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We just broke up after a month of dating! What happened?!

Q.   ok PLEASE PLEASE HELP!! me and my gf have been going out for like a month now. She just broke up with me, she still has feelings for me... but she said it didnt feel right... in the space of two days she didnt feel right, something wasnt the ...

A.   3 November 2009: Looks like she was doubting your relationship and felt she should end it. I don't think it's anything you've done, just how she feels about it. Maybe something happened or maybe she just felt it wasn't going anywhere with you. If it's really both... (read in full...)

Why do I keep getting this feeling?

Q.   There is one of my male friends who is in love with me. Whenever I'm not with him I miss him to the extreme, I feel like I love him whenever he's far from me but whenever I'm with him I don't feel the same. Why do I get this feeling? Am I in love ...

A.   28 October 2009: No. I don't think you're in love with him. I agree with the first post. It sounds like you're in love with the idea of him. You know that he really likes you so you crave his company as it might make you feel better when you're not with him. But ... (read in full...)

I really want a relationship, but I'm so insecure about my looks

Q.   I'm a 16 year old girl and I have never been in a relationship before. I've liked several guys before (not at the same time of course) and about 2 of the crushes were HUGE, they really impacted me and it lingered on my mind for a year or so. But I ...

A.   26 October 2009: In the end, I don't think looks are very important. So long as you're both attracted to your other half, it doesn't really matter what you look like. You said you've seen girls who you think have less going for them than you in terms of looks, and ... (read in full...)

I'm 16, and really concerned about my Love Life!

Q.   Hey. I'm 16, and really concerned about my Love Life. Well i cant call it that, as i've never actualy had one. I've never actualy had a proper girlfriend, i've 'seen' girls but not been in an actual relationship. I always get mucked about by ...

A.   22 October 2009: There's more to life than girls. If you think about it, what does it matter that you haven't had a proper girlfriend? You're 16, young, enjoying your life and you seem pretty happy as a person. It doesn't sound like you have any major problem that ... (read in full...)

I want a real boyfriend so I don't have to lie about having one!

Q.   i want know if i will ever find the guy that makes me not be able to think about anthing else. I have never had a real boyfriend its got to the point where my friends think i am so sad that i have started lying to my friends bout having a boyfrie...

A.   18 October 2009: Yes, you will definately find a boyfriend one day. You need to wait for the right person and the right time. Don't lie about having a boyfriend. You always get caught up in your lies. It's not you or anything that you've done that's stopped you from... (read in full...)

Is it OK to add her to my FB friends list without asking her first?

Q.   Hi, right now i like a girl and i dont really talk to her. So i keep thinking if i should add her on my facebook friends list so i/we could talk a lot. But the point is if i should add her without asking or asking first. Whenever i look at her...

A.   14 October 2009: I reckon you should just add her. You do know her so it's not as if you're complete strangers, and she could always decline anyway. I wouldn't mind at all if a guy I knew just added me. I don't think you have anything to lose. Go for it. Good Luck... (read in full...)

Should I change myself in order to win him over?

Q.   i'm 16. i'm a normal high school student, well i'm not that normal, i look kinda emo and goth, wear lots of eyeliner, i always wear black, and sometimes i could be annoying. ok so i like this guy for about a year now, he's really cool, and i like ...

A.   12 October 2009: Move on. Move on. Move on. As hard as it might be you have to be cruel to be kind. Do not change yourself for anyone but yourself. Be the person you want to be. If you're meant to be then he'll come to you. You can't make anyone like you. So ... (read in full...)

She changed her mind about loving me, is there anything I can do now?

Q.   I have known this girl a long time, and she had said to me that she loved me, i felt in the same way, however she said a while after that that she didn't. She says she "cares" about me now but i'm not sure what that means. When i confronted her ...

A.   12 October 2009: Nope. Sorry. The best thing you can do now is, as the previous post said, move on. Confronting her about it will only push her further away. So show that you're mature and accept what's happened. You're still young so someone else will definately ... (read in full...)

