Does true love really exisit?
Q. This isn't really a problem/issue.. but i would like an opinion from all... heres my question does true love really exist? or is it just a game? does it really exist or is it just merely strong feelings that come and go? it would b ...
A. 18 September 2009: I think the best way to answer this is to tell you that finding love requires a number of things.
The first thing you have to determine for yourself is what it is that you're looking for in a man. What kind of character does he have to possess ... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years(we are both 26). We bought a house 3 years ago and until 12 months ago were happy as ever. 6 months ago I began mentioning that I thought it was time we got engaged. He always changed the ...
A. 17 September 2009: He's feeling stifled in that you've already planned his life out for him.
Have you tried to ask him what he envisions your future together might be?
Rather than hold him to a strict timetable, is there something else in the way?
The reas... (read in full...)
I love her but am no longer IN LOVE with her
Q. Hello, I am no longer in love with my common-law wife. She had a one night stand with someone early in our relationship during an agreed 10 day "break", and also slept with her ex a couple of times. (Although, I must admit, she left that ex for...
A. 17 September 2009: I feel really terrible for the both of you!
Some time ago, weeks ago, you had asked your question. Now its turmoil and it seems it has degenerated into a battle zone!
This is something that a person has to look at in perspective for ... (read in full...)
Does true love really exisit?
Q. This isn't really a problem/issue.. but i would like an opinion from all... heres my question does true love really exist? or is it just a game? does it really exist or is it just merely strong feelings that come and go? it would b ...
A. 17 September 2009: It does exist. But to understand it means you'd have to devote your heart and emotions to someone, and make intimate connections with them.
But if you've never experienced it, then you would never know it exists.
I can assure you, personally,... (read in full...)
I need plans and strategies to get my ex back! I want him!
Q. I wrote a question before, but could not find it anywhere. So here I go again. I'm turning 22 and I'm in love with my ex. We were best friends for 4 years, then date for 3 years. There were mnay ups and downs but in the end we still come back ...
A. 17 September 2009: This is really painful to read for two reasons. First because you're obviously in a great deal of pain over this. It hurts when someone you love wants to leave you, and losing that love is terrible. No one here wants to suffer, but when you love ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? Why do guys always put me in the "friend zone"?
Q. Okay so I feel ridiculous for saying this out loud because Men do not validate you and your life but I feel like something must be wrong with me. I don't think I'm that cute or pretty (I mean I might have an ok face but I don't really like my body) ...
A. 17 September 2009: It sounds like you're still looking for that special guy. From what you've written so far, you won't have to wait long.
I know self-image isn't the problem here, as you're right no man can validate you, until that time that you let the one guy ... (read in full...)
His ex is a destructive monster!
Q. Well here it go's. I'm married to a man I love very much. For the past four years we have dealt with his insane ex wife that is a parasite for his money. They have a son I adore but she has braine washed him to be distant from me. My husband has ...
A. 17 September 2009: Unfortunately you need to sit down with your husband quietly and tell him up front and let him know that there's two spouses in your marriage not three.
The ex wife is being manipulative and vengeful because she's jealous. She uses the son to i... (read in full...)
What will make him come back?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been growing apart. he no longer does cute stuff anymore and hardly hangs out with me... when I asked him what was up he said he wanted to be in the relationship but sometimes her doesnt... he also admitted to me that he's ...
A. 17 September 2009: Bi-polars have problems with their relationships. Depending where he is on the moodswing he can be apathetic, highly emotionally charged or depressed.
They make some medications that stabilize moods and other associated disorders.
You can try a... (read in full...)
Why would my ex boyfriend kiss his new partner in front of me?
Q. Why would my ex bf get off and make big scene with his new partner in front of me in bar, when we bumped into each other last night? But couldn't stop starring across in my direction all night, and giving evils to the person i was out with tha...
A. 17 September 2009: He's trying to mark his territory and basically make a fool out of himself at the same time. Us guys are that way.
Breakups are totally confusing especially if you're confused, he's confused and no one's happy.
He apologized because he knew ... (read in full...)
Do men like to chase? Or do they actually like slightly aggressive women?
Q. I've been wondering this as I've read some books as well as some articles online about women basically using manipulation or playing games to keep a man interested. Simply put: men like to chase. However, I'm starting to believe it's BS, and was ...
