Was he right to say I need "more education?"
Q. Hi.. I've been with my bf for about 7 months. He has a degree in classics, privately educated, where as I have A levels and I quit a dead end job because of depression and couldn't handle it. I still am intelligent and we have deep conversatio...
A. 13 March 2017: Good on you for telling him he could "bog off" if he thought a degree was a requirement .... he sounds like a pretentious snob.
I feel it might be too soon to decide if the relationship is sustainable, he may still be capable of some growth i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said my genes were inferior and any flaws would come from me
Q. Boyfriend of almost two years and I were watching a movie (Harry Potter) and I was jokingly saying that I would name our future son Albus cause he was a bad-ass. My boyfriend said it'd be too much pressure for a kid to live up to. I laughed and ...
A. 9 March 2017: nahhhhh, not the sort of person you want to consider spending the rest of your life with.
And a big whoopee doo to his ex having a Masters ... how does that reflect his genetics, is she his sister or something?
Pack your bags, I wouldn't bothe... (read in full...)
Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?
Q. Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...
A. 9 March 2017: My father in law married a lady in her 50s and they went on to have a further 30 happy years together.
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Blocking's been unsuccessful. How to stop a woman obsessed with my Bf from messaging him on social media?
Q. Hello. So I need help on stopping someone from harassing my boyfriend. I am 21 and he is 24 and since high school, his friend met a girl our age who pretended to be my friend when I didn't know her at all and she's hung out with my boyfriend's ...
A. 9 March 2017: Just throw your hands up in the air and accept you cannot change this girl's behaviour. You also cannot force your boyfriend's friends to ignore this girl, and not accept friend requests from her new, fake IDs.
Your boyfriend can set the security... (read in full...)
Due to health issues, asking a relative to help seemed like a valid option. My relative is reluctant to help. What are my options?
Q. I have a dilemma and I'm looking for some advice! I've recently been diagnosed with cancer and am thankfully getting treatment but unfortunately this has meant an extended period of time off work that I was financially unprepared for. I will n...
A. 9 March 2017: I also note that you haven't said who the rows are between over your request for assistance. I hope people are not arguing with your grandmother.
If you are going to struggle with rent and other ongoing costs etc maybe consider storing your fur... (read in full...)
Due to health issues, asking a relative to help seemed like a valid option. My relative is reluctant to help. What are my options?
Q. I have a dilemma and I'm looking for some advice! I've recently been diagnosed with cancer and am thankfully getting treatment but unfortunately this has meant an extended period of time off work that I was financially unprepared for. I will n...
A. 9 March 2017: Because your question is more about the family politics, considering you have asked for help, and your grandmother is reluctant, and it has already caused some rows you need to let it drop and perhaps seek the financial support you need elsewhere.
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My co-worker was pushing invitations to her church, was my response rude?
Q. My co worker that I'm friendly with would always invite me to her church and church related activities. She got really pushy and told me not to disappoint God...that it is for my own good.I never had any interest until one day I decided to just see ...
A. 6 March 2017: What is your question?
I understand your initial response, religion is not for all of us, and your final apology offering an olive branch :-) should help in making sure your relationship remains cordial when you meet each other.
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I work with her. Should I act as if I do not know that she blocked me on FB? Or do I confront her?
Q. My friend at work blocked me on fb... I think it's pathetic, so do I confront her or not? (I'm thinking that I wouldn't really like to give her the satisfaction of knowing it's annoyed me...versus the making her squirm/lie about it...!!) ?? How d...
A. 5 March 2017: I'm sure she had her reasons for blocking you on facebook, and regardless if you or I find her reasons silly or juvenile or, like her, justified, those are her reasons and she has every right to them.
You, on the other hand, list your age as betwe... (read in full...)
I'm worried my reaction means I am not over him.
Q. I had a one year relationship. The guy was a jerk, and anyway we boke up. After not even seeing eaach other for like 3 months i suddenly see him on the road and i vomit. why does this happen? please tell me it's normal and that i don't still have ...
A. 28 February 2017: Your reaction was quite normal, I used to have the same reaction with some people in the past, even if it was just somebody talking about them.
I also sometimes have physical reactions when I am extra stressed in work type situations. Your ex ... (read in full...)
What should I do? He told me that he "fell out of love" with me like a month ago and now it's too late?
Q. Me and my fight friend have been friends for almost 2 years, 10 months ago he told me he wanted to date. When he first told me he liked me I was really nervous and not ready. I was young, immature, I had a lot of things going on in my life such as ...
