What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party?
Q. What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party? I have a Pinterest board setup and shared it with my bridal party and they are having opposing views on what they ...
A. 2 May 2017: You might be asking people to outlay a lot of money .... I've noticed it is getting expensive to accept a wedding invitation, and family members are in no position to refuse. Then there's your shower (another gift to be purchased) and the ... (read in full...)
Is it too late to change careers?
Q. Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...
A. 28 April 2017: Talk to your wife and get her onboard. I would also consider talking to your GP for a referral for a few counselling sessions, it seems you are taking the few bad decisions made difficult to reconcile with ... its possible you might feel better ... (read in full...)
My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?
Q. I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...
A. 26 April 2017: Your partner is a prat! I am assuming you live in the same house, whose it is?
The fact he compares your parenting skills unfavourably to their step mother's even though he has never seen her interacting with your children says heaps.
He is a... (read in full...)
Where do I stand in this relationship? What can I say to him to get the answers I need? 2
Q. So I've been talking/meeting this guy since last May, which is nearly a year ! He says he doesn't want to rush into a relationship because his last girlfriend cheated on him. And he tells me to be patient for a relationship because he will have to...
A. 26 April 2017: There is nothing you can say that will get your boyfriend caring more about you and being interested in your and what is happening in your life .... he simply doesn't appear to be there for you.
From the outside looking in it appears he is just ... (read in full...)
Should I be unfriendly and block my ex on facebook?
Q. Am no longer in a relationship but remain on FB as friends. The man private messages me with casual conversation frequently but doesn't openly address my posts/pictures. He recently asked me if he should accept a friend request from a superior at ...
A. 22 April 2017: If you believe he is using facebook to taunt you and also feel slighted by him, then yes, unfriend and block him as well. You are under no obligation to remain friends on facebook, just like he is under no obligation to like your pictures.
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Why 25 later after an affair with my wife does this ex friend want to get together?
Q. My wife had a intense two year long affair with a single friend of ours back 25 years ago...we had tried a threesome with him,after a nite of drinking, and I found out rather quickly that I wasnt into it, but as it worked out my wife and this other ...
A. 22 April 2017: It doesn't really matter what his reasons are ... what matters is how you feel about it. Would YOU be happy for the friendship to be rekindled? Would having him back in your lives add anything positive?
Personally I wouldn't be able to get past... (read in full...)
My husband pays far too much attention to his brother's chesty girlfriend
Q. My husbands younger brother has this girlfriend she's quite pretty and has a large chest and everyone loves her and all the rest of it bla bla bla. My husband openly stares at her in front of everybody it's like he doesn't even try to hide it even ...
A. 19 April 2017: It doesn't sound like they are having an affair but it does sound like your husband doesn't have a problem disrespecting you.
Comparing you unfavourably to another woman is hurtful, I don't care how many times he says it was just a joke, he is ig... (read in full...)
When I try to talk to my girlfriend about her flaws it always turns into an argument
Q. Okay so i have a girlfriend and i love her to bits but sometimes she can doing very annoying things, but whenever i bring them up she acts like its a massive problem and it always turns into an argument....
A. 19 April 2017: We ALL do things that annoy other people to varying degrees ... so really we need a little bit more information about the sorts of things you find annoying.
Me, I would find it very difficult to stay in a relationship with somebody who picked t... (read in full...)
I had to cancel my wedding because of my boyfriend's attitude, I'm still trying to make it work but he has nothing to offer to the relationship and wants me to justify why I want to get married!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for six, almost seven years. We got together in our early 30's and are now in our late 30's. I've always been very vocal about what I want from our relationship - a long term commitment with marriage an...
A. 18 April 2017: You have tried long and hard enough. He isn't going to change. You don't trust him.
You live in separate rooms.
He refuses to get help for his medical issues.
What's there to stay for? You need to decide if you are content to live like thi... (read in full...)
Is it worth breaking up over this situation?
Q. Alright so this is kind of a confusing situation for me and I'm really in need of opinions/advice. I've been with my fiance for a little over 3 years. A couple months ago, I found out that he was talking to another woman basically the same way...
A. 17 April 2017: Oh, excuse me, did you not notice your fiancé is a liar, a scammer, thief and a cheat?
How come the fact he is lying to another woman to scam (steal) money from her slipped your notice, or are you okay with that?
How would he think you would ... (read in full...)
