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writes:my question is that you are in love with this girl and she tells you that she loves you but she is not ready for a relationship and she wants you to be there for her and yet you want her to be near her but you get hurt because she say she loves you but doesn't show it. do i stand a chance with her Reply to this Question
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reader, Blod  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Don't use her for sex!
It's hard to tell how she feels because it sounds like there could be a chance she's taking advantage of you. If she genuinely loves you and cares for you then why would she reject a relationship with you? It's difficult to judge the situation but I think she could just be using you. She may not realize it but it doesn't seem fair on you. If it's upsetting you then I think you need to try talking to her. Tell her how you feel and see how she reacts. She's the only one who can tell you if you have a chance with her. At the moment she's stringing you along which isn't fair. So ask her straight out. If she says no, move on. If she says yes but she doesn't want a relationship right now then it's up to you what you do. Just don't let her mess you about!
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reader, fishy fish  +, writes (17 August 2010):
Well you haven't told us the girl's social status, is she in a relationship? or just got out of one? on/off with someone?
it's very important to know where this girl stands emotionally as it's your barometer to measure and evaluate how she feels towards you and what she wants from you.
She obviously likes you but i'm scared she might be taking advantage of your feelings in order to feel secure and safe, cause if she really sincerely loves you she wouldn't even think twice to be with you, sorry for being harsh but love doesn't have conditions ,if she wants you she'll be with you full stop.
If i were you i'll make it clear with this girl , be firm and honest, give her a month time to change , if not, she's the loser not you, cause nowadays sincere men are very rare and if one gets hold of him he shouldn't let go. Best of luck sweets.
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reader, Baronjohn  +, writes (17 August 2010):
have sex with her this will work things out it will get the tention off
and if you have already done it and didnt work out
then just have her as a back up girl for when you feel lonely
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reader, Kenj +, writes (17 August 2010):
 She wants you as a friend, nothing more at the moment.
It could develop into more but dont count on it.
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