A. 28 February 2017: let me recap
10 months ago he wanted to date, but you didn't
You didn't act well after that and despite the two of you arguing he stuck by you
4 months ago you had another argument and he told you he only wanted to be your friend, as a result you... (read in full...)
I'm scared to follow my dreams in case my past could be viewed as a scandal!
Q. I married a man who is my mother's ex-boyfriend's younger brother. Let me explain. So my mother dated a guy for two years, ten+ years ago. I was 18/19 at the time. The man lived with us as a 'step-father'. I was never around due to college, a jo...
A. 28 February 2017: Dear Op, don't stress over the rating thing :-)
I too come from a very small community, so I do get where you are coming from.
But, as for scandals, a very close member of my family is the product of a "scandal" and while I wont give too ma... (read in full...)
I'm scared to follow my dreams in case my past could be viewed as a scandal!
Q. I married a man who is my mother's ex-boyfriend's younger brother. Let me explain. So my mother dated a guy for two years, ten+ years ago. I was 18/19 at the time. The man lived with us as a 'step-father'. I was never around due to college, a jo...
A. 27 February 2017: Your scandal is not really that big in the scheme of things ... believe me there are far, far worse. Your problem is probably more the fact you have tried to hide the story of how you met, but that's not insurmountable either.
Chose a couple y... (read in full...)
Workplace problems... Did I deal with Jimmy in the right way? How do I handle the situation now?
Q. I've worked at 4 different job locations during my 8 years of working for this company. I've never really had "true friendship" with any of my co-workers because I was always the "new person" to join the facility. I came to this location about a ...
A. 27 February 2017: Wow! My mouth is full of foul words ... a young man is starting a family and because he didn't roll over like a dog and do what you wanted YOU SUSPENDED HIM for the remainder of the month? I assume that means without pay.
I know workplace legaliti... (read in full...)
Would I be betraying my Mom's memory if I get close to Dad's new girlfriend?
Q. Hello, My name is Bree. 2 years ago my mother died and it has been sad and rough for my Dad and I. When my mom died it really broke my Dad's heart, he loved her so much and misses her, and I miss her too. But last month my Dad told me he met another ...
A. 24 February 2017: You say your Dad is happy, ask yourself if Mom would want him to be happy or miserable for the rest of his life.
I think you already know the answer :-)
Enjoy your day out, take your time getting to know Dad' girlfriend, there is no reason to ... (read in full...)
I lost respect when I found out my friend was a home wrecker.
Q. I have a friend, lets call him x, who recently told me he's got a new girlfriend. I was happy for him, and asked the typical questions, appears she's a colleague of his and she's got two kids ages 7 and 4, that he hasn't met yet but is excited about ...
A. 24 February 2017: Yes, as mentioned, I also believe people should leave their current relationship before starting a new one, and I am sure that in a perfect world where nobody makes mistakes that happens.
It would seem that you see things in very black and whit... (read in full...)
I lost respect when I found out my friend was a home wrecker.
Q. I have a friend, lets call him x, who recently told me he's got a new girlfriend. I was happy for him, and asked the typical questions, appears she's a colleague of his and she's got two kids ages 7 and 4, that he hasn't met yet but is excited about ...
A. 24 February 2017: While I am totally against people in relationships not finishing one relationship before they start another I feel you and Y are making a lot of assumptions in this case and that you are prepared to toss a friend without first making sure you have ... (read in full...)
She's still sharing a bed with her partner of 6 years! What do I do?
Q. Hi I'm seeing a girl and have been for over 6 months but she's still living with her partner of 6 years ... I did know her before and was common knoledge they were not close ... she promised me she would leave once she got the finance to move out ...
A. 24 February 2017: Walk, don't run, don't look back, just walk quickly and with confidence towards a better outlook for yourself.
Surely being single would be better than this heart wrenching treatment you are receiving?
She has friends and family, you are ... (read in full...)
How can this be resolved? I want a Baby. He couldn't think of anything worse.
Q. My husband told me the other day he never wants to have children. I’m devastated. Don’t get me wrong I love him completely and can appreciate that it’s just how he feels but I feel angry and bitter and am having serious thoughts about leaving him if ...
A. 22 February 2017: Uh oh, Manchester United and his mates is his passion ...
Where does that put you on his list of priorities? Are you still going to be happy sitting at home while he and his cronies are out watching football and spending the next week dissecti... (read in full...)
I can't get in contact with my love who has moved on to another country. How can I deal with his absence?
Q. This boy that I have fallen in love with has moved to Spain and I have no way of getting in touch with him. Although he is back in summer but that's 5 months away. I'm worried he might find another girl whilst he's there and everyday I worry an...
