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writes:Hi everyone, I'm really in need of some advice. I recently found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for a long time while we were together and I ended things. Ever since, I've been through a million emotions and needless to say, very stressed out. I've felt fatigue.. mentally and physically.. and recently I've had a low-grade fever with a headache that has come and gone over the past few weeks. It's not coming to anything.. but I generally just feel under the weather. I was wondering whether anyone else has ever had a low grade fever from stress? Or if this could be some lingering illness?I just need to know whether anxiety can manifest itself like this.. or whether I should get some tests done.Very worried. Thanks for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Yes stress can cause all sorts of problems for your body! I used to get headaches, twitching in my eyelids, tensed up muscles and all the shoulder and back pains that goes with that, the list goes on and on. Your period could stop, or it could come when its not supposed too, and I will not be surprised if it's the stress that causes you to get sick. Stress can really break a person down in all ways.
Try to relax as best you can and take a "time-out" from things. Like go on vacation, or go to a spa and get a massage. Or do other things you find relaxing, watching funny movies or going for walks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Hello. Yes stress can cause these problems. Always always always check yourself out with your GP just to rule out any infection/other issues, most of which are very easily treated if caught early. When we are stressed our immune systems can react negatively and cause us to be ill and also when we have had a period of stress and the we get over it and the body starts to relax, we can also be prone to catching colds & coughs etc ... I just read some research which says the body does react to stress (something to do with micro cell activity ..). Stress can cause us to eat badly or our of pattern, not digest food properly so stopping nutrients getting absorbed and therefore lowering our defences. One thing I will say is please please please be very careful. I was in a bad abusive relationship for years and it actually brought auto immune attacks on, with MS like symptoms ... every time I had a particularly big abusive incident with him, I would get some sort of 'attack' ie a problem with my left eye, numbness in the skin. Now he is gone I feel as though I am de-toxing, I am eating well, walking every day, sleeping in a routine and not arguing and crying. No man is worth your health. Also, if you notice, a lot of men do prioritise themselves, in order to be able to be of use to themselves and do their jobs and be of use to the people they care for .. Women have a bad habit of putting themselves last .... make sure you get your exercise, go for a nice massage, eat good quality dark red fruit & dark green veg etc etc .. you probably know a lot of this but I just thought to mention everything to put it all in a nutshell. YOUR health is absolutely important ... anxiety and stress are dangerous so don't let anyone stress you out. Maybe if you are prone to anxiety (as I was) you could try a little bit of counselling - I did this and the counsellor was a lovely lady who really helped a lot. I'm sorry you have had stress because of this weak cheating guy and well done for having the courage to end it. I wish I had had the courage to end my abusive relationship long before it got to the stage where I started getting ill. Don't worry, just go to the doctor and rule out any underlying problems to reassure yourself then start the first day of the rest of your life, healthy and calm and cheat free! All the best to you. I know how worrying it can feel and it is so not nice :(. Take care. x
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Depression cause by broken heart. Do what is said by others...but I wish to heal your emotion.
Know something about 'emotion', not your emotion but 'emotion' as such.
I was in same situation as you are, the difference is only that my relations are with my parents and brothers, and they all together slipped in to some criminal gang, and begin to start emotional black mailing me, and with my wife. It was unbelievable for me. But, evidence do not care for my believing, they say what is in reality for me. I was totally broke, and loss control over my thought, over reason, logic,....yes, but in between, my knowledge of philosophy protect me by not allowing pain to go very much deep in side me and broke me completely. I have to decided everything for me, as my wife was helplessly seeing me with tear...that do nothing. I decide my self to go to psychiatrist, tell all the story, and rest was his work...very soon, just in a week I found myself in total control. It take six month to recover for such cases, as doctor was saying, but surprise to see my progress.
And, now you see, emotion is nothing but automatic response for value [ your b/f in this case]. It is conditioning. You can reverse this conditioning by getting affirmation that he has no worth, which you cannot see and judge...and better late then never..now it is over with knowledge. Keep your memory as all learning about negative aspect of life. You will feel better.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Yes this is all normal and very common. The headache and the temperature especially which can go on for a long while. Also waking up at early hours in the morning. I found a lot of my hair fell out as well. You will go through this phase and come out the other side but depending how much he mattered to you will depnd on how long it all takes/
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Yes, absolutely! You may want to see your doctor to help you through this difficult time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): It may be a good idea to talk to your doctor to rule out any underlying problem. A high temp cant be caused by anxiety but only a doctor can confirm this.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Hi Hunny
Yes absolutly something like this can lead to depression and with that comes tiredness headaches and alsorts of other things..It happened to me when my hubby did it, It was an awfull year..
Go visit your doctor and explain all you symptoms and he may be able to get you to see someone to talk about it. Its very important to talk or you will just think and think and that will give you a headache. I really do suggest you visit your doctor anyway to be safe..I will send you a link to help you..
http://www.askmarsvenus.com/dealing-with-infidelity.php
Sweetheart if you need a chat message me I get to use the computer a few times a week at mo but I will get back to you I hope this helps TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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