He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!
Q. So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was ...
A. 9 October 2009: Actually I think he did it to be cute for you.... (read in full...)
How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?
Q. Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making ...
A. 6 October 2009: Sounds to me like he's really into you and making love with you was his dream and is his passion in this life. I hope you feel the same way.... (read in full...)
It's been 4 years and I still have feelings for this guy. Is this completely irrational of me?
Q. ok so here it goes. four years ago i fell in love with a great guy. he was everything i wanted in a guy but the problem was that he was my brothers best friend. when this guy finally started to like me and wanted to date me, i pushed him away. none ...
A. 5 October 2009: Its not quite clear here. Is he still available? Is that why you're interested in him? It seems like you want to be over him, yet for some reason you are so attracted to him.
Perhaps maybe you should change your mind, and go with your heart? O... (read in full...)
He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!
Q. So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was ...
A. 5 October 2009: He may have wanted to experience it without the hair. You know you can feel more without hair in the way.... (read in full...)
How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?
Q. Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making ...
A. 5 October 2009: "Making love" implies an emotional and physical connection. That is he's emotionally attached to you.
Having sex, that's just a mechanical issue.
I'd say unless he was wrapped into you emotionally, its having sex. If he was wrapped into you... (read in full...)
Neighbours husband caught me on video with his wife. Now he wants a threesome!
Q. I have been married 6 years and have 2 kids, one is almost 2 and the other is 4 years old. My wife has been too tired to have sex for more than 8 months now and I finally gave into my urges. It was a hot Sunday afternoon two weeks ago and I ...
A. 5 October 2009: Well it seems you've been had by the wife and her husband. They aren't nudists, they're swingers.
And, depending on which state you live in, making videos of you having sex in a private place is probably an invasion of privacy.
I'd retain th... (read in full...)
Is a blow job actually sex?
Q. im 13 and me and bf dont have sex but he fingers me and i gave him a blow job....is a blow job actually sex or do you have to put the penis in the vagina??? plz answer me soon!!!...
A. 4 October 2009: That's a question that's been plaguing the country since Bill Clinton was in office.
The short answer is, its sexual activity, therefore technically its sex.
Vaginal penetration is another form of sexual activity, and therefore its sex too.
... (read in full...)
I've been dumped and now feel like a prisoner
Q. myself and my girlfriend of over two years have just split up. Her decesion and not mine. We'd been having a few problems so it wasn't a massive surprise but its still effected me proper bad. The point of my asking this question is to ask for a...
A. 4 October 2009: Part of the grieving process is trying to avoid people that you know, also know her; and not bumping into her in a public place .. and as you said, falling apart.
The only thing you can do is start going out. If you see her, just ignore her. If ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 3 October 2009: You can explain it to your boyfriend in easy and simple terms: Your decision is yours. If he doesn't see it, then he doesn't want to see it. Therefore he won't take both views into consideration. Only his.
Your decision, whatever it is, is still... (read in full...)
Why am I embarrassed to introduce him to anyone?
Q. Is the fact that I am embarrassed to introduce my boyfriend to my colleagues, friends, etc. a bad sign? He is a super sweet guy but his grammar is not great, and he is a little rough around the edges. I did introduce him to a very close friend of ...
A. 3 October 2009: The worse thing you could ever do is be ashamed of a man you love, merely because of his appearance or level of education, etc.
If it comes down to that, then I would question whether you love him at all.
It seems you're more concerned about ... (read in full...)
Do guys like pet names?
Q. Hello everyone ! I just wana know do guys like to be called by their name or do they like to be called by something like 'honey' or 'baby' or darling ? ...
A. 3 October 2009: A girl I once knew called be "Rabbit" after a John Updike character. But it had nothing to do with a romantic relationship.... (read in full...)
My husband slept with my sister! How do I forgive and forget?
Q. so i have a question can you ever get over and forgive your husband of 7 and a half years with 5 kids for cheating on you with your sister ? With u and his baby in the same room sleeping. and then not telling u all the story. Telling you bits and ...
A. 3 October 2009: I think this is pretty much a very difficult situation. What's worrisome is that there are 5 children and you; and their aunt, your sister and your husband did something pretty creepy in the same room as you and the baby.
I think a rational... (read in full...)
She constantly talks about marriage. What should I do?
