Is this relationship a lost cause?
Q. How far does the rabbit hole go? I don't want to give up but I don't think I could handle finding out a past situation got any worse. Read on to understand the whole situation. The following ended up being very long! But it is only in an attem...
A. 17 September 2009: Those points don't change my advice.... in case that's why you typed it.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm told I'm not fat and I'm stunning, so why no boyfriend? I'm thinking a diet will sort it all out.
Q. hey right well this is a weird question ! i want to know what to do? i would say i am fat but everyone says im not and i would say im ugly but every says im stunning and i want to loose weight! becouse i am 15 and never once had a boyfrind so if p...
A. 16 September 2009: err... please allow me to clarify - DIETS are not healthy, but balanced and nutritious EATING PLANS are beneficial to everyone!
oops!
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I'm told I'm not fat and I'm stunning, so why no boyfriend? I'm thinking a diet will sort it all out.
Q. hey right well this is a weird question ! i want to know what to do? i would say i am fat but everyone says im not and i would say im ugly but every says im stunning and i want to loose weight! becouse i am 15 and never once had a boyfrind so if p...
A. 16 September 2009: I ALWAYS advise against diets - whether you are still growing or not. A healthy diet is beneficial for everyone. If you chose healthy foods and exercise regularly (but do not obsess about it), then you will be perfect regardless of your size or ... (read in full...)
My mother broke her promise to me and really let me down. Should she apologize?
Q. I have been living on my own for some time now few years, and done actual very well, but my car broke down and so I have no way to get around I am in a very tiny rural town and without a car you cant get around. I told my mother this but never asked ...
A. 16 September 2009: She should talk to you about it, but it sounds like you'll be disappointed again if you expect it.
To apologize, she'd need to behave like a responsible adult. A responsible adult who could not accommodate her daughter after such a promise ... (read in full...)
I want to win him back, jerk or not.
Q. It's a very long story. He and I have been best friends for 4 years, then he asked me out, since then we've been together for 3 years. Many ups and downs, two beak-ups. I still love him. Recently, he broke up with me because he said he has feeling ...
A. 16 September 2009: I know this is the opposite of what you wanted to hear, but no one can help you with that. There is no secret plan to have someone fall back in love with you.
The truth is you don’t really love him, or you’d leave him to be happy with his life... (read in full...)
Is his friendship with my ex keeping us apart?
Q. Hey guys! Okay so i have a question...well its more like i need advice.. Okay, so i dated this guy for about 4 years, things were really serious and i loved him a lot...but after the first 2 years we had some shaky periods. His best friend and ...
A. 16 September 2009: If this guy isn't ready to make a move after a year, I'd move on.
The truth is, dating your best friend's ex-girlfriend is a cardinal sin. He probably has feelings for you, but feels as though he is betraying his friend. His friend (your ex... (read in full...)
We've been happily MSNing, facebooking, texting. Suddenly his attitude seems to have changed!
Q. Hey, I need some advice please :)!! In July I met a guy at Uni, but as it was the end of term we spoke about twice and although it was flirty nothing happened. We didnt speak all summer, however two weeks ago he began facebooking and ...
A. 16 September 2009: Agreed with deliawood.
When something is burning hot and there appears to be this "fabulous connection", it tends to burn out more quickly. Next time, create some intrigue by not being so readily available for "constant contact for ten days".
... (read in full...)
Got my girlfriend pregnant, what can the police do to me?
Q. HELLO... ok here we go... i got sex with my girlfriend and she is pregnant. and i think her parents gonna send me the police... WAT CAN THE POLICE DO TO ME??? answere plz ...
A. 16 September 2009: ...and you locale.
You might be able to Google the local laws on this matter.... (read in full...)
Why is he now ignoring me after what happened?
Q. Guys I need some help please, I'm going off my head here wondering what happened or what I did for this guy to ignore me! A bit long, but here goes... In a nut shell, we work in the same building and have chatted a couple of times in the last yea...