A. 17 September 2009: The bottom line is that if she's interested in you, then pay attention to what she's saying to you. If she's not being clear enough, ask her.
If she really wants you, then the two of you should be chasing each other around.
But the fact is that... (read in full...)
She's not attracted to me but doesn't want a divorce!
Q. My wife of six years says shes not attracted to me anymore but love me and doesn't want a divorce. We are going to counciling to figure out whats wrong in our relationship. Nor does she have a libdo. I don't know what to do....
A. 17 September 2009: A lot of things can affect a woman's and a man's libido in a marriage.
But at least psychologically where the sex part really is, there may be a number of things you're no longer doing for her that you did for her when she was attracted to you. ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he talk to me anymore?
Q. why don't talk to me anymore and i think he has dumped me. he never talk's or texts me the last time we talked was the 2nd of september and everything was fine then we spoke about the new house and getting married but now nothing. and i have found ...
A. 16 September 2009: If he's faded from view and you discovered that he's lying to you, then I am guessing you don't trust him. If you don't trust him, then its going to be very hard to love him.
Two weeks of no-contact like this seems very difficult. But he may be t... (read in full...)
How do I heal myself after getting out of an abusive relationship so I will be ready to date again?
Q. Hi, ya'll- My heart is too beaten up to date right now, even though I am desperately lonely. I'm 35, would love to meet and marry someone, and pop out a kid. What are some things for me to do to heal myself? And what should I do in the meant...
A. 16 September 2009: Try and first focus on yourself. Under these circumstances if you need counseling, there are plenty of abused womens counseling groups all around the country. Try and get in touch with them to get some support.
Abusive relationships can be emoti... (read in full...)
I'm seeking comfort from another man because my husband doesn't pay me any attention!
Q. Hi All, Don't know I you can help me on this one. Please try. I am 25 years old. Been married for two years. The problem I have is my husband doesn't talk to me much. Unfortunately, I love attention. I have met someone who likes me and is a go...
A. 16 September 2009: I will say this before I answer the rest of your question. Don't get involved with a married man. Extramarital affairs rarely ever work out without four people getting hurt somehow. There are risks and benefits of this kind of activity, but consider ... (read in full...)
Am I in love with her, or do I just love her?
Q. I've been in this relationship with my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and everything his been going really well (except for a few hiccups). But lately ive been feeling different about this whole relationship. I spoke to a friend and they ...
A. 16 September 2009: This is a question only you can answer after looking deep in your own heart.
From everything you've written, I think you are in love with her, but you're getting cold feet. At your age, which is very young, being in love is scary for a number o... (read in full...)
I just cannot make him cum!
Q. I cant seem to make my boyfriend cum. I have literally sat for hours going down and giving him hand jobs but he wont cum. I'm beginning to feel like theres something wrong with me!...
A. 16 September 2009: Congratulations! The gipper came through.... (read in full...)
These sexual feelings for my ex are driving me insane!
Q. Dear Cupid: I dont know whats taken over me! My ex and I broke up maybe 5/6 months ago. Before then I never used to masturbate, but since I have discovered something very amazing! I cannot stop fantasizing about my ex and pleasuring mysel...
A. 16 September 2009: It seems like you miss him a lot, and the sex with the ex factor reinforced what was before a very close, emotional relationship.
Now that he has a girlfriend, you're fantasizing about him because he's no longer emotionally connected to you as a... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy about the abortion I'm about to get?
Q. A little over a month ago, I had a one night stand. Unfortunately, I did not use correct judgment and we used the withdrawal method. As it turns out, I can attest it is not as effective as I'd hoped to believe. An Abortion has been scheduled for ...
A. 16 September 2009: This is a very serious decision in your life.
What should concern you is that getting an abortion is a very emotional thing, and the fact that you're taking it somewhat lightly is of some concern, not so much with the new guy in your life, bu... (read in full...)
Should I end my marriage?
Q. hi! i posted this in another site and didn't realy get any help so i thought i'd try here. Okay, my hubby and I have been together for 4yrs. married for 2. We have an 8mo. old baby. In the beginning, things were pretty good, we waited about a month ...
A. 15 September 2009: This sounds like a real communications issue going on here and maybe some anger issues which are going to have long-lasting effects.