Q. I've been dating this young lady for 2 years. She constantly talks of getting married. She has never been married , I've been married twice. One for 1 year, second for 21 years. As a divorced man I try to explain to her that a marriage takes more ...
A. 3 October 2009: Tell her exactly what you've said here. If it hits the brick wall, perhaps its time to find someone else with more staying-power.
You're right. Marriage is more than just the cute stuff. There's a lot of commitment, and a great deal more effort h... (read in full...)
Is he too scared to get involved again?
Q. I am "just friends" with a man who I dated for three months time over a year ago. He is a full time father of his daughter for two weeks at a time, alternating with his ex for two weeks. Everything started beautifully and we ended up sleeping ...
A. 3 October 2009: He's still on the rebound with a child from his ex, and he's afraid you're too convenient. Therefore, he's intimate with you, but has a lot of guilt as he's probably still hooked on his ex, or the destruction following that breakup.
In short, h... (read in full...)
I need help with ending a relationship!
Q. I will be ending an eleven-year relationship. She knows I am considering it, but she is very hopeful I will choose to stay. I care about her and she still feels very strongly for me. When the time comes, is it wrong for me to be there to comfort ...
A. 3 October 2009: Breakups are always hard. The issue here is how she would react if you told her you decided to leave.
Obviously this is going to be painful for her. The real issue in my mind here is why, if you care so much for her, would you leave her? Especial... (read in full...)
God fails new ways to get amusement out of my dating failures
Q. In 2 days im about to turn 19 and im going to collage, i have never had a real girlfriend. I have had countless attempts and an equal amount of failures all of which have fallen apart due to things outside of my control like their ex tricking them ...
A. 3 October 2009: Oh. You got a girl that likes "bad boys". My friend, those girls are the ones that have no idea, no clue, and will never get it. The point is, you're wasting time with that one to be sure.
Well its hard to say. Chances are you'll find someone.... (read in full...)
God fails new ways to get amusement out of my dating failures
Q. In 2 days im about to turn 19 and im going to collage, i have never had a real girlfriend. I have had countless attempts and an equal amount of failures all of which have fallen apart due to things outside of my control like their ex tricking them ...
A. 2 October 2009: Its obvious here that you're picking up girls who are either on the rebound, or are looking for a guy friend instead of a boyfriend.
So what's happening is you're the "friend" but not the lover that they're looking for.
You need to start lo... (read in full...)
Is he lying about intimacy in his affair?
Q. Is he Lying about the intimacy in his affair? 4 months ago i found texts from a female colleague on my husbands phone. The last one she sent him finished with the phrase ' I want you'. I was one week away from giving birth to our first child. H...
A. 2 October 2009: Whatever he was doing, he was involved in at the very least an emotional affair with this woman.
Regardless of what happened, even assuming he had sex with her, the real issue is whether you want to keep your husband.
And of course what can ... (read in full...)
Strange imagination for self pleasure
Q. Dear cupid i love my girlfriend and have good sex life but am addicted to strange masterbation techniques.just wondered if it was normal or should i stop. I often put on womens panties (wifes or her mothers(40)and rub my self against the bed in a...
A. 2 October 2009: Since there's no explaining any one technique over the other, the only issue I see here is if you're taking someone else's panties. Who's wife's panties are you taking? Why is her mother's age (40) significant here?
Why not just go out and buy ... (read in full...)
Younger men, can you tell me if he is telling the truth, or is he trying to control an older woman?
Q. Well here is my drama I am in a strictly sexual relationship with a man 14 years younger than I am and he has told both while drinking and sober that he wants to take our relationship further. He has told me that he wants to take things slower as ...
A. 1 October 2009: Its very possible that what started out as an exclusively sexual relationship has developed into a more romantic one on his part. This could be because he feels emotional attachments forming outside of the sex itself.
That can be normal for some... (read in full...)
He can't stand that I have a 'past' -- will every other guy be the same way?
Q. Are all men obsessed with their partner's past? My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. In the beginning everything was perfect, obviously. Until he asked about my past. It wasn't wild, I made out with some guys, had crushes on other...
A. 1 October 2009: You take your lovers as you find them and as they were left by others. The fact of the matter is, everyone has some kind of a past.
Some people are obsessed about who their boyfriend or girlfriend has slept with, or had any sexual activiti... (read in full...)