I have my ex husband's last name. My current boyfriend wants me to change back to my maiden name. Should I?
Q. My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband. It is just easier as my child's last name would be the same as mine. My boyfriend said it does not matter if my child's last name is different from his mother. I ...
A. 15 April 2017: Its YOUR name, a name you are comfortable with and that you share with your child ... unless your boyfriend can give a valid, well thought out reason for you to CONSIDER his request just tell him no.
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Am I selfish and bad to be feeling so disappointed that he reneged on his original decision to aim to propose to me soon?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a while, and a few months back he told me when he'd hope to propose. I was getting very excited. That time-frame hasn't happened yet, however now he is saying he simply cannot afford the ring...
A. 14 April 2017: Would you be happy with a piece of sting tied in a knot around your finger as a symbol of his promise or a much less expensive ring ... you sound as if you would.
Him telling you he intended proposing was a promise of sorts, and he has broken i... (read in full...)
I still think of my ex all the time. Does that suggest that I should break up with the new lady, who I am currently dating?
Q. Am seeing some one new, for the last couple months, so my question is, what does it mean when I say, ''I wish my ex would of treated me this good''. Does it mean I should break up with the new one? I still think of my ex all the time, over a year ...
A. 5 April 2017: By holding tight onto memories of your ex, who did not treat you well, you are unable to open your arms wide to accept all the good things this new relationship could bring.
You need to decide if you are going to continue holding tight to the past... (read in full...)
Mr E makes me feel like a woman. Yet my unsatisfactory boyfriend does make time for me. Which one will be the best choice?
Q. Hello aunts, I am in a bit of a mix here and I know I have complicated everything so much and would appreciate your candid advice. The issue is between my ex boyfriend who I refuse to let go and who loves me, refuses to let me go and an old acqu...
A. 3 April 2017: There is a third choice, chose neither and spend some time contemplating what you want from life ... set some life goals that don't rely on any body else, determine if you want to travel or get your own home, if you need to study more or take a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to work in the office anymore. But should I tell the agency and end up jobless? what should I do?
Q. Recently I've been feeling down, upset and fed up with my life. I have many things going on and I just can't see life getting better at the moment. I sometimes think that it would be much easier and better being with my mum, since she passed a...
A. 3 April 2017: First up I am sorry to hear about your Mum, its never easy to lose a parent but for it to happen to you at such a young age would be difficult to bear.
While I would never advocate somebody stay in a job where they are unhappy, as you seem to ... (read in full...)
Why are those women items still laying around, is he lying?
Q. Hi, So The times that I have gone to my boyfriends apartment, I have seen around 3 or 4 woman stuff laying around, on the bathroom, I saw a black eyeliner, closed kotex pads, thrown in a corner of the bathroom, there was also like two shopping bags ...
A. 2 April 2017: They broke up 2013 its now 2017 and he hasn't cleaned up once for at least three years.
Ewww!
Is it safe to assume he is better at personal hygiene than he is at keeping his home clean? I'd be mentioning the women's items and asking him if th... (read in full...)
I want to release my creativity but fear keeps taking over. What can I do?
Q. I want to release my creativity by doing things and possibly making a youtube channel. But every time I attempt any type of art, I overthink it, make it more than what it seems. I let my fears take over and weigh me down. Singing makes me hap...
A. 2 April 2017: Join an amateur theatre club, start off small and go from there, or see if there are any singing groups that meet to sing for fun (not a serious choir) and join. Find a night school or similar and do some short courses or weekend workshops in all ... (read in full...)
My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi, just looking for some advice please My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do. Background info- we've been together 2 years, live together (against their wishes). I'm 25 and he's 26. I have never given ...
A. 31 March 2017: Where does he see your relationship in say 12 months, 2 years, 5 years .... does he believe the relationship he has with you is permanent or simply a gap filler?
What if you fell pregnant tomorrow? What then, what of the child and the fact his... (read in full...)
He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!
Q. Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...
A. 30 March 2017: Secret marriage? Are you sure he isn't still married somewhere else? It all seems a bit dodgy to me.
Also you say HE is pushing for a big wedding and honeymoon, HE is wanting a wedding in the fall, however you also say he wants to marry in the s... (read in full...)
I want more sex but he would rather masturbate to porn with young girls with boobs!
