He always says how wonderful his ex is, I worry they might meet while I'm away!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and I think is going ok. He talks about his ex since ive been with him and always says how wonderful she is, he split up with his ex when he was 22 years old, now he's 34. He keeps a photo of...
A. 5 June 2009: He doesn't sound at all trustworthy to me and he may well be up to no good whilst you are away. It could ofcourse all be just chat and he means nothing by it. I think you are remarkably calm over the hotel and tickets story - I would have gone ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me not to want to travel to far off Asia for my g/f's brother's wedding?
Q. Is it wrong of me to not want to go to my gf's brothers wedding early next year? He lives and is getting married in far off asia and it would be expensive and something i really just wouldn't want to do. I felt i had a valid point when i told her i ...
A. 5 June 2009: I think it is a bit unrealistic of her family to expect you to go to Asia. It is a long way away and the flights and everything else are very expensive. Maybe if they offered to pay it would be different but to expect you to fork out is not very ... (read in full...)
Disrespected? Or over reacted?
Q. I live in Texas and met a guy who lives in North Dakota. We talked, emailes and texted everyday for about 2 months. He is in the military and was getting a long weekend off so wanted me fly there. I bought a ticket and off I went very excited to see ...
A. 4 June 2009: I don't think you overreacted at all. Ok if he was ill he probably didn't feel like talking and you went a bit over the top moaning about e-mailing and not calling but I do think that you flying over there, you making love to him and with you both ... (read in full...)
He got another woman pregnant, we have no trust, I'm second to his son... do I leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years on and off. during our off period of 6 months he got another woman pregnant, he did not tell me until we had been back together for three months, by that time the child was 2wks old. I feel very ...
A. 3 June 2009: No you get him to leave, kick his sorry ass out. Do not put up with this rubbish for one second longer - it will only get worse as the child grows older. Eventually he is going to want to go over there and you will be left on your own dealing with ... (read in full...)
Gift for boyfriend?
Q. hey guys i need abit of help. its my boyfriend's birthday nxt week and i would like to suprise him i got max £200 if u can give me clue wat to make for him, take him out, suprise at home. anything that would help. thnx...
A. 1 June 2009: Is he into bands, gigs, music or is he more arty. Pens, cufflinks, theatre it all depends what kind of guy he is. Often you can guess just by thinking over past conversations when they have mentioned things that they have liked or liked doing.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of doing all the chasing..what do I do with this guy?
Q. I would just like a bit of relationship advice from anyone that has been through a similar situation. I met this guy about 3/4 years ago just after I came out of a relationship. He had just come out of a relationship too. We started seeing eachother ...
A. 1 June 2009: I think that you should keep away from him. You are very vunerable at the moment and he is well aware about how you feel about him. I think he is probably quite keen on you but is also getting a tremendous ego boost from dealing with you as he knows ... (read in full...)
Wife and kids are upset with me, how do I fix it?
Q. My wife and I of 16 hard years have split apart for third time. once almost a year ago, about 4-5 years before then and a few probs way back when. She left the other day with the kids. neither her or the kids will speak to me. I know I am more at ...
A. 1 June 2009: You have obviously done something to create you wife and children up and leaving and not wanting to speak to you. I am sure if you think about it you will know what it is. I too think RCN's post is excellent. Money is great and it does give you nice ... (read in full...)
Is is just girls that need attention?
Q. My male best friend and I have known each other for going on four years now, and I'm starting to notice a problem. He just graduated from our university a few weeks ago, but I still have one semester left. Since I'm from the Midwest and he's fro...
A. 1 June 2009: I think he has lots of things going on and you are part of life but not in the special relationship way that you see it. If you like him I would hold back a bit. You are not coming across as needy but I would now start waiting for him to come to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop him hurting me?
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 2 months...the other night things were getting really heated and he really wanted to finger me, i wasn't sure because I've never been fingered before but let him.....but after 5 seconds or so it had tell him 2 ...
