She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?
Q. I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...
A. 15 February 2017: If your intent was romantic in nature why didn't you put your name on them? I don't understand your thought processes ... was she supposed to realise immediately they were from YOU and fall into your arms or what?
Tell her NOW that you were the... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret dumping a nice guy for a jerk?
Q. my question is do women, ever look back an wonder? they have been in a relationship for a while and the guy isn't very nice to them, not a gentleman or romantic, before him they were seeing a guy who was, but he wasn't a challenge,they thought he ...
A. 9 February 2017: I know lots of guys I would describe as nice, who are married, usually to nice women, have children, or nice single guys who are never short of a female partner when they want to go to a dance, or show, or need a partner for a wedding etc. ... (read in full...)
Is this male theory correct? Do woman wear matching black bra and panties when having sex is intended?
Q. Is there any truth to the theory that women wear black when they are planning to have sex with someone and also if you're going to have sex you wear matching bra and panties?...
A. 9 February 2017: Lots of women prefer the feel of nice undies against their skin and their underwear choices are made for that reason ... I always wear black because it is easier to launder and keep clean, its black regardless if I am cleaning the bathroom or going ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage him to consider discussing with me, and choosing a baby boy's name with me, where we both agree together on the name?
Q. My husband and I don't live together because we don't have jobs. I live with my mother and she is supporting me financially for the moment. She will also be getting a house for my bf and us to live in as well. I see my bf once a month, we live a...
A. 9 February 2017: Honeypie is correct, he has no more right to name the child than the man on the moon, regardless of gender. I like her idea of how to choose a name you both like .... that being said, is the father of the baby your husband or boyfriend? I ask this ... (read in full...)
We're engaged but I don't see a future
Q. Hi lately I feel like my relationship has no future we recently got engaged but he never wants to get married we have 1 child and he wants no more he never wants to buy a house together so I cannot see much of a future with this man I have always ...
A. 6 February 2017: If you honestly feel you will not have a "decent" future with him then you need to reconsider the relationship. Why settle for something less? You still have around (on average) fifty years on this earth, do you really want to spend those years ... (read in full...)
What if the tables were turned? Am I being a numpty for agreeing to her terms?
Q. Hey just like to ask if i've been a bit of a numpty. I'm not allowed a facebook nor messenger not sure why but to make her happy i said ill not make a facebook. She has both and lots of people added like people she works with and even people she s...
A. 5 February 2017: ohhh, who says you can't have facebook?? Your mummy? The great almighty?
You already know the answer, its right there in your last sentence. Whats good for the goose is sauce for the gander.
If you want facebook then get it. If your girlfrie... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't do any parenting with our two year old.
Q. Hi I've got a 2 year old son with my partner of 4 years we live together but we had a disagreement yesterday over something stupid to which he replied he goes to work for 8 hours a day the disagreement was because I asked him to wipe his hands and ...
A. 4 February 2017: Questions about non involved parents, usually the Dad's, who live in the same house as their partner/spouses and children but are not involved in the parenting of the kids always grieve me.
Are these men really so dense they don't realise their de... (read in full...)
I've tried talking about our problems but he doesn't listen ... what can I do?
Q. Hiya me and my boyfriend are both 30 we've been together for 4 years we have a 1 yr old daughter together the problem is ever since we got together we don't do anything together I've talked to him about it and we planned a date night once a month ...
A. 3 February 2017: What is in this relationship for you and your daughter? Consider your options ... does your 1 year old have an engaged Dad who shares her care, baths her, reads to her, puts her to bed, takes her for a walk or to visit his mother her granny?
... (read in full...)
My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...
Q. My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...
A. 2 February 2017: I am sorry about the confusion OP ...
I agree with Honeypie's advise that you should see your doctor about your PPD and also ask family for help if you are not getting enough sleep.
That being said I still feel you should line up your ducks i... (read in full...)
My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...
Q. My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...
A. 1 February 2017: Ask your husband if he meant it when he said at your wedding "til death do us part" .... ask him if your two babies and your health and peace of mind really are expected to come AFTER his statement of only death parting him and his ex wife?
... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or is it just banter?
Q. Okay so there was a point I really fancied this guy but then he gave the impression he was straight He recently snap shot two pics I took and drew a penis on them to make it look like I was sucking dick.... then text" bravo you don't like (the ...
A. 31 January 2017: I'm with the previous Aunt, its just tacky and really unfunny .... I am not picking up any flirting here, and seems more like the actions of a bully whose idea of fun is to hurt people and then say "oh, I was only joking"
Proceed with caution.... (read in full...)
