I don't know if I have enough courage to talk to him
Q. So, I like this guy and I am positive he likes me too. But we're both really shy and I don't know if I have enough courage to talk to him. By talk to him I mean confront him about my feelings for him. School is just about to start and I don't ...
A. 21 August 2011: Slow down.
Just because you like him, it doesn't mean you need to tell him especially if you're not ready to be in a relationship with him. If you're shy around him, then the best thing to do would be to talk to him, as in befriend him, first.
Ge... (read in full...)
I basically feel undeserving of a girl and love.
Q. I feel really bad because they're really beautiful and i will never ever get a girl like that. I know that looks aren't everything and they fade with time but i still can't help feeling that way. I literally have no self confidence, self esteem or ...
A. 21 August 2011: To me, it sounds as if your lack of confidence is beyond the norm. A lot of people lack confidence, but you seem to be feeling quite extreme negatives about several aspects of your life.
Forget about girls right now, love comes with time. I thin... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend not kissed me yet? How do I get him to kiss me?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a week now. He is 18 and I am 17. We have held hands in the movies and hugged several times. He just hadnt kissed me yet! This would be my first kiss and I don't know if it would be his first kiss though. ...
A. 17 August 2011: He's probably nervous and also waiting for the right time. He doesn't want to mess it up seeing as it's your first kiss. Just ask him to kiss you. That's simple enough and can be pretty romantic too. If he knows you want him to kiss you, it'll give ... (read in full...)
I've spotted a cute new guy. Will he think I'm a stalker if I add him on facebook?
Q. So theres this guy, who was friends with 1 of my exes who had came up to me(usually does talk to me if im near) and said hey and asked me for a hug....which he had never asked before. He even was walking all the way to my class with me. (If it wasnt ...
A. 16 August 2011: I think you should just add him. You know each other, you've spoken to him and, although you may not be proper friends, I don't think it would come across weird to add him. If you want to get to know him better, go for it!... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him my heart races and I have butterflys...what is it?
Q. Well i decided to go back out with my ex and we'd been going out for 3 months last year but ended it cause we both thouight we didnt see enought of each other. i had been out with a few other guys since that but every time id see his name pop up id ...
A. 14 July 2011: You clearly really fancy him! Maybe you subconsciously feel a bit more nervous around him now because you split and got back together. You probably didn't like him as much as you do now the first time round. Lots of people get butterflies around ... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge and tell him how I feel or risk ruining our friendship ?
Q. I'll spare you all the details but basically, he asked me out last year, I had to say no for personal reasons, but I liked him and have realized over the course of the last few months that I'm ready to date again, and I'm still into him. Whether or ...
A. 13 July 2011: I agree with your friend. Considering how close you are as friends, you don't want to be too intense with him. But I reckon that there's a good chance he still likes you, and if he knows that you couldn't date him last year for personal reasons, he ... (read in full...)
Rejected by her once before, but should I try again or will I make a fool of myself ?
Q. Hi all i was wondering what is everyone's views on a guy proposing twice. should he do it? to be more exact there is this girl whom i dated for a month and we got really close. as a matter of fact you would have sworn she was more into me than i w...
A. 13 July 2011: I don't think you should ask her to be your girlfriend again just yet. You were clearly hurt when she rejected you the first time so naturally you're more cautious about asking her again, which is best I think.
Before you do anything, you need to f... (read in full...)
Anytime my crush is around, I freeze up and can't talk!
Q. Hello, I have an important question. I met this guy (I knew who he was beforehand though) at church and immediately developed a crush on him. This guy is perfect, and I mean it. He has the best taste in music, books, and is a real man of God. My p...
A. 9 July 2011: I think you need to stop putting so much pressure on yourself. You need to build up your confidence around him. I think you should start off by just giving him the odd smile and saying hello to him whenever you see him. You don't need to erupt into ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to carry on liking somebody even if they are taken?
Q. If someone (A) likes someone else (B), on an extreme level and for a long amount of time, but B does not openly return their affections and shortly enters into a relationship with another person, C, is morally and/or socially "wrong" for A to ...
A. 2 July 2011: I suppose it is ok, so long as A's love for that person lies within certain boundaries. Emotions don't have switches, so it would be difficult, if not impossible, for A to stop liking B at once, particularly if those feelings are particularly ... (read in full...)
How can I shake off this good girl image?
Q. Hi :) If anyone could help that would be lovely. Basically I have a problem that I've managed to create a good-girl image of myself and i want to get rid of it. I'm quite shy and not very outgoing around people I don't know very well, but im ...
A. 17 May 2011: Are you on Facebook? Everyone thought I was a right goody-two-shoes before I joined Facebook! Then suddenly rumours were going around that I'd gone wild and really changed. I haven't changed at all; people just didn't realize how outgoing I was ... (read in full...)
