My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Really this is a thank you note to everyone who helped me over the last 2 very stressful years. I am now happily divorced and got a good payout and am getting married again in December to a very different type who treats me very well and actually ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 October 2008: Just an update really. Just come back from court where the interim finances were discussed and to my amazement i got a lot more money than I was hoping for so that has made me chipper. husband still wouldn't look at me or speak to me. He quite ... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? I found texts to his ex begging her to come back!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating a man that when we first started dating still had feelings for his ex of 5 years, they have 2 young children together and have been broken up for 2 years He at the time said he did want to get back with her and is ...
A. 15 October 2008: I don't want to hurt you or upset you in any way but this man is still in love with his ex. He is using you as a fall back and that it not right. You love him and he just uses you so he is not alone all the while hoping he may be able to get back ... (read in full...)
Do you think that a bachelor of 52 years old will ever be ready for marriage or commitment?
Q. Hi I am 35 years old and in a new relationship with a wonderful 52 year old man. This is not the common is he to old for me problem, however, he has never been married and never had children. Me on the other hand am divorced and have a 15 year old...
A. 13 October 2008: My friend married a childless bachelor when he was 54 and she was 41. He had been a bit of a play boy type. I think men nowadays sometimes get married later in life and this isn't because they are weird or can't commit but have been working hard on ... (read in full...)
We really seemed to have a connection and we have kept in touch but all of a suden he is ignoring me, why?
Q. I met a guy and had an instant connection. He gave me his contact info, and we kept in contact for several months. We planned to meet again and had a great weekend. During the weekend, he brought up relationships several times, but not directly. ...
A. 12 October 2008: Sadly I don't think you are going to get instant resolution here. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. I would imagine something has happened in his life which has taken over. He may have met someone else, been in a relationship already, lost his ... (read in full...)
So, is this relationship already doomed to fail? Has my ex changed?
Q. Has my ex changed? I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex a year ago, and just talked to him for the first time yesterday. He said he has been seeing a girl, but that it wasn't serious (yet he had sex with her) and that he stil missed me and ...
A. 12 October 2008: I think you are 100% right and all parts of relationships need to be discussed if one party isn't happy with something. As you say if something is discussed to each others entire satisfaction and parties accept that they are going to hear things ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of putting in this effort in this crazy relationship while he sits and makes strange comments?
Q. Hello, I have a few questions actually. I have been in a relationship for 4 years now and it seems like things are slowly getting worse. I do everything i can for this man but he keeps saying these random comments like "I think i sould leave" or ...
A. 9 October 2008: i think you should let this man go. He is bullying you in an abusive mental way with hidden threats of leaving if you don't do what I want and it is not acceptable behaviour. I am sorry to say that I don't think he is in love with you anymore and ... (read in full...)
Who was wrong????
Q. Okay at work and this manager from another company not my own comes up out of no where and started yelling, cursing, and at one point stuck his shoulder in my chest when we were face to face. Not only did this manger harass me to do a job that ...
A. 3 October 2008: Get on the phone and immediately consult an Employment Lawyer or go to the Citizens Advice Bureau and they will locate one for you. You can then sue for wrongful dismissal where you may have to go to a tribunal and explain what happened. 9 times out ... (read in full...)
Should I put my mom in a nursinghome?
Q. Hi I am going through the hardest time of my life right now and feel terriable and guilty. My Mother is 84 years old with really bad dementia. So me and my daughter had to move in but she has never liked my daughter and has a controlling ...
A. 30 September 2008: My mother died when I was in my early 20's and then my father was on his own for years. I am an only child and my father developed cancer which unfortunately effected his brain. He lived in his own home 5 miles from us. I used to go round all the ... (read in full...)
My cat is acting weird!
Q. hi, my cat just suddenly turned into different behaviour. shes always following us and she never used to but then shel suddenly turn round hiss at you, growl, then start faoming and dribbling at the mouth. im worried what sort of illness it is c...
A. 26 September 2008: I am so glad she is ok... (read in full...)
Is going to the zoo considered a date?
Q. Hey, I am 25 and completely useless and inexperienced when it comes to women. But i've been speaking to this girl for about 6 weeks now and we text and email every day. I've only managed to meet up with her a couple of times but now she's suggested ...
