My girlfriend lost a bottle of her favourite perfume while in a club with me last night... And she wants ME to replace it! What should I do?
Q. Last night in a club with my friends, I got separated from the group. I decided to text my girlfriend to find out where she was. When I couldn't find her from her directions I told her where she could find me. When she got there she waved to me, and ...
A. 30 January 2010: Was it your idea or her idea to go to the Club. If it was yours then possibly in her mind she blames you for it happening as you wanted to go there. Strange logic I know. I would explain to her that being a student and just having paid for dinner ... (read in full...)
What could help with all day morning sickness?
Q. Im pregnant and i cant get any sleep. Im only about 2 months and im feeling so nauseous 24/7. Ive been pregnant before n it was never this bad to where i am crying hysterically about it. Its to the point where i cant even move my body or else im ...
A. 29 January 2010: I am sorry you are feeling like this. Constant nausea is just terrible. Ginger is good and peppermint tea and eating dry crackers can also help.... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable to push her when she came at me with a hot iron?
Q. I've been married 10 years. On Thursday evenings my wife drops off our 7-year old son at football training and I drive from work to collect him. A few times there has been a last minute change and my wife has texted me but I don't think I've...
A. 29 January 2010: There appears to be a lot of pent up anger and fury in your wife. The desire to provoke you to physical action suggests that she is feeling decidedly frustrated. Are you getting along generally, are you affectionate and loving with each other or are ... (read in full...)
He says he feels trapped, should I give him an untimatum
Q. six years ago i caught my fella with another woman this wasnt the first time and i threw him out. i took him back on the understanding that we went out as a couple and he could go to the local occasionaly. recently hes been going nightclubbing with ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think the more you try to push a man into doing something the more they will go the other way. I agree with you that at 37 he should come home after the pub and settle down a bit more. He doesn't feel trapped, he is just using that word - he just ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get my attention by telling me he wants space?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for about eight months. Every thing has been alright, except that we have had one longstanding problem of attention. At first, I was always the one complaining that he was not giving me enough attention. He would like ...
A. 28 January 2010: Yes CaringGuy is right. Men don't do subtle gestures or subtle nuances at all - when he says that he wants space - he wants space. i also agree that your boyfriend is now angry that you are no longer crying and attention seeking which he obviously ... (read in full...)
My g/f sometimes sleeps in the same bed as her mum
Q. My gf (she's 22 years old) some times she still sleeps with her mother when her father is at work on the night shift. She is not the only daughter but she only does sleep with her mum, I find it kinda weird ?How do you view it? Thanks ...
A. 27 January 2010: I used to sleep with my mum in the same bed when my father was away on business. I liked the closeness and it made me feel safe. No, I don't think it is weird or funny, lots of mothers and daughters do it.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I am not slim to save any embarrassment on the night?
Q. i want to tell a man i am meeting soon that i am not slim. what should i say. we are only contacting by phone at the moment. have sent him sum pics and look gud in them but in reality i see myself as much bigger and think he has a rite to know. i am ...
A. 25 January 2010: I would explain to him on the phone exactly what you have written in your post, that you were a size 8 then you had your daughters and now you are a size 14. a size 14 is not big by anyones standards but I think you should tell him so as not to ... (read in full...)
Read his letter and tell me..should I work this out with him?
Q. Here is a letter my "fiance" sent me.. we have a 21 month old daughter have been together for 3 years. Please read it and let me know if I should bother trying to work this out. thank you. ----(from him) So let's cut the crap. I don't ...
A. 23 January 2010: Well he clearly loves you very much or he wouldn't have bothered drawing up such a long well thought our well verbalised letter. He clearly doesn't want to lose you and has given you the opportunity in the last paragraph to turn things around. If ... (read in full...)
One-sided love affairs
Q. This is for anyone who has been in a one-sided love affair. If you have pined over someone, idealized them to the point you question your own worth and felt continuously disappointed by the affection you have not received...this message is for you. ...
A. 22 January 2010: Too true and I can relate to this. I have spent literally years changing myself and morphing into what I felt men wanted and then finding I was unhappy living this kind of lie. Now i look after myself, dress and act as me and put my needs first, ... (read in full...)
I havent heard from my boyfriend since New Years Eve, what should I do?
Q. l am a 23 year year old. have been dating my boyfriend for a year now.he is 27. he has gone all quite. we were suppose to meet on new year eve to go to a party. he called saying he was coming but never showed up. he didn't even text a message ...
A. 22 January 2010: I would leave him alone. It is sadly finished. He knows where you are and how to make contact with you but he has done nothing;- just taken the cowards way out. I wouldn't even bother contacting his brother again , it just makes it look like you are ... (read in full...)
