My husband wants a three-some. Is that normal?
Q. My husband of 15 yrs and I always had great sex. Two years ago he made a statement that upset me. He said he wanted to have another woman join us because he has been with the same girl for 13 years. He says he loves me and just wants to add ...
A. 15 June 2010: lol @ birdynumnums! Great point.
I would not be concerned by his question. Its not every man's fantasy, but it certainly is one many of them share. The fact that he feels safe enough to discuss it with you is actually a good thing.
I would... (read in full...)
My husband's addiction to porn is destroying our lives!
Q. i have been with my husband for 6 years, and during this time he has lied about watching and using pornography. he has an addition to it, he has even watched porn at his work and lost his job and lost a lot of respect from friends and family. beca...
A. 1 December 2009: Good luck. Hope it all works out.... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel distant towards him for the way he treated me?
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years came with me to visit my mother and brothers for Thanksgiving. The first 3 days were great, he was sweet, he did not accuse me of anything or call me bad names. Then on the third night, he needed cash at a...
A. 30 November 2009: I have a feeling talking won't help. He wants you to get over it because he is over it. He doesn't feel he did anything wrong. You know he did.
It is not for someone to tell us when to get over something. Only we can judge when enough time has... (read in full...)
I think he's getting bored. How can I make it more fun in bed?
Q. i have been with my partner for 2 years now and im affraid he is getting bored in the bed room because i am scared to try new things. i recently discovered that i enjoy being on top but feel that i dont know the right way of doing so. i would like ...
A. 19 November 2009: We can help you better with the following answers:
1) What scares you about trying new things? Are there some things you're nervous about but would try, and others you really ARE scared of? If so, what might you be curious if nervous about?
... (read in full...)
My fiance thinks I'm crazy for feeling uncomfortable with his ex's presence at all family functions!
Q. My fiance and I are both divorced. His ex is very close with his family. His family feels obligated to invite her to every function because she has no family in the state and no friends. She has lived her over twenty years so go figure. I am ok ...
A. 19 November 2009: This is a tough situation. Do they have children together? This would make more sense if they do.
I agree with sarcy24. It is inadvisable for you to stop attending events altogether and you've already stated your point with your husband,... (read in full...)
How many frogs do I have to date in order to find the one?
Q. I have written for advice in the past and still need it. I dated a great guy and we broke up afte six months of dating. He only was divorced one year. I have been single for ten. He went through a lot of bad stuff with his divorce. He never ...
A. 19 November 2009: This is going to be a long response, and for this, I apologize. However, I am taking your concerns seriously and I want to help. I also want to point out that I do not generally share personal experiences on public boards and am making an ... (read in full...)
I need a friend to talk to, but my friend always steers the conversations back to her problems!
Q. I have this friend who i've known now for nearly 7 years and shes one of my closest friends, shes 3 kids 2 of which are my godsons and i do love her to pieces however i am at the end of my tether. She is forever ringing me and texting me telli...
A. 18 November 2009: It can be emotionally draining to give and give and give and feel as though we don’t get back even half of what we give. We expect to have times like this with friends, but we also expect those times to pass.
Your friend's self-absorbed and emot... (read in full...)
I am taunted about my chest size. Is it really that important?
Q. i am 15 and have small bust, one of my friend (girl in the group who i get along with less) keeps taking the piss out of the size of my bust and was laughing about me when a lad said 'she'll never be able to feed a baby...', it got me down and my ...
A. 18 November 2009: I was taunted about my breast size when I was young, too, except I had "ample" bosom. Teens are instinctive (and somewhat stupid) creatures (present company excluded, I am sure).
They may taunt you because you have a smaller waist size than som... (read in full...)
I am desperate to meet someone. Why am I having trouble?
Q. Hello, I am a woman in my mid forties. I was in a relationship with a man a while back but, broke up. I still see him since we travel in the same circles. It took me a long time to get over him. I really fell for this guy and it has been...
A. 18 November 2009: I suspect that the men you are dating can smell your desperation for a committed relationship. You can try to hide it all you want, but the truth is we all smell it from those who feel that way. You have to stop trying so hard and wanting it so ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of living like this, I just don't know what to do anymore
Q. I've been in a long term relationship for 5 and a half years and I think it's over. We're more friends than a proper couple. We don't do anything together, we don't go anywhere, he doesn't speak to me when we get home from work - he's too busy on ...
A. 18 November 2009: It’s awful to feel that way. But don’t worry! There is hope!
There IS someone you have in your corner that you’ve forgotten about. You have YOU! And YOU are a powerful woman who can get you out of this mess!
“YOU” only needs one thing.... (read in full...)
To date or not to date?
Q. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year and the past 2 months we've been spending more time together. I have a couple of questions.. he has bad credit and short on money. I feel so shallow when I think of that being the dealbreaker for going to ...
A. 18 November 2009: I don't only choose to date men who have lots of money, but if they can't keep their affairs in some sort of order, it is a deal breaker for me absolutely! I'd expect men to "break the deal" with me, if I were that irresponsible.