I don't want to have a relationship with him but I'd like him as a friend.
Q. Me and my ex (who i've known my entire life) split up a year ago because he started to treat me bad and was showing signs of unfaithfulness. However, a year on me and him were supposedly over the relationship and he requested that we be friends. We ...
A. 29 January 2017: To answer your question, is this a good idea, no, it isn't.
He doesn't want you for a friend, he wants to manipulate you into being a convenient hole for him to stick his penis in ... he has no emotional attachment to you, why would you want to ... (read in full...)
He is much older but I want to have sex with him
Q. I knew a guy at work. I'm 22 he is 41. A very sexy man. Do u think he will have something with me after sex. We decided to be friends with benefits. He is in a relationship with a 31 years old . We planned to have sex this weekend. Do you think is ...
A. 28 January 2017: He is in a relationship, all he wants from you is sex. If he was interested in more with you then he wouldn't already have a partner.
You are setting yourself up for a whole lot of heartache, if this gets out in the workplace who do you think pe... (read in full...)
I know we can solve any problems but he just acts distant!
Q. Hi I really need some male opinion on this, I was friends with this guy 3 years ago we started having sex without admitting that we were in a relationship which was what we both wanted at that time ( though it seemed like we had feelings for each...
A. 28 January 2017: You say that you know for sure any problems can be solved, but I don't think the main problem can, because you are looking for a relationship and he simply wants to have sex with you ... any problems you feel may still exist don't bother him because ... (read in full...)
Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?
Q. I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...
A. 28 January 2017: When we are going to unload to somebody else with the expectation of a certain response we should really pre warn them its going to happen, for example, there was your chappie, beavering away at some research, when, out of the blue you contact him ... (read in full...)
How come I am not heartbroken?
Q. I had a huge crush on a girl for about 5 years. I went to school with her in high school, but now that I'm out I haven't spoken to her in person just over text. Recently I found out she just got a boyfriend, at first I thought I'd be all heart ...
A. 28 January 2017: She was a crush, if you were wanting something more than to admire her from afar you would have done more than talk over text since school ended.
I think your heart had already acknowledged there was nothing there, you just needed your head to ... (read in full...)
I like him and enjoy his flirting. But what should I do? Because I think he has a Gf already
Q. There's this guy I'm talking too. The problem is, I think he has a girlfriend.. We've been speaking a while and a few months ago, he told me that he can't take things forward with me because he has someone. I respected that and we remained to j...
A. 28 January 2017: The guy told you a few months ago he "had someone." Your friend has snooped on his facebook and confirmed he is in a relationship.
So you stopped talking to him for a few days, or as long as it took for you to decide his already having a girlfrie... (read in full...)
He gave me deadline to talk to my ex and when things didn't work out he ended things with me
Q. I need help to figure out who is the wrong one here. I'm 39 divorced and have a 10 years old daughter. My relationship with my ex is peaceful and it's just because we have a child together. I started dating for the first time, 3 years after divorce, ...
A. 27 January 2017: Oh, WOW, you have dodged a bullet, this new guy of yours who the hell does he think he is to dictate the relationship between you and your child's other parent ... ESPECIALLY as it has been amicable up until now.
I was already in a grumpy mood bef... (read in full...)
Having problems with my Aunt. Should I tell my dad about this?
Q. i've been posting several questions and for some reason i've been having endless number of dilemmas... At first i didnt know how to ask my parents for permission for a day out to celebrate my birthday and chinese new year (CNY). Eventually i a...
A. 26 January 2017: If your aunt is, like her friends, in her 60s and you are still in your early teens (16 or 17) it is only natural for the two of you to fail to understand where the other is coming from. However, I must say this, for an older woman of that age ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else dealt with something like this? My first serious girlfriend has since come out as a lesbian.
Q. I was a little bit of a late bloomer but in college I finally met a really amazing girl who became my first serious girlfriend and by that I mean that she was all my firsts: first kiss, first love, first sexual encounter. She had been with one...
A. 26 January 2017: I doubt very much you had anything to do with your first girlfriend coming out as a lesbian. I've got family members who started out in heterosexual relationships, only to find that wasn't who they were ... one even married, the big white dress and ... (read in full...)
8 years ago my birth brother wasn't interested, now I've found him on facebook and want to contact him.
Q. I accidentally found my birth brother on facebook a few days ago and I don't know if I should contact him or what I would even say to not freak him out. My mother gave him up for adoption 30 years ago and though we did get in touch with him 8 years ...