A. 1 June 2009: This can hurt if you are not fully turned on and you need to be very wet. Make sure you feel excited and fully aroused before he does this. Also make sure his nails are short. I am not very keen myself but if I think about something which really ... (read in full...)
Created a disaster, by agreeing to move in with her and her kids, how do I end it peacefully?
Q. Hey folks, thanks for reading. A bit(okay, a lot) of background: My girlfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year, and she has two kids from previous relationships. When we first got together she was living in a very tiny apar...
A. 31 May 2009: Ok Honey, this is a horrible situation and you are going to have to be very hard and firm in this. I do not think you are going to get a good reaction when you actually ask her to leave and there will be screaming , shouting, threats etc. The point ... (read in full...)
Apologise? Or stay away?
Q. when people feel about something they have done is it normal for them to stay well away from the person they did wrong to? if they feel that bad then why dont they go and apologize to that person?...
A. 30 May 2009: Embarassment, shame, some people are just not big enough to admit that they made a mistake so will stay well clear so that they don't have to face the issue. A lot of men appear not to like conflict so they will avoid the situation completely.
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Am I controlling and difficult to live with?
Q. Am I controlling? I have already asked one basic question about my relationship and have had some good responses that have been helpful. I want to ask something more specific now on the subject of control. I want to know if you out there feel tha...
A. 30 May 2009: No I don't think you are controlling. I think it is basic common decency to tell someone if you are going to be late or where you are. I have always behaved like that. However when I was married my husband would not ring to say if he was going to be ... (read in full...)
Why do women like bad boys? Because they treat them badly?
Q. I like to think of myself as a nice guy. I enjoy breaking the myth that nice guys finish last, I'm well off, good at my job, phyisically fit and an acomplished sportsman. I have however fallen flat on my face when it comes to dating. Women just are ...
A. 30 May 2009: It is not because they like being treated badly it is normally because 'bad boys' are generous, exciting, daring, up to no good, normally carry around large amounts of cash and are spontaneous and unpredictable. I am particularly attracted to 'a bit ... (read in full...)
Will he ever forgive me and take me back?
Q. On May 5th my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me. I feel like my wold has fallen apart, can't eat or sleep and the doctor has me on 3 types of tranqulisers.. Another couple that we had associated closely with split up 4 weeks ago - he just wasn't in l...
A. 13 May 2009: Wow KC100 was spot on. Really really good advice from her.
I suspect you are fearful of the future and of being alone. This is not always going to be the case because things change all the time. I don't trust your boyfriends reasons for fini... (read in full...)
Pregnant & ectopic pregnancy signs?
Q. hey i just found out i am pregnant but i dont feel like i am apart from hungrier. iv started to develop upper back ache, like a dull aching, its jst below my shoulder blade, is this normal? i heard shoulder pain can be a sign of ectopic pregnancy, i ...
A. 13 May 2009: I have had an ectopic pregnancy and I felt severe kidney pain, had a urine infection, was very tired and had a definite fever. I don't think you have this but if you are worried in any way call or go and see your GP.... (read in full...)
I'm so curious about the "other" woman, it worries me
Q. I few days ago i posted a question and i got really good advices, so im here again to see if i have the same luck. I left my boyfriend of 4 years about 2 weeks ago because i found out about a relationship that he had with someone form Seattle ...
A. 9 May 2009: Hi there,
This is completely normal. When my husband left me for another woman I became completely obsessed about finding everything out about her. I think the feelings go through stages. Initially you are very angry (infact furious) and want to k... (read in full...)
To call/write or not to call/write
Q. Hello, I feel to old to be asking a question like this, but here goes... On Wednesday evening I was at an exhibition opening in my home city (in Italy), I have recently broken up with my boyfriend and this particular evening I was finally feeling ...
