A
female
age
30-35,
*uliaash123
writes:This isn't really a problem/issue.. but i would like an opinion from all... heres my question does true love really exist? or is it just a game? does it really exist or is it just merely strong feelings that come and go? it would b nice to have this answered Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I think the best way to answer this is to tell you that finding love requires a number of things.
The first thing you have to determine for yourself is what it is that you're looking for in a man. What kind of character does he have to possess in order to attract you to him.
What this means is that you need to determine what falls outside of the acceptable boundaries in your life and avoid people like that. You exclude people that don't belong in your love life.
Then, you have to go and try dating people, and take your time. Be patient. Be selective. Its all character traits at the beginning. You want someone who can devote himself to you in a meaningful way, and in a way that's lasting.
In today's world and at your age, its not easy to find a guy like that. So you're going to have to look hard.
But I would say you want someone who is going to be just as caring and patient as you're willing to be. And you also have to be able to work on all the other things that you think are suitable to you.
Second, once you do find a guy who you think is right for you, then its a matter of cultivating a number of things. Trust among them. You have to be able to trust that the guy you're dating is the guy you want. And to do that you need to take the time to cultivate the relationship. One step at a time.
The rest of it leads to bonding, accepting the person for who they are inside, and working on all the other issues such as emotional and physical intimacy.
But the thing is, your first step, finding that guy, requires knowing what kind of person you want. Once you have that down, you'll eventually find the right one.
It happens enough that people do find true love. And you'll know it when the time is right.
A
female
reader, juliaash123 +, writes (18 September 2009):
juliaash123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers but now that i have that answered. and since your answer is yes... how am i suppose to find it?
i know one of you said not in high school but i only have this year left i'm a senior i just wanna try and figure things out before i really get out there. i have this year to work on myself which i am going to do but
honestly how to you find it?
...............................
A
male
reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (17 September 2009):
It does exist. But to understand it means you'd have to devote your heart and emotions to someone, and make intimate connections with them.
But if you've never experienced it, then you would never know it exists.
I can assure you, personally, and so many others posting and answering here, its for real.
...............................
A
male
reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (17 September 2009):
it exists, but not in High School... no seriously, we all can fall in love HARD, and when two people fall for each other, and can nurture that, it becomes true love.
If you're in a loving relationship, there shouldn't be ANY games... that's childish, but it happens to people of all ages.
True love will also vary in intensity over time, like a wave... life makes demands (kids, work, illnesses...) and some days are harder than others. Becareful making the assumption that True Love has certain characteristics, or you may assume wrong, and miss it...
...............................
|
