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Why didn't he kiss me?

Q.   Something weird happened to me today. There's this guy I've been working with for a month. I'm 31 and he's 25, although this doesn't seem to matter to him. He's been flirty, and is what you can call a pretty boy, too pretty b/c he's HOT. He says he ...

A.   9 February 2009:  wow dats bad... (read in full...)

Random question for those with experience..

Q.   why do SOME guys love it when a girl just talks dirty to him and wants nothing else. and dislikes the girl's that would want to be ther physcilaly and emotionally?? is it usual for the two people to mostly talk abot sex at the very begining or...

A.   7 February 2009:  then if he's a gudd guy than there's no reason not to be with him... (read in full...)

Girlfriend's new friend! (Yawwwwwn)

Q.   Little stuff with my gf is pissing me off, she met a new friend at work and blew me off, I played it cool cause I love her and she doesn't have many friends. I love her to death, we will probably meet tonight and get a little intimate if you know ...

A.   6 February 2009:  there's no reason to be soo jealous.. if you really love her then there should be some trust in the relationship..you say that she doesnt have much friends, she may just be trying to make some new friends... chill bro...relax grls dont like g... (read in full...)

I think he's upset because I'm not a virgin

Q.   I'm kind of freaked out about something (hence why I'm on this site): I'm not a virgin (only been with one guy) and the guy I REALLY like is a virgin and I don't know how he's taking that. I told him that I'm not and lately, he's been a little...not ...

A.   6 February 2009:  i think hes just surprised and scared.. now that he knows you're not as virgin.. he might be thinking "oh my god. this grl has ecperience and i have no idea what im doing"- he may be feeling a little insucure and he might be scared that you'... (read in full...)

How do I tell my friend to leave her alone?

Q.   Ok, so i like this girl(haven't heard that one before...) and i don't think anyone even knows this, because I've never cared that much about love or the like; Sadly, my friend keeps hitting on her, but not in any normal way, he is a little perverted ...

A.   6 February 2009: Ok if you and this guy are really good friends the I'm sure you can talk to him.. I'm exactly the same age as you and see this shit going on all the time around school. Just pull him aside guy to guy, friend to friend and tell him that he needs to... (read in full...)

Random question for those with experience..

Q.   why do SOME guys love it when a girl just talks dirty to him and wants nothing else. and dislikes the girl's that would want to be ther physcilaly and emotionally?? is it usual for the two people to mostly talk abot sex at the very begining or...

A.   6 February 2009:  i think he just wants to get in your pants... (read in full...)

How to get the "spice" back

Q.   Ive been with my fella for 5 years and have recently moved in with him. We are still both madly in love but somethings happened on my side with the sex time. We do have sex regular still but it takes me to be REALLY in the mood before i do it. I ...

A.   6 February 2009:  mooooree foreplay... you guys need to do more foreplay alot of women say that intercourse is not the best part in sex.. its forplay..so be sure to do alot of that before intercourse to things up even more..try role playing wear costumes or... (read in full...)

How can I feel more comfortable?

Q.   I have just started seeing this really phyically fit guy the problems is I am the opposite and am so unfit and unhappy with the way I look. I have never had the confidence to strip and I have never seen a bloke naked, I know this is crazy but I am ...

A.   6 February 2009:  then just accept your self for who you are..be more comfortable in your skin... if he says if he says you dont need to,... then you've got a guddd guy there but if you really want to get in sshape and be more healthy then go to the gym on yo... (read in full...)

Problems with the ex being back in her life...

Q.   The girl I love is confusing me (long 10 points)? So bascially we went out for 2 months and it wasn't working mainly because she wasn't over her ex. We decided we needed to break it off but she didn't want to stop talking to me. She says she like...

A.   6 February 2009:  juss give her a little time to getr everything settle...give her time to work everything out of her system, you wont loose her it seems that she really is attached to you..and you kinda have the upper hand more than other guys... ("she goes w... (read in full...)

We're only 14 and 15...can he really love me?