A. 19 September 2008: Most definitely it's a date. I would take her for lunch at the zoo and just chat and relax whilst looking at the animals. You could always have a hand hold in the aquarium where is is normally dark. I wouldn't start kissing unless you feel it is ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 September 2008: Still fighting over the money. Ex husband will fight over 50p. I have tried myself and via my solicitors to negotiate a reasonable settlement but all he wants is us out of the marital home so it can be sold and he gets his bit. This is a moot point ... (read in full...)
We argue a lot, so should I move to another country with him?
Q. I have been married nearly ten years we have two children. My husband is from Albania and for the last five years he just wants to live in Italy or Greece. He has brothers in both countries and he thinks its a better life. I am scared of going be...
A. 16 September 2008: My friend and her husband moved to the USA as he was American. Their relationship wasn't very strong and she didn't want to go. They split up after a few years and she came back to this country with next to nothing. She has had to rebuild her life ... (read in full...)
We broke up a month ago and finding out he may be in a new relationship hurts me so much. What can I do to stop this?
Q. Dear cupid, My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about one month. He basically dumped me because he said we were having problems. We were together for four years. Now I sometimes go on his myspace page ... I guess because I really miss hi...
A. 10 September 2008: Bubblygirl has given you excellent advice. The only thing to do is cut yourself off and put him way out of your mind. DO NOT contact him , text, email or look at myspace anymore. Whether he has done this to hurt you or not just don't participate. It ... (read in full...)
Can I catch worms from a cat?
Q. This is really dum I know, but I went round to my friends house the other night and he has a cat. This cat had things like bits of cotton hanging out its bum, which I was told were worms. Can you catch this because now I cant get it out my mind and ...
A. 3 September 2008: Get your friend some Drontal from the vet. They are exceptionally effective worming tablets. I do not think that cat worms actually survive for very long in our digestive tract but it is possible to pick up from a cat. you are fine, probably just ... (read in full...)
My cat is acting weird!
Q. hi, my cat just suddenly turned into different behaviour. shes always following us and she never used to but then shel suddenly turn round hiss at you, growl, then start faoming and dribbling at the mouth. im worried what sort of illness it is c...
A. 2 September 2008: I have 7 cats and sometimes when they have eaten something very bitter they can start drooling and producing foam. Has she been out in the garden? Often mine come in like this. Give her face a wash and clean off the drool and try to splash some ... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker?
Q. I had a 5 yr relationship with an unavailable guy which recently ended. I called him several times in 1 week,went by his work to talk to him and went over to his house but i did not threaten him. am I a stalker? After these 3 incidences in the last ...
A. 16 August 2008: No you are not a stalker you are just upset. From experience as my ex husband took out an injunction against me because I kept contacting him I would leave him alone. Infact with me it was only the injunction which forced me into leaving him alone. ... (read in full...)
My 11 year old is ill and I'm supposed to be in court... she says she will be fine but...?
Q. Today could only get slightly worse, but not much. I have been up since 3am with my 11 yr old daughter. She has been sick twice. Some sort of tummy bug. At 2pm i'm suppose to be in court at a hearing to put £1000 charge order on my exes house th...
A. 14 August 2008: I am really sorry to hear what you are going through. If at all possible I would go as I know from expe4rience that things don't go as well for you if you are not there. Your daughter will probably sleep all day on and off anyway so I wouldn't worry ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 August 2008: Got back from court last week and I am now officially divorced, just the finances and child contact issues to contend with. Husband read out this long statement detailing all my faults from 15 years back. My barrister said just to switch off. Funny ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 July 2008: Thank you for all your help. Went to court over child contact yesterday and I was practically lamblasted by the judge for not being co-operative and letting my negative feelings affect my child and his relationship with his father. They were so in ... (read in full...)
How can you tell a man is no longer attracted to you?
Q. How can you tell if your man has become unattracted to you...
A. 12 July 2008: They become very distant, make false smiles as if they are interested, tell you they are very busy at work and quite clearly look at you with disgust and revulsion. They will be violent in bed and not consider your feelings in any way. They also ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: I learned a very valuable lesson today. Was due in court today but on business so unable to attend. Solicitor and Barrister did their best for me but husand turned up and played the sympathy role so all his costs were awarded against me. So so ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend accused me of domestic abuse. Does she have a point?