A. 16 September 2009: Trying to "get to the bottom of this" will make you look like a complete idiot.
You kissed a little on a lunch break. You didn't have a long love affair. Whatever is and was going through his head isn't going to make you feel better. The "why... (read in full...)
I'm stuck with a person that doesn't love me
Q. Hi, i'm having a really really hard time... two months ago I lost my virginity with my boyfriend, and to be honest I did it because he wanted because if he didn't i'd never ask for it, i'd take things slower than we did... So know I feel like i'm...
A. 16 September 2009: You know you have to break up with him. So do it.
You have to be firm with yourself.
This guy may even have already told everyone what you do. Empower yourself. He doesn't love you and trats you like garbage, but you still love him? You s... (read in full...)
I never get into relationships because I don't have my driver's license yet!
Q. I'm a 16 year old guy who is good with girls, but i never get into relationships because i don't have my drivers license yet. For the longest time ive been afraid to go on dates because that would mean i would need to be driven by my mom. I'm ...
A. 16 September 2009: Do they have public transit where you live?... (read in full...)
All I want is for us to be together as a family, how can we work through this?
Q. my girlfriend of 6 months wants a break to concentrate on her son,i find this hard,we got together after we split with our long term partners,i was with my ex for 13 years,her with hers for 6 years,her relationship was very abusive and violent,her ...
A. 16 September 2009: It is normal, healthy and recommended that for someone leaving a long relationship, they have time on their own. She endured a lot of abuse and so did her son (even if it was not physically directed at him).
She needs time to heal and rediscov... (read in full...)
My ex's post is still coming to my house and they are like little bundles of memories coming through my door!
Q. I broke up with my partner of 4 years about 5 months ago. We haven't had any contact since we broke up. We were living together and it was my house and he had to leave and he wasn't too happy about it. Any way his post is still coming to my hom...
A. 16 September 2009: And stop texting him.
;-)... (read in full...)
Should I meet my phone (sex) buddy?
Q. hey everyone, so heres my dillemna..i have been talking to this guy i met in a chatroom, over the phone for the past 4 months.we get along great.. he sounded hot and we ended up having phonesex pretty often. Except iv seen his pic and im not real...
A. 16 September 2009: Alysha said it perfectly. If you are interested in meeting:
1) Tell him you do not wish to engage in a physical relationship: you like things the way they are.
2) Meet in a safe place known to you. Have a friend call at a pre-arranged tim... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of losing love in the future
Q. Hey everyone i need some advice... My girfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and we've talked of our future. Although we're in a LDR we truly love each other but im just so afraid of losing her in the far future... I dont know wha...
A. 16 September 2009: When we invest a lot in ourselves, as the others have said, there is a tendency to worry about the worst case scenario regardless of how "good" things are in the present.
However, I recommend worrying about things when it's time to worry about th... (read in full...)
How much of PDA's are ok?
Q. this question is for everyone. how much public displays of affection (PDA) is too much? what do u think when u see people displaying affection? is hugging, holding hands, and a quick peck kiss okay? if u dont think its okay then why do u think th...
A. 16 September 2009: Making out with your partner is generally NOT ok in public. Etiquette is designed to help others feel at ease and "making out" in front of others often makes them feel uncomfortable.
Young people do it, and I did as a youth, but growns up do no... (read in full...)
I didn't say anything to her yet, and I need some advice on what to do!
Q. I had a relationship with a girl right after summer ended. We had to go our own ways, but we still remained together, so it turned into a long-distance relationship. After a couple weeks, she said that long-distance relationships di...
A. 16 September 2009: I wouldn't say anything to her. She probably said, "Nevermind," and hung up because when the words came out of her mouth, she realized how hurtful and ridiculous her request was.
That happens. Something sounds great in our heads, and when we ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable of me to want support from my ex after my abortion?
Q. I am now 25 years old and its been almost a year since I had an abortain after getting pregnant one month into my relationship with my ex boyfriend. It is something I did once and I KNOW I never will do again. I did care about him ---but to go thr...
