He seemed interested, but I was at work.
Q. A customer came to apply for a house and seemed like he was interested in me. He asked my name, then told me his as he left. He came back the next day and asked me who would help him with his housing application as I was going somewhere else. I came ...
A. 15 January 2017: I don't see anything in what you have written to indicate this guy was interested in you ... there are alternate explanations for all you have written, for example I always ask for a name when I am dealing with a department or organisations where ... (read in full...)
What can do, I am still learning how to negotiate conflict in a relatonship.
Q. My relationship recently ended with my girlfriend of nearly a year. There was a falling out at my uncle's wedding where my girlfriend was heavily intoxicated and left the dinner table to vent to a bartender about things she did not like about my ...
A. 15 January 2017: Your girlfriend's mother was wrong, a "Man" is not responsible for how another adult behaves ... the person who was responsible for your girlfriend getting drunk and then mouthing off about your family was (TA DARRH) the girl!
Her behaviou... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my heart or to my mind?
Q. Hi, i have fallen for my assistant. Its just that we are so different. We come from different strata s of society, different upbringing and different religion. We have different tastes. But we get along very well in office. Now i cant stop thinking...
A. 14 January 2017: What are your assistant's feelings on this, have you and she dated or are you admiring her from a distance?
Have you considered what life might be like if you two DID fall in love with each other and get married. What would be the cultural... (read in full...)
Being just friends makes sense but I don't know how to approach this!
Q. Hi everyone, I (23/m) met a girl (22/f) last year over the course of a job where we were both away from home. During our time there we became really good friends and it was after the time had ended (and I had broken up with a different girl) ...
A. 14 January 2017: You both seem to be on the same page in that you both toyed with the idea of a relationship and currently you would like to be more but she would prefer to be friends.
I expect you are dealing with some mixed emotions right now, some regret, ... (read in full...)
I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...
A. 14 January 2017: It sounds as if it is his girlfriend pushing for the reconciliation and he is going along with it.
From your question it also seems that she has always known she has a daddy ... and that his brother, her uncle, is not a stranger to her even tho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I can't leave him because he's planned the next 5 years around me!
Q. Have I fallen out of love with him or am i just depressed? Recently i can't bring myself to say i love you to my boyfriend. We have been friends for 3 years and have dated since last May. In October i felt the same way as i do now just feeling dow...
A. 14 January 2017: Maaaaaate!
He has messed you around, not vice versa!
He told his ex he loved her, and she was cow enough to record him and then let you listen to it!!
She sucks up to his mum and has abused you in the past. You don't need that sort of crap in ... (read in full...)
I've got an ex husband, an ex fiance and a new guy who all want me
Q. I'm 39 divorced and had been dating someone for 3 years. I knew him from university.He lives in another country. We became engaged. I have gone through a lot for this long distance relationship to make it work. I applied for a fiancé visa for him ...
A. 12 January 2017: Your ex husband is an ex for a reason, leave him in the past where he belongs.
Your ex fiancé .... lots of questions here, what country is he coming from, could he (perhaps) need your relationship with him to be intact in order to get into the... (read in full...)
Am I wrong? Is she being unreasonable? Would be unprofessional to tell her what transpired, when I was asked not to by my management?
Q. I was called into a meeting today at work to discuss something, which wasn't a HUGE deal but which was asked to be kept confidential until he other people involved had been informed. My friend at work asked me what the meeting was about and I sa...
A. 12 January 2017: Say to you "you are my friend, why are you asking me to act unprofessionally and to put my job at risk"
... (read in full...)
How can I stop him bringing up my ex'?
Q. My boyfriend constantly keeps on about my past. I'm 4 years older than him and had a long-term relationship with someone else before we met. He's only ever really had flings and more casual relationships before me. We've been together 4 years but ...
A. 11 January 2017: I agree with both Brown Wolf and N91, its very odd that he has started this after three years of not mentioning the ex, and yes, you need to ask him what it has started.