Q. My girlfriend and i have not been getting along so well recently. She has recently accused me of domestic abuse which i have denied..... however i looked up the term and am now unsure as to whether my behaviour could be termed as such...... i have ...
A. 10 July 2008: I always thought domestic abuse was when you actually hit someone. What you seem to have decribed is more verbal abuse. What you have to think about is why you are saying these things. My husband used to abuse me mentally by saying I kept a dirty ... (read in full...)
It's tempting to leave home right now. I can (just about) wait. Have I got it all wrong?
Q. Hello, I'm a 17 year old girl. I live with my parents in a nice house in a small town in England. We have a cat and a goldfish pond. And to be totally honest, I'm gonna go insane if I stay here too much longer. Don't get me wrong - I apprecia...
A. 9 July 2008: I left home at 17 after my 'A' levels, also coming from the projected perfect surburban middle class life style. I went to live in Exeter with my boyfriend who was a Royal Marine. For a couple of months it was great it was sunny and we swam in the ... (read in full...)
I can't stop contacting my ex and thinking he is having fun and not missing me - how can I stop the pain?
Q. my boyfriend of over 2 years and i recently broke up. i know why we broke up and everything but i cant f---ing pull myself together. for the first few weeks i was fine, but now 2 months later, it's kicking in and i feel freaking miserable. i...
A. 9 July 2008: My heart goes out to you as I am going through the same all the time. I cannot stop contacting my ex and I cannot let it go either. The desire to know what they are doing all the time and who they are with is very strong. Let me assure you the fact ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend says he has another women, but it sounds like a fantasy. I don't know what to believe.
Q. Don't know what to believe anymore. I have written about the problems i have had with my ex-boyfriend on here in the past. He is acting very weird towards me now. He looks terrible and unhappy. lost weight and generally looks like crap. Went...
A. 9 July 2008: When you can tell they are not interested and this is demonstated by them not looking at you and by you recognizing disinterest in you as a person it is without fail time to cut them out of your life. My ex husband does this to me, he won't look at ... (read in full...)
I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?
Q. ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...
A. 8 July 2008: I would think this is probably cystitus. Try drinking cranberry juice and lots of water. Bloody urine can be the start of a period but pain on passing pee in females is quite often a sign of cystitus. Cranberry juice is very good and will take the ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend says he has another women, but it sounds like a fantasy. I don't know what to believe.
Q. Don't know what to believe anymore. I have written about the problems i have had with my ex-boyfriend on here in the past. He is acting very weird towards me now. He looks terrible and unhappy. lost weight and generally looks like crap. Went...
A. 6 July 2008: I think it is all absolute rubbish. He is making it all up to make him look attractive and feel good about himself. I wouldn't have liked reading all that dirty stuff either but I don't think he liked you telling him off about sending it so he has ... (read in full...)
I lied and kept things that had happened in past relationships to myself. He dumped me! I want him back!
Q. I started dating JR 2 months ago we've known each other for 14 years. It might have been quick but I KNOW he's the one. There was much more than just chemistry and passion. It was something that cannot be explained. I don't have the time or space...
A. 6 July 2008: Hi there,
I am sorry you are feeling such angst and going through this. I too when I was younger had a number of boyfriends and didn't feel it necessary to tell the current one I was going out with, 'everything'. I also thought it bore no rela... (read in full...)
How do you go about getting councelling?
Q. How do you go about getting counselling? And do you have to pay?...
A. 4 July 2008: In the Uk if you want personal councelling with a psychologist than your doctor will refer you under the NHS and it will be free. If it is marriage guidance you are after look at the Relate website and book direct with a councellor near you. They ... (read in full...)
Can someone please help me with this painful separation?
Q. I am separated from my wife of 6 years. We have no children togeather but she has 2 boys from a previous marriage.I love her with all my heart and undoubtly she dont feel the same. The only thing that we have ever had a disagreement over was the ...