A. 16 September 2009: P.S. I will be here for a little while if you want to send me a PM. Sometimes talking helps.... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable of me to want support from my ex after my abortion?
Q. I am now 25 years old and its been almost a year since I had an abortain after getting pregnant one month into my relationship with my ex boyfriend. It is something I did once and I KNOW I never will do again. I did care about him ---but to go thr...
A. 16 September 2009: I think you have a few issues going on here and they only feel jumbled up into one. 1)Issue #1: Grief after an abortion. This is NORMAL. I don’t know if it did affect him the same way as it affected you. You still have remorse, and possibly he... (read in full...)
At the end of our trip, he pushed me out of his room and closed the door in my face!
Q. we were just friends through the internet and he came to my country. we met and traveled together for couple of days. while we were together he tried to have sex with me. i was shocked, why he wanted to have sex with me although he don't like me or ...
A. 16 September 2009: That sounds awful.
He felt rejected and his bruised ego caused him to behave badly. Presuming you did not lead him on and declared that while you would have been willing, it is clear he still has unresolved feelings for another woman – explaine... (read in full...)
why hasn't he come to get his stuff yet?
Q. My boyfriend broke up a year long relationship with me two weeks ago, saying "I don't see a future with you, it's not you, it's me, still wanna be friends, blah blah blah..." So, I was upset but I'm moving on. The thing is, he's doing friendly ...
A. 16 September 2009: I agree.
But I wouldn't let him setthe date for picking up his things. I would set it for him. Why should you wait around for his date of convenience? He may cancel that date and not even give you notice. You'd have to constantly adjust y... (read in full...)
Am I about to marry the wrong guy?
Q. I was in a relationship with this guy at the age of 16.We used to go to highscool together.Later we went to the same college.Somehow it couldnt work between us . We kept coming up with things to quarrel about.I always felt that he did not give me ...
A. 16 September 2009: There is allure in the unknown. You could be fantasizing about "Guy #1" because you think he is off limits and because you have an upcoming marriage. This is a decision you need to make for yourself, but I would always choose the loving and stabl... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make this smell go away?
Q. When I think about anything that has to do with sex, I get really really wet. I think that it has a bad smell and I'm scared that there's something wrong with me. Sometimes it soaks my underwear. Is there any possible way to make the smell go away? ...
A. 16 September 2009: You should see a doctor, but you could have something as simple as a yeast infection. Your symptoms would coincide with this affliction. They are common, and not a sign of poor hygiene. Yogurt is a natural way to prevent yeast infections, but ... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of pregnancy? I am too scared to go to the doctors
Q. I'm 16, my boyfriend is 18, we have been together for 2 years and the condom split 2 weeks ago, my period is due in 9 days, I have; headaches cramping but no bleeding nausea more clear discharge than normal (no smell or irritation) mood sw...
A. 16 September 2009: Tisha-1 spent a lot of time giving you realistic, kind and wise advice. I will add that while I am not a doctor, 2 weeks is generally too early to find any hormonal changes occurring within the body. Since your period is not due for nine days, i... (read in full...)
He is a mummys boy and I cant take it any more!
Q. I had date with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is mama's boy. After 1 year I want to get out of this relationship. Cause he just listen to his mom. His mom didn't like me. If his mom say dont have sex with me then he wont.I dont know what to do. We ...
A. 16 September 2009: Well you have told him you want to break up and it sounds like you've put a lot of thought into it. I would trust your gut instinct and continue with the plan of moving on with your life. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship a lost cause?
Q. How far does the rabbit hole go? I don't want to give up but I don't think I could handle finding out a past situation got any worse. Read on to understand the whole situation. The following ended up being very long! But it is only in an attem...
A. 16 September 2009: The rabbit hole goes deeper. When someone gives you the truth in small doses and it gets worse every time, it's usually because they are lying. There is something going on there. She appears quite willing to play you two against each other. I w... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know why he rejected me!