A. 11 April 2009: Personally I would leave it for a few days. This man will find a way of contacting you if he is interested. True texts often are not received and phones go flat but I would still not contact him. I am a great believer in the old fashioned view of ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my wife, but I don't love her anymore. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 5 years. Periodically throughout our marriage, my wife and I have agreed that we make better friends than spouses. Over the past few years I've grown increasingly less sexually attracted to my wife. I'd say that at this...
A. 11 April 2009: These things normally start off as fun as it is all exciting and new but they rarely last. Statistically 90% of 'affairs' fail when the man leaves his wife for the other woman. I am aware that there is so much love and lust to start off with but ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to even begin to get through this. Any advice?
Q. 2 years ago, at a party, I met this girl. We totally hit it off, and found out that we were both (randomly) moving to the same city (2000 miles away) for the summer. She was graduating college and moving back to where she grew up to be around her ...
A. 10 April 2009: I am sorry that this is happening to you. I don't think there is anything you can do or say that will make her stay at the moment. If she is around the same age as you sometimes the desire to travel or broaden your horizons becomes just too great ... (read in full...)
How can I maintain my dignity and her respect for me in the work place after my failed approach for her?
Q. Hi there. I was just wondering how a woman would like a man to conduct himself around her in the work place after he has made an approach and been rejected. He was not in the friend-zone at the time he made his approach and does not have very regu...
A. 10 April 2009: I have had this happen to me twice in my career. Both times although I did not want to go out with the man I was enormously flattered by his approach and it made me have kind and helpful thoughts about them. Both times I later had the opportunity to ... (read in full...)
I love him but he can't keep a job..and I don't want things to continue this way
Q. 3 1/2 years ago I felt that I had found the love of my life. When I met him he didn't have a job with predictable income, so when he wanted to move in with me I told him he must find another job. He found a sales job, hated it, and cried and begged ...
A. 30 March 2009: Read the bit again about why he stays in bed and you work. That should answer your question. He is a lazy little s**t and you are so much better off without him. Do not under any circumstances prevent him from leaving - open the door for him!... (read in full...)
I know he truly cared/loved me and I messed it all up and I don't know why?
Q. My bf broke up with me a few weeks ago we were together for 6 month. I am to blame, I was moody, miserable and angry. I thought I was acting like this because of the stress of work, new pill etc. Anyway we were seeing each other every week still. He ...
A. 29 March 2009: It sounds as if you are insecure and have no feeling of self worth. People normally push away their partner if they feel they do not deserve them. You will keep pushing away all those who care for you until you learn to be happy with yourself. This ... (read in full...)
What are the signs he's going to break up with you?
Q. what are some signs a guy gives if he wants to break up with u? or at least thinking bout it...
A. 29 March 2009: Becoming cold and distant, having little interest in anything that you might be arranging for the future, always texting, not answering his mobile in front of you, staying out after work. The main thing normally is that they are not interested in ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Really this is a thank you note to everyone who helped me over the last 2 very stressful years. I am now happily divorced and got a good payout and am getting married again in December to a very different type who treats me very well and actually ... (read in full...)
How do I walk in high heels?
Q. Hey! This is one for the girls [i'm not sure there are many guys who will know!] I've been a bit of a tom boy all my life [i'm now almost 18 - in 2 months] and when i go to party's i usually wear a skirt with tights and flat boots. I'm now ...
A. 24 March 2009: This is a case of practice makes perfect. They do hurt a lot to begin with and you will topple a bit but persevere! You can get gel pads to put in ( unless they are open sandals then they would show) and this helps a bit with comfort. You need to ... (read in full...)
I realise they are only friends but am I the only one who finds this a bit weird?
Q. hiya, yesterday my boyfriend came to see me from Manchester. We have a long distance relationshop as I live in London. We were going to spend most of the day, playing with each other and generally being a bit naughty. However every few minutes, one ...
A. 13 March 2009: I can understand how you feel. You expect that person to be 100% focused on you especially when you are apart a lot of the time. I would say that you didn't like it. I am sure he would not have tolerated this if it was the other way round so I think ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for treating him like this and he keeps on forgiving me, what is wrong with me?