A. 4 July 2008: Ok, I am also going through this with my husband divorcing me against my will and we also have a bit of property. This is very very hard but there is nothing you can do anymore apart from sit back and go with the process. I too am furious about the ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my husband to do stuff for me without sounding too much like a nag?
Q. Hi everyone. I would just like to know something about my husband that I dont understand. He is really a great guy. Easy going and not too full of nonsense. But what baffles me, is that when I ask him to do something, there is a procrastination. Thou...
A. 3 July 2008: Normally when a woman asks a man to do something, what they really mean is they want it done NOW. This is normally because they are in the process of doing the washing, tidying or something and this thing is preventing them from getting on with ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he called for three days!
Q. I know this is a sily question, especially for a woman over 30, but I have been seeing a man for two weeks now, we get on really well and have been out four times. On Friday, which is the last time we went out as he has been away for work since ...
A. 3 July 2008: You have done nothing wrong. I have found that some men will call all the time and then stop and start again or some men will not ring for weeks. It doesn't seem to matter what you have done with them sexually or in any other way it is just how they ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he have just told me he'd met someone else, instead of ignoring me?
Q. Hoping some of the fabulous agony aunts could give me a tip or two here. My ex and I were together twelve years. He left me and went back to his hometown two years ago. Canada is a big country so there was fair distance between us. He met some...
A. 3 July 2008: I have found that men avoid confrontation at all costs. This was very cruel and hurtful of him and he should have had the guts to tell you but from experience I know most men won't. My husband continued to see his girlfriend and me on and off for ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to continually email this guy or do I look like a girl with no life?
Q. Is it OK or am I look like a desperate, girl-with-no-life kinda way if I like to share and write stuff about my life to this guy I met some time ago. See, he's military I met him in a mission, and obviously I like him awfully a lot. I decided ...
A. 3 July 2008: I think it is perectly ok to e-mail him once a week. That isn't obsessive in any way. Telling him that it makes you feel good having him to talk to is also perfectly acceptable. It is only when you e-mail every day - unless it is reciprocated - that ... (read in full...)
My ex went back to his ex when she pretended she was pregnant. Should I contact him now?
Q. Should I contact my ex after 4 months? We only dated for two months but we had a really good relationship, with so much chemisty and both wanted the same things in life. However, his ex (whom he has children with) pretended to be pregnant (when she ...
A. 2 July 2008: Obviously you loved him a great deal and you were happy together but when the chips were down he went back to her. Even when she 'miscarried' he still stayed with her. I think maybe you got together before he was truly over her. He sounds a nice man ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you have ruined a friendship with someone for good?
Q. I feel terrible because I'm so afraid that I've ruined a friendship with someone, and it's all my fault. I met someone online who was very helpful and gave me advice about my problems, but I made a terrible mistake of talking about the same thing, ...
A. 2 July 2008: I have also behaved like this with one of my friends because I was SO upset over the failure of my marriage that I couldn't talk about anything else for a period of over 18 months. He also stopped wanting to talk to me because he gave me loads and ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me in an email- should I send him a letter to express how I feel?
Q. My partner broke up with me by email on Monday. I had no idea it was coming and I'm still in shock - heartbroken. Although only 5 months - this is 5 months out of my life which I value. His email told me that some relationships last and some do...
A. 2 July 2008: What a terrible thing to do, although talking to other people it seems a very popular way of dumping someone. My hairdresser who is 22 has been dumped three times like this! Absolutely disgraceful. I know you want to write him the letter so I would ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Divorce is still going ahead although husband now takes as long as possible to respond to any paperwork at all. He is being ss difficult as he can be over paying bills and has all but opted out over anything to do with our son. He visits on his ... (read in full...)
My partner speaks to her "friend" daily. Then I found sexual text messages...
Q. I have recently got engaged and moved in with my partner. Until last week, everything was perfect and i couldn't imagine anything else i could wish for in life until we were driving home from work, my partner took a phone call from a friend i had ...
A. 30 June 2008: This is really horrible and I can feel for you. This lady is definitely up to no good and is playing you for a fool. She likes the security of being with you but also of having her cake and eating it. This is going to backfire on her horribly. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is moving away. Now I wont have anyone to hang at school with. What should I do?
