Best way to keep a man's interest?
Q. Why is it that men will call you at first every day and then miss a day and you don't hear from them? Are they just busy or does that mean they aren't that into you? Should I call or send a text? What is the best thing to do to keep their interest?...
A. 14 January 2009: This is men for you. They don't think like us at all. A couple of days will go by and we are worrying about why we haven't heard from them but it won't even have crossed their mind. When this kind of thing happens to me I accept that they are ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and have really bad period pains. Help!
Q. hey there, sorry to bother you but what it is I'm 15 and suffering from really really bad period pains and I really need them to calm down, they are affecting everythin I do. I can't do nothiing, all I wanna do is sit all day and do nothing. I ...
A. 12 January 2009: Something an old lady taught me was to stand upright with your feet slightly apart then put one leg as far behind you as you can really stretching it out - just like you are warming up or exercising. Do it with both legs. It does work. whether it ... (read in full...)
His friends come first!
Q. my boyfriend an i have been dating for eleven months at seven months we moved in together we argued alot i found out he was using drugs we decided to move out and then i told his parents. his friends all hate me for what i did.he is now an out ...
A. 9 January 2009: Personally I think it is time to move out and go back home. You have helped this guy enormously and he is just messing about. You are clearly far more mature mentally than he is and you are ready for a loving proper relationship, he clearly is not. ... (read in full...)
Am I just over reacting??
Q. Not sure if I'm just over reacting to something really stupid but it's another thing that's really upset me and just wanted other people's opinions. I gave blood yesterday and fainted afterwards (my first time). Got home having been told not to...
A. 8 January 2009: This chap needs a wake up call. When I was married my husband did a number of things just like that. He could always manage to do what he wanted to do but rarely assisted me if I needed something. One year I was very ill and our nanny left at 6.30pm ... (read in full...)
Do I bill my ex for the work I did? Or let it go?
Q. Ok, bit of a weird one, but this is the internet!!! Im a single guy, (now!) and have a daughter of 6 that lives with me, i was with a girl for approx two years, who i loved very much. Im working for myself in construction. The girl i was with ...
A. 7 January 2009: I am sorry this has happened to you but the best thing to do would be to just let it go. I know its annoying and not fair but it is not worth your peace of mind. The likelihood would be that she wouldn't pay you anyway and i don't think you should ... (read in full...)
I haven't told my boyfriend about the abortion I'm getting. Do I tell him, if so, how?
Q. If i get an abortion do I have to tell my boyfriend? I am just asking because I am having an abortion in two weeks and i havent told anyone yet other than a close female friend who had one before and is helping me through it. i am experien...
A. 7 January 2009: I am not judging you at all and accidents do occur however careful you may be. I had an abortion at 23 because I was too immature to look after a baby but I have to say I have regretted it. I was seeing two guys and did not know which one was the ... (read in full...)
Need some answers regarding getting pregnant, please?
Q. Hello all! My B/f and I have been trying for a baby for about 5 months now. Everyone tells me to be patient which I am, I just want to make sure we are both able to make a baby. I went to the gyn about 7 months ago and she said that my uterus looks ...
A. 7 January 2009: Very good advice from Satindesire there. I would also like to add that it takes the average couple around 2 years to conceive so you have nothing to worry about as you have plenty of time left. I had trouble conceiving in my 30's and the doctor gave ... (read in full...)
Would you send him a birthday card?
Q. Should i send him a happy birthday card? My ex is a complete asshole. I don't like him as a person anymore at all but for some reason i care what impression i leave him with of me. i want him to think of me as a sweet caring nice person not a cold, ...
A. 7 January 2009: I don't think you should send him anything. If he has behaved like an 'a'hole I wouldn't send him a thing. If you do in my opinion you may come across as someone a bit needy who can't manage without him etc etc, all the things you don't want to be. ... (read in full...)
Acne Medication Problem!!
