University is my chance to get away, but will I be able to?
Q. *Op's own title* I'm going to uni later this year because I want to start again where no-one knows me. I hate preconceptions and being judged, and it's hard to grow in confidence or re-invent yourself when people already think they know who you are,...
A. 21 March 2010: You shouldn't let other people stop you from doing what you want to do. Most people know someone from their area or past that goes to the same uni as them but it doesn't matter. These one or two people are only a tiny, tiny minority of the ... (read in full...)
Is 7 months too long to wait to have sex?
Q. I've been going out with a girl for 7 months now and we havent had sex. Is this normal because it seems every other couple around us is. And it makes be almost frustrated that we aren't, and wonder whether im in a strong relationship, i dont know ...
A. 19 March 2010: Every relationship is different. Some have sex the first day, other wait years. The most important thing is that you're both happy and ready.... (read in full...)
He's not my type but already I'm crazy about him! Should any of this really matter?
Q. I've been talking to a guy in my city for a long time now, we know the same but we've never actually hung out before. He asked me the other day if I wanted to go see a movie and I said yeah. My best friend told me that he's NOT my type so I ...
A. 11 March 2010: It's up to you. Personally I think personality comes first. It's all about who they are. If you had a great time with him then that's a good sign. I'm sure you'd prefer to be with someone who makes you happy rather than a tall guy who doesn't. But ... (read in full...)
Falling for Mr Nice, is what I'm doing working?
Q. Well, about a month ago I gave up on boy, especially in my school. I just wanted to wait until that one person came around.. the person who understands me and isnt like any other childish boy. Then on my way to school, a boy from another school ...
A. 9 March 2010: Just go with the flow. He seems to like you. You're still young and there's no rush on you to find someone. Like you said, someone will just come to you out of the blue one day. What you're doing is fine, just remember that you don't need to rush ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend came onto me... do I tell her?
Q. Help, my friend's boyfriend told me he fancies me and has tried to kiss me... Do I tell her? I know she is going to leave him soon as she is sick of him being immature and she likes another guy... Any help apreciated!!...
A. 8 March 2010: Seeing as she intends to break up with him soon, I think you should tell her. As your friend, she deserves to know. If I was in her position I'd rather know the truth. Being honest with somebody, when you could easily hide it, can boost the trust ... (read in full...)
Would he be classed as a sort of pervert because he's too old for me?
Q. this 16 year old guy seems to like me and i like him i want to go further than friends though which is ok. but im 14 hes 16 and i dont know how my mum will react to it and would he be classed as a sort of pervert because he's too old for me?...
A. 8 March 2010: 14 and 16 doesn't sound too bad to me. The problem is that age gaps are a bigger thing as teenagers. It's the period where boundaries for drinking, sex, driving, working, etc, come in.
So although two years isn't much of a difference there's defi... (read in full...)
Trapped in the 'friend zone'
Q. Alright guys, basically there is a girl in my year at school i really like and we are quite close mates. Anyway, someone hacked her email account and sent loads off ppl an email sayin we were goin out when we weren't. She said to one guy, "i'm ...
A. 8 March 2010: I don't think there's much you can do to be honest. If someone sees you in a brother/sister kind of way then that's that. You can't really change it. I think the best thing for you to do would be to talk to her. She might have just said this to stop ... (read in full...)
I like this boy at school but how can I get to know him better?
Q. theres this boy at school i really like and he knows it and i can tell he wants to get to know the real me and i want to get to know him too. we dont get much chance to talk at school because we've always got friends around us and when we do talk ...
A. 7 March 2010: I suggest you get his msn or add him on Facebook or some other social networking site. If it's difficult for you to talk at school then this would be a good way of arranging to meet with him. You could talk online as well but it's much better to get ... (read in full...)
She flirts with me but says she just wants to be friends
Q. Hi. There is this girl that I really like, and that I have like for about 3-4 years. The only problem with this is that she just wants to be friends, and that I am like a brother to her. What I don't get is that she will flirt with me all the time, ...
A. 7 March 2010: Some girls are just over friendly kind and flirt without realizing. If she sees you as a brother then it'd be very difficult to change the way she sees you. There's nothing you can do about it really.
Try explaining to her how she comes acro... (read in full...)
Is he just TOO friendly, or does he LIKE me?
Q. Basically, there is this guy in my school, lets call him B. He is 2 years older than me-I'm 14 and he's 16. I made friends with him when I was around 13-I'm friends with someone he's friends with, so he came up to me and my other friend (not the ...