Is he pushing me into sex?

Q.   i have only been with my boyf. for a day and he already is saying that he wants to have sex And im not ready at all but if i dont i will get called fridged and i dont want that to happen so am i just going to have to have sex with him or is ...

A.   11 October 2009: Do not have sex with somebody until you're 100% ready. You don't want to so don't! I'd prefer to be called names and picked on instead of doing something so personal and exposed that I could regret for a long, long time. This guy is certainly not ... (read in full...)

Why don't guys find me attractive?

Q.   i wake up every morning and i see different guys at my school. and i think to myself, "Why do guys find me unattractive?" i want to understand why i have no one noticing me and complimenting me, like a guy should. my question is: Why don't guys find ...

A.   11 October 2009: Even without seeing a photo of you, I'm pretty certain that you're at least decent looking. Has anyone ever actually told you that they find you unattractive? Or are you presuming this because noone's ever complimented you? Trust me, unless you'r... (read in full...)

I was too scared to talk to her and now she is mad! What can I do?

Q.   i really liked this girl for a long time and now she hates me. Ok i was at our breakfast table with the football players( which im not) and i got the crazy idea to ask her to the dance. Of course i had to tell my best friend before i did it and when ...

A.   11 October 2009: Wow. I don't blame her for feeling like that. You've really been messing her about. It's a good sign that she said 'hi' even after you left though. It shows that she probably didn't judge you for it. Best thing to do would be to open up to her. ... (read in full...)

Is she toying with me for her amusement?

Q.   help im really confused! This girl at my high school keeps writing me notes about how she is a virgin. this started happening about three weeks ago and its starting to get worse. Then in the halls i ran into her and she was like what the hell are ...

A.   10 October 2009: I have no idea what she's doing. What she's doing must really annoy you though. I'm getting annoyed just reading your question! Tell her to go away and to leave you be. You haven't done anything to her and what have you got to do with her? Sound... (read in full...)

I'm head over heels in love! How do I muster up the courage to ask her out?

Q.   I'm 17 and nuts, crazy over a girl a year below me but goes to my collage or sixthform if you live in England. I have a similar situation to a person you help about asking a girl out I dont know her at all, well i over heard her saying she w...

A.   10 October 2009: I agree with the first two posts. Facebook, msn that sort of thing would definitely help as it'd give you a chance to get to know each other with no friends or nothing to make it too weird. Having said that, watch it. Getting to know someone ... (read in full...)

I like two girls but who should I choose?

Q.   So I've known two girls for the last two years: let's call them Sophie and Katy. I've probably talked to Sophie more and we get along really well (same type of humor and things like that), but she's really shy and kind of a loner. So, she doesn't ...

A.   10 October 2009: To me it sounds as if you'd prefer to be with Sophie. You're going out with Katy right now, but despite that you're thinking about Sophie and you're saying that you want to talk to her more. You seem to enjoy her company a lot more than Katy's. ... (read in full...)

How do I make him notice me and love me?

Q.   hi i am a 13 year old girl and i have fallen in love with a boy in my class but he loves my best friend and i am getting jealous she is very sexy and i am ok but how can i make him notice me, talk to me, and love me. please help me out or else i ...

A.   10 October 2009: You might not like my answer, but seriously, at your age this should be the least of your worries. You're only 13 and you should be having fun! Not crying because you're jealous of your best friend. If you want him to notice you, then you go up an... (read in full...)

Should I carry on trying to take things further?

Q.   hi. I know this might sound a bit stupid but i am totally unbearablely obsessed with this guy. We don't know each other very well but we have been going to the same hockey club for 1 or 2 years and he's recently started at the same school as me. ...

A.   5 October 2009: Carry on and don't give up. You've said yourself that you're paranoid and your friends are encouraging you. It's just you who believes he's out of your league and the reality is that he probably isn't. Just go for it. And good luck. X... (read in full...)