Q.   I had a boyfriend for almost 1 1/2 years that I just broke up with 2 weeks ago. My reason for breaking up with him was because there was another boy that I started to like and I didn't think it was fair to my boyfriend to stay with him when I had ...

A.   6 February 2009:  i dont think hes in love..he mind think so but it doesnt just happen like that..he juss really wants to be with you, but cant possibly be i love with you yet.... if i were you i'd rather stick with your ex, he sounds like a really gudd guy.... (read in full...)

Cyber-cheated by sending private pictures of myself to someone else...do I admit it or not?

Q.   Last night, I did something really bad. I don't know why, I think maybe curiosity as it was a friend more than anything. But now I really, really regret it and feel so guilty. And it's a bit worse. I sent some "private" pictures to a friend (...

A.   6 February 2009:  yes you should really take your own advise.. it really needs to come from you empty threats or not if he hears it from somebody else its gonna be harder on you and you're gonna a more to explain.. tell him what happened, and tell him sorry y... (read in full...)

What do you do with a man who plays games, but still loves you?

Q.   I have been going out with this guy who is also in my work for 6 months, he is 49 and I am 28 - things have been going great until recently - he has started playing mind games with me and I have no idea as to why. He broke his toe and was limping - ...

A.   6 February 2009:  the reason he could be playing these mind games could be because of his ex grlfiend...she hurt him and i think that effected him in someway. and i think because he wants your attention and keep everything fresh and lively because he is mu... (read in full...)

Do men ever regret their decisions?

Q.   My ex broke up with me because he wanted his freedom and didnt want to be tied down in a relationship, even though we were perfect together. Unfortunately, I dont see us getting back together or even being friends but I am wondering when he finally ...

A.   6 February 2009:  ofcourse guys regret... one day he'll wake up and say "what da f++k did i do... im such an ass" he'll realize that he gave up on something really good..... (read in full...)

How do I tell her how much I love her on her birthday?

Q.   My best friend (whom is a girl) and I have been best friends since we were in diapers. The problem? I've had a huge as hell crush on her since we were freshmeat in high school. At this point, I'm completely in love with her and every other girl I've ...

A.   6 February 2009:  do something really special for her, something close to the heart, ... and at the end pull her aside and tell her how you feel..hope watch it go from ther gudd luck--peace... (read in full...)

B/f depressed and I'm not sure how to help him

Q.   My boyfriend gets really depressed alot and until now i've been able to cope with talking him through it even though alot of what he says to me really hurts. When hes depressed he will say things like theres not point us being together or i do...

A.   6 February 2009:  just try and convince him that he's all you need a nd that he should stop downing himself like that...there's nothing wrong with him...tell him that he's all you could ever want... (read in full...)

Slept with my boss and now he's lost interest

Q.   I've been at my job for a while and just over a month ago a new manager started. From the first time we meet i was attracted to him, there was a bit of subtle flirting for a week then we went out one night after work ended up getting drunk and ...

A.   6 February 2009:  communacation is key.. talk to him..ask him on what level you two are together..and tell him that just dont understand that one night hes in the sack when you and a few days later he kissing some other guy demmand an expination from him... (read in full...)

Why didn't he kiss me?

Q.   Something weird happened to me today. There's this guy I've been working with for a month. I'm 31 and he's 25, although this doesn't seem to matter to him. He's been flirty, and is what you can call a pretty boy, too pretty b/c he's HOT. He says he ...

A.   6 February 2009:  he doesnt want to go tooo fast.. he thinks that you might think hes beying too foward on everything...... (read in full...)

Am I really cursed by this gorgeous face?

Q.   I was shocked today when my male bestfriend came out and said that hes bi and that he likes me.. We were walkin on the street when he told me... Im a guy too and I didnt expected it! I posted a problem a week ago and now here comes another pr...

A.   6 February 2009:  you should have a talk to him friend to friend and tell him that you have nothing against gays but, you just dont go that way tell him that you understand and that you're okay with him liking you, but just know that were only gonna be good... (read in full...)