Q. My best friend is moving away to a different city. Now I will never be able to see or hang out with her at school anymore when school begins. It is very hard for me to make new friends, because everyone at school has their own friends. I am very ...
A. 29 June 2008: Hi there,
This happened to me at around the same age as you and it is very hard to begin with as most girls are in clicques already. For the first couple of weeks or so after she has left it will be hard but then things will get better believe me. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is moving away. Now I wont have anyone to hang at school with. What should I do?
Q. My best friend is moving away to a different city. Now I will never be able to see or hang out with her at school anymore when school begins. It is very hard for me to make new friends, because everyone at school has their own friends. I am very ...
A. 29 June 2008: Hi there,
This happened to me at around the same age as you and it is very hard to begin with as most girls are in clicques already. For the first couple of weeks or so after she has left it will be hard but then things will get better believe me. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi All,
I have said there is no problem having a DNA test but husband doesn't want to do it now - funnily enough. I know he's taking the solicitor out for meals and things but have no proof of them having sex ( apart from in my heart I know they... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 May 2008: Latest news husand now says he is going to contest being childs father and has denied adultery on my divorce petition. Now feel in no mans land as am running out of funds and he has endless funds for his solicitor. I just can't be bothered to deal ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: Thank you to all who have helped by offering advice and sharing their stories. Things have gone from bad to worse. Husband has started ringing a lot as the divorce is going through because he is concerned about money. He is exceptionally abusive ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 2 May 2008: You are right I am being very weak and now have to get on with things. I kept hoping desperately things would change but they never do they just get worse so I will pull myself together , admit to myself it is over and try to move forward and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 May 2008: I have been a bit brighter recently and found that I can actually do things by myself without the help of a man. Had major problem with the car which lost all its electrics on the motorway which was terrifying in rush hour and son was with me.Called ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 25 April 2008: It went well in court and we agreed to a bit of access which I am happy with. Husbands drinking came out which pleased me no end and he appeared horrified that it had been raised. We never spoke a word or even looked at each other. I felt really sad ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 April 2008: Soon to be ex husband has put an emergency court order on me for access to child. This has terrified me and son has to come with me to the hearing on Tuesday. I am so scared and don't know what to expect. I am horrified that things have turned so ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 April 2008: Hi everyone who has helped me,
This is a bit of a strange question but it is costing me a fortune asking my solicitor anything so I wondered if anyone could help if they have had te same experience. The divorce is progressing , very slowly, husb... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 10 March 2008: Thank you all for your help,
Husband came to collect son on Saturday and was even more horrid than normal. Suddenly all the feelings I had for him dissipated and I thought what a rude man he is. I told him he had some kind of a mental problem and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 5 March 2008: Actually the pain this causes in me is unbelievable. The weekend went quite well. As soon as he arrived I went out and when I came back I behaved normally and made coffee etc and talked about school and things. Husband wouldn't look me in the face ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 February 2008: Thank you all for your helpful advice. I have been to the solicitor who was good and switched on but bloody expensive. He basically told me to let the divorce go through or cross petition on adultery and concentrate on the finances. It all appears ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: Hi All,
Well the very worst has happened. Divorce papers came in the post this morning citing unreasonable behaviour. I don't really know why I am shocked as it was bound to come but there had been no verbal warning or anything other than he had ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 February 2008: My situation gets worse and worse. I am behaving terribly but don't care as sadly the more time you are separate from the person the less you care about what they think anymore because you know they aren't going to come back. Husband has been back ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 28 January 2008: things are now at the lowest ebb ever. Husband has stopped communicating full stop, no texts/e-mails or anything anymore. Just pays the bills and cc's. i've tried to be conciliatory but he won't respond to any communication from me at all. I know he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 January 2008: Husband didn't come for son's birthday as son decided he didn't want him there and I didn't push it. Recently things have gone from bad to worse between me and the husband and now he won't take my calls or answer any texts/e-mails. This situation ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 January 2008: On Christmas eve husband sent text to see if he was welcome for Xmas. I let him come for 2 days and it was truly awful- he didn't look at me or speak to my face just talked to the carpet. My son and I couldn't wait for him to go. Made us laugh as he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi everyone who has helped me - thought I'd give you