Reiterate once more that it really bugs you, and you are about to snap. Q... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that feelings have resurfaced for him even though we are both married to others?
Q. Hi guys! My ex-partner and I separated amicably over a decade ago, and keep in contact and remain friendly towards one another for the sake of our fifteen year old daughter, whom we co-parent. Our relationship, which lasted for about eight years, f...
A. 11 January 2017: No, what would it achieve? What are you HOPING it will achieve?
You already have a good relationship with him, I assume he is happy with his second wife, what do you think your confessions might do to that marriage? Are there children of that mar... (read in full...)
How should I act towards him for the best outcome?
Q. A while ago I kissed someone from work who I had liked for a while. He told me he had feelings for me and we began texting. -But then later said because his ex works at the same place nothing could happen. And then kissed a different co wor...
A. 10 January 2017: This guy sounds like a real droob .... playing all the single women off each other.
The best way to act around him is professionally, be polite and courteous, but don't indulge in casual chit chat or office gossip. And NO flirting.
Look fo... (read in full...)
Can a seven year relationship be over because of a lie said 6 years ago? Am I completely in the wrong here ?
Q. My Partner [30 F] of 7 years broke up with me [32 M]for lying. She found out I met my son (1year old at the time) when I was abroad 6 years ago. Myself and my partner had just broken up at the time so I was single when abroad. I never told her I...
A. 10 January 2017: Personal opinion here ...
any person, male or female, who forces another person to chose between them and a child is not worth two pinches of goat shit!
I hope, even though you chose her over a child, that you supported your child financially ... (read in full...)
Why would a man persist with a LDR if he was not attracted to the woman? Why even tell the woman he "loves" her?
Q. Would a man have a long distance relationship with a woman who he wasn't attracted to and even tell her he loves her? Why would he want to do that if he later admits he is not attracted to the woman? Is it loneliness ? Is this a common thing ...
A. 10 January 2017: From my observations .... some men will strike a long distance relationship with women because in many cases those relationships remain as online (or phone) only and do not require much effort apart from the odd session of phone sex etc etc. In ... (read in full...)
Am I being over sensitive? or is my reaction understandable?
Q. Feeling fed up! So I'm about to turn 30 in 2 days time I've spent the last year dreading the time coming I don't know why - I know age is just s number etc however my 2 best friends have been insisting that we must do something to celebrate my ...
A. 8 January 2017: I would be feeling a bit miffed as well .... you could try asking them if they have any low cost suggestions as they had previously seemed keen to mark the occasion.
BTW ... the best years of your life are about to begin, not only will you reac... (read in full...)
Why was my BF not receptive enough to my naughty Snapchat video?
Q. I sent my BF a racy Snapchat video. I don't want to say exactly but it was definitely "naughty" and involved private parts. Well, it took him 2 hours to see it and respond. He said... "Mmmmmm. How am I supposed to sleep tonight after seeing t...
A. 8 January 2017: Maybe he wasn't in the mood, maybe he isn't into sexy videos, maybe it didn't turn him on, maybe he had a headache.
The person to have an honest conversation with is your boyfriend, we don't know what he was thinking, or what he felt, anything... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend interested in the dating scene?
Q. Hi everyone, this is surely going to be a very long question and I'd appreciate any genuine answers as I'm doing this for a friend I care about. So my friend has had a pretty straight yet unusual growing up. Went to a boarding house for 6 year...
A. 5 January 2017: A few years ago a member of my then circle of friends and acquaintances was the only one not in a relationship ... we all introduced him to single women and gave lots of advice.
Imagine our surprise when, one day seemingly out of the blue, he... (read in full...)
Guy says he doesn't like me, but others say the opposite. What do you think? ?
Q. Question: Every guy I know says this guy obviously likes me, but the guy himself said to me it's not that way? He's close to me since my break up 5 months ago. He's brought me out, treated me to food and movies, would come all the way to my neighb...