My b/f thinks I'm cheating on him with his brother?

Q.   Ok my boyfriend was tripping and started ignoring me in school ,so im at home wondering what was the problem and he calls me and ask me am I and his brother trying get with each other and he thinks im cheating on him with his brother and stuff ...

A.   6 February 2009:  tell him to tlk to his brother.. all three of you should have a tlk with eacother to settle this... (read in full...)

My brother is going down on his girlfriend and he is only 13, what should I do?!?

Q.   Hello If you don't want to read what fully happens, skip to the paragraph above the last sentence. I have a brother. He is 13, and has a girlfriend. My aunt visited my mom so they decided to go shopping. I was told to watch my brother...

A.   6 February 2009:  im really happy tro hear that...... (read in full...)

B/f depressed and I'm not sure how to help him

Q.   My boyfriend gets really depressed alot and until now i've been able to cope with talking him through it even though alot of what he says to me really hurts. When hes depressed he will say things like theres not point us being together or i do...

A.   6 February 2009:  try asking him what makes him soo mad...and comfort him..you may not know it but not only grls have worries..guuys have a bunch of things that run our minds too have you been intamate with him yet... he may be worried about his size, and thin... (read in full...)

Why does he kiss for so long?

Q.   I enjoy kissing my boyfriend . The only problem is , when we kiss , he likes to kiss foreverrr . I always push him away and start over and again , he continues to kiss for soooo long . I want to give him pecks sometimes but he continues to kiss and ...

A.   6 February 2009:  he does it cause he loves, he really feels passionate for you..he's glad to have you and you should be glad to have him too because he sounds like a great guy and not all guys are gonna br as great down the road..just tlk to him and tell that... (read in full...)

He accused me of cheating and then broke up??

Q.   i was seeing this guy for 3months and we got into an argument and he accused me of cheating when i haven't.. i guess he wanted to break up.. and since then ive not heard from him so i guess this is his way of breaking up with me..any advice please.. ...

A.   6 February 2009:  well if every thing was pefect and then he just accuses you of cheating then breaks up..i think he was copping out.. and think he didn't want to be in the relatioship anymore and decided to put the blame on you instead.. he doesnt sound ve... (read in full...)

Tell him how I feel or keep it to myself? We're boys.

Q.   i feel really messed up right now 'cause i'm in love with this other guy. he's the sweetest yet most annoying jerk i've ever met. he's usually loud, boastful and just plain stupid but i can't get him out of my mind. the thing is that wit me he's ...

A.   6 February 2009:  just pull him aside friend to friend and tell him how you feel bro..' and if he's not into that, just to keep it to himself and not spread it around skool, if he's a good friend im sure he'll understand gudd luck bro only you know what you... (read in full...)

Why is my brother taking it out on me?

Q.   My brother (he's 19 and I'm 15) has been acting a like a huge jerk lately. He wont talk to me or seen me in weeks. It all started when I told him that I didn't like his very (very) annoying and rude girlfriend because she gave my sister (shes 24) ...

A.   6 February 2009:  ok you should have a tlk with him and tell him how you fell.. tell it was not your business to interfere in as allways you're brothers, theres always gonna be bumps in the road but sooner or later you guys will be close again gud luck bro... (read in full...)

My brother is going down on his girlfriend and he is only 13, what should I do?!?

Q.   Hello If you don't want to read what fully happens, skip to the paragraph above the last sentence. I have a brother. He is 13, and has a girlfriend. My aunt visited my mom so they decided to go shopping. I was told to watch my brother...

A.   6 February 2009:  yes i agree with "uluvme" dont bring in the parents, if you were in his position how would you feel?? what you need to do is have a brother to brother tlk with him, tell him undertandingly that what he's doing is wrong, hes not rready for t... (read in full...)

I've hung out with him almost every day after school pretending I forgot my bus pass while I'd wait for a ride home.