I cant understand why I feel the need to go back to him!
Q. i really need advice, i dont know if people know how it is to be in a controlling relationship, but i've recently got out of one. my ex boyfriend started of by being really lovely, coming to see me, buying me things, making me feel special telling ...
A. 17 May 2011: Stop blaming yourself for the whole situation. You're asking for advice, but you've taken the most essential steps already! You realize how he treated you was wrong, you're making an effort to move on and get on with your life, and addressing any ... (read in full...)
Why will he flirt with me online, but then act awkwardly towards me in school?
Q. I have been friends with a guy (i'll call him A) for a few years, but in the past 2 years we have gotten to know each other a lot better than we used to, we're much better friends now. A talks to me on things such as MSN and facebook, and we'll ta...
A. 17 May 2011: I definitely think there's a good chance that he fancies you. I was in a similar situation with someone that I used to date and those signs are ringing a lot o bells, including the teasing! The difference is that the guy I dated was very shy and he ... (read in full...)
How do I ask out a shy girl?
Q. How do I ask out a shy girl? I 'arranged' to meet her however there's no set time or place. How do I get a time out of her so we can meet up and get to know each other? I don't know her very well and I don't want her to feel intimidated, i'm a li...
A. 12 May 2011: I think the best thing would be to make her feel at ease before asking her. Talk to her for a bit first so that she's a bit more relaxed around you and then bring it up in conversation. Asking her straight out could throw her so she might be a bit ... (read in full...)
Would it be weird?
Q. A couple days ago I met a girl, we got a long great I was just wondering if it would be weird if I added her to msn, I already have her on facebook, but shes never on and I dont want to come off as creepy...
A. 20 April 2011: I think you should stick to facebook first and let things grow gradually if it develops. Most people only tend to add people they know well on msn. I think you should send her a message on facebook just asking how she is and maybe refer to when you ... (read in full...)
Am I too old fashioned about sex?
Q. It seems everyone is having sex these days. I'm only fifteen but I believe in 'no sex before marriage', I don't know why I believe in this because none of my family do. Everyone at school says I should try having sex with someone, I'm not at all ...
A. 18 April 2011: No, you're not at all old-fashioned and definitely not boring! I think you're more interesting actually, because you don't follow the crowd and have the strength of character to do this.
A lot of people feel the same way as you when it comes to s... (read in full...)
Do I have a shot with him?
Q. This guy i like... He has a girlfriend and i never see them together and i never hear either one talk about the other. Does this mean i might have a shot with him?...
A. 25 March 2011: No, he has a girlfriend. This guy is off limits. You might never see them together or hear them talk about each other, but this doesn't mean they're not close. Forget about him and move on, for your sake as well as his. Like aunt honesty said, for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says I'm too young for a relationship!
Q. I am 21 and my girlfriend is 25, she thinks that I am too young for a relationship. We get along great and the sexual activity is excellent. HELP!...
A. 25 March 2011: She's 25 so she's probably looking for a serious relationship with someone she can settle down with. You're 21 so I'd imagine she thinks you're just looking for a short-term thing and a laugh. You need to decide what you both want out of the rela... (read in full...)
Why do I get over guys so quickly?
Q. I don't know what to do because i think that this could be a problem with me and guys that will affect my dating life horribly. Basically i move on from guys too quickly! I don't do anything in that sense with them, it's just fancying them and ...
A. 19 March 2011: I think it just shows that there was something missing with every guy you've been interested in. If you can move on so quickly without a second thought, you probably see something in that person that you didn't see in the last. It's probably ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I might be bi?
Q. Well, oka here goes. I really don't know what I'm on this website for but i need some help. Well basically i think i might be bi. I'm 16, so i've had relationships in the past, with guys. They've all gone well and i enjoyed the stuff we did ...
A. 19 March 2011: First off, don't put so much pressure on yourself. I know it's natural to do that but the reality is that it's a lot more complicated than straight-bi-gay. It's not black and white. You know you're attracted to guys, but confused when it comes to ... (read in full...)
Still crazy in love with my stud, still need to know, does he love me too?
Q. I am crazy in love with this boy at school and he does know, but doesn't say anything about it. he will come over to me at break and lunch or in lessons with his mates and they would say, do you like him when they know i do he just stands there and ...
A. 19 March 2011: It sounds like he could like you, but unfortunately none of us are going to be able to give you a reliable answer! So if you want to know how he feels, ask him. He's clearly too shy to mention it so it's down to you. At least then you'll be given ... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently? She was a virgin. I was drunk. Her family could be a problem
Q. hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ...
A. 19 March 2011: I disagree with GeeGee255. It doesn't matter what you do, you'll probably end up breaking her heart. I'd rather someone tell me straight if they're not interested than being led on. So even if it's difficult, try to stop it going any further now. ... (read in full...)
