on earth can i forget someone that i love so much but cant be with?? i have tried to go out with my friends, have fun, keep myself busy at all times, unfortunately there is nothing i can do to ...
A. 17 May 2010: It's impossible to stop thinking about it. The only thing that helps is time. Feeling this way is good, because you're not bottling up your emotions. It's healthy to get your emotions out.
You say you can't be with him. Unless he has a girl... (read in full...)
How can I express my feelings to her?
Q. I miss this girl who I am in love very much but I am not sure how to express my feelings to her? I know she loves I can see it in her eyes ...
A. 17 May 2010: Just say it. That's the simplest and most clear cut way of expressing how you feel. She'll get the message straight, and you'll get your answer straight.... (read in full...)
He wants pictures of my body!
Q. Okay so I know some people will think this is a bit of a stupid question, but basically a guy I've been getting quite flirty with online has asked for a few pics of my body. But the problem is he hasn't really specified much and I haven't done this ...
A. 15 May 2010: I don't think you should send him any pictures. A guy who asks for pictures, especially when you're only flirting, is using you. Don't send him pictures because they can easily get around the place and that's the last thing you want. You feel ... (read in full...)
How much effort does it take to text?
Q. I was supposed to go round this guy's house tonight. We talked earlier, and he said he had a friend round and would text me later, when he was free. Only he never did. It's now really late, and I've not heard anything from him, not even a "sorry" ...
A. 15 May 2010: He may have not had a chance to text you yet, but still. If he genuinely was sorry and cared he would make the time. Don't waste your time on him. He'll come to you if he cares.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me :(
Q. My girlfriend thinks i like her best friend and says i should stay away from her. I have been avoiding her and she believes me. Today in P.E I touched her on accident and my girlfriend thinks that i did it on purpose and wont believe me. She broke ...
A. 15 May 2010: If you've explained everything to her and she still doesn't believe you then there isn't much you can do. It's down to her whether she chooses to believe you or not. If she doesn't feel she can trust you, regardless of the reasons why, then there ... (read in full...)
He STILL hasn't asked me out! WHY??
Q. Alright so theres this guy I really, really like. We've been flirting like crazy and texting all the time, and still he hasn't asked me out. I'm not saying I want serious relationship and commitment but I would like some confirmation of fidelity, ya ...
A. 15 May 2010: If you're fed up of waiting then why don't you ask him out. ... (read in full...)
"The guy I like doesn't want to take me to the prom!"
Q. Ok. Sorry its long, but its very complicated. So there is a guy i have liked for about 4 years now (since i first met him), lets call him a. He is really nice, kind, considerate, funny, all of that. Firstly he went out with one me my friends. ...
A. 13 May 2010: I agree with raiders. He only sees you as a friend and it's hard to change how someone sees you, especially as his feelings for your friend are so strong. He can talk to you but it seems he's seeking advice about your friend more than anything.
Y... (read in full...)
Finally I've been accepted into a new school, but because I have been bullied for years I have annoying habits! How can I stop so I don't annoy my new friends?
Q. Today, I got amazing news! i've been accepted into a new school! but the reason i wanted to move was because my cousin was bulliyng and i was tired of faking that i did'nt hear his insults about my weight and apparently too nice personality! I've...
A. 11 May 2010: Poor you. But good on you for trying to get something sorted.
I think the best advice when you start somewhere new, especially at a new school, is to take a back seat for the first few days/weeks. You don't want to come on too full on to begin with... (read in full...)
Should a guy ask a girl out...on the street or in a mall?
Q. Would a guy ever ask a girl out just on the street or the mall or something? Basically I know its kinda sad but I don't have a load of friends and I don't really ever go out clubbing. I work in the city so I often go shopping during the day and stuf...
A. 9 May 2010: A guy can ask a girl out anywhere if the circumstances are right. I suppose in a club he'd probably be feeling a bit more confident. But there is no set place where a guy would ask a girl out.... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being gay but I get turned on by girls
Q. I am going through puberty and I am scared of being bisexual before (about a month ago)I was scared of being gay but now I am getting turned on by girls please reply as this is a embarresing question and I am scared of asking my parents please r...
A. 8 May 2010: There's no need to be scared. As you said, you're going through puberty and it's probably too early to tell how you really feel. There's no straight answers when it comes to sexuality so it takes time for these kind of things to settle. I'd say ... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want a relationship but we text for hours
Q. when the girl i have feelings for says she has feelings 4 me but she doesnt want a relationship right now. we stoppd speakn for a few days then i tld her how i really felt. for the last couple of days weve 6een txtn for hours. i jux got dne txtn her ...
A. 8 May 2010: I think you need to talk to her again before deciding what to do next. She's giving you mixed signals which isn't fair on you. You have a right to know why she doesn't want a relationship. So I think you should tell her how you feel again and ... (read in full...)
I am feeling very unattractive at the moment
Q. I was just wondering about what some of the biggest turn ons and turn offs for single girls are? I'm just not feeling very attractive at the moment! So i want to do something about it. I dont mean to change who i am, i just want to change the way i ...
