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writes:My bf is hot,cute and honest and loves me like hell. And here is the turning point. I dont love him. Why why why wont any one love some one like that? And thats why i broke up. But he still loves me and i still think why dont i love him? I want to love him but i just cant. Please help!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Meet up with him and let him know you want to be friends. It shows you like him enough to stay in contact with him. but if you say that you want to be friends make sure you will be friends and I he calls you be their for him and likewise for you. If you need someone to talk to talk to him about them. It sound like a frienship is needed here.
But you must be clear that if your going to be friends actually be onendont just say it. Let him know that. Let him know that he should start to date other girls and if he needs someone to talk to about those things you will be his friend to talk to. And vica versa for you too let him know if you get a boyfriend that if he needs to ask about anything you can call him. but Beauregard to let your bf's know you have a close male friend.
This is a good way for him to not feel left in the dark. And a good way for you to move on.
Frienship is the start of everything, you never know what will happen in year to come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): In some cases, one does not necc. have control over they're feelings....you can't make yourself love you ex..you just can't. You did the right thing by ending the relationships, but don't use his life as a revolving door....if you broke it off with him, leave it that way. He will have a hard enough time as it is getting over you and you don't want to make things harder by keeping him around as you decide or try to brow beat yourself into loving him. You go your way and he should go his....I don't think at this point you should be friends with him as to not lead him own or think there can be something in the future.
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 If you were in love with a cute, honest, loyal person, does that mean you would love every other person who came along at the same time who was also cute, honest and loyal?
I hope not.
Many people have similar characteristics to many other people but that does not mean we will love every person of those characteristics. That's what friends are for... people we think are good, compatable people, but just don't start a romantic spark in us.
That's just the way the world works.
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reader, Moon_princess +, writes (25 June 2010):
Moon_princess is verified as being by the original poster of the question Tnx u guys were helpful.and griffo there is actually some stuff missing.our relation only lasted for 6mnths.He is sort of child like.loves me cares for me.sort of romantic,at least tryied to be.he's only 17.but i dnt have that comfort with him.i dnt feel like talking to him about anything. I dnt know why. So thats why i thot its best to leave him.but he loves me very much.and was real honest not like any other guy. So now im feeling realy guilty and cant even think about any other guy until i believe that he's happy .but he is not and that just kills me.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (24 June 2010):
I think this has alot to do with your expectations of who you want to settle down with someday. Back in your mind this guy who loves you currently does not fit that description or has the qualities you want or desire or find sexy and loving.
really think about it for a moment and even write a list of the qualities you really truly want in a man. Then look at him and see if he matches them.
Its highly likley it could also simply be that he lacks romantic behaviours toward you, feeling as though it's a bit uncool. If so that's his failure and where the problem probably is. Things like giving you a romantic surprise or do something unique for you. Not roses and shit, unique things!!! Maybe he's a shallow guy and fandangles his way around with his mates etc.
What kind of guy is he please explain a bit more.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Sometimes, there's something missing and that's stopping you from loving him. He may sound perfect in theory, but love is unpredictable. You can't help who you fall for and you can't control how you truly feel. Wanting to love someone is often not enough. I think it's better to end the relationship than lead that person on.
There's probably something missing in your chemistry and you just can't love him. To be fair on you, you're also very young. You might not feel ready to love someone yet. Don't feel bad for feeling this way because you can't help how you feel. It's better to be true to yourself and to him rather than try to live something false. Hope I helped.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 You can't make your heart feel what is not there.
Love doesn't happen on command, or when a certain set of criteria are met. Either you love someone or you don't. You don't, and I think you made the right decision by letting him go. It would not be fair to him to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't really love them. So you did the right thing.
He might be the perfect man, but not for you. And there is nothing to do about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): You might nit love him because your young and independant. Your not wierd or anything, mist teenage girls, myself included, don't fall head over heals for just every guy
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