I'm in love with two best friends. Any ideas?

Q.   im in love with two people both available but both best friends and they both like me what should i do? x...

A.   5 October 2009: Take a step back from both. If you can't choose it's probably best to let the whole thing be for a while. Things will develop naturally with time and you'll know what to do. Good Luck. X... (read in full...)

He wants to take things to the next level. Will he dump me if I don't?

Q.   i am totally in love with my bf and he loves me but he thinks we should move on to the next step and that is sex what should i do? me and my bf have bein going out for 6 years i was in six grade and he was my brothers friend in 8th grade. i am 16 ...

A.   4 October 2009: Even though you've been together for years, you're both still young. You have plenty of time. So unless you're absolutely ready, don't sleep with him. You need to feel sure about this and he should respect that. It's one of those things that you ... (read in full...)

Is every single girl obsessed with looks?

Q.   Ok. Im 16 and male. I am quite intelligent, although lack in strength and im not the best-looking person one could meet...although im not the worst. I dont understand teen girls much as you can probably guess but whenever I get my hopes up it just ...

A.   4 October 2009: No, not every girl is obsessed with looks. Only the shallow ones which you don't really want to be with anyway. The same goes for girls when it comes to boys. A lot of girls think boys are only interested if they look like a supermodel. This isn'... (read in full...)

Is there more to it? or is it just sex?

Q.   i am still good friends with my ex and he has moved on but i still feel something for him. although lately he broke up with his girlfriend and he is always texting me asking to meet up for sex. he says we are only friends but i cant help thinking ...

A.   3 October 2009: Stop meeting up with him. I'm guessing he knows how you feel about him. If he says you're "just friends" but then sleeps with you then he's using you. If he cared for you he'd respect your feelings and not mess you about like this. Move on from ... (read in full...)

I don't think my virginity meant anything to him

Q.   i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...

A.   3 October 2009: I can't believe he said that. This guy is not worth it. He's using you, I'm sorry. I don't think he cared about your feelings, it being your first time. It sounds like he knows what he wants and used you for it. If it's virgins he likes then you ... (read in full...)

Why won't he leave me alone?

Q.   Hi Theres a boy "mark" who i used to like and we hooked up once but it didn't work out so we stopped talking and avoided each toher for a while. Bout a year ago we started talking and became good mates again. Bout a few weeks ago i started se...

A.   1 October 2009: It sounds like he hasn't got over you yet. Once you became good friends again after not talking for a while, maybe he though there was a chance that you could get back together. And now that you have a boyfriend, he's jealous and angry. Be firm and ... (read in full...)

Am I too fat to attract a boyfriend?

Q.   Am I Fat To Have a borfreind? 15 years...60 kg....152 cm .....

A.   28 September 2009: It doesn't matter what you look like or what your size is, you will always be able to attract a boyfriend. There's someone out there for everyone. Your appearance make difference. If someone's worth being with, they will love you regardless of the ... (read in full...)

Am I a straight? Bi? Or lesbian?

Q.   I have been staright all my life and had boyfriends etc, but just recently i feel like i have a crush on a female teacher. Everyones started calling me a lesbien, but im obvisly not a lesbein cos i like boys, but am i bisexual? or is it just a phase ...

A.   28 September 2009: No, I don't think you're bisexual. You sound straight to me. Just coz of one crush you don't even seem sure about on a female teacher, it doesn't mean you're a lesbian. People are just calling you a lesbian coz it's fun for them but you know your ... (read in full...)

I want to be more than friends, how to do that without awkwardness?

Q.   I just asked a girl out to homecoming shes my friend but i want to take it a bit farther than friends and be in a relatioship with her how can i do that while makeing it as least akward as possible ...

A.   28 September 2009: I'm no expert, but as a girl I'd suggest that you build up to it. Don't shock her by suddenly blurting out "I want to be more than friends!" and trying to kiss her. You need to prepare her for it so that she knows what's coming and that you get the ... (read in full...)