A. 3 March 2010: Yeah I think he likes you. All the signs are there. If you have any doubts that he's just a flirty kinda guy and like that with all girls then sneakily notice how he treats other girls. Guys normally behave slightly differently with girls they like. ... (read in full...)
Girl advice needed on how to get to know her better!
Q. Alright, so I'm 16 years old. this is weird, but i've talked to this girl, texting wise, a lot. i never really talked to this girl with a long conversation before but my friend told her i liked her, and i basically admitted to her that yes i do like ...
A. 14 February 2010: I think you should really try to talk to her in person if you can. This kind of thing can be really awkward. It's alright for a bit but communicating through text only is not a good idea. When you eventually have to talk it could be more awkward. ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but around him I sweat like crazy and can't concentrate!
Q. So I'm 14 and there's this guy in my class that I have a crush on. I've liked him since 5th grade actually. I've never told anybody I like him because he used to be the kind of nerdy guy that didn't have any guy friends and was friends with mostly ...
A. 11 February 2010: Tell him. He seems nice enough. The only way you're going to get anywhere is by being honest and telling him how you feel. Yes, it takes a lot of courage. But it sounds like you've got to the stage where you need to tell him. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He does not talk to me in person, only by email. Is he too shy or what?
Q. There is this guy in my school, he's in two of my lessons, and I think he likes me, but I'm not too sure. When we're in our computer class, he e-mails me (he always starts convos first-I never do, too scared XD) and we often have funny and quiet ra...
A. 9 February 2010: I've been in this situation. And from experience, I'd say he fancies you. But I'd imagine he's too shy to talk to you in person. He might not know how to react or how to approach you. Emailing you is easier than risking embarrassing himself in front ... (read in full...)
Is she just keeping me as a back up in case her other guy does not work out?
Q. theres a girl who said she liked me but wanted to wait till her head was in the right place for us to have a relationship, shes not talked about getting to gether and she keeps going to see other boys who like her. im pritty sure (her freinds told ...
A. 5 February 2010: Yeah, it sounds like you're her back up. Try to forget about it. Do your own thing and let her flirt and be with whoever. Things will settle in the end, one way or the other. She'll learn and mature. Let it go for a bit and concentrate on yourself. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my best friend out again?
Q. I asked my best friend out about 6 months ago and she turned me down in case it ruined our friendship but i still fancy her like crazy but i dont know if i should or when to ask her out agian....
A. 1 February 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. Unless she's had a massive change of heart since last time then she'll probably say no again. Best thing would be to move on and forget about it.... (read in full...)
Internet love...
Q. I am 18 and i have been talking to this guy on myspace for a month or so and i like him and i think he likes me but we live very far away from each other. We are the same age and every time i talk to him my heart rate increases and i get ...
A. 1 February 2010: Yes. Long-distance relationships can work as can relationships which first started on the internet. My friend is in a relationship with someone she met on the internet and things are going brilliantly with them.
But things can be dodgy when it come... (read in full...)
I promised my parents I wouldn't kiss anybody until I was married! Is this stupid?
Q. well, i know this sounds stupid. but when i was like 5ish i pinky promised my parents i wouldnt kiss anyone till i was married. i am a christian, and proud(: but i kinda think its stupid.what do you think about this. is it stuupid? my friend told me ...
A. 30 January 2010: I'm Christian and it does seem silly to me. Having sex is one thing, but kissing someone is really going over the top.
At your age it's perfectly normal to have not kissed anyone, even if your friends have. You're still young and you might not have... (read in full...)
Should we date or just stay friends?
Q. So, I like my friend. We have great chemistry, but the problem is that I'm reluctant to date. I think dating is too cliched as teenagers (holding hands in school, calling each other every night, etc.) I feel as though if I date him things will be ...
A. 26 January 2010: Your relationship is what you make it to be. So whatever you're happy with, do it. Dating someone as a teenager doesn't mean you have to do all these "teenage" things. Just go with the flow and do whatever you're both happy with.... (read in full...)
Is this sexual assault? Please help...
Q. Okay so will somebody please help me out here...if a boy is fingering you and you tell him to stop and he doesn't is that sexual assault or something???I really need answers......
A. 25 January 2010: Yes. It'd be classed as assault for sure and I'd imagine sexual assault. Being forced to do anything sexual can be considered abusive.... (read in full...)
My friends say he's not for me....any advise, please?
Q. I really like this guy i don't know what to do he is a bit on the large size and all my friends say he is not my type, any advise would be great, please?...
A. 24 January 2010: If you're attracted to him then he's your type. Your friends don't choose who you're attracted to so if you like him then go for it.... (read in full...)