It’s not like... (read in full...)
I've never had a penny off my ex-husband, is it too late to do anything about it?
Q. i left my hub 10 years ago we stopped friends. ive never had a penny of him. is it to late to do anything about it?...
A. 18 November 2009: Is this for child support? Are the children now of legal age?
I presume this as divorce is not a lottery. Speak with a solicitor and see what (if anything) you may be entitled to.
... (read in full...)
Is being attracted to older men normal?
Q. my name is dan and i am seeing a guy who is 49 and im only 20 he is worried bout the age difference i am too but dnt tell him im worried about wat people will think of us also ive always been into older guys is that normal please help xxxxxxxx ...
A. 17 November 2009: Who posted this?... (read in full...)
My husband's addiction to porn is destroying our lives!
Q. i have been with my husband for 6 years, and during this time he has lied about watching and using pornography. he has an addition to it, he has even watched porn at his work and lost his job and lost a lot of respect from friends and family. beca...
A. 17 November 2009: Oh you're more than welcome. :-)
Good luck and keep us up to date!... (read in full...)
My husband's addiction to porn is destroying our lives!
Q. i have been with my husband for 6 years, and during this time he has lied about watching and using pornography. he has an addition to it, he has even watched porn at his work and lost his job and lost a lot of respect from friends and family. beca...
A. 17 November 2009: Porn is fine, as is alcohol... in moderation. If he were losing his job and dwindling your life savings due to an alcohol addiction, and refused to seek or accept help, what would you do?
You really only have two choices, in my book.
1) Work... (read in full...)
Is being attracted to older men normal?
Q. my name is dan and i am seeing a guy who is 49 and im only 20 he is worried bout the age difference i am too but dnt tell him im worried about wat people will think of us also ive always been into older guys is that normal please help xxxxxxxx ...
A. 17 November 2009: I am personally attracted to older men, but I stopped worrying about being normal in high school. Loll.
I am not as worried about "Age Difference" as I am about "Stage Difference". If you are in wholly different stages in your life, you'll n... (read in full...)
Does the number of x's at the end of a message mean anything?
Q. Hey, Id just like everyones opinion on this very controvertial topic! Now everyone says 'dont be silly and count the number of x's; nobody uses that as a way to say if they like someone.' But they do. Atleast everyone did a lot when we were younger,...
A. 17 November 2009: My boyfriend and I are both very stable in our relationship. We each would only ever give each one "x" if any... and he rarely puts any at the end of his messages. Men do not pay any attention to that kind of thing. In fact, neither do many ... (read in full...)
What should I choose, earth shattering sex or the great looking guy who is not so good in bed?
Q. Which one should I choose earth shattering great sex you know the kind that brings a tear to your eye and make you pull out the hairs on your head and ok looks or do i choose that guy when he walks in the room everyone creams their pants. You know ...
A. 17 November 2009: Then it appears you already have your answer.... (read in full...)
Should I meet this girl?? I think she could be trouble.
Q. I have been dating this guy off and on for 2 years. This year has been great. He told me about this girl he had been friends with. He had told her about me when he first started to see me. Anyway he is friends with her whole family. He does not ...
A. 17 November 2009: Nothing is as reliable as hearing things with your own ears or seeing them with your own eyes.
Make YOUR OWN decision about your boyfriend's friend. You've been with him for a while. Do you not trust his judgement in people?
Give her a ch... (read in full...)
What should I choose, earth shattering sex or the great looking guy who is not so good in bed?
Q. Which one should I choose earth shattering great sex you know the kind that brings a tear to your eye and make you pull out the hairs on your head and ok looks or do i choose that guy when he walks in the room everyone creams their pants. You know ...
A. 17 November 2009: Oops. I withdraw my advice. I thought you liked the other guy for more than his body and face. Then I pick neither.
I like my men intelligent, confident, wise, rugged, older, maybe with crooked teeth or a scar... something that makes him huma... (read in full...)
What should I choose, earth shattering sex or the great looking guy who is not so good in bed?
Q. Which one should I choose earth shattering great sex you know the kind that brings a tear to your eye and make you pull out the hairs on your head and ok looks or do i choose that guy when he walks in the room everyone creams their pants. You know ...
A. 17 November 2009: Definitely Mr. Right-In-All-The-Other-Ways....
When someone "isn't good in bed" it is because they are not physically connected to you. This can change and they alone are not to blame. Help him to explore your body while you explore his. Sh... (read in full...)
My cheating wife says she wants her family back.
Q. I recently learned of an extramarital affair my wife was invloves in. I came home early to discover her texting on her cell phone. When I asked to see it she screamed empahtically no and ran into my 4 year old childs room. Upon convincing her I ...
A. 17 November 2009: Sadly (I hate to see people hurt), I have to agree with duce00 on this one.
Whatever you decide to do, don't blame yourself. When we agree to marriage vows it isn't supposed to be lightly. There is no "except when you work too much" or “except ... (read in full...)