Like father, like son, in sexual habits! Should I talk to him or be worried?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and have since the very beginning been very comfortable and sexually open with one another, more so than any of our previous relationships. He has several unique fetishes and I've never thought much of ...
A. 1 October 2009: This is a very delicate area. If he was sexually abused as a child, or even as a young adult, it might be an issue to worry about.
However, the fetishes are not necessarily dependent upon the father's mental illness, the father's suicide, or the f... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 1 October 2009: No matter what her father says to you, you are not the man who drugged and raped your girlfriend.
What you're feeling is shame. Shame is one of the most self-destructive emotions in the panoply of human emotions. Its depressing you.
The ant... (read in full...)
Cheating-my husband knows, his wife knows, will our relationship go somewhere?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 14 months my sister informed my husband of the affair last year and my husband confronted him but the relationship with my lover continued since then his wife had found texts on his phone from ...
A. 1 October 2009: Its possible that your relationship will continue. But the real question is how will he deal with his wife?
Obviously she has been hurt by this, your husband has been hurt by this; and the question is, assuming you two were single again, would yo... (read in full...)
I can't stand my husband anymore and I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so sad, I feel I can't stand my husband anymore, and I don't know what to do. I tried everything to try to improve things , but nothing has happened. He feels cold loveless, and passive. Yet he keeps saying he wants to be with me. I don't even...
A. 1 October 2009: There could be a number of issues here. Midlife crisis, depression, or he's just not in love with you anymore. The only other alternative explanation is that he's having an affair.
The fact that he doesn't want to talk about your problems as a cou... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex
Q. My ex bf broke up with me and hurt me really bad during the relationship. He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex. I wouldnt have sex with him because I didnt feel he respected me and I had a feeling in my gut that he was ...
A. 1 October 2009: In every relationship, the first building blocks towards intimacy and sexual intimacy (two different things), is trust and confidence.
Until you know for certain that you can trust your partner, and he can trust you; you can't become more int... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, I don't see how it was my fault?
Q. We were fine , , quite and peace life , sometimes he was ignorant other time he used to be nice .. but we were fine .. until the black Thursday night came without any warns .. I wish the day didn’t come ,but there is something waiting me on the c...
A. 1 October 2009: No one here can do anything but empathize with you.
Your ex has absolutely no love for you. It may simply be that he never did; and he'd been acting for as long as he could.
Some people will fool you, fool themselves and mislead you. The... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 30 September 2009: No one here can ethically advise you to either have an abortion or refrain from having one.
What I could advise you to do is consider it carefully. There are plenty of women out there who, as in your case, want more to life than raising babies a... (read in full...)
Cheating, playing around and suddenly she disappears?
Q. Both Married ben strongly flirting and playing arround i suddenly told her ((i love you)) she suddenly dissapeared afterwords what happended did i lose her??...
A. 30 September 2009: Don't know about a girl like this. She starts an emotional affair and then disappears. It tells me she's guilt-riddled, ashamed, and probably doesn't know what she wants.
That's what it sounds like. You're better off without her.... (read in full...)
I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?
Q. Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame ...
A. 30 September 2009: I feel terribly bad for you, because your past relationships have come forward to haunt your relationship with your boyfriend.
Unfortunately you cannot have love in a relationship if you don't have mutual trust. The reason why is simple. If you d... (read in full...)
G/f is messing about with 3 of us
Q. My Girlfriend is messing me about and has 3 other people she has feelings for i asked her where that left me and her relationship but she never gave me a proepr anwser wot do i do?...
A. 30 September 2009: Unless you can tolerate all the other people having relations with her, I'd say you're better off finding someone else to invest your emotional energy into.
At least someone who will be devoted to you, rather than the cast and crew of the Titanic.... (read in full...)
He always threatens to break my face and I cry. What can I do?
Q. hi my name is piya(24)dating(28)for the past 1.5 years.we love each other a lot and he promised me to marry me.but for the past few months are relationship has turned completely sour.we love each other like mad and cant do without each other.hes got ...
A. 30 September 2009: Domestic violence is a terrible way to live in a relationship. Threats of violence and the actual use of physical violence is not love.
The infliction of pain is not love.
We don't use love to hurt people, we use it to heal them.
Get a n... (read in full...)
Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?
Q. I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...
A. 30 September 2009: My only question is if, in fact he has been cheating on you all of these years, why does he stay married to you?
That seems to be the biggest question here.