A. 26 January 2017: Because he wasn't interested 8 years ago I feel that this needs to be approached very delicately.
We don't know what he was told about the circumstances of his birth, or if he had a troubled childhood ... and there is a chance he blamed your mot... (read in full...)
Does being rich make a guy sexier, or does he just offer more security?
Q. Does being rich make a guy sexier, or does he just offer more security? What is better in a guy who is 20-30 years old.. Being super rich (through inheritance or the lottery), or having an $US80k job?...
A. 24 January 2017: Does a guy having money offer more security? I doubt it, especially if that guy is of the mind set that money equals power and the right to do whatever he wants.
As for what's better for a guy aged 20 to 30 ... if he has money from winning ... (read in full...)
She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?
Q. I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...
A. 24 January 2017: What are you wanting here? If you want to say "thankyou" then send the flowers now ....
If you want to say "I am romantically interested in your" then send flowers on Valentines Day, however, please be aware that if she is NOT romatica... (read in full...)
My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.
Q. My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...
A. 23 January 2017: Your son had every right to demand the phone to check in order to protect his girlfriend.
Your guests filming ANYBODY without their knowledge was in the wrong ... even worse to film somebody in THEIR OWN HOME!
If you and your husband don't ha... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?
Q. My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...
A. 22 January 2017: Nahhhhh I wouldn't touch this one with a ten foot pole, she knew what he was like, got another girl pregnant while he was dating her and then he hit up her friend in front of her?? WTF and then she tells you she wanted a REAL MAN?
Sounds to me sh... (read in full...)
My husband left me and I think he's now coming over to talk divorce. I don't think I can handle it
Q. Okay, So a few days ago my husband left and told me he wasn't coming home again via text. I tried so hard to give him space. I did send a few texts back to him and I never got a response. - Which is fair. The reason why he left is because i had ma...
A. 22 January 2017: Dear Op
the problem with writing into a site like this is that all sorts or answers are going to be available to you ... even some really weird ones which appear to suggest you are liking the drama and find it all a tad juicy. Ignore that!
... (read in full...)
My husband left me and I think he's now coming over to talk divorce. I don't think I can handle it
Q. Okay, So a few days ago my husband left and told me he wasn't coming home again via text. I tried so hard to give him space. I did send a few texts back to him and I never got a response. - Which is fair. The reason why he left is because i had ma...
A. 22 January 2017: Dear OP
from one Aussie Battler to another, read Ciar's post carefully, for she speaks a lot of sense, and truth.
Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way ....... (read in full...)
My husband left me and I think he's now coming over to talk divorce. I don't think I can handle it
Q. Okay, So a few days ago my husband left and told me he wasn't coming home again via text. I tried so hard to give him space. I did send a few texts back to him and I never got a response. - Which is fair. The reason why he left is because i had ma...
A. 22 January 2017: I read your previous post, your husband is a bully, an abusive bully.
If you don't want to see him today then don't see him. Pack up the kids and go to your mother's or sister's for the day, so that you have a chance to gather your thoughts... (read in full...)
She has decorated my bedroom space with love letters and trinkets and it's suffocating. What can I say and how should I approach this subject?
Q. I am in quite a new relationship with my girlfriend (just over 6 months) and things have been going well. Although recently she has started to decorate my bedroom with photographs, love letters and little trinkets. It is sweet, do not get me wr...
A. 21 January 2017: Woah! I wouldn't like this after such a short time. Where do you live, with your parents or somewhere else?
Okay, so she is a sensitive girl, but that shouldn't be the deciding factor in any decision making.
Her "decorating" YOUR room, your ... (read in full...)
I'm in a long-distance marriage and at a loss! What should I do?
Q. I am in my second marriage and my husband and I live in separate states. There is, of course, a backstory...but my main issue is simple. He does not make our marriage a priority. In this day and age, I don't even hear from him every day. If I do, I ...
A. 18 January 2017: What is the problem for him, ongoing issues with his son?
As he is not keeping you informed have you researched yourself to see why your husband's return home keeps being delayed?
While I will say our children are our priority your hu... (read in full...)
I’m angry with his mom and his sister and have reached a breaking point. I need input!
Q. Hello everyone, This is a long so please bear with me. I live with my boyfriend and his sister. Some background info: his sister is the youngest. She is a bit spoiled by her parents and doesn't have friends for various reasons. She's a princes...
A. 17 January 2017: I've recently had a few long, long flights so can empathise with you and your boyfriend feeling let down when you finally landed and your expected lift was not available.
However, from reading through it appears it could all have been miscommu... (read in full...)