Q. We have lived together 2.5 years. I'm 44 with 2 grown up kids living at home, he is 40. He works 10.5 hour days with an extra hour on top for travelling and claims to be too tired for sex. We will usually have sex once a week, sometimes twice a week ...
A. 27 March 2017: You have told him you don't like porn in the relationship and he agreed to stop but it has happened at least 5 times since then .....
So, what are YOU going to do now, he doesn't have enough sex with you and he uses porn which you have asked hi... (read in full...)
I am confused! Why didn't my professor call when I left her my number?
Q. I'm in 4th year of Psychology school, and I am 23 years old. There's this older professor (a woman, in fact). She was married a few times (five, to be exact, all to men), there are rumors that she hooks up with students (not sure which sex), and ...
A. 27 March 2017: She is your professor, and you are her student, it really is none of your business what goes on inside her head, it is also none of your business if she has been married five times nor if those marriages were to men or women.
Stop with the goss... (read in full...)
Going silent on me after I asked him how he felt about me by telling me he would talk to me when he is ready.
Q. Hi. I don't know what to make of my bf's behavior. I asked him a week and a half ago ago who he felt about me, because we are in a long distance relationship and do not get to see one another very often. I don't know how he feels about me, th...
A. 26 March 2017: What a horrible, manipulative controlling person he sounds. You are correct when you say you can't accept his behaviour as healthy!
I doubt very much he has broken up with you but more wishes to punish you for bringing up subjects he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry
Q. My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...
A. 25 March 2017: If your boyfriend's income, whether he owns a business or is an employee or contractor, depends on him taking clients to lunch, or to a bar, then he is effectively working and private phone calls could, in the vast majority of cases, be deemed ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry
Q. My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...
A. 25 March 2017: If your boyfriend's income, whether he owns a business or is an employee or contractor, depends on him taking clients to lunch, or to a bar, then he is effectively working and private phone calls could, in the vast majority of cases, be deemed ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?
Q. I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...
A. 24 March 2017: This post seems to have degenerated ....
I've looked through the responses by the original poster ... where does she say she is a single mother with only a brother for family
This is not a forum for slanging matches. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry!
Q. My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry. He called my ex a saint for doing it and said he must care about me to do it still. Like there is an emotional connection and he feels I should finish with the relationship entirely. But the ...
A. 23 March 2017: Uh oh! You share a child with your ex, the child, as well as yourself, will generate laundry. Your option is to use a laundromat, which costs, or ex husband will do laundry for you at no cost which effectively gives you more cash in hand to ... (read in full...)
Married five months and husband wants me to have an abortion.
Q. I've recently got married to my husband. We are very happy, and I have never felt more secure in all my life. We agreed to wait a few years before having children, and to focus on renovating our house which we brought before Christmas. We'll on ...
A. 23 March 2017: Your feelings of being let down are completely understandable. If you husband, bless his cotton socks, hadn't 100% wanted a baby yet he should have either tied a knot in it or practiced abstinence.
Tell him to take his childish tantrum home to ... (read in full...)
Whose last name do I give to my baby?
Q. My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...
A. 22 March 2017: You are the child's parent, it appears you will be responsible for making the major decisions and also the day to day care of this child. Give him your name ....his absent father's name is not one to be proud of.
Good luck and best wishes t... (read in full...)
What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?
Q. I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...
A. 22 March 2017: My father in law, a widower, was in his late 50s, married a lady in her 50s, and they had a happy marriage for 30 years ...
HOWEVER personal observations do suggest women in their 50s are less likely to become involved in loving relation... (read in full...)
Bad sign or just a poor planner?
Q. After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...
A. 22 March 2017: Give him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if he flakes out again with little or no notice I'd not waste any more of my time or energy and dip your toe back into the big dating pool.... (read in full...)
Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?
Q. I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...
A. 21 March 2017: Separated from his wife for a month and already getting close and smooching up with the new girl. I think that is a very good indication of what he thinks of marriage.
Yes, you have the right to be upset and I think you should let him know how... (read in full...)
How can I deal with missing her in a LDR?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and we're madly in love with each other, we plan on getting married next year actually.She's 17 and i'm 18. She lives in Stockton and I live in Sacramento. I haven't seen her for a month because ...
A. 20 March 2017: I'm glad to hear you both intend continuing with your studies after you and your girlfriend are married .... are you planning a wedding with guests or a ceremony with just you, her and a pair of witnesses? Who is going to pay for that?