A. 22 February 2017: Based on the fact he has not given you contact details nor did he bother telling you he was leaving it would be safe to assume the feelings of love are not reciprocated.
The best way to deal with this would be to spend some time accepting the love... (read in full...)
How should you say that you're rich, on Tinder?
Q. I'm not rich, but if a guy were rich, what would be the best way for him to say that he's (seriously) rich on something like Tinder?...
A. 19 February 2017: Rich guys don't need tinder ... if a rich guy wants to attract women he just goes to the places where women who want to attract rich guys hang out.
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How can I figure out what job suits me? Any tips on finding the perfect job?
Q. I work in a prestigious corporate role and I absolutely hate it. I feel like my life revolves around my job and I'm so dependent on it (money) that everyday just feels robotic. I went to school undergrad and grad and now I have a corporate role as ...
A. 19 February 2017: Start looking for something to feel passionate about, not to replace your job at this stage but something that rings your bell so hard you can't wait to finish your work each day to get at it!
It could be an activity where you set personal... (read in full...)
How do I cope with a gambling addicted boyfriend?
Q. How do I cope with a gambling addicted boyfriend? My partner of 2 years started gambling a lot about 2/3 months into the relationship. Ive tried my hardest to support and understand this problem ive offered to go to counciling with him or pointed ...
A. 19 February 2017: Regardless the form of gambling your boyfriend is addicted to he is never going to win .... the will always be the next big thing to put his money on, however large or small that amount of money is.
You are not his mother, treating him like a n... (read in full...)
How do I respond when friends query me on this? She uses a picture of herself with my BF as her profile picture on social media
Q. Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I am currently contemplating getting back into a relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. We split for 3 years, and he began dating someone else. They recently had a child together, but are not in a relatio...
A. 17 February 2017: Is it possible your ex hasn't told her yet that they are not in a relationship, I only ask because you do say they were dating and have recently had a child.
I am also wondering what reason he has given to her to take it down, after all she and ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 17 February 2017: That's nice Donna, but there is no reason why your husband cant give the friend a hand job or the friend give himself a hand job or even go buy one .... if you prefer to think giving sexual favours to somebody who isn't your husband or partner is a ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 16 February 2017: Doing it with his permission .... WTF! Do it WITHOUT his permission, and as SVC says, if you do decide to have sex or give sexual favours to his friend it will be strictly between you and the friend, and not discussed with him as to when, how, ... (read in full...)
She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?
Q. I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...
A. 15 February 2017: If your intent was romantic in nature why didn't you put your name on them? I don't understand your thought processes ... was she supposed to realise immediately they were from YOU and fall into your arms or what?
Tell her NOW that you were the... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 15 February 2017: Hell No!
Is that your role in life, provider of sexual favours? If you husband feels his friend needs a "mercy" hand job then he can give it to him. If his friend doesn't want a hand job from your husband he can take care of it himself, as he pr... (read in full...)
My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: Thanks for the update OP, he might not be stringing you along, maybe he doesn't realise how long its been.
I still think you need to ask him for a timeline, and if he cant give you a definite date its not worth hanging around waiting for him.
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My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: What sort of improvements is he wanting to make? Is he so morbidly obese they will need to cut him out of his room? Is he unemployed? Is he saving up for much needed dental work? Or a toupee?
Ask him what improvements he is wanting to make and... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's grandmother died, should I go to the funeral?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years grandma recently passed away. He's asking me to go to a funeral with him to comefort him. I told him I would feel out of place and not comefortable because I never really knew his grandma or other relatives besides his ...
A. 14 February 2017: Funerals are for the living. You boyfriend wants you there for support, accept his invitation and support him ...
This is not just about saying goodbye to Granny, its also a statement (he may not realise it) on your boyfriend's part that you... (read in full...)
How can I get my crush to notice me?
Q. There's a guy I'm interested in but I just can't seem to get him to notice me. I try to talking to him, flirting, touching, writing him some steamy notes, but he just won't respond. I asked him to our school Valentine's day dance and he turned me ...
A. 13 February 2017: Oh my gosh Girl! He is not interested, doesn't the fact he even curses you tell you that, why is that not sinking in?
You need to stop your crazy pursuing, he is NOT INTERESTED!
Who cares if he doesn't have a girlfriend, its not against the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't have the same feelings as I have for him from the beginning until the end
Q. My aunt introduced me to her husband's nephew 9mos.ago,he is a 4yr divorced man with 2kids,I also have a 13yr old son that's why get along so well. We were talking,messaging online for 8 mos until we decided to meet in Barcelona last week,he flew ...