Am I just confused about my sexuality?

Q.   I have had a crush on a girl for a year and a half and when i think about her i get really turned on. I get turned on by othere girls too though. I have always been interested in the female body more than the males since primary school. I remember ...

A.   28 September 2009: You clearly seem to be attracted to girls, but that doesn't mean you're a lesbian. Whatever your sexuality you'll settle into it in the end. With time you'll come to realize how you really feel. It's not something to worry about. You'll just kind of ... (read in full...)

How can I let my teacher know he's actually been a great help to me?

Q.   basically, whenever i'm writing something this teacher can be annoying as hell with his picky-ness and/ or advises me to rethink my entire concept. it can be extremely painful (emotionally and mentally) but it's made me write some of my best ...

A.   23 September 2009: Give him a thank you card. Simple and shows your gratitude. X... (read in full...)

Will my breasts be a turn-off for all men or is it just bad luck that I'm with a guy who doesn't like them!

Q.   I had previously asked a question regarding the fact that my breasts have started sagging as a result of weight loss and my boyfriend hates them and wants me to have surgery. I want to know if d cup but saggy breasts will be a turn off for all men ...

A.   23 September 2009: Any guy worth being with will love you for who you are. X... (read in full...)

Can I get him to like me back?

Q.   So last year I really liked this guy and he liked me and we had a "thing" but it didnt work out and he ended up dating this other girl. Now me and him are both seniors in high school and his girlfriend graduated last year and they are technically ...

A.   23 September 2009: You could try flirting with him. Be subtle though or you could make a fool of yourself. Think about your body language, and watch his so that you know if he's interested or not. Remember that you can't make someone like you. There's only a chan... (read in full...)

My boyfriend tells me that I'm ugly and I look anorexic with no boobs!

Q.   my boyfriend tells me that im ugly have no boobs and that im starting to look like im anorexic. i have already tried splitting up with him that lasted about 6 months and now i been with him over 2 years all together and i cant get over him. Please ...

A.   23 September 2009: Why is he your boyfriend if he talks to you like this? It sounds as if you're trapped in this situation. You have to be really firm with him and yourself too. You shouldn't stand for this. If you want to finish with him, do it. You don't deserve ... (read in full...)

Can I make a move?

Q.   Hi guys, Ok strange question and one I have pondered for a while... Well basically there's this guy (isn't there always?) He's a cashier and 20, he always takes the time to chat to me and remembers what I tell him, he is fond of attempting to fi...

A.   22 September 2009: Provided that he knows how old you are, it shouldn't be an issue. If you feel confident enough and want to, go for it. Good Luck. X... (read in full...)

I don't like my knees I think they are ugly!

Q.   Hey. ok my problem is pretty weird. Any lets get to it. Im 14, And i dont wear anything that shows my knee's. is there something wrong with me cause i think my knee's are ugly and i get embarrassed by them if people see them i mean its fine ...

A.   22 September 2009: I'm 99.9% certain that there's nothing wrong with your knees and there's no real need to be so self-concious about it. But I know there's not much worse than showing off something that you're really self-conscious about. I'm pretty sure it'll get ... (read in full...)

Most of my friends have g/f or b/f within our group..what should I do?

Q.   In my group of friends almost everyone has got a bf or gf within the group. There are a few of us who are single and i think one of the girls likes me but i only think, not sure. What should i do? Pursue this girl and find out if she does like me...

A.   21 September 2009: It doesn't matter that you don't have a girlfriend. It's probably only you that cares. You should only go out with someone provided that you want you and like them, not for the sake of it. If you do actually like this girl, then yeah, go ahead an... (read in full...)

Can you give me some suggestions on how to speak to a boy?