Once ... (read in full...)
He says he cares for me deeply ....
Q. DeAr CuPiD I met this guy in Belize in January and coincidentally he lived not to far from me back home. After vacation was over we started hanging out back home and we've been having the most incredible time together. We both just got out of ...
A. 20 March 2017: If somebody told me they cared deeply I would take it that we were more than "just friends".
If you and he have agreed to take things slowly he may not be ready to make declarations of love.
I think you should ask him what he means by it, per... (read in full...)
How can I deal with missing her in a LDR?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and we're madly in love with each other, we plan on getting married next year actually.She's 17 and i'm 18. She lives in Stockton and I live in Sacramento. I haven't seen her for a month because ...
A. 20 March 2017: The best way to deal with being apart is to keep busy, such as getting a part time job or taking up a hobby or getting involved in a sport.
I am more concerned at your plans to marry next year, when you will both be very young, have you thought ... (read in full...)
His girlfriend is coming between my old friend and me!
Q. I've been best friends with a guy from grade school, and we were so close and I love him like a brother. We don't see each other very much anymore since I went to college, but we always kept in regular contact via text and Facebook. He has a ...
A. 19 March 2017: Who told you his girlfriend went crazy? Your friend?
Your (former) friend is the one who blocked you, I don't know how you "know for sure" his girlfriend is behind him blocking you and refusing to communicate with you, but unless she has somehow ... (read in full...)
His girlfriend is coming between my old friend and me!
Q. I've been best friends with a guy from grade school, and we were so close and I love him like a brother. We don't see each other very much anymore since I went to college, but we always kept in regular contact via text and Facebook. He has a ...
A. 19 March 2017: Who told you his girlfriend went crazy? Your friend?
Your (former) friend is the one who blocked you, I don't know how you "know for sure" his girlfriend is behind him blocking you and refusing to communicate with you, but unless she has somehow ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't know if he likes her or not or if she has a chance with him
Q. Just wanted to say thank you for taking your time to read this first. This has nothing to do with me, my friend is having problems reading this guy she likes and I thought asking here would help as I understand a lot of people here give out go...
A. 19 March 2017: I think the guy in question HAS stated how he feels, he has told her he isn't interested in a relationship and has not contacted her in the two weeks since.
To be he has effectively used non verbal communication to get his feelings across ... your... (read in full...)
I want to be her friend and be there for her, but I don't want to be a problem for her and her new boyfriend if she still has any feelings. Advice?
Q. Dear friends This may take some time to explain, so thanks in advance. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend last august, but i had wanted to end the relationship since the previous february. In total we were together for about 1 year and 3 ...
A. 18 March 2017: I don't get why people want to remain "close friends" with people they have broken up with ... and I believe HoneyPie is correct when she says your ex girlfriend wants you hanging around just in case the new guy doesn't work out.
My advise i... (read in full...)
I feel like a third wheel in my own relationship! Any advice?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, Me and my bf of a while now have usually been quite close with each other... Even though the majority of our relationship has been long distance, we've tried to keep each other happy and made sure to spend enough time toge...
A. 18 March 2017: There are no two ways about it, that girl isn't your friend, and as for your boyfriend telling you he is too busy to talk or text with you but he has heaps of time to be communicating with her ... what a load of codswallop!
Prepare yourself... (read in full...)
Do I quit my job? I feel my coworker doesn't like me, and some of the behaviour at work feels like bullying to me.
Q. I work for a warehouse factory that distrubutes sporting things such as football tops and trophies etc. I'm being bullied at work from my boss and the assistant of the boss and they can't seem to leave me alone for five minutes. everytime I go into ...
A. 14 March 2017: Its easier to get another job while you are still employed, start looking for work, get friends to keep an ear to the ground and to check any notice boards etc. that might be in places you don't frequent very often. Also dedicate some time each ... (read in full...)
Was he right to say I need "more education?"
Q. Hi.. I've been with my bf for about 7 months. He has a degree in classics, privately educated, where as I have A levels and I quit a dead end job because of depression and couldn't handle it. I still am intelligent and we have deep conversatio...
A. 13 March 2017: Good on you for telling him he could "bog off" if he thought a degree was a requirement .... he sounds like a pretentious snob.
I feel it might be too soon to decide if the relationship is sustainable, he may still be capable of some growth i... (read in full...)
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