A. 12 February 2017: Don't remain friends, why would you when you are hurting so much over this. If he is no longer interested in a relationship block his number, delete him from your phone and move forward.
If at some stage in the future you happen to be in the same... (read in full...)
A year after breaking it off with me he wants my phone number, should I give it to him?
Q. So I have a question I'd like some help with. I'm really confused as to whether I should get back with my ex. I was with my ex for 9 years 15-24. There were no issues everything was great almost perfect but nothing is perfect I guess. I loved h...
A. 12 February 2017: Are you planning on eventually settling down and having children? Are you aware of the changes you might see in your body during and after pregnancy ... what if your body doesn't bounce right back to pre pregnancy shape and size?
Will he decid... (read in full...)
Friend uploaded video of me saying things when drunk. She won't take it down but I'm worried
Q. My friend uploaded a video of us playing drinking games when we were at hers. In it, I am slightly tipsy (as we all are) and I can be heard saying rather inappropriate things which I feel could implicate my future. I've told her I'm worried abo...
A. 12 February 2017: Get your parents to write a formal letter requesting the video be removed immediately or they will be seeking legal advise from their lawyers. (Friends of mine did this when their daughter had something similar happen).
Then accept she is not y... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him?
Q. How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him? Is that even normal for a guy to feel? Early in our relationship, he was disappointed that I wasn't a virgin. Then he was weirded out when he found out that he wasn't ...
A. 12 February 2017: Should you reassure him and tread lightly? Hell no! If the little pudding's little feelies are going to get hurt this often I'd be considering if he was worth the effort!
Give him one last chance ... tell him you had sex before you met him, and... (read in full...)
I feel miserable and our relationship lacks excitement!
Q. Hi I've been with my fiance for 3 years now the problem is it feels like we've been together forever we never go anywhere together birthdays Christmas,s valentines day all get forgotten about by him he has a very easy job he works Monday/Friday ...
A. 11 February 2017: So what exactly are you getting from this relationship, beside sex maybe once every two weeks?
This about your answer very carefully
do you feel loved and nurtured?
do you feel cherished?
does he tell you often he loves you?
how far down h... (read in full...)
I think the married co-worker I've been flirting with is just looking for a fling, but I can't avoid him because we work together. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I have recently started a part time job which i love. Everyone is so lovely but I have found myself flirting with this guy. We text a lot and he says very flattering things but he is due to be married in a few weeks. He has two children with ...
A. 11 February 2017: True, if you work together you can't avoid him BUT you can start acting more professionally, you know, like work colleagues.
However you CAN block him, stop texting him, stop thinking about him in a flirty manner, if you are meeting him outside ... (read in full...)
It shouldn't be this difficult only 6 weeks into a relationship
Q. recently started a new relationship we've been together now around 6 weeks. he's 40 I'm 32 and we both work together. we've known each other for around 6 years now but we were always both in different relationships until recently. so at the ...
A. 11 February 2017: You may need to offload the baggage from the old relationship before you attempt a new relationship. From your submission it would seem you didn't give yourself enough time to sit and reflect and even recover from your breakup .... maybe pull back ... (read in full...)
Is It Time To Ditch My Toxic Friend?
Q. I've only known her for a few months, at the start she was OK but she has become nasty. She is always oneupping me in conversation. For example if I make a casual remark about how I like a dress or something, she'll be like "Oh that dress isn't for ...
A. 11 February 2017: Who needs this sort of crap in our lives .....
There is no law saying you have to invite people when you are going out with other people, she can be as passive aggressive as she likes, just stop letting it affect you.
There is no need for a bi... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 10 February 2017: I am with jls022 .... small communities DO know everything saucy almost before those incidents happen, there was an incident in my small town some 45 years ago and people still ask me about it, getting all the details wrong even if some small parts ... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret dumping a nice guy for a jerk?
Q. my question is do women, ever look back an wonder? they have been in a relationship for a while and the guy isn't very nice to them, not a gentleman or romantic, before him they were seeing a guy who was, but he wasn't a challenge,they thought he ...
A. 9 February 2017: I know lots of guys I would describe as nice, who are married, usually to nice women, have children, or nice single guys who are never short of a female partner when they want to go to a dance, or show, or need a partner for a wedding etc. ... (read in full...)
She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?
Q. I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...
A. 24 January 2017: What are you wanting here? If you want to say "thankyou" then send the flowers now ....
If you want to say "I am romantically interested in your" then send flowers on Valentines Day, however, please be aware that if she is NOT romatica... (read in full...)
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