He says my body is his.
Q. My partner of 3 yrs and i have a beautiful little girl who is 1. Lately my partner has been trying touching me and trying to penetrate me whilst we are playing with our daughter which i have put a stop to. He has started sayimg he can touch me ...
A. 17 January 2017: If you are planning to take your child and run for the hills you need to be aware your partner may be able to stop you legally removing the child from Australia.
Your partner's behaviour is not normal. I suggest you talk to your GP or child he... (read in full...)
Was that a one night stand?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a woman and we were looking to keep it casual. Friends with benefits if you will. Then when we get to my place asked her if she would like to have sex. She said no, and thought I was very attractive and fun, ...
A. 17 January 2017: Going out on a limb here reading between the lines she might have been looking for a relationship and now feels that she was coerced into having sex. The first 'no' should have meant no, not "persuade me"
I realise her actions after her initial ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 17 January 2017: Men are not brainless lumps of meat who, when they see a bit of pussy (to use President Elect's terminology) just have to whip out the old fella and let it have its way.
How insulting your words are to so many good, honest, hardworking, loving, ... (read in full...)
Is she his EX? Is my BF being honest to me? He seems very emotionally connected to his woman he says he is helping due to the woman's health issues
Q. About almost TWO years ago, my boyfriend who is 37 years old asked me (28 years old) to do him a favour and to please call his female ”friend” (27 years old) to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can ...
A. 17 January 2017: From your question I believe the following:
There is a woman from your country, currently married and living in the States who your boyfriend considers a friend. Previously he has believed she, and by association her children, were in danger f... (read in full...)
If I am talking online to a guy, just talking as friends, with nothing sexual said, BUT is it cheating for me to do this?
Q. Sometimes I talk to someone on Skype (just text never camera or voice), I came across them on Tumblr and we became friends. He is a guy and we mostly talk about random things, never anything sexual. He knows I have a boyfriend and to be honest h...
A. 17 January 2017: Why would your boyfriend dump you for talking to other people? Or having friends?
The fact you keep this person a secret from your boyfriend is indicative of an unhealthy relationship.
Maybe you could start introducing him to the idea of you ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...
A. 16 January 2017: Everywhere, everywhere in the world there are hookers, standing on corners, working the bars, lurking in stairwells, yes, possibly even just around the corner from where your boyfriend lives there is a hooker, just waiting like a dark malevolent ... (read in full...)
He ignores me. Feel like I'm walking on egg shells. Is there any hope for this troubled relationship? What should I do?
Q. What should I do about this relationship?. I will just tell you what happened recently. I have been with my boyfriend just over a year. There have been a lot of times where we have argued. He has a very short fuse. I feel like I am walking on eg...
A. 16 January 2017: Bloody hell, what is there here to love? Even his sister says you should leave him.
Him saying goodbye forever and then adding kisses to it was a control mechanism, to keep you hooked in.
He, and his family, use his drinking problem as an ex... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend isn't really committed to me!
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I'm really unhappy. I feel like he isn't really committed to me, I'll give you some examples. He's messaged other girls behind my back and admitted he l...
A. 16 January 2017: Sometimes being on our own is better than being with somebody who saps our energy, who isn't interested in recognising a relationship has flaws and requires some work.
By telling you to find somebody else your boyfriend is demonstrating he lazy,... (read in full...)
Why do I have to hunt down my vacationing boyfriend by text before he answers?
Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...
A. 16 January 2017: He is travelling with his family ... your age is listed as late 30s, so I assume he is an adult as well. Right now, while he is travelling with his family, his focus will be on them, doing family stuff. That doesn't mean you are not important, it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend came back different from vacation
Q. My boyfriend went home for two weeks and came back different. We texted over the phone while he was gone and he seemed fine. However, when I picked him up from the airport he did not seem impressed to see me. He acted somewhat aloof. Since then, ...
A. 15 January 2017: While it does seem a little odd that your boyfriend appears to have changed while he was away you can take heart from the fact he wants to try new things WITH YOU!
Maybe he sees the relationship in a bit of a rut, the fact you feel you are not ... (read in full...)
He seemed interested, but I was at work.
Q. A customer came to apply for a house and seemed like he was interested in me. He asked my name, then told me his as he left. He came back the next day and asked me who would help him with his housing application as I was going somewhere else. I came ...
A. 15 January 2017: I don't see anything in what you have written to indicate this guy was interested in you ... there are alternate explanations for all you have written, for example I always ask for a name when I am dealing with a department or organisations where ... (read in full...)
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