We're trying to work it out, but his Facebook status isn't helping
Q. My husband and I were seperated....We are trying to work things out and have been back together for about 2 months. His facebook status is its complicated.Im upset because we are trying to work things out so he should change it am I right???? Its ...
A. 6 March 2010: I wouldn't like this either and would view it as loss of face if anyone else was seeing it. I understand where you are coming from but you can't force people to say things that you want them to. I would make a decision today and that is that you are ... (read in full...)
My husband's family is driving me nuts!!! Help!
Q. I am very confused what to do about my situation and need some advice! I've been married for 3 yrs. in August and we have been together 5 yrs in August. I have been having issues with my in-laws since our bachelor and ette party...let me break it ...
A. 6 March 2010: I agree with you 100% and would have been very upset as well. The Christmas lunch is just a matter of courtesy and manners. Everyone knows that it is a special day and that you would have made a lot of effort with the food and the table etc and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my husband likes a woman at work
Q. Im worried that my husband likes a women at work. he drives a truck at a company and she works in the office, he always says that the girls are fat and unattractive because I do ask who works in the office and if any of those girls talk to him and ...
A. 3 March 2010: Ok he has obviously clocked the woman at work but it doesn't for one mimute mean he is going to jump into bed with her. He lied because it is highly likely that he knew that you and I would have done as well - were likely to fly off the handle in ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want us to move in together...and other more complicated topics
Q. Dear internet friends I have a feeling this questions gonna sound all disjointed and chaotic but here it goes: I've been dating this woman for about 2 years, she's 36 and I'm 33. Initially things were wonderful because I had no expectat...
A. 3 March 2010: Well kinkyboy this is a hard one but probably very similar to a lot of relationships. It starts of great, everything is wonderful, you are so in love and then slowly niggles begin to creep in. It is hard without hearing her side of things but from ... (read in full...)
How do I contribute as a wife and step mum and still throw myself into my career as I want?
Q. Hi there, I'm 23 years old and I need some advice. I meet my UK partner about three years ago. I am from NZ. We fell in love and after six months got engaged and were married by the end of the year. After we were engaged I moved to the UK and ha...
A. 2 March 2010: You sound like a really lovely lady. It is very hard to do the right thing all the time and I am very impressed that you should be striving so hard to fit everything in. This is a very difficult one as running a large home with step kids, dogs and a ... (read in full...)
For my English project: Is it Affect or Effect?
Q. I know this isn't to do with relationships but i'm unsure of where else to ask. Basically, i'm doing a speech in english which I have chosen to do on the topic of judgment. My question is : would I entitle it 'the Affect of judgment' or 'the Effect ...
A. 1 March 2010: It's 'effect'.I have a mental problem with too and to so I know what you are going through. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it too late to write my ex bosses.to say I never was a thief at work or let it go?
Q. Hi I have worked in a firm of separate partners under one roof and I was on main reception working for them all indirectly but none directly as they all had their own staff. All the time I was moaned at and when things went missing silly things...
A. 22 February 2010: Please don't waste your time on this one, you will just be painted as crazy. When I was the HR Manager of a London company we had two receptionists and one woman was always moaning and left. She said she had felt pushed out and victimised. The other ... (read in full...)
Old wives cure for acne
Q. Is urine good for acne and for the facial skin? My friend told me this and I don't know if to believe her....
A. 22 February 2010: Personally I would go to a doctor and ask for a referral to a dermatologist. If it is bad then he will probably give you a prescription for Minocyn which has very good results. You could always try the urine for a couple of weeks there would be no ... (read in full...)
My coworker having an affair reminds me of my husband's past affair and I'm hurting again. Help?
Q. I have been married for 8 years. During the first year, my husband had an affair on me. Since then we have moved forward and are back on track. It's been 7 years and I have not thought about the past until 6 months ago. I work with a girl who is ...
A. 20 February 2010: You need to distance yourself from this. I think a lot of Aunty's and Uncle's on here have been cheated on and will know exactly where you are coming from. Ofcourse this has opened painful wounds but let them get on with it. If you are close to the ... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy is married?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I would like you to put your detective hats on and help me out please. The Brief: So I've known this guy for a few months but I have a suspicion that he may be married and would really like your opinion. Facts: Sinc...
A. 19 February 2010: Not necessarily but definitely has a lot going on in his life and doesn't want to be tied down. I think he may be seeing other people and using his mates to cover. Personally i would carry on seeing him but not get too involved and see how it pans ... (read in full...)
Why is he doing this?? Does he just want SEX?
Q. a guy i met on plenty of fish dating site.. we've met in public once he says he wants to come to my house and chill with me cos HE HAS NO MONEY TO TAKE ME OUT. but he drives a very posh car and has a good job. i said i want to go out on d...