Could you please help me to either move on or give me a chance with her?
Q. hi, I'm a 15 year old boy, I have this friend who's a beautiful girl with the most amazing personality. I think I love her but I'm too embarrassed to say anything to her because I have asked her out before and she said no. I now get very shy ...
A. 24 January 2010: Ignore the anonymous answerer. How can anyone presume that you're gay after reading that!? You've been let down by someone you really like and want to move on from what's happened one way or the other.
She definately likes you, even if it's just... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date boys in the grade below me?
Q. Mt friends are mostly guys that are my age but a grade lower than me. Because these are the guys I hang out with all the time, I usually end up liking one of them, but a lot of people say it's wrong to go out with a guy that's a grade lower, even if ...
A. 21 January 2010: No, that's rubbish. So long as your happy with it then it's fine. A grade difference is nothing, especially if they're the same age as you. What will happen when you finish school? It won't matter then and it shouldn't matter now. Happiness comes ... (read in full...)
I like a girl who is 5 years older than me, is this strange?
Q. I'm 13 and im new at high school and i know a senior girl there. She's really nice and smiles at me when i see her and she's really pretty. The problem is that i like her. Shes 5 years older than me. Is it strange to feel this way?...
A. 19 January 2010: No this is normal. You're just being a teenager. It's unlikely anything will happen between you because age gaps are more prominent at this age. But when you're older age gaps aren't normally a problem.... (read in full...)
Crushing on an old friend...
Q. Okay, so I've known this guy for about seven years, but we've never really known each other properly. Like, we've acknowledged eachother, and I guess we're friends, but we've never been close. Now recently, I've started to develop feelings for him....
A. 18 January 2010: I don't see why you shouldn't go for it. I don't think it makes a difference how long you've known someone. Some people know each other for a day before going out while others get together 10 years or so after first meeting. So it shouldn't ... (read in full...)
We haven't met since we were little kids, now I get butterflies thinking about meeting up with him again
Q. okay so, i went to primary school with this guy, we didn't speak for about 5 years after that but now we have started speaking again, i'm starting to fall in love with him and i think he's perfect for me, but the thing is im not sure if he likes me...
A. 16 January 2010: I have the same problem as you when it comes to nerves. I struggle to eat and am sick, and most of the time it's totally irrational. Try to eat and drink something, just eat a little at a time. Try to relax, listen to music and keep busy so that ... (read in full...)
My crush found out I like her - not from me. What do I do??
Q. recently i told my friend the girl i liked in confidence, then he's told someone, and they told someone etc. and sure as it gets, she found out. i don't know how she reacted because i just found out on the bus back from school, but i don't know what ...
A. 16 January 2010: I think you should be straight with her. She knows now so there's nothing stopping you from confronting her about it. It won't be easy but at least she's had to time to think about it. She's more likely to know how she feels. This might not have ... (read in full...)
I want to break up, but he keeps telling me how much he loves me!
Q. So me and my bf have been dating for a good four months but it feels like so much more and now it's like smothering and want to brake up with him. The problem is not only the fact that he used to be my best friend but the fact that when ever he ...
A. 12 January 2010: Just break up with him. Ignore everything he says if you have to. It's kinder to just finish with him rather than go along with it but not want to. He might be heart-broken but he has to accept how you feel. There are two of you in a relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll say no if I ask him out and ruin our friendship
Q. I Like this guy we all call him Danny. Me and Danny have been best friends for like 5 1/2 months now. I have very stonge feelings torwads him and I want to be more then friends. The problem is we sit next to each other in alot of are classes and we ...
A. 9 January 2010: If you never try, you'll never know. Ask him, if he says yes then great! If he says no then no need to worry. Tell him that you want to stay friends and if you could just forget about it. There's no reason why asking someone out should affect your ... (read in full...)
Girl wants to have unprotected sex with me and I'm only 14!
Q. I am 14 and a girl i kno wants me to hav sex with her i am about 5 inches when erect and uncircumsised i am a virgin and she is not ... she wants to do it unprotected and hav a kid ... confused :S help pls...
A. 9 January 2010: No need to be confused. Whatever her game is and whatever the reason behind it, say no!! She's using you for a child, and you're only a child!!! 14 is very young, too young for anything like this. You'll have a responsibility for life, be relied ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and don't know how he feels about me...
Q. Ok here we go. I like this guy. (lol of course i do) We have been getting so close we flirt none stop he stays up till like 5am talking to me on msn (his parents are strict, he's not allowed to have msn so his risking getting in big trouble talking ...