My wife and he talk all the time, but when I am there he pretends he doesn't know her
Q. I wrote before about thinking my wife could be cheating on me with my son's coach. It is just driving me crazy. He isn't the coach anymore, but yet he finds reasons to call her still. They were on the phone for an hour the other night and then ...
A. 22 January 2010: I know you have written a few times about the coach and I understand how upset and frustrated you are over this. It has been going on a while and you are getting more upset by this in every post. I have read all your posts and I do think there is ... (read in full...)
Do I "hang on" or "move on"?
Q. I met an awesome guy online last September and thought we were going to be freinds, but he had other ideas, as he wanted to meet and I was over the moon. However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still ...
A. 22 January 2010: I agree with Angzw. He is a fraudster and a conman. He didn't want to meet because he was likely to be caught out. It was nothing to do with you in any way. Forget about him totally and don't contact him in any way. More than likely he was married ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for getting upset over my girlfriend chatting to men late into the night?
Q. Hey everyone, I could REALLY use your independent opinions on a big issue I'm having with my GF! Help! Now, either I am nuts and the problem's all mine, or she's not treating me right! Please help me figure this out! We've been going out for...
A. 21 January 2010: No you are not wrong and this kind of behaviour is not what is expected when you are going out with someone. She obviously looks at it like a bit of a laugh and having fun but she is aware that it is upsetting you so I think she should stop. All ... (read in full...)
I want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend but I cant trust him!
Q. I don't no wat to do! im really in love with my boyfriend and I want to be with him for the rest of my life, but I can not trust him. we been together for 4 and some years andd we had our ups and downs and stayed with him at those times. but now I ...
A. 21 January 2010: This is a warning sign. Committed boyfriends don't hide things like this or do that kind of thing. I appreciate he is hiding them so he doesn't get caught or you don't get hurt or both! but it is not acceptable behaviour. As Gina says it is ... (read in full...)
Should I finish with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives in Bulgaria and I am in the UK. We have always been planning for me to join him in Bulgaria and we decided once he had a steady job there and somewhere for us to ...
A. 21 January 2010: Mmm yes it is time to move on. You have asked him once, twice loads of times and now he is getting bored with you asking. I don't want to hurt you but he doesn't want you to move over there to be with him. If he did he would be begging you to come ... (read in full...)
What does he mean when he says I'm in trouble?
Q. I made a silly mistake of having a one week affair with a man on my job. He was the cutest thing I had ever seen. I just wanted to sleep with him and nothing more-especially since he is married 33 yrs. I heard he was a play boy and run through ...
A. 20 January 2010: Probably some sort of pervy creepy comment meaning youv'e been naughty so your'e in trouble / or he's going to tell you off sexually for being supposedly in trouble. Tell him to stop or get the number blocked if you can. He's a weirdo. Just cut him ... (read in full...)
I cannot carry on for another 20 years like this, what would you do if you were in this situation?
Q. My husband and I moved to our present home 11 years ago because his job changed. Three months later it changed again and he had to go back and work in the town we had moved from. Since then he has been travelling about 100 miles a day for his job. ...
A. 20 January 2010: I think maybe your husband is so tired he cannot think about moving as it would be too much for him mentally to deal with. When he has a holiday or a few days off I would raise the subject again as you are not being selfish just a good supportive ... (read in full...)
We want to move to different places. what now?
Q. Well, my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and living together for half that time. We do love each other and are good to each other and with each other. She's currently 32 and I'm 28. The problem I'm facing is that we live on ...
A. 20 January 2010: Your girlfriend probably feels uncomfortable at the thought of being surrounded by your friends and family as after all they are not her friends and family. I am sure she could get to know them but they would still always be closer to you. She ... (read in full...)
She has me wrapped around her little finger......how can I stop her talking to my enemy?
Q. hi, my girlfriend has me wrapped around her little finger,She has recently been going out with a friend that gets her into mischif, they both meet up with an old friend that i call my ARCH ENEMY!, The truth is im a verry jellous person who loves her ...
A. 19 January 2010: I too am a very jealous person and know where you are coming from! I suggest you talk to your girlfriend and explain how much this 'flirting' upsets you. The fact that she comes after you when you are obviously mad suggests that she likes pushing ... (read in full...)
My husband got laid off and has turned into a couch potato!
Q. Ok please help me understand. My husband has been laid off for 3 or 4 month now and he has be come a couch potato. He is so lazy even our daughter sees it. She will say daddy you are a lazy butt. He sleeps till 11:00 or 12:00 every day and then ...
A. 14 January 2010: Caring Guy is 100% right. Your husband is very depressed. So much sleep is a sign of this. Yes, set him some tasks and then help him do his CV etc and look for jobs. He feels his manliness has been eroded in some way by not having a job and now he ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out!
