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writes:My boyfriend can't express his feelings for me, what should i do?Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We are so happy together, he makes me laugh and is so kind to me and dedicated to me. However He can't express how he feels for me. Even in our quite moments together he doesnt let me know how much i mean to him or anything like that. I am a very confident person however recently i have been feeling my confidence about my relationship is failing. After 6 months together i told him i loved him, and he didnt say it back, i was upset and confronted him about this, he said he probably thinks its because of his past relationship where he had a girlfriend before me for 16 months, when she ditched him for someone else. However i beleive he just is making excuses. I know he loved her and that is constantly playing on my mind. I can't let him go and move on, however im starting to become unhappy. I have talked to him about this and he knows how seriously this affects me he said he just feel uncomfortable telling me, however i said well is it worth me feeling so upset. He said he would try and tell me, but its clear he finds it difficult as he is quite an anxious person and he says he keeps trying but it isnt something that crosses his mind. I know he is concerned for me and is willing to do or try anything he can to make this better for us. I keep setting dates saying i will talk to him about it if he doesnt love me by then. Will he ever love me, or am i hanging onto false hope? What next steps can i take? Thankyou all so much for your time. x
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Okay.."I keep setting dates saying i will talk to him about it if he doesnt love me by then." that is crazy. You can't make someone love and you can't give dead lines to see if he loves you then. "I love you " are 3 strong words to say and he's probably not ready for those words to come out yet. AND, his meaning of love can be different from the meaning of love to you. Next time you talk to him, and say that you love him, tell him what you really mean when you say you love him, what does that really mean to you? Think about it. And ask him what the love means to him. And see how things go from there.Cause to some people the words "I love you" good luck.
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