He won't give me his phone number but calls me his property...
Q. 4 months ago, a much younger man I met in real life came after me full guns. He won't give me his phone number, but doesn't call me either. We mostly communicate by chat or email. He claims he is divorced with shared custody. He claims he...
A. 11 September 2009: We teach people how to treat us using a number of forms of unspoken communication.
The way we treat ourselves is a big indicator of how we will allow ourselves to be treated by others.
If someone mistreats you and you return for more mistrea... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big an age gap?
Q. Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...
A. 9 September 2009: To clarify:
I did not call you a rapist, but advised you of the legal scenario where I am. I went on to say that I didn't know the scenario in your area.
Then I closed saying that if there was no issue of legality, only the two of you could... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big an age gap?
Q. Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...
A. 8 September 2009: I don’t know what the legalities are involving 25 year olds and 16/17 year olds and sexual intimacy in your area. In my area as I understand it, your current circumstances would be considered statutory rape if there is sexual intimacy. Also in m... (read in full...)
How can I make going to college more interesting?
Q. hello, this may sound like a stupid question but it is something that is really getting me down. I have recently passed my AS exams and have returned to college to do my A2 exams. But most of my friends havent returned to school as they didnt pass,...
A. 8 September 2009: Are there any groups, clubs or teams you would enjoy being a part of? If you attempt to make new friends with common interests, I am certain you will find it more rewarding than chasing after those who are not as close to you. It may be diffi... (read in full...)
He won't give me his phone number but calls me his property...
Q. 4 months ago, a much younger man I met in real life came after me full guns. He won't give me his phone number, but doesn't call me either. We mostly communicate by chat or email. He claims he is divorced with shared custody. He claims he...
A. 8 September 2009: Domination and submission is not for everyone, but there is no shame in enjoying any aspect of it, providing it is consensual and everyone gets their needs met. I agree with Quiet-Echo. He sounds like a novice dominant and he has already brok... (read in full...)
It burns when I pee
Q. this passing weekend...i went over to a friend's house.... i had met him before and was very attracted to him, he was very nice to me and everything(this was 3 weeks back) the day before this friday...he told me that he wanted to have sex with ...
A. 8 September 2009: I agree 100% with deliawood on every front. While I am not a doctor, your symptoms do sound as though they are related to a bladder infection and cranberry juice is usually a fantastic way to alleviate the discomfort. However, you should see a... (read in full...)
Does how he signed my birthday card have any special meaning to it?
Q. This is actually a pretty stupid question.But one that I would like some opinions on. Today was my birthday.I spent the day with somebody that I have been seeing for about 7 months.We have not talked about commitment and love and all of that.We ...
A. 8 September 2009: I say this with kindness, and because I was there in my youth, but overanalyzing things is a redundant waste of time. You have a 50% chance of being right... and a 50% chance of being wrong. After spending all of your time guessing, you are in the ... (read in full...)
Crushed Dreams
Q. Hey, Ive got a problem, its not massive as its effecting me horribly, Im a male 16 year old, and as usual storys go, there is the girl I know to well, I know more about each other than we do about ourselfs, this is the events between us so fa...
A. 8 September 2009: At sixteen years old, you are too young to be looking for that kind of love. I know, not what you wanted to hear, right?
Here are a couple of things to consider:
1) Its likely that girl #1 ISN'T interested in you that way and is trying to put... (read in full...)
Any advice, because I'm not over her and want her to see we can still have something special?
Q. Well, she called it quits! Im the guy who wrote the question titled "Is she still mourning or is it over?" Well, she came to me and told me its over here is what she wrote to me (told her to write me becuase of our schedules and I didn't wanna keep ...
A. 8 September 2009:
"Im hurtin bad because to say you just dont think you can be in a relatioship is so vauge to me."
Actually, the statement is clear. It appears vague to you because it is not what you want to hear.
Please understand that I sympat... (read in full...)
It's heartbreaking thinking my son could be growing up around another man and thinking he's the dad.
Q. Hi, Basically I'm going through a really tough time at the moment, I have been on and off with my partner over the past few months and I don't see us working any more even though I want us to be together. She is about 6 months pregnant and it ...
A. 8 September 2009: Sadly, this is a common fear of men separating from the mothers of their children. As a mother, I can agree that shared custody with my daughter would not feel “enough”. You will learn that to be a good father, you must put the interes... (read in full...)
I really like him, but I think he is just using me for sex
Q. I want to know if I did the right thing: I met a guy at a near by dog park, a neighborhood I am now moving to. His dog was bitten and I made my move offered help (I had a crush on him for awhile). We walked our dogs together and went on a date. We...
A. 8 September 2009: I'm sorry to say... he's just not that into you.
:(
When someone likes you, there isn't any second-guessing. You know.
No more chances for him, ok? You deserve better.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Help!!! I want to end my relationship with him but find it so difficult to do so... help!
Q. I really want to end my relationship with my current boyfriend, but there are so many reasons why it is becoming more and more difficult to do so. Firstly, his mum terrifies me - she apparently tried to run over his last girlfriend, and attacked...
A. 8 September 2009:
Breaking up is always hard when you still care for the person you are ending it with.
There are precautions for your safety I am sure you could take that would protect you and your mum (family) from retaliation. Set those in place.
Then..... (read in full...)
Is he trying to break it off?
Q. Hi. I posted a question earlier but did not recieve any replies so I'm going to try again and make it more concise I'll start by saying that I'm 31 yrs old and basically in my first "real" relationship. I should also mention that I suffer from ext...
A. 8 September 2009: I usually find that when someone is trying to break it off, they do. There is no need to question it.
I agree with the statements above which suggested your anxiety is causing you to question things too early. I would add that by asking him repe... (read in full...)
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