My friends say my facebook friend could be dangerous, but she is so nice!
Q. Hi, There is this person on facebook who is adding people from my school including me and that person has been emailing me saying that that person is a girl and is new to our school but never comes outside because she is too shy, and her profile ...
A. 17 March 2011: Who knows what's going on. Given that he lied to you saying that he was a girl, I think you should be hesitant to trust him. He sounds pretty dodgy and even if he sounds familiar, be very careful!... (read in full...)
How do you play hard to get by text?
Q. How do you play hard to get when texting a guy? I know most people don't like the idea of the 'play hard to get' game. So please, if you're one of them, this question isn't for you. ...
A. 13 March 2011: Don't text back straight away? Also if he asks you a question, you could possibly try putting off answering it for a bit. As in, give open-ended answers or ask him questions to keep him guessing. But don't do this too much or he'll think you're not ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my boyfriend wants sex
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and recently he's been wanting more from me. I'm only 14 and he's asked me for sex, he is the same age too. I like him but I'm scared he's using me for sex or just too look good. I'm really worried in-case ...
A. 13 March 2011: If you're not ready for sex, then don't do it. More than that, it's crucial to remember that at 14 it'd be illegal for you to have sex!
You clearly like your boyfriend, so I understand that it's difficult for you not to give in to him. But in the ... (read in full...)
My friends say my facebook friend could be dangerous, but she is so nice!
Q. Hi, There is this person on facebook who is adding people from my school including me and that person has been emailing me saying that that person is a girl and is new to our school but never comes outside because she is too shy, and her profile ...
A. 11 March 2011: This sounds very dodgy. It's a bit convenient how they've tried to win you over by saying they're shy and new to your school. But they're apparently male? And you have no proof that this 'girl' actually exists?
I agree with the others. This need... (read in full...)
Is this a date or not? What do you think?
Q. Well I met this girl at a party a few weeks ago and I’ve asked her out for dinner. So I am picking her up and taking her out. Problem is, I’m not sure whether it’s a date or not. We don't see each other much around school, but we text constantly and ...
A. 5 March 2011: I agree with aunt honesty. Don't worry about whether it's a date or not. It's what you make of it. The point is that you're taking her out, and that's the most important thing. Don't put pressure on yourself. Just go, enjoy yourself and spend time ... (read in full...)
I like 2 guys and they like me too: how do I choose??
Q. I like two guys. They both say they like me too but here is the problem. Guy 1 and I have known each other and for the past month we have been hanging out with each other, but he had a thing with my best friend. And I know I should step off, she ...
A. 20 February 2011: Do you need to be with either? You sound as if you just want someone to go out with but you don't really need to. You've listed negatives for both of them so why not just leave it? You're still very young. Have fun!... (read in full...)
He gave me herpes! How do I tell him?
Q. My ex boyfriend gave me herpes and I'm sure it's him because he is the one I lost my virginity to. But anyways since him I haven't been dating. I'm scared and worried what's going to happen to me now. But my main concern is how to tell him that he ...
A. 20 February 2011: You really need to tell him.
I can understand that it's difficult though so I'd suggest you're not too blunt when you tell him. Tell him that you have herpes, even if it's difficult for you. You don't want to come across that you're accusing him ... (read in full...)
She's not a virgin but doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. Hello everyone, thanks for taking the time to read my question. Anyhow so I currently have a girlfriend. She is not a virgin; I am. We have been dating for 8 months now and I want to have sex but she keeps telling me she wants to wait until ...
A. 20 February 2011: This is not BS, and you shouldn't feel insulted! This girl clearly thinks a lot of you even if you can't see that! You mean more to her than the guys she had sex with, not less! If she wants to wait until marriage it's because she wants the first ... (read in full...)
How can I ask out a guy who already has a gf?
Q. I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. And he doesn't even know that I feel this way about him. I want to ask him out but I'm terrified to do it because I don't want it to be awkward if he turns me down. Also, I don't want him to be ...
A. 20 February 2011: Don't ask him out. He has a girlfriend. It's very likely he'd turn you down and you'd end up humiliated. Sorry if this wasn't what you wanted to hear.... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me back?
Q. Does my crush like me back? i have a huge crush on this guy but i dunno if he likes me back or not. Sometimes ill see him staring at me and hell look away fast or just keep staring, or sometimes ill think hes staring at me but hes looking somewhere ...
A. 17 February 2011: Yeah, there's a chance he might like you. I suggest you try talking to him and get to know him better. Smile back at him, say 'hi' and have a chat with him. ... (read in full...)