Q. I moved to Denmark half a year ago to be with my absoloutely wonderful boyfriend. but I have been acting strangely lately towards him I can't understand why or where that comes from. I was very depressed for some time because I had no friends, the ...
A. 28 February 2009: I think this is anger and a general feeling of lack of attention coming to the fore. You have put yourself out to be with him in a fairly friendless foreign country and you are not feeling thanked or rewarded enough, maybe you feel a little ... (read in full...)
If he has changed his mind about me why does he not man up to tell me?
Q. I was on holiday in France for 3 weeks over Christmas and new year and i met up with a guy who I had met and got with 6 years ago. He works and lives there. He was very keen on me and having just come out of a long relationship, i was hesitant. I ...
A. 27 February 2009: My advice would be to totally leave him alone. He knows where you are and how to contact you. If he is interested then he will be in touch. Ringing him and pestering him is not the answer. The fact that you were ringing from your mobile all week and ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man and scared of being alone again, help!
Q. Hi I'm 41yrs old,and in a awful mess. Long story short. In a relationship with a man who is married, we weren't suppose to take this any further than just that one time. Now its been 9months. He is the one who plans everything,we have seen each ...
A. 21 February 2009: You and I are around the same age and what lets you put up with this kind of treatment is undoubtedly the fear of being alone. The not wanting him to go at night and the need to ee him every day is not healthy. When I was first separated I ued to ... (read in full...)
How can I decide what the truth is here?
Q. I recently heard rumours about my husband cheated on me, a year ago! The girl in the rumour would be one person that I would not doubt he slept with, because they worked together and she was bold enough to tell him she would sleep with him, married ...
A. 20 February 2009: I was married for over 15 years to a serial adulterer. He never cared that i knew and he never stopped. He completely ruined my self esteem and when I look back I can see that I had become conditioned to this kind of behaviour almost like a Pavlov ... (read in full...)
I don't like his ex in the picture, although he says they are only friends. Am I unreasonable?
Q. Hi everyone, feeling confused at the moment and would love some friendly advice. its a bit complicated but ill try to explain. I met my current partner on a dating site as he is in the forces. We live 2 hours drive apart. We met last july and have...
A. 8 February 2009: I can understand this and I wouldn't like it either. I think it is too much for you to have to put up with. It would drive me crazy but I am not very tolerant. You have sat down and discussed this with him and he said he will compromise and I ... (read in full...)
From the mistress to the girlfriend
Q. I am now dating a guy that I've known for 2 and 1/2 years. We first kind of started seeing each other this summer when I was his mistress while he was living with his ex g/f who was his g/f at the time. She found out that he was cheating on him and ...
A. 4 February 2009: I know that once a cheater always a cheater is true. My husband left me for another woman and he has since gone on to cheat on her. At first I was delighted as I felt she deserved it by runing my life and my sons but now I just feel sorry for her. ... (read in full...)
Any girl here who is in relationship with a Capricorn? How did you "catch him"?
Q. Hello.. I have one quick question for all of you, who are interesting and experienced in astrology. I found myself very attracted to Capricorn guys (that's because i have all "love planets" - venus, mars and mercury in this sign). But they're ...
A. 2 February 2009: I was married to a Capricorn for 15 years and he was very difficult to catch and keep. I am cancer. He was hard to pin down in any way and was always very casual in his approach. I realised the key to his heart was to make myself indispensible in ... (read in full...)
An unlikely pairing!
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone even if you really don't fancy them? I have started a relationship with someone, but can't get over the fact that I don't fancy him and feel uncomfortable about it. We are an excellent match in many ot...
A. 1 February 2009: I don't think it will work if you don't fancy the other person however compatible you may be in other areas. My best friend for tens of years (a male) has exactly the same interests as me and will without fail have the same view on every subject. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to fall pregnant after a miscarriage?