A. 19 February 2010: Definitely up to no good, probably married and looking for a bit of attention and sex on the side. Don't even respond.... (read in full...)
How can I approach these subjects without being yelled at?
Q. Hello, I guess I'm here asking this question because I feel like I would be breaking the hearts of everyone else in my life if I asked them. I started dating a girl about 7 months ago and I'm not sure if we're right for each other. Sometime...
A. 18 February 2010: I think it is quite important to have a number of things in common with another person but if you haven't and you are happy to do your own thing while your partner does theres then it can work too. It only goes wrong if the person starts saying ... (read in full...)
I think he hates me, but please don't tell me to dump him!
Q. I honestly think my boyfriend either hates me, is embarrassed by me, or is disgusted by me. Here's our story (it's a little long, but I feel it's necessary to portray him appropriately): We met on an anime themed chat site kind of like Gaiaon...
A. 18 February 2010: I really feel for you because it must be very hard being in this sitaution so far from your own home and not really knowing anyone. I would say you should go home as quickly as you can. Your boyfriend may well be stressed about his family and going ... (read in full...)
I had an emotional affair and my wife still won't get over it. Is there anything more I can do?
Q. I had an emotional affair with a work colleague. My wife just WON'T let it go. I have reassured her that I've never loved anyone but her but she won't believe me. I've booked for lunch tomorrow but I sense from her attitude tonight that it...
A. 18 February 2010: When I was cheated on by my husband we went for countless meals and every one degenerated into a grilling for my husband. You see women cannot move on until every little nitty gritty bit has been discussed so they feel that they know everything that ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that this has hurt my feelings?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Due to a compulsory year abroad as part of my uni course we have been in a long-distance relationship since October. I thought so long about whether I should go or not because I knew I would find ...
A. 17 February 2010: Listen to CaringGuy, excellent answer. I cannot add anything more, just be calm when you ask him about it and maintain your cool.... (read in full...)
Need opinions on what happened to me..thank you for reading!
Q. I am writing this as my "burn letter", to free me from the pain I am going through and to try to get over this and ask people what did I do wrong so please bear with me and read this, thanks! I went about 4 times with a girl in nov. 2008 (we were...
A. 16 February 2010: Bizarrely and for no good reason I think that she feels she is too good for you and deserves better. I think she thinks she is the high flying business man's vacation wife and although apparently knocks it, it is really what she is looking for. I ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed!!! How do you know when your relationship is coming to an end?
Q. hi, I'm 24 and been with my partner 3 years. I do love him but I'm not sure if i am in love with him. After 3 years we only now started going out places because I basically have to keep on at him because he doesn't take me out anywhere. Well ...
A. 14 February 2010: I don't think alcohol helps things. It nearly always makes people volatile and say things they don't really mean. At your age I too would want to go out more often definitely to the pub or for a meal and unless he is not working I think it is a fair ... (read in full...)
What does a guy think or feel when he see a missed call from his ex?
Q. My bf broke up with me about one and half month ago, he wanted to stay in friends however I did need space for myself, so didn't contact him during the past one and half month. Yesterday I have finally decided to give him a call however he didn't ...
A. 14 February 2010: The fact that he would have seen the missed call and did nothing shows you that he is no longer interested. I don't want to hurt you by saying that but it is true. If he had been still holding a torch he would have rung back or texted as quickly as ... (read in full...)
My husband bought a gift for another woman!!!
Q. I found out by chance that my husband of 24 years bought a work colleague a 'valentine' gift of a heart necklace this time last year. He actually ordered it on valentines day so it didn't arrive until at least the day or two later. He is saying t...
A. 13 February 2010: I am also not convinced on this one. The timing is really out and the fact that he kept quiet is a bit odd. Of course he could have not mentioned it because he didn't think it mattered or he could have not mentioned it because he would have thought ... (read in full...)
Can stress and anxiety manifest itself like this?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm really in need of some advice. I recently found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for a long time while we were together and I ended things. Ever since, I've been through a million emotions and needless to say, very str...
A. 13 February 2010: Yes this is all normal and very common. The headache and the temperature especially which can go on for a long while. Also waking up at early hours in the morning. I found a lot of my hair fell out as well. You will go through this phase and come ... (read in full...)
Do you think she would accept being my valentine?
Q. I'm extremely shy and I'm not sure how to make this girl want to be my valentine should I get her flowers chochlates or something like a romantic card I know I just want to pour my heart out to her but I'm just so shy Ive known her for about 2 years ...
A. 12 February 2010: I would definitely get her a card. All women of all ages like to receive a card. I think flowers and chocolates are a bit overboard unless you are going out together. Do you think she will expect something from you? If you are trying to get back ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...