an update. Getting stronger and stronger everyday. Never hear from the 'husband' unless it wants something. He never calls or asks to speak to our son he just sends an e-mail from his office if he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: After being back together since beg July came home the other night and he had bolted!! No phone call, no warning no nothing. Sadly I thought things had been going well. After eventually tracking him down I found out that he was living back in his ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 August 2007: After a terrible holiday together husband has moved back in. Atmosphere is very strained and it is like walking on egg shells but we are trying to be nice to each other and see how things go. He still doesn't want to be here and is definitely here ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 June 2007: I have a question for all those who have helped me so much over the past. Things are going well with me and the husband but there are 2 fundamental stumbling blocks which I cannot get my head round. First - is his mother. We hated each other on... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 June 2007: Things still going well. Husband asked me out for lunch out of the blue. Sadly I ruined this by getting pissed and emotional but that's life!! Husband behaving very very well and being considerate and in return I have stopped calling all the time ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 June 2007: A very strange thing has happened - things have suddenly become a lot better between me and the husband. After a lot of hoo/haaing he decided that he would give the idea of a continental marriage a go. This now works that he spends 4 nights in the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 30 May 2007: I wonder if any of the aunts out there can help me on this one. Husband has become nastier and nastier when he comes, now every 2 weeks. He is drinking very heavily and when he comes he is threatening, punching the air or the door next to my face ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 17 May 2007: Made a truly terrible mistake. Husband came at the weekend to see child off on trip. I was very upset as never been separated from son for 6 days and was crying. We went back to the house and had a jacuzzi and some champagne and then one thing led ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 10 May 2007: Hi everyone,
It is now a little while since I got the devastating news that husband wants a divorce. This is resulted in countless rows with me telling him I will contest etc etc. I refuse point blank to go to the solicitor to initiate this as he i... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2007: Hello Everyone,
Well today has been the hardest day of all. I thought things had been going quite well but husband finally managed to say that he wasn't coming back ever, had no feelings for me and wanted to end the marriage. He said he would take... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 April 2007: Please can anyone give me some advice on how to make this situation go the way that I really want it. After 2 relate sessions husband and are now talk to each other without flying off the handle. I have put a deadline date of 1st May on him ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 April 2007: Now getting very close to 1st May. I am so sure that he isn't going to come back that I offered an extension to this time frame but he said it wouldn't make a difference. Husband tried for a while but now spends less physical time actually present ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 April 2007: Things have calmed down considerably between me and the husband. The one benefit from Relate is that we can now talk calmly to each other even if we don't like what the other person is saying so well worth the money. I don't feel as needy or ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 5 April 2007: I would like to thank everyone who has helped me over the last few months. As I still want my husband back and want to come cross in the best possible light can anyone guide me as to how to best behave over Easter. He is coming for the next 4 days, ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 4 April 2007: Things have got a little better recently. Husband although still not home has kept to his word and informed me of his whereabouts, been civil and allowed me to book one or two family events. I have taken a more friendly approach to him on the phone ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 March 2007: Things have got a little better after going to Relate and husband has booked another session. We have started being civil to each other and treating each other with respect. Husband came round late last night to talk and we behaved properly, no ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 March 2007: Had Relate session today. Was in the most awful attic type building but actually I benefitted from going!! Husband behaved very well, turned his chair to talk to me and not the councellor, was well mannered and charming. I was upset and cried to ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 25 March 2007: Well another day has gone past and not a sign so I rang. Phone on voicemail so left message. Many hours later got text saying it would call. It didn't so I rang. Said it had flu and not able to go anywhere. Obviously said 'why haven't you rung for 3 ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 March 2007: Getting sadder and sadder today because its Saturday and don't know where he is, who it's with or what it is up to. Have not heard anything from him for a while since having a bust up on phone. Relate sesson is booked for Monday and this is also ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 March 2007: Reached a total stalemate between me and the husband now. Everytime we speak we go round in circles, he wanting one thing and me wanting another! Every discussion I have with him tries to cajole him into coming back and he always says lets see what ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 March 2007: Ever so sad and made such a fool of myself. Pushed this chap to come