Q.   hey :) i am 15 years old i am a female in an all girls school. My frineds say i am stunnin,buubly,outgoign,funny,georgeou but there is just one thing ! i have never had a boyfreind i know its probably the stupidust (dont know how to sp...

A.   20 September 2009: At 15, you're still young. Who the hell cares if you've never had a boyfriend? It's not an issue and it's certainly not a problem. All you need to do is keep your eyes open outside of school. Someone will come along when the time is right. Just be ... (read in full...)

I feel guilty for leading him astray. Should I tell?

Q.   i'm 14 nearly 15 and i've been talking to this guy i've known for about 6 months we get along really well and i like him and he's said that he really likes me the problem is that he's 20 and i've said to him i'm 17 the proiblem here is that i'm...

A.   20 September 2009: I reckon you need to be honest with him. The sooner you tell him the better. If he really likes you, he shouldn't mind too much. It's likely to affect your relationship but not terribly. It shouldn't be too much of a problem. If it helps, explai... (read in full...)

How do you get over the fear of opening up to someone?

Q.   So I have the generic problem of not opening up to anyone because I'm afraid of being vunerable and/or rejected. This has ruined my friendships in the past, and made relationships with boyfriends really difficult. I am 19 and now in my first seri...

A.   19 September 2009: You need to get over this. Bottling things up makes you ill. I don't know whether you do this already, but a good idea would be to keep a diary. If you open up whilst writing in your diary then you've got it down somewhere. It lets you express ... (read in full...)

Its hard to keep a positive attitude in life

Q.   I expected more out of life... every time i get my hopes up and i have this positive outlook on life i get disappointed every situation i get into just tears my optimism down one more layer. hopefully i won't get down to nothing. slowly day ...

A.   19 September 2009: It's your life. And you're the one that's in control. Whatever you do, it's your choice. So if you're not happy get out there and do something about it. Don't hold back, be yourself and find what makes you happy. You're still young too, so your... (read in full...)

He wants to change my status of virgin to non-virgin

Q.   I am 13 and there is is boy that i really like. we've been going out for about 3weeks and 1night we were talking on the phone and he said,"are you a virgin?" so i said "yes" and then he said "do you want me to change that?" i didnt say anything back ...

A.   18 September 2009: If you don't want to then you shouldn't. This is one of those things that you could regret massively when you're older. Don't have sex until you're 100% certain you want to and are ready. I think 13 is very young. So you like this guy, but it's been... (read in full...)

I'm told I'm not fat and I'm stunning, so why no boyfriend? I'm thinking a diet will sort it all out.

Q.   hey right well this is a weird question ! i want to know what to do? i would say i am fat but everyone says im not and i would say im ugly but every says im stunning and i want to loose weight! becouse i am 15 and never once had a boyfrind so if p...

A.   16 September 2009: A diet is not going to get you a boyfriend. I know plenty of gorgeous, pretty, SLIM girls who are older than you and are single and never had a bf. You're 15. You're in your teens, during puberty and adolesence. As you get older your body will set... (read in full...)

How do I find out if I'm his type?

Q.   Okay , so theres a guy . I asked about him in another question . He calls me names that aren't really that offensive ... kind of like he's flirting . He'll talk louder if he sees me , i guess to get my attention? He tells me how I should go out with ...

A.   13 September 2009: Does it matter if you're not his type? A lot of people don't follow the rule book and like someone who isn't strictly 'their type.' So I wouldn't say it makes much of a difference. But, you could try and do some research. Since your on Facebook... (read in full...)

I cant decide between two boys

Q.   I have got back with an ex but now I am back with boy one. Boy two keeps ringing me and saying that we still have feelings for each other and we always will. He has asked me to meet him on wednesday but I dont know if I should as I am with boy one. ...

A.   13 September 2009: Follow your heart. Whatever you do, you have to be true to yourself so that you're happy. Once you know what you want, you have to be honest with them. Don't mess about with them. Be fair and honest. Good Luck. X... (read in full...)

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