A. 9 February 2010: OMG!! I am so impressed by the mature and calm way you have written your post. You sound like a wonderful person and a great catch!
I am sorry to say but I would kick your b/f into touch. I would leave my job and leave him. I cannot think that bein... (read in full...)
Will it be a mistake to have sex with my sister-in-law?
Q. I have a sister in law whom is living with us in the same house. She wears clothes where her nipples are visibly mark, wears shorts where her most private part is also marked. I can't evade fantacizing her. Whenever the door of her room is open, I ...
A. 9 February 2010: Is this for real? Don't even think about it! No no no!!... (read in full...)
My wife no longer trusts me over online conversations with my landlady.
Q. Hello there, I'd really appreciate your advise/help on my situation. Here's my story... I'm 29 and my gf/wife is 32, we live together now for about 2 and a half years, the relationship is going on about 3years now. We got married last m...
A. 5 February 2010: I am sorry to say but after reading your post I would not be too happy if I was your g/f. I would not like my sex life being discussed with anyone at all and especially with a woman and I would have trust issues with you. The fact that you say that ... (read in full...)
He gets calls but he doesn't answer..he just looks at the screen & puts the phone down. Does he sound dodgy?
Q. my boyfriend.:) we really like each other go on dates..but taking things slow.we flirt and he calls me all the time..we talk till Morning.. but on face book.. when girls say they like a celebrity or anythin..he always has to comment tel him ...
A. 4 February 2010: I think he is attention seeking from a number of women. Asking for goodies and commenting on peoples celebrity fantasies is a bit much but I suppose it is just flirting. He is clearly a type that likes to flirt and get noticed. I don't think the ... (read in full...)
Would you prefer a real rose or a fake one?
Q. Valentines help! I've been with a girl for a couple of weeks and have planned to take her out for a meal on valentines. I just wondered though, I'm planning on giving her a single red rose, but wanted to know on whether that rose should be real or ...
A. 4 February 2010: Real, lovely Valentines Day, perfect in every way. Have fun!... (read in full...)
Do you think he still loves her and is just too angry to get back with her?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles. I am dating a guy for about 3 months now. He does not want commitment he sayd and he just says 'let's see how it goes'. We usually meet up on a Saturday for a drink or meal and maybe once during the week. My ...
A. 4 February 2010: I think he is still getting his ex out of his system but I don't think you need worry. Although I am divorced my ex husband and I still send each other long involved texts fighting over stuff that happened in excess of 20 years ago. I still want to ... (read in full...)
MY bf of 8 years just up and left to another country without telling me.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. I've done everything for him. He left in the beginning of January to his sister in another country, without even notifying me. I heard it through the grape vine. He hasnt contacted me up to now. I've...
A. 4 February 2010: No I don't think he is going to contact you in the near future and I think you might have to accept that you are not going to hear from him again unless he wants something. He is running away from his past life, his debts, everything. He is a con ... (read in full...)
I really don't think he loves me...
Q. I have a boyfriend that I love so much, but I dont think he loves me the way I love him... the reason is because I call and text him almost every day but with him it's not like that. I asked him last month, why is he acting in such manner? He said ...
A. 4 February 2010: You are pushing him too hard and probably driving him crazy. This is way too much attention. Stop calling and texting and then he will miss the texts, wonder what is going on and then contact you. You may need to give him a little space. Also at ... (read in full...)
I believe he has changed, but my mother says he is a jerk!
Q. Hi I am 18 years old My boyfriend is 24 We first started dating when I was only 13 After almost five years together He changed and I knew something was wrong I kind of knew he was cheating I believe that us women just know that kind of things we get ...
A. 4 February 2010: I'm sorry Honey but I am going with your Mum on this one. Once a cheater always a cheater. Mothers normally know best and she has him sussed. I am sure you love him and can forgive him for the reasons you have come up with but look at his track ... (read in full...)
Am I too tall? Or am I considered petite?
Q. I am 16 soon to be 17 and i'm 5'5" 120 pounds. Am I too tall? Am I considered petite? I've been told that I have quit my growth spurts....
A. 3 February 2010: I think 5'5'' would be about the perfect height for a woman. Neither too tall or too small. I am 5 foot 2 and very tiny boned and people say that I am petite. My best friend is 5'9'' and she is considered quite tall.... (read in full...)
My partner wont name me as a joint tenant on the house we share even when we get married, is he just covering himself in case anything goes wrong in our marriage?
Q. I fell in love with a man 15 yrs older than me, everything was rosey. We got together about 2 yrs ago and he asked me to marry him after 1. It is my first proper relationship, I am in my early 20's. I moved in with him to his house - which he built ...