back because I want it and he doesn't . Finding it really hard to accept this and move on. Last night he rang me to say he still wasn't well and I couldn't stop pushing it and ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 March 2007: Well here we go again. Husband still living in the City but getting on quite well with each other, being a lot more considerate. He calls all the time to actually speak to me, not child and asks my opinions on things with regard to work etc. We have ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 March 2007: Latest update. Husband came round ( for food) on Sunday and was very pleasant. Told me he had organised sessions for us at Relate because he wants to come back but wants things to be right beween us if it is for the long term and wants someone non ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 March 2007: Husband had decided he is not returning after all. Says he is being threatened and blackmailed, cannot turn his affections on like a lightbulb and is not coming back under those terms. I am no way near as upset as I thought i would be infact I was ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 6 March 2007: Well....... On Saturday when husband came down I called an ultimatum. I had been working myself into a strop and felt very strong with a desire to move on as no mans land makes me ill. Told him in no uncertain terms that I had had enough of his ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 February 2007: Well here we go again! Husband was due to turn up last Thursday night as spending Friday half term with son and wanted early start. Obviously couldn't cope with this and rang to say would be turning up on Friday after all. Anyway went to bed but ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2007: I am beginning to cope with this situation but know this 'do nothing no mans land' cannot go on forever. Very soon he is going to want money to buy/ rent somewhere and then he will commence the divorce proceedings. This subject is never raised by ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 21 February 2007: Had lunch with the husband in the City today. I made a major effort with my appearance and got lots of looks which bolstered my confidence no end. Husband was miserable and said next to nothing but didn't drink. Child said nothing, husband said ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 February 2007: Hi to all the ladies out there helping me on such a regular basis. Husband came on Sunday and he was very subdued. He was sober and didn't drink anything apart from tea. Said he was on the wagon for a month. Told him that was great and a really good ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 18 February 2007: Situation has worsened because i now feel cross and ashamed. He has rung to speak to child and I was very cold and abrupt and he commented on this. I said I was fine but got him off the phone asap. He also said ' you sound really down' which I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 February 2007: Actually had a major setback today. Son is having his first sleep over tonight and god knows what came over me I said to husband that he might like to come round or we could go out and husband went absolutely spastic. Screamed and shouted that he'd ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 February 2007: As you say you can take a horse to water but you cannot make it drink!! Yes, I have tried everything to win him back but he is not having any of it. Out of the blue he rang on Monday to say he had to stay over on Tuesday night as his friend wanted ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 12 February 2007: Truly terrible weekend. I picked it up from the station, it was hours later than expected and had overnight bag with it. Made no referral to this. He got in the car and wouldn't sit in front, sat in back with son. Miserable as sin. Got home and he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 8 February 2007: Still not very well, have made myself ill with all this nonsense and not eating etc. He rang last night and said that he was sorry that he couldn't help but was really too busy with his work and that he might pop over Saturday. Asked him again if he ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 6 February 2007: Husband is back from his pretend business trip (holiday with girlfriend). I was very pleasant on phone and massaged his ego. Quite possibly he is the most arrogant man alive talking about his ability to get people to invest millions in his films etc ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 2 February 2007: Hi everyone and thank you all for helping me and your excellent advice. I need some help today because I can't be objective - I can't stand back and look at this clearly. Husband is due to fly back from LA at weekend - he has rung a couple of times ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 31 January 2007: Eyeswideopen,
Thank you for this. Today is a really bad day as I have found out he has gone on holiday with it to LA for a week or so. Lied to me and said he was away on business but I found out. Feel very tearful and destructive. I know this is a... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 29 January 2007: Finding it very hard to cope without the husband today. He apparently has gone on business to LA for a week, not sure if I believe this - think he has gone on holiday with the girlfriend. His mother rang last night, cut me dead and went straight for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 24 January 2007: Hi Honey,
Thank you for this. It has been 6 weeks now and he still hasn't come back to me. He is still living in London and seeing the girlfriend and appears to be quite happy. I am still furious but know not showing that I am desperate and need... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 4 January 2007: Thank you so much everyone who has replied. I still feel increasingly angry and even crosser when I am on my own but am not going to do anything. I am going to do nothing for a while and let him get on with it. The advice was really good about not ... (read in full...)
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