A. 8 May 2010: I agree with the other posts. There's no need for anything drastic. Just take care of your appearance and make sure you look tidy. New clothes and little changes, e.g. hair, can make a big difference to the way you look and feel. A quiet confidence ... (read in full...)
Infatuation isn't suppose to last 2 years!
Q. Im going to be honest ... Just realised I have been infatuating over this guy for about 2 and half years. I though it was love but after researching this up to reassure myself; turns out its just a deep attraction. I'm feeling disappointed ...
A. 6 May 2010: I've been through something similar and I know it's impossible to go with the flow when everything you do revolves around someone special. It's so hard to let go.
Yes, I'd say it's infatuation but your feelings are still there and, despite your age,... (read in full...)
MSN conversation has left things sour
Q. I'm feeling stressed at the moment, because me and my boyfriend have just had a bit of rough conversation on MSN. I really love him but I'm worried. He's way too good for me and usually we just joke about and I'm not the type of soppy person. But he ...
A. 3 May 2010: Before you do anything hasty, you need to talk in person. MSN is ok but you can't break up or doing anything serious like that over it. It sounds like you need to have a good talk and get some stuff out in the open. Then decide the next step for ... (read in full...)
Lots of eye contact on the bus, but he doesn't ask for my number!
Q. So there's this guy who gets my bus and I see him every now and again. When I get on the bus he's already on it, and when I go to sit down I usually go sit at the back while he sits in the middle, and he just looks at me lustfully and in awe when I ...
A. 21 April 2010: It sounds like he's really shy but you've definately caught his eye! I would tell you to make the first move and go talk to him but you said the bus is always silent so that would be awkward.
An idea would be to add something different to your 'lad... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I'm glad my brother has been sectioned?
Q. My younger brother(17) has had anorexia for the last 2 years and he has always resisted treatment but he has got so bad that he was sectioned yesterday. I was talking to my sister and I said I was glad as he will finally get the help he needs wh...
A. 14 April 2010: No, I think most people would feel relieved and glad as well. You know now that he's going to get all the help he needs to recover. That's definately not a bad thing.
Best wishes to you all.... (read in full...)
What is going on with this boy? Please please help?!?
Q. He liked me for months and showed it and I started liking him back too. But the problem was that a close female friend of his started liking him too and began to give me the cold-shoulder. We used to talk and she was even one of the ones to tell me ...
A. 14 April 2010: It's possible that he likes you both. And yes, I agree that he's probably had enough of waiting for you if there's no sign that you like him back. He's moved on to the next best thing. It doesn't matter how he truly feels for her. They're in a ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to tell him that I love him, and how do I know when I'm ready to move forward in our relationship?
Q. I'm really sorry if this is too long, but I really need some help. My boyfriend and I have been together for about two and a half months. We became good friends before we started dating, so we kind of had a strong connection right away. We've become ...
A. 12 April 2010: I agree with you. When you're this age it's really difficult to know how serious and real your relationship and feelings are. It's really easy to get caught up in the moment. And like you said, you've never been here before and you don't know what ... (read in full...)
Nearly 15 and never had a period
Q. Hi im nearly 15 and I haven't had my period what should I do?...
A. 11 April 2010: Nothing. It's normal. Some girls start as young as 8 or 9. Others start much later at about 16. So there's nothing wrong. If you haven't had your first period by the time you're about 16 then check it out with your doctor. But there's nothing to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him now or at the prom that I really don't like him?
Q. This guy asked me to prom a few weeks ago now but I pretended that I'd promised to go with my friends. I really don't like this guy like that or in any way really but because as my friends say, I'm to nice for my own good I agreed to dance with him ...
A. 10 April 2010: Do it before the prom. It's kinder for him. Both of you will want to enjoy the prom so turning him down before the prom is better for you both. Let him down gently and it'll be ok. Good luck :)... (read in full...)
Should I keep going back to him or end it for good?
Q. my boyfriend keeps getting jealous over two of my ex's. he feels they are better than him in very way, and no matter how many times i tell him i love him he always treats me bad, calling me a slag and saying he regrets being with me, but then he ...
A. 6 April 2010: You can't go on with a relationship like this. It isn't fair on you. What you do depends how committed you are to him and how much you want your relationship to work. He has issues, more than likely with himself, so staying with him would mean that ... (read in full...)
He said he might ask me out soon, but I'm afraid my friends don't like him!
Q. i've been seeing this lad for like 7 months now and we have a strong relationship, the thing is he said he might ask me out anytime soon. i want to go out with him, but my friends dont like him and im worried they'll fall out with me or call me ...
A. 5 April 2010: If you like him then go for it. Obviously try not to fall out with your friends but if they kick off then it's their problem, not yours. Calling names is harsh. Good friends are meant to support you. As your friends, they should respect what makes ... (read in full...)
University is my chance to get away, but will I be able to?
Q. *Op's own title* I'm going to uni later this year because I want to start again where no-one knows me. I hate preconceptions and being judged, and it's hard to grow in confidence or re-invent yourself when people already think they know who you are,...
A. 21 March 2010: You shouldn't let other people stop you from doing what you want to do. Most people know someone from their area or past that goes to the same uni as them but it doesn't matter. These one or two people are only a tiny, tiny minority of the ... (read in full...)
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