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writes:we were just friends through the internet and he came to my country. we met and traveled together for couple of days. while we were together he tried to have sex with me. i was shocked, why he wanted to have sex with me although he don't like me or love me and he's already in love with other woman but they broke up before we met and he's still in love with her, he was talking about her and how she was beautiful while i was in his lap...i rejected him althought i desire him, i felt that he wanted to use me, i didn't trust him. it was my first sexual experience, i used to think that having sex with someone is relating to feelings, love. at the end of our trip he pushed me out of his room and closed the door on my face. the problem is i liked him and it's not easy for me to get over such bad experience, help plz.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot guys for such helpful answers. you really helped me to change my bad mood and take the decision to break all contact with him.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 September 2009):
 I agree with Code Warrior 100%. The guys was a jerk, those are a dime a duzin. Don't feel bad, feel proud that you didn't let some idiot take advantage of you.
Don't talk to him any more on the Internet, he isn't worth the time of day.
In the future be careful of who you meet and where.
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reader, rockhard  +, writes (16 September 2009):
things like this happen and me being a guy i know what this guy was feeling he just had his ex gf on his mind while he was having fun with you and its not your fault he just wasnt the right guy thats all i can say about this. but cheer up im sure ul be fine just keep lookin while the man of your life looks for you
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reader, Code Warrior + ♥, writes (16 September 2009):
 Personally, I think the guy was an idiot for doing that to you. However, I can tell you why he did it.
After all the signals, he thought he was in. Then he stupidly started saying all those things about his old flame, probably thinking that you would see how sensitive and caring he was and how much he was hurting. He figured that he was making himself even more desirable to you.
All he succeeded in doing was making you feel like he was not there with you. He made you feel like he was there with her and using your body to live his little fantasy. You had every right to reject his stupid ass.
He thought you were buying his BS, but then rejecting him for no reason. He thought you acted like a tease. Guys will not tolerate a tease. That is why he showed you the door. You were lucky that he didn't hit you. Some guys can get violent with women they percieve to be teases. Thankfully you were not hurt.
Dont look at this as a bad experience. You did the right thing.
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reader, Nightingale +, writes (16 September 2009):
 If he was so not into you why did you sleep with him. Guys can very much have sex and it have nothing to do with love or relationships. I have a secret for you. It is okay for a woman to have sex just because she likes it. If he is a good lay then have sex with him but don't expect anything in return on his part. If he is a lousy lay then don't sleep with him again. If you can't separate sex for just sex and having a realtionship then don't have sex with people who clearly have no feelings for you. I would not wast another thought on this guy he is not worth the agony you are putting into it.
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reader, Lola1 + ♥, writes (16 September 2009):
 That sounds awful.
He felt rejected and his bruised ego caused him to behave badly. Presuming you did not lead him on and declared that while you would have been willing, it is clear he still has unresolved feelings for another woman – explained you do not wish to be anyone's rebound, you did the right thing.
Try not to spend too much time worrying about him. Be grateful your instincts were right.
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reader, 24yeahright  +, writes (16 September 2009):
Guy sounds like a complete asshole. Break _all_ contact with him and forget about him. Do not ever feel tempted to talk to him.
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