Q. I would like to have another baby I had a miscarriage 9 months ago and have been trying ever since then. Any advice I'd like to get them....
A. 1 February 2009: What Holly7000 says about a psychological block is quite right. When something happens or you are concentrating greatly on something like getting pregnant it can actually inhibit you. My consultant told me there is an area of the brain which shuts ... (read in full...)
Quick solution for love bites?
Q. Is there any quick solusions to getting rid of love bites any help would be greatly appreciated...
A. 27 January 2009: Put toothpaste on them. I was told this when I was about 14 but not sure if it works.... (read in full...)
Met him on the plane, we had one date, now he is ignoring me, why?
Q. A few months ago I met a guy on the plane. We hit it off right away. He was sweet and kind and a great conversationalist. I had a crush on him and I was (literally) on cloud nine when he said I was pretty. It turned out that his final destination ...
A. 25 January 2009: I had a similar thing like that when I was about 19 and working in a bar. The most beautiful blonde man came in, city trader just my type. I had one date with him and I was smitten, sadly i got drunk because I was so nervous. I phoned, left messages ... (read in full...)
Do all married men want to make love to other women?
Q. My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...
A. 25 January 2009: I do not think that men are monogamous by nature. I have been married twice and both these men cheated and I have had numerous boyfriends nearly all of them also cheated. I think men get very bored with the sight of the same body and the same sexual ... (read in full...)
1st time sex with experienced guy I feel uncertain
Q. im in love with an older guy but i am a virgin. im 20 and hes in his 40s, divorced with kids, his oldest is older than i am. im really scared about having sex with him. I heard that for your first time its better to go on top but im scared i could ...
A. 25 January 2009: Smeedle has given very good advice here. Be sure he is the 'one' that you really want to be the first one. He is experienced and he will take control and show you what to do so you have no need to worry. It will all come naturally. I too think for ... (read in full...)
I love the lady but not as a wife and don't want kids with her
Q. I have been with my wife for 8 years and married for a year and a half. I was really stupid to let the wedding go ahead as i could see this coming in the distance. Just didn't have the balls to stop it. My wife is a lovely person, I do lov...
A. 15 January 2009: I have been married twice, the first time when I was quite young. My husband did not really want to be with me he was much more interested in going out with his friends and having a good time. He wanted the marriage thing as he liked telling his ... (read in full...)
Best way to keep a man's interest?
Q. Why is it that men will call you at first every day and then miss a day and you don't hear from them? Are they just busy or does that mean they aren't that into you? Should I call or send a text? What is the best thing to do to keep their interest?...
A. 14 January 2009: This is men for you. They don't think like us at all. A couple of days will go by and we are worrying about why we haven't heard from them but it won't even have crossed their mind. When this kind of thing happens to me I accept that they are ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 October 2008: Just an update really. Just come back from court where the interim finances were discussed and to my amazement i got a lot more money than I was hoping for so that has made me chipper. husband still wouldn't look at me or speak to me. He quite ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 September 2008: Still fighting over the money. Ex husband will fight over 50p. I have tried myself and via my solicitors to negotiate a reasonable settlement but all he wants is us out of the marital home so it can be sold and he gets his bit. This is a moot point ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 August 2008: Got back from court last week and I am now officially divorced, just the finances and child contact issues to contend with. Husband read out this long statement detailing all my faults from 15 years back. My barrister said just to switch off. Funny ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 July 2008: Thank you for all your help. Went to court over child contact yesterday and I was practically lamblasted by the judge for not being co-operative and letting my negative feelings affect my child and his relationship with his father. They were so in ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: I learned a very valuable lesson today. Was due in court today but on business so unable to attend. Solicitor and Barrister did their best for me but husand turned up and played the sympathy role so all his costs were awarded against me. So so ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Divorce is still going ahead although husband now takes as long as possible to respond to any paperwork at all. He is being ss difficult as he can be over paying bills and has all but opted out over anything to do with our son. He visits on his ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi All,