A. 8 January 2010: Yes yes yes, he likes you. Just go for it!... (read in full...)
Wait to have sex until I'm married or listen to my friends?
Q. I want to wait till I'm married to have sex because I want to lose my virginity to someone I love. I told my boyfriend we could make out just no sex, and he said he understood and is perfectly fine with it. My friends said its not good to wait till ...
A. 6 January 2010: What you're doing is right because it's what you want. There's nothing wrong with waiting 'til you're married. It's something to respect. Not many people do and I can understand why your friends are telling you not to, but everyone's different and ... (read in full...)
Did that pain in my heart mean that much?
Q. I actually need your help. Im confused so much and Im seriously getting upset about it. There is this boy and don't stop reading this.. this isnt just some teenage matter. I fancied him for so long, like 2 years and i tried everything to get him to ...
A. 5 January 2010: I don't blame you for what you did. It's hard getting over someone. There's no magic switch that makes you get over someone in an instant. So of course you haven't got over him.
Blanking him would be a start to getting over him, but it woul... (read in full...)
Sometimes he's into me, other times he's just cold
Q. does this guy like me? sometimes he's really into me and others he's just cold. When we are having a blast we laugh, he nudges me leg or foot or something, tells me im funny and once i told him a story from my childhood when i thought i was ...
A. 5 January 2010: Yep I agree with CaringGuy. I'd say he likes you but he seems a bit confused and uncertain about how he feels and how to behave around you. Talking to him would be the best thing.... (read in full...)
What do you think he's really trying to say?...
Q. Me and this guy have become really close lately and he says he really likes me but he won't do anything about it so I asked him what he'd say if I asked him out and he said yes if I wanted a girl friend. What do you think he's really trying to ...
A. 4 January 2010: I take it you also like him. I reckon you should tell him how you feel and let him know that you're happy and prepared to go out with him. Sounds like he needs a kick up the backside so just be straight with him. ... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 2 January 2010: To me, you don't sound ready for sex. You're clearly insecure when it comes to the matter and although you want to take things further I don't think you're ready for it. It's totally up to you what you choose to do and you don't have to listen to ... (read in full...)
Do girls like friends that just listen?
Q. I really like my friend, but don't have the courage to ask her out, so do girls like having friends that just listen? Or do you prefer boyfriends?...
A. 2 January 2010: Male friends who just listen are great. In a way it's better than having girls listening as it gives you a different prospective. Just be her friend and if you're right for each other it'll develop into something more. You can't have too many ... (read in full...)
Would you treat someone differently if they had acne?
Q. Hiyaa. Another question coz I am very self conscious. As you know, I'm 13. Be honest with me. If someone had acne, would you treat them differently, and would you notice they had it? :/ xx...
A. 31 December 2009: Yes I would notice but I wouldn't treat them differently. All teenagers go through a stage where their skin is pretty bad and where they're feeling self-concious and insecure, including me. Everyone's been there, and if not then there'll be a time ... (read in full...)
How can I be less predictable?
Q. Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...
A. 31 December 2009: I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have you. Predictable normally means nice, decent, caring guys as the others have said. But I understand where she's coming from.
Try being more romantic. You might be a very romantic person, but being spon... (read in full...)
Are these signs that he likes me or just doesn't want to be my friend?
Q. me and my guy best friend are really really close. when we started the new school year he used to find me in the halls and talk to me and always wanted to hug me. when i would see him in his class he would always wave and smile at me. recently ...
A. 29 December 2009: CaringGuy is right. I think he might fancy you. He probably doesn't know how to behave around you as he's used to being good friends with you. So it's easier for him to ignore you. He might feel a bit embarrassed if he had to face you.
Like Cari... (read in full...)
What does a laugh mean in response to a display of affection?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of some female opinion. Will take male opinion too if you wish. Ok long story short. I have a girl for a best friend who I am very much in love with. She knows all about this and though she says she doesn't want the ...
A. 28 December 2009: My best bet would be that she was trying to break the silence afterwards. It sounds like she might not have known how to respond and that she was nervous. So then she'd try to break that by laughing.
Either that or she was laughing because she thou... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about meeting my online friend, should I meet up or hold off?
Q. I've been talking to this guy online for a couple of days and we text and stuff and we've seen each others pictures and I've seen him on webcam and I like him and he says he likes me and wants to meet up but Im kind of nervous about meeting up with ...
A. 28 December 2009: It's up to you what you do.
Meeting up with people you've met online is always risky. It can be dodgy and you have to be careful. It can go wrong. Having said that, one of my best friends is in a relationship with someone she met online. They firs... (read in full...)
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