Q. Here goes, im 36 years old, have a daughter who is ten and me and her dad split up when she was six monthes. It took a long time to get over him, stopped crying every night for four years and since then i have dated every once in a while, slept with ...
A. 12 January 2010: You have hit the nail on the head there. It's what friends SAY they have. Not always the truth believe me.
36 is still very young and you are clearly a kind and intelligent woman and there will be loads of men out there who would be inte... (read in full...)
He destroyed my trust. Can we get past this?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about one and a half years now. We've become the best of friends and are really close. A month ago he brought a girl home and allowed her to sleep in his bed. He told me they didn't do anything but just got touchy and ...
A. 11 January 2010: There are two routes you can go down here. One is the I don't care , don't let it get to me approach and the other is the route you have gone down which is the 'don't you ever speak to her again/blackmail' route.
Ok what he has done is not nice... (read in full...)
Should I worry about this woman my boyfriend is friends with?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 8 months or so and we've known each other for almost 2 years now. He starting to hangout with this girl about 4 months back and they constantly texting each other all the time. He said that there is ...
A. 8 January 2010: I am sorry about what you are going through. These situations always cause great pain to the innocent party. There is no easy way to deal with this. He says she is a friend but without doubt she wants it to be more than friends and is over stepping ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to separate from my second wife without having to sell my house?
Q. dear cupid, I sadly lost my first wife 16 years ago age 58, I also lost her sister age 56 who was a widow, life can be a pig, I met a lady 9 years younger than myself who I regrettably married 12 years ago, the marriage has never been consummated ...
A. 6 January 2010: Highly unlikely. She probably will be entitled to half the house and monthly maintenance especially if she is not able to support herself or has children, I would viist a good divorce lawyer for an informed chat.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't listen to me and I think there is more to his 'friendship' with an older woman
Q. HI i just got married this year in may and me and my husband are having a difficult time. i am currently pregnant this is the second baby our first i miscarried and i have a hard time believing that he still loves me. i accuse him of cheating...
A. 25 November 2009: Male friendships with women other than their partner/ wife are very difficult to deal with. My boyfriend has a kind of sounding board with another woman that has gone on for years and I don't like it. With me, I don't think anything has happened but ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!
Q. Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...
A. 24 November 2009: You sound like a very nice well balanced woman to me. Thinking through issues like these in advance are a very good idea.
Although I appreciate you want him to spend more time with your son and envisage things being similar to what you have now I do... (read in full...)
One nasty mess - please help me sort through this!
Q. Okay, I can't believe I am doing this, but am desperate to say the least... I will do my best to keep it as brief as possible, but it is quite complicated. Bf of 3 yrs broke up with me 2 months ago, since then I have felt nothing but hurt, confus...
A. 24 November 2009: Baby, this has to stop today. You are making a complete fool of yourself and the chap doesn't care at all. He is probably getting off on the fact that he has two women fighting over him. He has shown you so much disrespect with regard to introducing ... (read in full...)
Heartache at 40..feeling 16!
Q. I'm approaching 40, divorced for almost 2yrs....had a boyfriend after divorce for about 8mos...he dumped me. Was pretty cold about it....why do I think of him daily? Was very close to his children, they still call me....I think about him every ...
A. 23 November 2009: I really feel for you and can offer little words of support other than the only thing that will help you get over this is time. You are doing the right thing by not contacting him and behaving maturely and decently. When we split up after the ... (read in full...)
I told him I had Herpes and now he won't see me
Q. Met this guy 5 times and really hit it off. Just before 3rd date I told him that I had genital herpes. He said he was falling in love, and still met me for date, but then told me we could only be friends. I havent seen him for 2 weeks, and last ...
A. 22 November 2009: I think you misunderstood my grammar- I inferred he talk to his friends and GP about it. I wasn't for one minute suggesting you talk to his pals. Men often have a close male confident that they discuss a lot of very private things with to get ... (read in full...)
I told him I had Herpes and now he won't see me
Q. Met this guy 5 times and really hit it off. Just before 3rd date I told him that I had genital herpes. He said he was falling in love, and still met me for date, but then told me we could only be friends. I havent seen him for 2 weeks, and last ...
A. 22 November 2009: I think he needs time to think about the Herpes issue. I know you want him to know the facts but bombarding him with info on Herpes was probably a bit off putting. I think he will read and digest the material in his own time, talk to his friends ... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 21 November 2009: My friend was in a very similar situation. She became pregnant and her boyfrind cut her dead, gave her money for an abortion and didn't want to know at all. He got a new girlfriend and rubbed her face in it every day.