Q.   I just started to like this guy but he isn't my type, I don't think my friends would like him and I'm not even sure if he likes me. Besides my doubts here are some positive things: we're both the same age (16) and have similar interests and it seems ...

A.   6 February 2009: Then be straight forward with him and tell him how you feel.. and if the response doesn't come to your liking, don't feel bad (I know some girls can be like that) don't feel humiliated, it's not the end of the world but if you like his response ... (read in full...)

My husband has admitted he has gay tendencies.

Q.   I have been married for 25 years and during all that time a have suspected my husband had gay feelings, even more so when our sex life dried up 8 years ago with him saying he had a very low libido. I discovered this week that I was right. I found ...

A.   6 February 2009: Unfortuately a lot of guys go through this... since they were teens but they were too ashamed to talk about it... I hope you can give him a chance, if he feels disgusted by the idea of being with a guy then he's not gay, he happily loves you, he ... (read in full...)

Is my penis normal? And are my friends really as big as they say?

Q.   I'm 16 and have around a 3" penis when erect, is this normal? Also my "friends" say their like 6+ can this be true or are they just trying to show off?...

A.   6 February 2009:  yes they're probly telling the truth, because a guys penis is 4-6 inches, its when they say its like 8 inches they're tlking crap...and man..every guy has these worrys your normal and remmember your just 16 your still growing, your gonna ge... (read in full...)

Could my pubic stubble hurt my bf during sex? Should I trim instead of shaving?

Q.   i'm thinking about shaving "down there" but i was wondering... when you're having sex or other forms of sexual contact with a guy, doesn't that kind of hurt him in between days? i'm way too hairy to shave every day (it hurts really bad and i bleed ...

A.   6 February 2009:  of course not..why are you worrying soo much, it doesn't hurt him...remmember he has pubic hair tooo, probly more than you..so unless hes shaved clean there's no way your pubic hair can hurt him' gudd luck... (read in full...)

Is it OK to sleep with another man's wife?

Q.   Is it o.k to sleep with another mans wife. I have a married wowan friend at work who has expressed a wish to sleep with me, she has given me details of her marriage woe's etc. I admit she is very attractive. My ex wife cheated on me with my best ...

A.   6 February 2009:  do you seriuosly have to ask??? ofcourse its not ok to sleep with anotrher man's wife... how did you feel when your wife slept with your best friend.. its not a good thing bro... (read in full...)

Sex wasn't a great experience for me

Q.   So i was making out with a girl in a club and i was llike really hard that time but then we wanted to take it further..so we went to the beach and we tried to have sex over there ..i got reaaly hard..and i went inside her but it was winter and ...

A.   6 February 2009:  well the problem with you not liking the sex you were having on beach was probly sour surroundings..you were by the cold beach naked in the winter..and the problem could be that yu really no nothing about this girl..see when you really know ... (read in full...)

How can I help so that our first time is loooong lasting?

Q.   My boyfriend says that after a guy gets so used to masturbating..the first time after that, he cums faster. He says it gets a bit sensitive down there. Is this true? How can I help so that our first time is loooong lasting? ...

A.   6 February 2009:  well its really hard to answer cause every guy is different... but it is sensitive down there...juss do alot of foreplay, and remember its your first time its not gonna be perfect, and the more often you do it, hill last a little bit l... (read in full...)

I was hurt when I found out she liked someone else, any advice?

Q.   Hi there. I still dont think im over this girl. Shes funny and a great mate and i had my first real experience of love with her. She said no but i had butterflies in my stomach for weeks before i asked her and i couldnt stop thinking about her. She ...

A.   5 February 2009:  yes i agree with emilyanswers... you should juss move on and try to get over her..because im around the same age as you and just recently went through something almost exactly like that...and i found that the bedt thing to doo is to just move on ... (read in full...)

Was he rejected?

Q.   If things get hot n heavy!! He initiates it and I follow..then I end up putting the brakes! Say 'no' to sex. Will my partner end up so frustrated that it will drift him further apart. I'm asking this because it went as far as him pulling his pant...