I have said there is no problem having a DNA test but husband doesn't want to do it now - funnily enough. I know he's taking the solicitor out for meals and things but have no proof of them having sex ( apart from in my heart I know they... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 May 2008: Latest news husand now says he is going to contest being childs father and has denied adultery on my divorce petition. Now feel in no mans land as am running out of funds and he has endless funds for his solicitor. I just can't be bothered to deal ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: Thank you to all who have helped by offering advice and sharing their stories. Things have gone from bad to worse. Husband has started ringing a lot as the divorce is going through because he is concerned about money. He is exceptionally abusive ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 2 May 2008: You are right I am being very weak and now have to get on with things. I kept hoping desperately things would change but they never do they just get worse so I will pull myself together , admit to myself it is over and try to move forward and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 May 2008: I have been a bit brighter recently and found that I can actually do things by myself without the help of a man. Had major problem with the car which lost all its electrics on the motorway which was terrifying in rush hour and son was with me.Called ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 25 April 2008: It went well in court and we agreed to a bit of access which I am happy with. Husbands drinking came out which pleased me no end and he appeared horrified that it had been raised. We never spoke a word or even looked at each other. I felt really sad ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 April 2008: Soon to be ex husband has put an emergency court order on me for access to child. This has terrified me and son has to come with me to the hearing on Tuesday. I am so scared and don't know what to expect. I am horrified that things have turned so ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 April 2008: Hi everyone who has helped me,
This is a bit of a strange question but it is costing me a fortune asking my solicitor anything so I wondered if anyone could help if they have had te same experience. The divorce is progressing , very slowly, husb... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 10 March 2008: Thank you all for your help,
Husband came to collect son on Saturday and was even more horrid than normal. Suddenly all the feelings I had for him dissipated and I thought what a rude man he is. I told him he had some kind of a mental problem and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 5 March 2008: Actually the pain this causes in me is unbelievable. The weekend went quite well. As soon as he arrived I went out and when I came back I behaved normally and made coffee etc and talked about school and things. Husband wouldn't look me in the face ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 February 2008: Thank you all for your helpful advice. I have been to the solicitor who was good and switched on but bloody expensive. He basically told me to let the divorce go through or cross petition on adultery and concentrate on the finances. It all appears ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: Hi All,
Well the very worst has happened. Divorce papers came in the post this morning citing unreasonable behaviour. I don't really know why I am shocked as it was bound to come but there had been no verbal warning or anything other than he had ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 February 2008: My situation gets worse and worse. I am behaving terribly but don't care as sadly the more time you are separate from the person the less you care about what they think anymore because you know they aren't going to come back. Husband has been back ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 28 January 2008: things are now at the lowest ebb ever. Husband has stopped communicating full stop, no texts/e-mails or anything anymore. Just pays the bills and cc's. i've tried to be conciliatory but he won't respond to any communication from me at all. I know he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 January 2008: Husband didn't come for son's birthday as son decided he didn't want him there and I didn't push it. Recently things have gone from bad to worse between me and the husband and now he won't take my calls or answer any texts/e-mails. This situation ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 January 2008: On Christmas eve husband sent text to see if he was welcome for Xmas. I let him come for 2 days and it was truly awful- he didn't look at me or speak to my face just talked to the carpet. My son and I couldn't wait for him to go. Made us laugh as he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi everyone who has helped me - thought I'd give you an update. Getting stronger and stronger everyday. Never hear from the 'husband' unless it wants something. He never calls or asks to speak to our son he just sends an e-mail from his office if he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: After being back together since beg July came home the other night and he had bolted!! No phone call, no warning no nothing. Sadly I thought things had been going well. After eventually tracking him down I found out that he was living back in his ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 August 2007: After a terrible holiday together husband has moved back in. Atmosphere is very strained and it is like walking on egg shells but we are trying to be nice to each other and see how things go. He still doesn't want to be here and is definitely here ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 June 2007: I have a question for all those who have helped me so much over the past. Things are going well with me and the husband but there are 2 fundamental stumbling blocks which I cannot get my head round. First - is his mother. We hated each other on... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 June 2007: Things still going well. Husband asked me out for lunch out of the blue. Sadly I ruined this by getting pissed and emotional but that's life!! Husband behaving very very well and being considerate and in return I have stopped calling all the time ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 June 2007: A very strange thing has happened - things have suddenly become a lot better between me and the husband. After a lot of hoo/haaing he decided that he would give the idea of a continental marriage a go. This now works that he spends 4 nights in the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 30 May 2007: I wonder if any of the aunts out there can help me on this one. Husband has become nastier and nastier when he comes, now every 2 weeks. He is drinking very heavily and when he comes he is threatening, punching the air or the door next to my face ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 May 2007: Made a truly terrible mistake. Husband came at the weekend to see child off on trip. I was very upset as never been separated from son for 6 days and was crying. We went back to the house and had a jacuzzi and some champagne and then one thing led ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 10 May 2007: Hi everyone,
It is now a little while since I got the devastating news that husband wants a divorce. This is resulted in countless rows with me telling him I will contest etc etc. I refuse point blank to go to the solicitor to initiate this as he i... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2007: Hello Everyone,
Well today has been the hardest day of all. I thought things had been going quite well but husband finally managed to say that he wasn't coming back ever, had no feelings for me and wanted to end the marriage. He said he would take... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 April 2007: Please can anyone give me some advice on how to make this situation go the way that I really want it. After 2 relate sessions husband and are now talk to each other without flying off the handle. I have put a deadline date of 1st May on him ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 April 2007: Now getting very close to 1st May. I am so sure that he isn't going to come back that I offered an extension to this time frame but he said it wouldn't make a difference. Husband tried for a while but now spends less physical time actually present ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 April 2007: Things have calmed down considerably between me and the husband. The one benefit from Relate is that we can now talk calmly to each other even if we don't like what the other person is saying so well worth the money. I don't feel as needy or ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 5 April 2007: I would like to thank everyone who has helped me over the last few months. As I still want my husband back and want to come cross in the best possible light can anyone guide me as to how to best behave over Easter. He is coming for the next 4 days, ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 4 April 2007: Things have got a little better recently. Husband although still not home has kept to his word and informed me of his whereabouts, been civil and allowed me to book one or two family events. I have taken a more friendly approach to him on the phone ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 March 2007: Things have got a little better after going to Relate and husband has booked another session. We have started being civil to each other and treating each other with respect. Husband came round late last night to talk and we behaved properly, no ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 March 2007: Had Relate session today. Was in the most awful attic type building but actually I benefitted from going!! Husband behaved very well, turned his chair to talk to me and not the councellor, was well mannered and charming. I was upset and cried to ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 25 March 2007: Well another day has gone past and not a sign so I rang. Phone on voicemail so left message. Many hours later got text saying it would call. It didn't so I rang. Said it had flu and not able to go anywhere. Obviously said 'why haven't you rung for 3 ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 March 2007: Getting sadder and sadder today because its Saturday and don't know where he is, who it's with or what it is up to. Have not heard anything from him for a while since having a bust up on phone. Relate sesson is booked for Monday and this is also ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 March 2007: Reached a total stalemate between me and the husband now. Everytime we speak we go round in circles, he wanting one thing and me wanting another! Every discussion I have with him tries to cajole him into coming back and he always says lets see what ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 March 2007: Ever so sad and made such a fool of myself. Pushed this chap to come back because I want it and he doesn't . Finding it really hard to accept this and move on. Last night he rang me to say he still wasn't well and I couldn't stop pushing it and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 March 2007: Well here we go again. Husband still living in the City but getting on quite well with each other, being a lot more considerate. He calls all the time to actually speak to me, not child and asks my opinions on things with regard to work etc. We have ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 