Q. I've recently been taking oral medication for acne, which my mum pays for. However, today my mum and I had an argument, and at the end of it she made it clear that she wouldn't be paying for my acne medication any more. She said that I had to pay f...
A. 7 January 2009: I can assure you that this is just a tiff and that your mother is cross. It will not last and she will continue to pay for your medication. No mother would ever want anything happening to their child so there is no need for you to worry. Book the ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid no one will care so I exaggerate things
Q. hey i need help with something quite badly. have you ever thought to yourself that when something bad happens no one will care? and so you end up exaggerating to make it all sound much worse for the attention of friends and loved ones? please he...
A. 6 January 2009: You are still very young and as Uncle Phil so rightly said young girls are prone to drama. I had a friend who exaggerated everything and every day on the way to work something monumental happened . It got to the point where all of us in the office ... (read in full...)
Is this a guy's way of ending a marriage?
Q. Sorry this is so long :) Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had taken the day off of work to move all his stuff out. He never mentioned anything about moving out prior to that. In fact I...
A. 5 January 2009: Ok Honey, this has happened to me and apparently is quite common. My husband rang me on the way home from work to say he woud be half an hour and never came home ever again. This cowards way out seems to be quite popular. Also moving stuff out when ... (read in full...)
Will my ex ever realize what he has done to the family?
Q. was with my partner for many years and suffered verbal, emotional and physical abuse. all our children are all grown up now and have nothing to do with their father, ive recently divorced him and have left the area where i lived with him and now he ...
A. 5 January 2009: I posted a question similar to this a few weeks back and received similar answers. The problem is the man may well think about what he has done but it is not going to change anything. It is likely to be a thought that pops into his head when he is ... (read in full...)
Is he no longer in love with me?
Q. My question is as follows: My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children. Here in the last four months my H and I had a big falling out. To be honest it was not that big of a deal. During the fight he stated that he was done ...
A. 30 December 2008: Hi there, My heart and feelings go out to you because I so understand the horror of uncertainty that you are going through at this moment in time. What you really need to remember is that this is not your fault, people do change.
2 years ago my husb... (read in full...)
I am drawn to this man but the age gap scares me, what to do?
Q. I'm torn. I met a 22-year-old man on a plane this past weekend. We really hit it off and had a lot in common. When we got off in LA, he asked for my number, saying he'd like to take me out to dinner. I told him it would easier for me to reach him,...
A. 29 December 2008: Personally I would like to say what the hell go for it! However I am in the same age range as you and would be very cautious so I probably would feel too embarrassed to call/ go out with him. If you are a good looking woman with attitude then going ... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad for being happy that I didn't end up marrying her?
Q. About 8 years ago, I dated a girl who I had known for a couple of years after her divorce. We started out as friends and dated on and off for 3 years. We broke up because I wanted to get married and have children and so on, but she was unable to ...
A. 28 December 2008: I am not sure that you are being totally honest with yourself over this. The fact that you have posted this question makes me think that you probably are still a bit interested and are in a quandary as to what to do. When you were togther you say ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, or just my period?
Q. well here is my problem in 15. i been in a 10 mnth relationship. so you know i know his the one. so i gave it to him. well we been having unprotected sex for some while now, but he always pulls it out.. well one night, we just did it and right when ...
A. 25 December 2008: I think it is highly unlikely that you are pregnant , a period that day or the next day would normally indicate that pregnancy is not the case. I imagine you are delaying your next period by worrying. The signs you have mentioned mostly come into ... (read in full...)
Ladies: How would you feel if the guy you picked up had only one testicle?
Q. I only have one testicle. I have had girlfriends in the past; but I was wondering how a girl would react if it were a more casual. If you don't already have an emotional attachment to him, how would you react if you found out a guy that you pick...
A. 22 December 2008: I have had a boyfriend with one testicle and it didn't bother me at all. It made no difference to anything. He was born that way. He was a very sexual man and very loving and it never affected anything. Any woman who loves you wouldn't be fussed at ... (read in full...)
