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writes:I met a girl at uni a few months ago (on whom I previously had a crush) and I really like her. I'm usually kind of superficial in that I'm generally only attracted to girls who are 'visually' attractive regardless of their personality (not to say that I dislike unattractive girls), but since I've met this girl, and gotten to know what she's like, I cant stop thinking about her. I've never felt this way about anyone I've ever met - I would take a bullet for her - and it's not as though she's necessarily the hottest girl I've seen (or met), nor would most guys probably find her particularly attractive. If given the chance to spend the rest of my life with any woman in the world, I wouldn't hesitate to choose her.The problem is, however, that I found out recently that she's already dating a guy I know (before I even got the chance to ask her out). No disrespect to him, he's a reasonably nice guy, but I see her as being way out of his league - and I don't think she's even that keen on him. I never see them hanging out or anything (I probably spend more time with her), and I get the vibe that maybe she likes me more than him, and that she might just be dating him because she thinks of herself as not being particularly attractive and dating whomever she can (or just until something better comes along). Again, no disrespect to him - it's just how I see it. I'm positive that I would treat her better than he does.How can I ask her out? I'm afraid that if I have to wait for them to break up, there's a chance that they won't - and I'll have missed my chance, which I'd regret for the rest of my life.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Well you may think he seems out of her league...but she thinks differently. She's with him. I'm sorry but you can't really do anything, she's already in a relationship. You've already missed your chance....unless you're a home wrecker,which is a no no, there's no way to go around this. But if they end up breaking up...then that's your chance to step up. Meanwhile, go out, have fun. There are plenty of flowers in the garden. I'm sure another might catch your eye. Good luck
-A.E
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