A.   5 February 2009:  yes probably, he feels rejected after rubbing on his johnson...and then you juss say no??? you should've tlked to him way before he dropped his pants and told him that you were not ready for sex yet but the way it happened, he might feel ... (read in full...)

I just want to meet someone, settle, and have a family

Q.   Help! Im 36 and on my own again. I just want to meet someone special and settle down and have a family. I try to go out as often as possible, have joined clubs and tried the internet but still no-one I feel I like. I worry that I will never ...

A.   5 February 2009:  you shouldn't feel soo bad.. dont worry you're only 36 you'll find that special someone-perfect in every way.. juss put youself out there, make new fiends, go clubing more often, join a club or something i just know its gonna happen for y... (read in full...)

Am I right to be jealous about her male best friend?

Q.   Before me and my girlfriend got together, she had a "bestfriend" who is a male. While I was still courting her, she told me that although she and that guy were "bestfriends" both knew that they loved each other but just don't have the guts to go ...

A.   4 February 2009:  yeah i understand... id be jelous too..because i have female friends im really close with and they have boyfriends but they still flirt with me...but they do it in a friendly way not like they're attracted so yes you have your reasons to be jeal... (read in full...)

Is she pushing me away or just stressed out?

Q.   My gf and I have been dating for about 4 months now and everything has been simply amazing up until about a week ago when she tells me things feel different. We never fight, we always poke fun at eachother and have a laugh. We both have so much in ...

A.   4 February 2009:  i dont know..but i have some female friends, and they tell me that they dont like when a guy is clingy-as in always wanting her to be with you at all times, and no one else- well they dont like are you anything like that??... (read in full...)

Was fooling around with my older sister's ex wrong of me?

Q.   I realy don't know were to start. Last year around March I ended up talking to my oldest sisters ex. He was 33 and I was only 17.I know sound realy wrong of our age difference. My sis and him hadn't been together for years cuz my sis was h...

A.   4 February 2009:  well she doesn't care about him if they just had a sexual relationship and if you did over like a year they broke up..then i dont think it was wrong of you, you like the guy but if you have a special bond with your sister and your feeling ... (read in full...)

How do I get ready for first time sex?

Q.   hi =) this Thursday my bf will turn 18 and we are planning to have sex for the first time. ( well actually its my first time since he is not a virgin). I am not scared or anything but the problem is i don't know how to get ready for it. i want to ...

A.   3 February 2009:  its your first time..you wont be perfect so dont worry he'll understand, he'll probly enjoy teaching you, ask him what he likes, and do alot of forplay..gudd luck you'll be oaky, hell enjoy beying with you peace... (read in full...)

I'm straight but dream about women having oral with me.

Q.   Hi, I would just like to know what or whatever others think about this: I'm totally straight, I love men but I fantasize about a woman sticking her tounge up me and swirling it around. Am I a perv for this? Just thoughts tbh x...

A.   2 February 2009:  you could be bi..but there's nothing wrong with that..and they're just fantasies, you're curious, everybodies curious at some point... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has no time, sympathy or affection for me

Q.   Hello. My girlfriend an I have been together for 2 years now and things have taken a huge change. She has a problem keeping her word on most things, she is never in the mood for sex even though she always tells me " I want you to just take me" or " ...

A.   2 February 2009:  it seems like you really love her , but it doesnt sound like she's trying all that hard to make the relationship work..she has no patiencce and she cant communicate with you, and you seem like a really gudd boy friend to her..but she's juss not ... (read in full...)

I can't trust myself not to cheat

Q.   Okay big problem I have a boyfriend, but we are both pretty young, his number one rule is do not cheat. well, I'm afraid i will break that rule. I've have a ton of relationships in the past so I know I can date. I have big problems with trust I ...

A.   2 February 2009:  why would you dump him, as long as you dont skrew up your ok...and if your feeling not loved then go on a date with him, or have a steammy romantic night with him and cuddle...and if its not possible for him to be around when your feeling lonely ... (read in full...)

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