First of all your husband has some real issues with respect to making an emotional commitment to you. That mea... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for taking him back? Or should I just ignore what people say and continue to work things out with my ex?
Q. After a break up with my ex we started to try and work things out, going for dates etc, and things seem to be going well. However a lot of people have commented that im stupid for taking him back as a lot of things have gone wrong with our ...
A. 15 September 2009: Its very hard to know what dynamic is working here between you and your reprized relationship with the ex.
First of all what went wrong and when. Second what's his attitude? And third, why are you letting other people make decisions for your hea... (read in full...)
How is having sex with me not leading me on???
Q. So my ex and I have started talking again and theres still feelings there on both parts, we talked about taking things slow and seeing what happens. The first night we met up we spent the night together and the same a few days later. She then ...
A. 15 September 2009: She doesn't know her own heart. Though she doesn't mean to she's leading you on.
You're better off letting her go and do what it is that she wants with her life, since she's pretty much told you she doesn't want to lead you on.
Having sex wi... (read in full...)
Part of me wants to give up on her but my love for her won't let me.
Q. I was married for fourteen years and got a divorce and stayed gone for seven months. So we got back together for another year and a half. I left again due to her going to bars with her girlfriends two to three nights a week. Now we have started ...
A. 15 September 2009: I somewhat agree with rcn. I think she's basically using you for sex.
If the sex is good, then why should you be committed to her? Its apparent that she's living the high life with her friends, and you're a convenience to her.
The really sa... (read in full...)
After one month apart she got a new boyfriend but I still want to marry her!
Q. Me and my ex have been together for 5 years and after a month apart she got a new boyfriend. I had planned to marry her before we broke up and still I want to marry her. What should I do?...
A. 15 September 2009: Its very sad that you've had to go through this as 5 years is a serious amount of time to spend with someone that you love.
Its best for you to take some time for yourself and think about letting her go and moving on.
Its apparent from wh... (read in full...)
We both cheated I don't know wether to forgive him or forget him
Q. Well I recently found out my bf had been cheating on me a couple times with another girl. They never had sex but got close to it. I found out and broke up with him. But I also cheated on him once, only I just kissed the other guy. But I feel its ...
A. 15 September 2009: Technically speaking, nothing you've said here constitutes cheating. At best he flirted and so did you.
Try and forgive. If you want an honest relationship with each other, start thinking about each other first. He thinks about you, you think ab... (read in full...)
How can I reach orgasm more easily during sex?
Q. I'm having trouble reaching orgasm during sex. I am a 21 year old male and have been dating my girlfriend for a while. We've been having sex regularly, and my girlfriend has told me repeatedly that she's enjoyed the sex very much. The problem is, I ...
A. 15 September 2009: Slow down, take your time! Five minutes is not that long. Moreover, if you go slow and sensual, it might feel a little better.
She also needs to be able to keep lubricating to handle all of that friction. You may have to get extra lubrican... (read in full...)
How do I keep my family happily together ?
Q. My wife and I have been married for almost seven years, and been living together for nine. We went through some rough times early on getting to know eachother, routines, etc. She already had a three year old when we met. Once we got married, not ...
A. 15 September 2009: You two need to step back and see if you can get some help.
First of all, what are your finances really like? Is there a way you can trim them down, or reorganize your debt schedules so that you can get a breather? Maybe the first thing you need... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to rent,i want to buy
Q. Myself and my boyfriend have been together for 6 yrs! we both live at home still. He is with his mum and brother, and im with my mum and dad. Over these years i have been saving up thinking we will move out, get a mortgage sometime. But he isnt ...
A. 15 September 2009: A mortgage can be a heavy burden for young couples. It puts a crimp on everything. Though you might be excited about owning rather than renting, consider the finances and real estate taxes first. Then figure out what's left of your paychecks.
... (read in full...)
Raw egg as lube? BS or not?
Q. A friend sais somthing that i found odd, so i thought id ask if it was true or not. he said somthing about Raw Egg Whites can be used as sex lube.I called BS but i got to thinking about it, and it kinda makes sence. so am i right about the BS part ...
A. 15 September 2009: I'd skip raw egg. Any food that you use for sex lube is going to have bacteria in it. And where you're planning on using it has mucous membranes which will transmit the bacteria into your blood stream fast.
Get Astro-Glide, Wet Stuff, or KY brand... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went to stripclub without telling me!