How do I hold hands with my shy boyfriend for the first time?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost two months now, and we haven't held hands and we've only hugged once. We are both very shy, me especially, and he's very hard to read. I would really like to hold hands, hug, or cuddle with him; but ...
A. 17 February 2011: If you're both shy, then just go for it yourself! He probably feels exactly the same way as you and is hoping you'll make the first move. But if this carries on, nothing will happen! One of you has to act first, so if you want to hold his hand I ... (read in full...)
Is this age gap too big?
Q. how big an age gap is too big? the guy i like is 24, and i'm 17. that's quite a big gap, but i was just wondering if it's too huge or if it's acceptable because my opinion is just what i want to hear so i wanted to know other opinions....
A. 1 February 2011: I think it depends on the person. One of my friends was 17 when she got with a guy who's 7 years older, but she's quite mature for her age. You tend not to notice the age gap and they're very happy together. But with some people an age gap like this ... (read in full...)
Now that she's taken I want her!
Q. I am so lonely at times and i would always call her. she love me so much in my middle school days for at least 2 years. I didnt even bother trying to make any move with her. I did a stupid part. I kind of liked her, but didnt really want a ...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds like you had your chance and lost it. So moving on would be the best thing for you to do. You're still very young and there are loads of other girls who are available. Now she has a boyfriend, she's a no-go area. As the others have said, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not kiss me!
Q. hey, i need help! my boyfriend and i are still in our hugging phase but i want to kiss him. im scared if he doesnt want to, and i dont want to make the first move! help! :|...
A. 1 February 2011: He's probably scared like you. But one of you has to make the first move or it'll never happen! I think you should either ask him to kiss you or go for it yourself. He's your boyfriend, so I'm pretty sure he'd want to kiss you! Good luck.... (read in full...)
Both virgins, on birth control pills.... do I REALLY need a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins but we are planning on having sex in a couple of weeks. She's started taking birth control pills so there is no chance of her getting pregnant. We havent had sex so STI's are also out of the equation so do i ...
A. 31 January 2011: It's understandable that you don't want to wear one but, as the others have explained, it'd be best to do so. It doesn't matter how much contraception you use, you'll never be 100% safe. So basically the more protection you use, the better. To be as ... (read in full...)
He's my friend but I really like him and he thinks I'm not a virgin...
Q. So i'm at University and I have this great bunch of friends. Within this group is a guy who I really like, I can't go a day without thinking about him. I have a feeling that he likes me as well, he treats me nicer than the other girls in our group ...
A. 31 January 2011: Don't worry. I don't think it'd be as awkward as you think. I'm pretty sure if you explained to him the truth and that you just felt embarrassed that he'd understand. A lot of people lie about how many people they've slept with for the same reason. ... (read in full...)
How do you lose fat from your inner thigh?
Q. I am needing to lose fat off my inner thigh. Dose anyone have a suggestion over it. Cause it could really help me out. I mean I have try everything. ...
A. 31 January 2011: Unfortunately, you can't lose fat anywhere specific without surgery. If you lost weight in general then you would lose fat from your inner thigh, but you'd also lose weight everywhere else.
The only other thing you could do is to exercise your thig... (read in full...)
I have days where I like both guys and girls. Then I have days where I like just girls.
Q. Im only 17 and i dont know if im Straight, Bi or Gay. this can sound weird but i enjoy watching Gay porn, but i wouldnt want to do it in real life, i would only do it if something changes my mind, for years now I've loved this girl and i still li...
A. 31 January 2011: Don't worry about it. There's no need to label yourself as straight, bi or gay. It's not that simple. There's a lot of grey area when it comes to sexuality. You could be straight but find members of the same sex attractive, but that doesn't have to ... (read in full...)
How would I suggest we have a FWB relationship? And is it a good idea?
Q. Okay so, me and this guy "D" were dating for about a week before I found out he had been cheating on me with two girls. This happened around 6 months ago. ''D'' and I really haven't talked much since then until a couple days ago when I decided to a...
A. 29 January 2011: Generally, friends with benefits ends in disaster. It never seems to work out happily. Someone always falls for the other person, when the other just wants to use that person for sex.
You haven't lost your virginity yet. Having sex for the firs... (read in full...)
Weird to have few friends? I have moved 4 times in 2 years during middle school.
Q. I have moved over 4 times within 2 years, during my 7th and 8th grade years. That means I have attended 5 middle schools. I made many friends in each middle school, but never got a chance to become best best friends... So in high school, I basically ...
A. 28 January 2011: No. That's understandable. When you've moved around so much it can be difficult to find a good friend in someone, and for that to stick. That can be difficult even if you haven't moved around.
But I really think you should try and be more soci... (read in full...)
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