A. 4 January 2017: The guy in question has told you there is nothing but friendship. Why be disrespectful and refuse to believe him? He knows what he thinks and feels .... not those other people.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't include me in his birthday plans
Q. Is my boyfriend trying to distance himself from me? Or is he trying to break up with me slowly? My boyfriend is acting like a jerk and didnt invite me to his birthday celebration. We spent NYE together and everything was normal. He was ...
A. 3 January 2017: I agree with Honeypie, the person to ask is your boyfriend. It is odd that he appears to have excluded you from his family celebrations, are you on good terms with them all?... (read in full...)
I do so much for my boyfriend while he does very little in return
Q. Hi. I'm a 23 year old female, I have been with my boyfriend for almost two and a half years (He's 22), my boyfriend is kind, caring, a romantic in small doses (like buys ice cream on random occassions, or other things) I moved in with him ...
A. 3 January 2017: STOP doing his laundry, if he choses to let his clothes sit and get smelly that's his problem, he is a grown up, let him deal with his laundry in a grown up manner.
If the deal is that whoever doesn't cook does the dishes, and he doesn't do the d... (read in full...)
My jobless, lazy boyfriend is using me for money. He thinks what's mine is also his
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, he has been living with me and my family for about 8 months, for the past 6 months he has been unemployed and living off of me completely. Recently I was fortunate enough to come into a ...
A. 1 January 2017: Like the heading says, your jobless, lazy boyfriend is using you for money. Don't let him. Kick his lazy using self to the kerb!
Get your parents to help, after all he is sponging off them as well, ask them to tell him his free ride is over, an... (read in full...)
Why tell me about this other girl when he knows how I feel? We live in different countries
Q. My online friend recently changed his bio from in a relationship to single after 3 weeks . I asked him about it and he said that they didn't have social media so that was why. But earlier that week he told me that he wasn't going to tell me their ...
A. 1 January 2017: This guy is playing mind games with you. He is also using you to get his kicks.
He is also obviously telling your lies ....
You need to ask yourself if he is a positive influence on your life or a negative one.
From what you have to... (read in full...)
Would you tolerate a man calling you extremely derogatory, filthy name during arguments?
Q. Would you talk with a man who calls you a c....t during arguments ? He seems to think this is acceptable and rarely apologises . Even if he does , it happens again the very next time we argue . I've had enough and my confidence is completely shot . ...
A. 1 January 2017: This behaviour and language is not normal for men, however it is normal for SOME men, a very small majority.
There is NEVER any excuse for this behaviour.
If I was being called these names on a regular basis I would be doing my best to ens... (read in full...)
Waiting for a proposal for 3 years and then the ring was not to my taste. Am I worrying about things that matter in this situation?
Q. Iv been waiting over 3 and a half years for a proposal for a wedding After much nagging about marriage I got a proposal with a 219 pound argos ring when he earns over 20 000 per annum which shows no saving as he bought even this on a per monthly ...
A. 1 January 2017: Well, I am sure if I was your boyfriend I'd be telling you to stick the original ring somewhere dark. It sounds to me he had to be nagged into proposing and when he finally caved you didn't like the ring he chose so you got daddy to get you one you ... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for us ? Maybe it has been way long over and I just didn't want to accept it? What can I say?
Q. I've only known my boyfriend for eight months and we've been dating for sixth months but it has been an on and off relationship. The first few weeks or month was everything I ever wanted to be in a relationship where my boyfriend would take me ...
A. 1 January 2017: Sweetheart, you've had a very lucky escape. Instead of hanging around waiting for this nasty, malicious, jealous, angry Piece of Work to decide between you ad another a if you were two pieces of meat in a butchers shop, pick up your skirts and run ... (read in full...)
Why is this happening? He has no time for me. I am fed up and ready to just walk away!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for four years now we have three girls together and now we are having problems because he doesn't involve me in any part of his life what so ever. He doesn't invite me out anywhere when he goes out with his...
A. 30 December 2016: Find a womens centre or a neighbourhood legal centre and find out what your rights are. I believe there are also some excellent resources online available to women in the US, do some research, ask questions and see what help is available.