Is jewelry a good idea for Christmas when we have been dating a short time?
Q. Is jewelry a good idea for a girl you've known for 5 months and dated for 1. If so what type and how much should i spend? ...
A. 16 December 2008: I think it is a lovely idea as it is a special personal gift. I think probably around £50 if you are working. When I was 19 my boyfriend bought me a charm bracelet which he added to whenever we went somewhere and i had a wonderful bracelet full of ... (read in full...)
Can my husband fall back in love with me?
Q. Honest answers please!!! Do you think it's possible for somebody to fall back in love? My husband loves me but is not in love with me. We haven't made love in over a year. I heard his feeling in the past and always put him down sexually. Since then ...
A. 15 December 2008: My husband fell out of love with me and he couldn't get it back. I tried everything but he had just become indifferent. I think it might be a good idea with your husband to give him some space and not pressurize him with regard to sex. Be loving and ... (read in full...)
Advise on dating an older woman
Q. I am interested in dating an older woman. Ladies can you give some advice? How should I ask her out? How would an older woman like to do on a date? Should I bring her a gift when we go on the date? What kind of things make good gifts? ...
A. 15 December 2008: Personally as an older woman I like to be courted with flowers and champagne and for a date I would like a good meal at a top class restaurant with nice ambience. I think flowers being sent to the office always goes down well. Also make sure you ... (read in full...)
Why did she write me this email?
Q. Hi Background- boy meets girl in 2003 at college, fancies her like mad, and she seemed to like me too. I heard through the grapevine that she was, well, a slut.. so this put me off. By late 2004 I was still thinking about her despite having been ...
A. 15 December 2008: This reminds me of a mumber of texts that I used to get from my husband when we were getting divorced and still sometimes receive. It never ceases to amaze me how people who have normally behaved despicably can in their own mind turn things round so ... (read in full...)
Considering leaving my husband - any one in the same boat?
Q. I've been married 15 years and have a teenage daughter. We got married only after 5 months of courtship. First 3 years of marriage were slightly turbulent as we continued to discover each other better. For the rest of the 12 years, we were focused ...
A. 15 December 2008: I am 45 and have a 12 year old and have also been married for 15 years. My husband left the relationship last year for all the reasons you describe and we are now divorced. We had turned into flat mates and in some areas actively despised each ... (read in full...)
How can I control my controlling behavior?
Q. ok... i have a bad problem. ok im young like high school young and so is my bf! we have been together for almost 10 months and i really think that i love him and he loves me to! but my problem is that i am verry controlling and i dont like it w...
A. 9 December 2008: I think it is great that you have acknowledged that side of yourself when you are so young. It is definitely something you need to work on now as the urge to control gets worse the older you get the more it remains unchecked. I am in my 40's and ... (read in full...)
Periods back 5 weeks after having baby - normal?!?!?!
Q. Heya, well I had my baby 5 weeks ago (through cersearian, I'm breast feeding him - I was told that when breast feeding it takes *at least* a few months for your periods to come back... usuaully takes around 6 months... But this morning I got up and ...
A. 9 December 2008: Yes absolutely normal - I don't believe the breast feeding has anything to do with it. Mine came back 4 weeks after the c section. Be careful though because you will find you are very fertile at this momnt in time so please use protection unless you ... (read in full...)
I am scared in case he is too big to suit my petite size! Am I exaggerating?
Q. I've just started dating a new older guy. Everything is great so far. This weekend we were fooling around (clothes on) and I discovered that he has a really huge penis. I mean it felt really thick and really long, like 10 inches. I didn't think that ...
A. 8 December 2008: I am very tiny too and one of my first lovers was massive. It is all about being relaxed. If you tense up it will hurt. If you can get him to massage you and enjoy a lot of foreplay before he enters you then you will be fine. Make sure you are wet ... (read in full...)
He died when I went to make a phone call and I feel so bad because I wasn't there.