A. 3 February 2010: Yes he is covering himself. He is clearly intelligent and doesn't want to lose what he has built if things go wrong between you and I don't blame him. He has made it clear he would provide for you and get you a new home he just doesn't want you ... (read in full...)
We arranged to meet Sat night and I have not heard from since.
Q. i am so confused. i was txting wat i thought was an honest decent man for th last six months. he would txt me ever spre moment he had every morning day and nite without fail. i felt something forhim and was re he felt it too. he coudnt wait to meet ...
A. 3 February 2010: Let it go. He just isn't worth it. If he can't be bothered to reply or send you any texts at all since meeting you then he certainly isn't worth even bothering with.... (read in full...)
MY bf of 8 years just up and left to another country without telling me.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. I've done everything for him. He left in the beginning of January to his sister in another country, without even notifying me. I heard it through the grape vine. He hasnt contacted me up to now. I've...
A. 3 February 2010: Honey I am not sure if he is going to contact you at least not for a while. To disappear like that is pretty heavy stuff. I imagine it is hugely drink fuelled but he also feels guilty. In my experience men shy away from confrontation so I don't ... (read in full...)
Her bad attitude cause me to break up with her, did I make the right decision?
Q. me and my girlfriend were together for about 7 months. I decided to end it last night because i feel like enough is enough. Every time i go out into town she has a problem with it, she is off with me when im in town and off with me the day after...
A. 2 February 2010: Your girlfriend was probably a bit insecure and jealous which is why she acted that way. She probably was frightened of losing you to someone else which is why she wanted to know who you were with/ where you were all the time. Maybe she thinks with ... (read in full...)
Why do men hurt the women they love? He was my friend for 7 years.
Q. I have been really close friends with a male coworker of mine for seven years. When he was much younger, his girlfriend did some serious damage to his ego. The way he told me was like a joke though when we first met. Over the summer, we grew very ...
A. 2 February 2010: This is definitely the girlfriend wanting your friend to cut contact wih you because it makes her feel uneasy. I know you are upset but i would cease contact with him and by that I mean you ringing him. If he rings you that is ok but I wouldn't call ... (read in full...)
On a sale of 1-10 she rates me 3, I rate her 9. How can I get my rating up?
Q. Well me my girlfriend we been dating for about a month and couple weeks now. Our relationship is great it's going by good I love her a lot, but when I ask her how much she loves me she said she only loves me a little. From a scale from 1 to 10 one ...
A. 1 February 2010: Oh Honey a 3 isn't a very nice thing to say. Ok you like her but don't get too clingy. Keep your distance a bit, be less available, let her do a bit of the chasing. Be cool around her and just not too interested. If she thinks you are no longer so ... (read in full...)
I rang, I texted, I went to his house, I threatened to text the woman I think he has been seeing, ... and now he calls me a psycho stalker!
Q. My Now ex boyfriend called me a psycho who is stalking him! I am married but separated for 2 years and this has always been an issue for him. because of the cost of divorce i didn't go through with it until recently. My divorce should be final in a ...
A. 1 February 2010: Firstly he can call you what he wants but you are definitely not a psycho stalker. You are just upset and he also appears to be upset. You may well have taken your time over the divorce and its true they do cost a lot but it is no reason for him to ... (read in full...)
Is true love and romance dead
Q. is true love and romance dead ? is it just becoming a myth a dream that can only exist in ones head ? humans are so horrible to each other its truly disgusting.. this world has become so dark it truly makes you think why are you still here! then ...
A. 30 January 2010: True love and romance is not dead but exists only if you are prepared to be selfless. If you give without expecting to receive then you will receive true love. Loving someone above yourself and putting yourself out constantly for that other person ... (read in full...)
I don't want people to think I'm interested in my married friend
Q. This is a question I have about friendships with married men. I met a guy at college whom I get along with well and we have gotten to know each other more on a personal level in recent months. I'm hesitant about developing a closer friendship, ...
A. 30 January 2010: I would be very careful because what you may see as an innocent friendship may not be as others perceive it. I think you are very astute to even ask this question. A coffee in the workplace is ok, dinner and swimming are not. His wife wouldn't like ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost a bottle of her favourite perfume while in a club with me last night... And she wants ME to replace it! What should I do?
Q. Last night in a club with my friends, I got separated from the group. I decided to text my girlfriend to find out where she was. When I couldn't find her from her directions I told her where she could find me. When she got there she waved to me, and ...
A. 30 January 2010: Was it your idea or her idea to go to the Club. If it was yours then possibly in her mind she blames you for it happening as you wanted to go there. Strange logic I know. I would explain to her that being a student and just having paid for dinner ... (read in full...)
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