Your ... (read in full...)
What do I do? Don't want to split up. Yet also don't want a Bf who behaves like a cheater 2.
Q. hiya everyone me and my fiance have been together for 3 years. A few month ago he started to add women on facebook the women he added were the type of women he said he would like as a girlfriend. I asked him why he was adding them (he hardly uses ...
A. 30 December 2016: His facebook has not been hacked, he is lying to you and hoping you are dumb enough to believe his BS.
He knows very well how those women got onto his friends list. What are you going to do about this?
Your fiancé needs to 'fess up, and th... (read in full...)
If you are a parent or a carer of special needs child can you help advise me on any of my questions ? I am not asking for experts, just parents in a similar situation
Q. My severly disabled son has to go into residential care soon . We don't want this but he is very aggressive and they need to take him in to stabilise him because he is on too many medications and they think he will be better going to school and ...
A. 27 December 2016: Nittynora, the best people to put your questions to are the people who are looking after your son, print off a few copies and hand them out to everybody, your social worker, the person in charge at the residential centre, and let them know you would ... (read in full...)
I can't walk away from my married guy but I can't handle the situation either
Q. I need help to deal with this situation without judgement please. I am having a relationship with my pastor. Well most would say affair but it is more than that to me. I'm 26 and a single Mum and he helped me so much and my wee girl. I ended up ...
A. 27 December 2016: I'm back.
I've been a single mother, its not easy, especially when we are trying to make our way in the world, regardless the circumstances that brought us to our single parenthood (a failed marriage in my case), there are always people quick to p... (read in full...)
Should I delete him?
Q. I have known a guy for a few years who shows me interest and then withdraws. He leads me on and then ignores my messages. The final straw was he acted interested again, ignored my message yet has been on the dating sites. Should I delete him off ...
A. 27 December 2016: In answer for your first question, YES, you should delete him from facebook. We should always ensure there is limited space in our lives for timewasters and game players.
You are correct when you say you feel he has disrespected you, and who care... (read in full...)
I can't walk away from my married guy but I can't handle the situation either
Q. I need help to deal with this situation without judgement please. I am having a relationship with my pastor. Well most would say affair but it is more than that to me. I'm 26 and a single Mum and he helped me so much and my wee girl. I ended up ...
A. 27 December 2016: Your pastor is lying to you, he is lying to his wife, his children if he has any, he is lying to his parishioners and he is lying to his church. His God, however, knows the truth!
Cant walk away? What a load of BS! All you need to do is tell him... (read in full...)
My partner is very into camping and shoes no interest in getting to know my best friend at all! Advice?
Q. Hi. My partner and I have been together for just over two years (2 and a half years in March 2017).. My partner and I are both only children. I'm 23, partner is 22. My partner is fully into camping, 4wding. He goes with just me, or we go w...
A. 26 December 2016: Your boyfriend is either selfishly lazy or simply doesn't understand there are two people in relationships, two people with opinions, interests and friends of their own which need to be taken into account by each partner.
It appears your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I feel fed up not knowing where I stand!
Q. I met a guy 4 years ago through a walking group. We were both interested in each other but for some reason we never got together. I told him I liked him and he had some sort of anxiety attack and panicked in front of me saying he wasn't interested ...
A. 24 December 2016: From what you have written it doesn't seem as though there is much interest on his part. If he doesn't respond to your text put him in the "time wasters" basket and look elsewhere .... so far you have made three overtures with no positive ... (read in full...)
Was I right to call this woman a silly old trout over her cashmere jumper?
Q. Today me my husband and my severly disabled son when into a fish a chip shop restaurant. My son got hold of one of those small squeeezy packets of sauce, (he can grab at people and throw things so we always try to sit well away from people. )We were ...
A. 24 December 2016: It was an unfortunate thing to have happen, I find tomato based stains really difficult to remove ... and cashmere, its not something I own because it is so darned expensive.