Q. I really need some help with this. My dad was my whole world but when i was nine he started drinking and became an alcoholic. He started hitting me and one night he raped me. I still thought the world of him as i learnt to separate the dad who drank ...
A. 5 December 2008: Honey, I am very sorry for you and my thoughts are with you. My father died from cancer and it was truly terrible at the end with the breathing coming in long gaps and then starting again. I went to the car park at the hospital as my ticket was ... (read in full...)
He wants to marry me next year but I'm concerned about the ex...
Q. my problem is my boyfriends ex.i have been with him nearly a yr he has a 3yr old daughter with is his ex. and has his little girl twice a week the problem i got is im never allowed to go with him to take her home i have asked him loads of times why ...
A. 5 December 2008: This is obviously very difficult for you but the likelihood is that your boyfriend's ex is not very happy about them splitting up and he choses not to let her see him with you incase she makes things difficult about him seeing the child. The ... (read in full...)
He told me that if I ever talk to him again, he is going to call the police.
Q. I've asked this question before, but didn't go into a lot of detail. So here is my situation... I've liked this guy for 5 years now. Anywhoo, I knew him from high school. (back in the day) We knew of each other, but never spoken. Until.....
A. 4 December 2008: Honey you must leave this guy alone, totally , no texts, e-mails , messages via friends or anything. He doesn't want to know and he doesn't like being bugged by you. I know this is really hard but I had an injunction taken out against me for ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Am I another victim of her mind game, or what is going on?
Q. I've known this girl for almost a year now. She is 24 and I am 27. She is a superfriendly type of girl. By "superfriendly" I mean she is the megaflirty type who would make her male friends easily misunderstand her friendship to love. I know this ...
A. 3 December 2008: This lady is obviously a mega attention seeking flirt and once she has got the man interested she immediately withdraws. I have seen it time and time again and it is a massive ego boost for a woman. I would not bother pursuing her at all and ... (read in full...)
Since he left, I've made many changes but nothing is good enough!
Q. my husband left me and our son 3 months ago to think! after 3 months he came back and sai he cant come back to us as he sdoesnt love me. he says he will stiffle all feelings he has left for me. i used to drink which he hated but i didnt realise the ...
A. 3 December 2008: Time is a great healer and things often said in angry moments are not meant. He still comes round to help you with the house so he hasn't cut you off. You have changed things about yourself which he is sure to notice. If he didn't like you drinking ... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend looks just like me!! Is this weird or am I crazy?!
Q. hi. Okay so my questions is this- Up on til two days ago my ex-boyfriend has been telling my best friends that he loves me and cant get over me. Then yesterday he calls my best-friend and tell her that he met a girl at one of his friends houses and ...
A. 3 December 2008: I think this happens a lot. My ex husband now lives with a woman who could be my double. People are normally attracted to a certain type. Don't let it bother you and be flattered that he found you so attractive he looked for another woman almost as ... (read in full...)
What is the solution to an addictive, negative relationship, I don't need to be with him?
Q. What do you do when you're addicted to someone who is obviously bad for you? My boyfriend has hurt me over and over and over but I always take him back. I let him know in clear terms what he did was wrong and I won't tolerate it anymore and then I ...
A. 1 December 2008: I was like this with my ex husband. He constantly cheated on me, hit me, verbally abused me, lied , you name it he did it and everytime I would take him back or beg him to come back. This 'addiction' is all down to lack of self worth of the ... (read in full...)
Why do you catch so much hell as a mistress?
Q. HELLO Ladies and Gents, I have a question when you are the mistress why do you catch so much hell. I have been involved with my friend for about two years now and i love him very much and will do anything for him. But this is my problem in the b...
A. 30 November 2008: A friend of mine has been a mistress to an airline pilot for 25 years. She sees him when he is in the country and often gets free flights to meet him in exotic locations but he is never there for Christmas or anything like that as he is always with ... (read in full...)