Q. so my boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year. i am a bit of the jealous type but not controlling. basically, i was went through his emails without his permission and i found a trail of emails where he went to a strip club with his friends. ...
A. 15 September 2009: You need to do several things. First of all, stop obsessing over a strip club visit. Strippers see guys like him as "fresh meat" as in, they want his money, not his body.
Second of all, guys in their 20's do stupid things like this. I'm assuming... (read in full...)
Is she ignoring me to get rid of me?
Q. I don't know what to do and it has me confused my gf for a few months used to want to talk all the time and now i cant even get hold of her ever. She just went from hot to cold almost over night, i feel like she is ignoring me because as first she ...
A. 15 September 2009: This is what they call the "love fade". That's when someone that you love simply chooses to fade from your life. Its very mean and its also uncouth.
From what you've said it sounds like she's done with you. Maybe you should just move on and igno... (read in full...)
Haven't been attracted to my husband since the baby arrived. But I really like his friend!
Q. Hi there I have been married for 3 years my husband and I have known each other as friends for 11 years when we decided to get together in 2005 we moved in together in 1 month got pregnant in 4 months and married in 9 months. Sex was great the best ...
A. 14 September 2009: This is a bizarre situation. Are you mad at your husband for making you pregnant so soon?
I'm only asking that question because I'm getting the feeling that you had a long term friendship, and within a short time of moving in together, you were... (read in full...)
My son is saying he needs his space; I love his g/f like a daughter. Is there any way I can help them stay together?
Q. My son is 23 and he has been dating a girl, also 23, for 5 years, since they both started college. I love the girl like my own daughter, she is smart, kind and patient and up until now, my son and her seemed to have had a wonderful relationship. I ...
A. 14 September 2009: This is one of those things where its very hard to stay out because you really saw something with your son and his girlfriend. But in a way, there's hardly anything you can do.
I feel really terrible for her too because it seems like she's ma... (read in full...)
Please help me understand my true feelings...
Q. I am 23 and have been married for only a year and a half. I knew when I married my husband that I wasn't very sexually attracted to him but loved him and knew he would be a great husband. We didn't have sex until we were married and I thought, no ...
A. 14 September 2009: I have to say that 99 percent of all sex and intimacy is in a person's head.
It seems like you're doing the sensible thing about talking to your husband and telling him what you need out of the marriage.
I think you're split between a good m... (read in full...)
Should I be worried by the little white lies or focus on the bigger picture?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship for nearly 6 years. We live together and generally have a healthy relationship. We spend quality time together, travel a lot together and also have our own circles of friends. To the outside eye, it would seem ...
A. 14 September 2009: One of the cornerstones in a relationship is trust.
I think if he trusts you, and you trust him, and you two won't judge each other over it, you can ask him gently, lovingly and kindly why he had to lie to you about these little things. Maybe he... (read in full...)
Husband told me he liked small breasts now he tells me that mine are too small!
Q. Hi guys, I have never had problem with my breast,I have always liked small breast,and i have even been asking god I hope they never grow and they always stay small. before I get married I asked my husband if he likes small breast or big one.his a...
A. 14 September 2009: I see what you're saying. Unfortunately he needs to grow up a bit, start taking care of his body and start worshiping your body as it is rather than what he jokes about. In other words, learn how to make love with you instead of be mean.
This ... (read in full...)
Should I get outside my marriage what my husband won't give?
Q. I am 30 years old and am married to a 38 year old truck driver. We have been for 3 years, my husband is not the type that tells me he loves me and he can go without sex with me for weeks. He does not pay any attention to me even after he has been ...
A. 14 September 2009: The first thing you should do is try considering the effects of an extra-marital affair on you as a person and the other man. In order for you to get what you're not getting out of your marriage, you're going to have to enter into an emotional rel... (read in full...)
I put so much effort into her because I love her! Should I push through this pain a bit longer?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with this girl for about 2 years already. I love her to death. I have changed my ways for her to make her happy. My everyday is to make sure she smiles and laughs but at the same time im hurting. I am afraid to talk t...
A. 14 September 2009: There are several things you need in a relationship to make it work.
The cornerstone of every relationship is trust, and right here is where you're starting to have problems. You feel you can't trust her because she's seeing and flirting with oth... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair, I'm considering divorce and now she's threatening to harm herself!