Q. okay so I was talking to this guy named Victor for about a month. He seemed very interested in me.He sent me love letters.He would call me 3 times a day just to see how my day was going.We would talk all night about anything. He always made me laugh ...
A. 16 September 2009: I would add to the last bit of advice you got on this thread. 1) When you make "a connection" is made with someone online, via text and/or phone and/or email, it doesn't always hold up to physical chemistry when you meet in real-life. Co... (read in full...)
Should I still make contact with my ex??
Q. Me and my boyfriend split up over 2 months ago now. We were together for 18 months but broke up for a variety of reasons, mainly that I saw no future in it and that he had a lot of baggage. The break up was a mutual agreement, there were no rows or ...
A. 15 September 2009: Agreed 100% with Ask Oldersister. This is actually a VERY COMMON question on here. I think various people ask the same one everyday.
I suggest you read some of those questions and the related answers. You won't have to go back far, and in fact ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for this man?
Q. I am 19 yrs old....i have been in relationships before...but as of my previous relationships.....i had committment issues......now i am in love with this guy....he is an year younger than me.....i am pretty sure i want to date him...but i am not ...
A. 15 September 2009: You probably find this guy desirable because he doesn't want a relationship with you. You have trouble with commitment, and so that fear will not be threatened by a guy who doesn't want to date you.
I think you shouldmove on and deal with you... (read in full...)
Problems in the office is leaving me hurt!
Q. helo.i have a problem with one of my superiors.there are two of them a guy and a lady.the lady act all nice but go behind my back and complain about me to the guy.he on his part wait until we have a management meeting and then tells me off in the ...
A. 15 September 2009: It's hard to comment when we don't know the "ins and outs" of your dilemna. What IS he complaining about, if it is not related to work? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told everyone what we did -- how do I deal with the abuse?
Q. I just tryed oral sex with my boyfriend and he told all his friends. now people are calling me a slut, and i have guys from school asking me to "suck them" or "get on your knees for me" any idea's how to stop this or to deal with it. ...
A. 15 September 2009: How awful.
When the other posters stated that these comments will die down, they were right. In the meantime, this guy broke your trust. I don't usually say "Dump that guy!" right off the bat, but in this case I would.
"Kissing and ... (read in full...)
I left my shy, dull wife for a wildcat. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster!
Q. Left my wife of 15 years because we grew apart and it seemed like we just wanted different things in life. The thing is, my wife has always been painfully shy. Always hates crowds, or parties or bars. I live for the crowds and the parties and the ...
A. 15 September 2009: When one has tried all that is reasonable, there is no other course than to move on...
... I suggest you move out of your wife's home, be the kind of man who can stand on his own two feet, and find a lady who is the best of both worlds (stable ... (read in full...)
Seems like a mutual attraction, but I'm moving away in a few days
Q. been in my current job about a year, liked one of my work mates since i started (lets call him Mark), hes so funny we have lots in commen and hes really hot! but i thought i had no chance with him, i dated another guy for a while but now single. s...
A. 15 September 2009: Ask if he's open to a long-distance relationship!
:-)
Congratulations!... (read in full...)
My mum has poisened my boyfriend against me, how do I get him back?
Q. about 5 months ago me and my mum had a masive fight and she kicked me out, my boyfriend of 4 years still wanted to keep in touch with her, what i was fine about. not too long ago me and my boyfriend had a argument my mum had told him my dad didnt...
A. 15 September 2009: If your boyfriend is willing to listen to your mum's false statements (rumours) even after four year sof getting to know you, it indicates the relationship was not strong and he is not worth having around.
Since you've already let him know how... (read in full...)
Woman like bad boys??
Q. Hi. I was wondering about all the myths out there about women love a "bad boy" or a "jerk." Can this possibly be true over someone who is down to earth and nice instead of cocky and rude?...