It also seems pretty clear that he's been involved in his own marital infidelities, an... (read in full...)
I regret the name I gave my baby! What can I do now?
Q. Dear all, I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to r...
A. 30 September 2009: You love your baby right? Your baby is your child. You can call her any nickname you want. She's going to love you no matter what her name is ... unless its Hulga. Maybe that would be a not so very nice baby name.... (read in full...)
Semen leakage normal?
Q. Whenever I get sexually aroused due to my girlfriend in university or wherever, a drop or two of semin from my penis leaks. Is that normal? I workout 2 hours every day and do not masturbate more than twice a month. I haven't done sex as well uptill ...
A. 30 September 2009: Nothing wrong there. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to make things better between us?
Q. Ok here is the issue, my boyfriend thinks that I act like a 26 year old child. I will admit that at times I do act like a irrational. I have asked him what he wants me to do to change the issues in the relationship, which I am willing to do. The ...
A. 30 September 2009: In order to improve your relationship, the two of you have to have the kind of trust and confidence in each other to build intimacy.
You can't change WHO you are, only HOW you behave. The same applies towards your boyfriend. One of the things t... (read in full...)
Men's point of view on extramarital affairs
Q. I was wanting some male input into extra marital affairs. Often on here there are questions from women who have become involved with men who are married. Everytime there are answers from women who chastise the women from getting involved in the ...
A. 30 September 2009: Men get into extramarital affairs for a number of reasons. Almost the same reasons as women. There are those who choose to do so out of boredom and need excitement outside of their otherwise happy marriages.
There are men whose wives ignore t... (read in full...)
Cheating, playing around and suddenly she disappears?
Q. Both Married ben strongly flirting and playing arround i suddenly told her ((i love you)) she suddenly dissapeared afterwords what happended did i lose her??...
A. 30 September 2009: From what you imply, not to each other.
Strong flirting means emotional affair.
You tell her you love her.
She gets cold feet and disappears.
She didn't want it to get serious and you did.
Yes.... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I can't orgasm after a drink?
Q. Is it normal that I can never seem to reach orgasm when I have alcohol in my system? I don't drink often, but every time I've been anywhere from slightly buzzed to completely drunk, it seems like orgasms are out of the question. My boyfriend and I ...
A. 30 September 2009: Alcohol ruins sex. It really does. So do most drugs. The reason why is it interferes with the brain chemistry you need to send that signal down to release the orgasm. You need arousal to get to climax and resolution. The liquor gets in the way of ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll give me another chance even though I cheated?
Q. me and my ex met wen i was 18 and she was 16 we was going out for about six months wen she told me she loved me and i felt the same but about a month later one of her friends started texting me and we became close i ended up seeing both of them on ...
A. 30 September 2009: Unfortunately your ex is still fuming over you going out with a friend of hers. Young and stupid or not, it probably hurt her very deeply and so, despite all else, she's basically punishing you.
The only way to fix this with her, is to sit down... (read in full...)
How can he end things with her without hurting her? I want us to be together.
Q. 4 yrs ago I was dating a guy named Jay, we had a great relationship and we loved each other very much. We ended up breaking up because I was moving across country for work. We kept in touch and remained friends. During the next few yrs he went ...
A. 30 September 2009: It would be near-impossible to tell you how he could end things with Jen.
It seems so clear to me that she has a great deal of emotional energy invested in Jay. And its very likely that she loves him deeply. Its very hard to imagine someone ... (read in full...)
Was I right to break up with him over abortion?
Q. Hi everyone, I was on here recently discussing an issue I was having with my boyfriend of six months. He doesn't like to spend time with my family and friends, and said he doesn't want to. http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 30 September 2009: You have the right to have your own views and opinions. He should respect these views as your own boundaries.
Inasmuch as he can be logical and smart, manipulating you would be wrong.
A man who can't compromise and respect boundaries is go... (read in full...)
His past is littered with ex girlfriends and I'm scared!
Q. I was hoping someone might lend some insight to this -- I've been someone who has been rather picky about relationships and most have been all very serious. I will go out on first dates but if I don't see a potential first dates turn into last ...
A. 29 September 2009: This one strikes deep to personal insecurity and trust issues.
The thing that you're looking at is that your boyfriend is a "player", that sort of life-long bachelor who is happier not getting too emotional, and too committed to make a lifetime... (read in full...)
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