March 2007: Latest update. Husband came round ( for food) on Sunday and was very pleasant. Told me he had organised sessions for us at Relate because he wants to come back but wants things to be right beween us if it is for the long term and wants someone non ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 March 2007: Husband had decided he is not returning after all. Says he is being threatened and blackmailed, cannot turn his affections on like a lightbulb and is not coming back under those terms. I am no way near as upset as I thought i would be infact I was ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 6 March 2007: Well....... On Saturday when husband came down I called an ultimatum. I had been working myself into a strop and felt very strong with a desire to move on as no mans land makes me ill. Told him in no uncertain terms that I had had enough of his ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 February 2007: Well here we go again! Husband was due to turn up last Thursday night as spending Friday half term with son and wanted early start. Obviously couldn't cope with this and rang to say would be turning up on Friday after all. Anyway went to bed but ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2007: I am beginning to cope with this situation but know this 'do nothing no mans land' cannot go on forever. Very soon he is going to want money to buy/ rent somewhere and then he will commence the divorce proceedings. This subject is never raised by ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 February 2007: Had lunch with the husband in the City today. I made a major effort with my appearance and got lots of looks which bolstered my confidence no end. Husband was miserable and said next to nothing but didn't drink. Child said nothing, husband said ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 February 2007: Hi to all the ladies out there helping me on such a regular basis. Husband came on Sunday and he was very subdued. He was sober and didn't drink anything apart from tea. Said he was on the wagon for a month. Told him that was great and a really good ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 18 February 2007: Situation has worsened because i now feel cross and ashamed. He has rung to speak to child and I was very cold and abrupt and he commented on this. I said I was fine but got him off the phone asap. He also said ' you sound really down' which I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 February 2007: Actually had a major setback today. Son is having his first sleep over tonight and god knows what came over me I said to husband that he might like to come round or we could go out and husband went absolutely spastic. Screamed and shouted that he'd ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 February 2007: As you say you can take a horse to water but you cannot make it drink!! Yes, I have tried everything to win him back but he is not having any of it. Out of the blue he rang on Monday to say he had to stay over on Tuesday night as his friend wanted ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 February 2007: Truly terrible weekend. I picked it up from the station, it was hours later than expected and had overnight bag with it. Made no referral to this. He got in the car and wouldn't sit in front, sat in back with son. Miserable as sin. Got home and he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 February 2007: Still not very well, have made myself ill with all this nonsense and not eating etc. He rang last night and said that he was sorry that he couldn't help but was really too busy with his work and that he might pop over Saturday. Asked him again if he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 6 February 2007: Husband is back from his pretend business trip (holiday with girlfriend). I was very pleasant on phone and massaged his ego. Quite possibly he is the most arrogant man alive talking about his ability to get people to invest millions in his films etc ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 2 February 2007: Hi everyone and thank you all for helping me and your excellent advice. I need some help today because I can't be objective - I can't stand back and look at this clearly. Husband is due to fly back from LA at weekend - he has rung a couple of times ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 31 January 2007: Eyeswideopen,
Thank you for this. Today is a really bad day as I have found out he has gone on holiday with it to LA for a week or so. Lied to me and said he was away on business but I found out. Feel very tearful and destructive. I know this is a... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 January 2007: Finding it very hard to cope without the husband today. He apparently has gone on business to LA for a week, not sure if I believe this - think he has gone on holiday with the girlfriend. His mother rang last night, cut me dead and went straight for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 January 2007: Hi Honey,
Thank you for this. It has been 6 weeks now and he still hasn't come back to me. He is still living in London and seeing the girlfriend and appears to be quite happy. I am still furious but know not showing that I am desperate and need... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 4 January 2007: Thank you so much everyone who has replied. I still feel increasingly angry and even crosser when I am on my own but am not going to do anything. I am going to do nothing for a while and let him get on with it. The advice was really good about not ... (read in full...)
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