On a scale of 1-10 how important is sexual compatibility?
Q. How important on a scale of 1 to 10 is sexual compatibility in a relationship? How devastating can sexual differences be to a relationship? Are there ways to overcome these differences and make things work? Or is it a case by case thing. I'm looki...
A. 30 November 2008: I would say it is extremely important. My ex husband had a very high sex drive and mine was very low and it just did not work. He was always on at me and I was always trying to make excuses. Eventually he left me and this was the major reason. We ... (read in full...)
I just had my hair cut and I HATE IT!!!
Q. Well... This probably will seem like a really dumb problem.. but I need help. It's not really a relationship question either, but I hope you can help anyways. About a week ago, I went and got a haircut, before I went in, my hair was down past my...
A. 29 November 2008: I know how you feel as this happened to me at your age. I had really long hair and she cut it to my chin and it made me look like a big egg. God how I cried and cried. Definitely get some extensions as soon as possible and you will feel happier ... (read in full...)
Have any of the female readers felt the same way about their current partner?
Q. I'm a bit confused and need some advice. Last week I started chatting online with a very nice young lady, and we have been texting constantly every day since. I met her for the first time last night down the pub, and after we said good bye I ...
A. 28 November 2008: I too have not instantly felt attracted to a man but remained friends with them for years and have begun to feel differently for them over time and fallen head over heels in love with them. Infact the ones I have felt the most for were not ones I ... (read in full...)
Back with my ex after 2 years and I'm NOT happy!
Q. Back with my ex after 2 years. I split with my ex for 2 years in that time I had a relationship with some guy that didn't work out, after it finsihed my ex who I had been with for 15 years said he wanted me back, I said I'd need time to think, it ...
A. 28 November 2008: Hi there,
I was married for 14 years and my husband wasn't happy. He left and came backwards and forwards for about a year and although I was happy he felt he was living a lie. In the end he left for good and for him that was the best thing he coul... (read in full...)
My husband of 12 years packed up and left... what do I do?
Q. Here goes..Today My husband of 12 years packed his clothes and left. He told me he didnt love me anymore and has left me with our 2 boys. I know we haven't been seeing eye to eye for some time but i honestly never expected this. after all, what ...
A. 21 November 2008: Ok Honey. This happened to me nearly 2 years ago. My husband up and left without a word after 15 years of marriage leaving me with our son. He told me he wanted out and that he was no longer happy. Now I really wanted him back. He had had constant ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been given a label by the person who I have grown to love deeply.
Q. Yesterday my boyfriend said in a heated conversation that he thought I'd been 'ruined'. This has upset me terribly and I'm wondering how I am ever going to get beyond his remark. He won't retract it or apologise. When I asked him if he would choose ...
A. 19 November 2008: This guy is not a nice man. He is controlling and abusive. He understands you have low self esteem and suffer from depression yet continues to say things which he knows will hurt. You are not his doormat and most certainly do not have to take this ... (read in full...)
He gets annoyed because I'm quite shy and don't talk much to his friends.
Q. I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend always gets so mad and angry at me when we go out with his friends because I don't talk much. I told him I'm really shy when I first meet people and it takes some time for me to be comfortable with people. He should ...
A. 19 November 2008: I am very shy and reserved and my ex husband was the most outgoing sociable guy you could ever meet. He would take me to be with his work colleagues and then just abandon me while he did the rounds. I HATED it. It was so awful and he would say ' you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his online dating voyeurism, My problem...Can you help?
Q. I would like advice. I probably should note that it looks a little long compared to the other Dear Cupid's but a little background is necessary. I have been dating a man I met online for 3 months - he's a great guy. We are in a real relationship. ...
A. 19 November 2008: Well warning bells and red lights are flashing here. This chap wants to have his cake and eat it. You have discussed this with him twice. Both times he says he will do something about it and then you find he has been sneaky and tried to cover ... (read in full...)
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