Most people opt for dry cleaning for cashmere, but it can be carefull... (read in full...)
Why would my guy friend think I should continue to listen to him talking about his past relationships with other women? What should I say to him?
Q. Dear Cupid,my guy friend and I have been friends for a while and we wanted to take it to a next level but today we had a little spat it's crazy to me but it's whatever. Long story short he has a thing for high yellow complexed women and that's f...
A. 21 December 2016: Regardless if this man has indicated he wants to take a relationship with you to the next level emotionally he is not ready for it, and wont be until he resolves issues from his previous relationships.
If he still continues after today's "little ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent my Aunty from showing me up in front of my boyfriend on Christmas Day? Title
Q. I've been with my partner for 6 years, and this will be the first time we are spending Christmas with my family. Though my boyfriend has met the rest of my family, this will be the first time he's meeting my aunty. She's actually a really nice pe...
A. 21 December 2016: It sounds as if the more you ask your Aunt to cease and desist the less likely she is to listen to you .... tell your boyfriend before then that your Aunt is insensitive and you are worried about her showing him the worst possible photos she can ... (read in full...)
I need to stop his demands
Q. Hi, i have been sharing for some time with a friend. He start looking for me and sharing with me. But it become a friend with benefits relationship, which i see was a mistake. Although he told me he isnt dating other girls, i dont believe him. A ...
A. 20 December 2016: being honest is always the best thing in situations like this. Limit your interactions with him for a while, and only meet him in very public places so that he knows you are not available for casual sex.
Start thinking of ways to expand your cir... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to raise a glass at the graveside?
Q. I am involved in a bit if an argument. A mutual family friend passed away aged 49 from breast cancer. On her 50th birthday some of the family (not her family) and friends took some champagne and celebrated her birthday around her grave. The took ...
A. 20 December 2016: I'm with you, come pop the corks, tell the stories, and have some fun when I'm gone ....
To be honest I cant see the offence. In my city there was a number of girls murdered a few years ago, on the 21st Birthday of one of those girls her fami... (read in full...)
The LDR visit is not going well and I'm completely lost as to what to do!
Q. Hi, I'm currently 8 months in to a LDR, (we're separated by 10000 miles) and I've just arrived at hers two days ago for a three week visit. The problem I now have is that from the moment I landed she's been off, we've had a chat and she's now to...
A. 19 December 2016: From the tone of your question I think it has already ended. Booking into a hostel sounds like a good idea, I am feeling a bit peeved on your part that the girl in question didn't have the guts to let you know her feelings had changed before you got ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop going on about an instagram post!
Q. I've completely lost the plot with my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I overreacted. I'm trying really hard to think of things from his point of view but it's difficult. My friend's daughter commented on one of my photos on Instagram that h...
A. 19 December 2016: So glad Honeypie introduced the term 'twatwaffle" into this thread, it sounds much better than what I wanted to call him.
Your boyfriend is, as you have already called him, a weirdo and a control freak. And yes, he attempted to sabotage your job... (read in full...)
Is my supervisor falling for me?
Q. Hello, There is a supervisor at my job who I would always have small talk with and she's very accommodating when I ask her for something work wise. Sometimes I'm so busy I don't get the time to talk to her. I can admit that I do find her attract...
A. 19 December 2016: From what you have written it would not appear she has fallen for you, he not talking might be because she has picked up the vibes you are interested in more than a workplace relationship.
Tread carefully, if you assume too much from what appears ... (read in full...)
Should I write my bus driver crush a Christmas card?
Q. well I seen the bus driver I have a crush on who I think is about 36, I am 33. he is always shy but extra nice towards me and talks very low and mild mannered….so as I am getting on the bus today, he just cheeses and grins with all 32 teeth and says ...
A. 19 December 2016: He is a friendly, jolly bus driver, its possible that is who he is and that his smiles and banter are just who he is. You haven't said if you know anything else about him .. he might be married and have children, you need to be very careful how ... (read in full...)
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