A. 15 September 2009: It may be true of girls, but if you are a nice and down to earth guy and you look for mature WOMEN who know themselves and are secure, and are not overly-obsessive in your pursuits of women (staying true to yourself), you won't be dismissed for ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for taking him back? Or should I just ignore what people say and continue to work things out with my ex?
Q. After a break up with my ex we started to try and work things out, going for dates etc, and things seem to be going well. However a lot of people have commented that im stupid for taking him back as a lot of things have gone wrong with our ...
A. 15 September 2009: They could be right. I am not sure how forgiving I would be if I were thrown out on a whim (to be told a week later it was a mistake), but they also could be wrong.
Ultimately it is you who lives with your life's decisions, so it is only you who ... (read in full...)
M I being melodramatic over him not getting me a b-day gift?
Q. I'm still hurting over something my boyfriend did a few months back, even though i know it will sound trivial. Here goes: on the lead up to my birthday, he said he really wanted to get me something nice, pretty much bombarded me all week for hints ...
A. 15 September 2009: This all depends on what you said while he asked for what you wanted for your birthday. If you SAID you wanted nothing, or not to make a big deal about it, then you should have expected what you got. It sucks, but the myth that if a man loves you ... (read in full...)
I'm to weak to brake up with her what do I do?
Q. Hi. I have a humungus problem i need help with. I´ve been together with a girl for the last two years. However, we became together when I was in the height of my puberty, so I aimed for the first and the best. (If you dont understand, I mean that ...
A. 15 September 2009: Well since you are too weak to end it, then you will have to suffer through it.
I don’t think you are too weak. I think you have what it takes to end it.. we all do. It is one thing you can do for yourself that will make your life better..... (read in full...)
Is she just stressed or cheating?
Q. Here's the thing.I am 18,my girlfriend is 16 going on 17.We usually have a great sex life and do it whenever we can.However,lately,since she has started college,our sex life (and me for that matter) seem to be the last thing on her mind.It used to ...
A. 15 September 2009: Have you asked her?
I would ask her. Either could be true.... (read in full...)
Females only, please: I'm in love with my sister!
Q. Probably I'm gonna get flamed here but I'm just curious if there are people out there like me and my sister. Everything started out as kid play. We both loved our Barbies and dressed up as princesses. We made up these stories about being save...
A. 15 September 2009: Yes... I love my two sisters dearly, but I have no interest in them in a romantic or sexual sense. (shudders).
I think you may find it more helpful to find out why you both feel this way and spend less time accepting it or trying to find people w... (read in full...)
Is she stalking him or am I going nuts?
Q. I dont know what to do about this girl.... I started to date my current boyfriend about 6 weeks ago. When we first got together, there was a bit of a problem with a friend of his . She had a huge crush on him, though she knew it would never be m...
A. 15 September 2009: It's not you; it's her. She's a weirdo.
I wouldn't consider her a stalker, though. She's one of those losers who would prefer to be gum on the bottom of a man's shoe, than finding one that actually cares for them.
Your boyrfiend is the... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for taking him back? Or should I just ignore what people say and continue to work things out with my ex?
Q. After a break up with my ex we started to try and work things out, going for dates etc, and things seem to be going well. However a lot of people have commented that im stupid for taking him back as a lot of things have gone wrong with our ...
A. 15 September 2009: I don't know anything about this guy, but here are a few thoughts I have on the matter that may help clarify things in your own head. 1) Going back with an ex doesn't usually work out. If it failed the first time, it will fail the second ... (read in full...)
I left my shy, dull wife for a wildcat. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster!
Q. Left my wife of 15 years because we grew apart and it seemed like we just wanted different things in life. The thing is, my wife has always been painfully shy. Always hates crowds, or parties or bars. I live for the crowds and the parties and the ...
A. 14 September 2009: Here are a couple of really radical ideas: 1) Maybe NEITHER of them is for you, and you should look for someone new who is the best of both? Think about it… There are actually women who are loyal, caring, respectful, daring, bold, sexy, ... (read in full...)
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