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writes:So my ex and I have started talking again and theres still feelings there on both parts, we talked about taking things slow and seeing what happens.The first night we met up we spent the night together and the same a few days later. She then went really cold with me and after asking her where I stand she tells me she doesn't know and doesn't want to lead me on.How is having sex with me not leading me on?I also found out that the other night she had a guy round at hers for dinner, this is after she invited me round on the same week.Should I tell her that my friendship is all she can have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): She doesn't want to get back with you. Don't translate the sex into something more, it's just sex.
You sound like you're interested in more so I don't think a friendship will even be healty for you. Just leave her alone.
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 She doesn't know her own heart. Though she doesn't mean to she's leading you on.
You're better off letting her go and do what it is that she wants with her life, since she's pretty much told you she doesn't want to lead you on.
Having sex with her is not going to change her mind, its just going to satisfy whatever needs she has not yours.
As far as friendship, you can try that. But I would suggest that you start thinking about finding someone else for your life that is willing to be there for you and has a mind to commit to you. This way you're not dangling on the end of a her string while she decides what she wants in life.
Right now what you have is basically a friendship with some sexual benefits. It seems based on what you wrote that that's not very fulfilling to you.
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (15 September 2009):
 you could ask again, does she wanna b with you or not, or your only gunna offer friendship.
And if she picks friendship, then say no sex involved, all or nothing. she cant have her cake n eat it.
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