Q. A few months back my wife confessed to having an affair with a married man after almost three years of stubbornly denying it. She only confessed after my doctor told her it would delay my recovery from a mental breakdown i had over her affair. ...
A. 14 September 2009: This is a very tight spot you're in. I will mention below that if she's suicidal, your wife needs professional help.
Keep this in mind before you read on. Its apparent that she's suffering just like you are. And I can see that you do love her.
... (read in full...)
How do I fullfill his sexual needs without feeling uncomfortable? Try it again or don't?
Q. My husband and I have brought other people into the bedroom before. Only 2 times have we had this experience. I was uncomfortable with it but Im trying to please my husband who enjoys it. We have rules, no kissing on the mouth and no sexual ...
A. 14 September 2009: Swinging is something two people have to enjoy doing together as a couple. If you're willing to accept others into your sex play, then its fine.
But in your case, its not something that you really like. One of the things in a marriage is intimacy... (read in full...)
Why did he deliberately have unprotected sex with me when he knew I could get pregnant?
Q. My ex (father to my daughter) and I have cultivated a friendship or so I thought after fourteen years of separation. As consenting adults we were involved in consensual intercourse. However, he purposely came inside me knowing I can get pregnant. ...
A. 14 September 2009: Some guys put on the rubber and then take it off while you can't see what's going on down there. Sometimes the rubber breaks which happens.
I don't know if that's what he actually did, or if the condom broke, but assuming he intentionally did that... (read in full...)
He ignored, cheated and still ignored
Q. Sorry this is long, its just i really need advice: My bf and I had been together nearly 2 years and we lived together for a year and half. Exactly 6 months ago he had to move bk to the US from UK and ended up getting a job in Aspen. Everythin...
A. 14 September 2009: Lady London, I think he was the loser here. It seems to me that he had a woman that was willing to wait for him, supported his decisions, and was ready to relocate to another country to be with him. That says a lot.
If he can't man up to sending ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for thinking he will leave his long term girlfriend and get back with me?
Q. My ex boyfriend and i have only been together for about 5 months... then about 4 months ago we broke up and he started dating his ex girlfriend he was with for about 3 years before me...even though he did not admit it to me until i found out from ...
A. 14 September 2009: No. You're not stupid. The problem is you love him and he loves you. And he's still seeing an ex that he broke up with years ago.
You're ex boyfriend is living in a captain's paradise. He has two women who love him, and he doesn't want to choose. ... (read in full...)
He ignored, cheated and still ignored
Q. Sorry this is long, its just i really need advice: My bf and I had been together nearly 2 years and we lived together for a year and half. Exactly 6 months ago he had to move bk to the US from UK and ended up getting a job in Aspen. Everythin...
A. 14 September 2009: Too many people lead online relationships. Distance is a hassle for everyone involved.
I am so sorry for what you've gone through. In some cases distance makes the heart grow fonder; in other cases it just makes guys distant.
This is the p... (read in full...)
I just cannot make him cum!
Q. I cant seem to make my boyfriend cum. I have literally sat for hours going down and giving him hand jobs but he wont cum. I'm beginning to feel like theres something wrong with me!...
A. 13 September 2009: He may have to see someone about this. Maybe hand jobs just don't do it for him. Can he make himself ejaculate?... (read in full...)
Husband told me he liked small breasts now he tells me that mine are too small!
Q. Hi guys, I have never had problem with my breast,I have always liked small breast,and i have even been asking god I hope they never grow and they always stay small. before I get married I asked my husband if he likes small breast or big one.his a...
A. 12 September 2009: You're right in never being ashamed of your body. It sounds like your husband is being insensitive and he's criticizing you over things you can't control. Moreover, he's displaying a clear lack of respect for you.
You need to sit down with him... (read in full...)
I love her but am no longer IN LOVE with her
Q. Hello, I am no longer in love with my common-law wife. She had a one night stand with someone early in our relationship during an agreed 10 day "break", and also slept with her ex a couple of times. (Although, I must admit, she left that ex for...
A. 30 August 2009: This is called the ennui. You reach a point in your relationship where things are comfortable but you feel something is missing. The reason why you're looking is exactly the reason you keep bringing up the past. You and she are a few years di... (read in full...)
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