When the baby was born he sudd... (read in full...)
Who the heck is "Sadie?"
Q. the guy I ve been seeing just text me, he said ok tks sadie, thing is my name isnt sadie....what shall i do...
A. 19 November 2009: Don't worru she's probably a work colleague. Does your name start with an S as it could have been an easy mistake when he goes down his contact list. I wouldn't read too much into this juts ask him outright who she is.the fact that it is just thanks ... (read in full...)
My fiance thinks I'm crazy for feeling uncomfortable with his ex's presence at all family functions!
Q. My fiance and I are both divorced. His ex is very close with his family. His family feels obligated to invite her to every function because she has no family in the state and no friends. She has lived her over twenty years so go figure. I am ok ...
A. 19 November 2009: I think you are a saint and I would have stopped going to these events long ago. You are proving that you really love your fiance by doing this. I think if your fiance asked his friends their opinion on this they would all think it very strange. In ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to talk to yourself?
Q. Is it bad to talk to yourself? I dont do it in public but if I'm by myself such as in the car driving I usaully talk to myself. The reason I do it is because I dont have nobody else to talk to all my friends that were always ears have babies now ...
A. 18 November 2009: God no, I talk to myself all the time and very loudly if I am annoyed with my own behaviour. I only do it when I am on my own though! Don't want the men in white coats coming!... (read in full...)
Insecure & Losing My Mind...
Q. Please help me... I'm really suffering. I have done countless Google searches, read through hundreds of forums and advice columns, and sought the help of family, friends, and even my significant other, but nothing will silence my thoughts and ...
A. 18 November 2009: It pains me to read your post and what you are going through. I really feel for you. I can feel your insecurity. I don't actually think you have anything to worry about and think it is very much in your own head. Kevin is not interested in her at ... (read in full...)
How should I explain how much this bothers me?
Q. Okay my husband of 2 weeks is in nursing school. He started last May. Now before this I never looked at his phone he never took care in keeping it on him. He never really got texts unless I sent them. Things were smooth sailing. So about 3 weeks ago ...
A. 18 November 2009: Actually I wouldn't like it either and 53 texts seems an awful lot to me however innocent they may be. The problem with this is that if you make a fuss about it you may be deemed as controlling. A little example here:- my fiance constantly talks to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have lost everything and this new girl is getting everything I worked so hard for!
Q. Hi, this isn't really a question of sorts but I just really need some help getting over my ex. Basically we were together for four years, he's a year and a half older than me and we got together just before my 19th birthday. Our relationship was...
A. 17 November 2009: Very very good advice there from Tisha-1.
I would add that it is best to keep away from this other girl, go and collect your stuff when you have asked your ex boyfriend that the coast is clear and the house will be empty.
He is continui... (read in full...)
I need to save this relationship! How can I show him I am trustworthy?
Q. Hi. I'm having trouble with my boyfriend! We've been going out for a year. I've lied about a few things to him and he found it all out. I've asked for forgiveness and made promises to be better, to be more trustworthy. Unfortunately, i went against ...
A. 12 November 2009: Trust takes a while to be re-established. You can only do this by behaving yourself for a period of time so no more lies or fibs. You need to come across as open and trustworthy and this needs to be demonstrated to him by you doing as you say you ... (read in full...)
I need to get him out of my head forever. How do I get rid of his so-called "friendship"?
Q. I am so upset by this so please no horrible answers. My ex friended me on facebook-i hadnt seen him for 4 years-it was to tell me he had got married. We were due to get married but it ended really badly because he barely showed any love or care-i o...
A. 7 November 2009: I also remember you posting this question before. I know you are upset about this but there is nothing you can do. He is going to type what he likes on facebook - its probably all grossly exaggerated anyway and you can't stop him doing this. People ... (read in full...)
Can I ever trust my cheating husband again or should I leave now?
Q. My husband was spending to much time with an old friends of ours who had split from her husband. they ending up falling in love and in bed together. He is still with me and says he loves me but loves her more and wants her in his life at some ...
A. 6 November 2009: My situation was identical to Lavendar Girl, my husband had an affair, came back and then went off with a different woman. As she says he should cut all ties with this other woman and the fact that he won't means he still feels something. Time to ... (read in full...)
Biological clock in overdrive - please help!
Q. I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed 3 year relationship. I have lived with my partner for over 2 years now, and moved abroad to live with him. For the past year I have been struggling with increasing desire to have a child. Please understand that ...
A. 6 November 2009: I understand exactly what you are going through because when I was 30 I desperately started wanting a child too. I had a good job but was not fufilled in any way. My husband was not very interested and I had to badger him into it. I would say in ... (read in full...)
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