My cheating wife says she wants her family back.
Q. I recently learned of an extramarital affair my wife was invloves in. I came home early to discover her texting on her cell phone. When I asked to see it she screamed empahtically no and ran into my 4 year old childs room. Upon convincing her I ...
A. 16 November 2009: When we enter into a committed relationship with someone, we agree to certain rules. When we break those rules, we cheat. She knew her flirting and picture-sharing would hurt you. It was cheating; breaking your vows.
She shared intimate... (read in full...)
Can a life-long cheater ever be trustworthy or am I wasting my time?
Q. part one; in aug 08 my then finance added some guy to her facebook and when asked about it she said she thought she knew him, she then deleted him and i thought that was the end of it, or so i thought. part two; in jan 09 she went to her work chri...
A. 16 November 2009: People can change. However, she won't change while she is with you and may not change ever.
Don't you think you deserve better, whether the capacity is in her to change or not? Have you not alread ybeen patient enough?
Good luck, my friend.... (read in full...)
He acts like he is not interested, but his eyes say something different.
Q. How can I make him confess instead of using his boddy language although he knows that I am 9 yr elder than him.I know that he loves me too much but he avoids me and he tries to show to public that he even doesn't see me.He looks at me secretly and ...
A. 16 November 2009: If a man SAYS he isn't interested, and acts like he isn't interested, it is safest to presume he isn't. Be careful you are not reading something you WANT to see in his eyes.
Why are you so convinced he loves you? Is it just what you "see in ... (read in full...)
What is more important; love or bread?
Q. Love or bread? Which is more important to you? Sometimes, I really wonder should girls be practical and choose guys with good family background as in rich, average looking and with a high education level or should she really have to just b...
A. 16 November 2009: Why can't you have both bread and love? How much bread is necessary? Can I bake my own bread?
Yes.. I vote for both.... (read in full...)
Long Distance Troubles
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is only 2 hours away but it's still a long ways away when you're in a relationship! I'm 23, live in a small town where all my family is and I've owned a boutique here ...
A. 16 November 2009: I would certainly NOT sacrifice my business for a boyfriend of 8 months.
However, you may want to investigate what it may look like if you tried to move the business at some point. Is there a market in your new community? What would operatin... (read in full...)
Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?
Q. I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...
A. 16 November 2009: This sounds awful. However, you bought a house and financed a car with him and left yourself open to being financially ruined when you walked away from those debts, presuming he would take care of them. When we sign financial agreements, we sign ... (read in full...)
Incorrectly accused of having an emotional affair - now what do I do?
Q. I stopped a mild emotional affair attempt cold in it's tracks and I'm VERY frustrated and confused. I was e-mailing a friend of my husbands with work-related things. (My husband knew all about it.) Looking back through the e-mails everythi...
A. 16 November 2009: Firstly, remind your husband (in a loving and supportive way – but firmly as well) that you came to him and told him about how you ended the communications because you felt they were inappropriate, if only because the other man’s wife didn’t know. ... (read in full...)
My cheating wife says she wants her family back.
Q. I recently learned of an extramarital affair my wife was invloves in. I came home early to discover her texting on her cell phone. When I asked to see it she screamed empahtically no and ran into my 4 year old childs room. Upon convincing her I ...
A. 16 November 2009: I am VERY sorry this happened to you. What I am about to say won’t be pleasant, but I hope you find it helpful.
Your wife isn't sorry she cheated. She is sorry she got caught. That is the first thing you need to understand. Something is missi... (read in full...)
How long are you supposed to be casually dating before it becomes a proper relationship?
Q. What's the longest amount of time you've 'seen' someone before you make it a proper relationship. I've been seeing this boy for about 4 months now but he doesn't want to take it further into a relationship yet. It's basically a relationship anyway ...
A. 16 November 2009: Without really knowing what you mean by “proper relationship”, I am going to generalize here and I hope you find it helpful.
There isn't really a set time limit, however if at this point he isn't prepared to commit, he never will be.
Because... (read in full...)
What unusual name to do you have for your privates... and how did you get it?
Q. Mine is petercheese. My girlfriend years ago gave me it. The first time she gave me head she said it squrted out like a can of ez cheese. So she called it peter cheese. ...
A. 11 November 2009: I haven't named mine. Is that neglectful?... (read in full...)
Does a man NEED sex to be healthy?
Q. Want to know if a man can do without sex and be healthy?...
A. 11 November 2009: Excellent point, Lazy Guy.
... (read in full...)
Does a man NEED sex to be healthy?
Q. Want to know if a man can do without sex and be healthy?...
A. 11 November 2009: Everyone is different and it is hard to answer in a way that may be specific to you without more information, however one would probably have to define "healthy".
To me, "healthy" includes "emotional balance". One does need to feel loved, a... (read in full...)
Mad crush!
Q. I must confess. I think I have a problem. Frankly, I've developed a mad crush on a writer here. He's just so damn witty and a clever writer too. I totally enjoy reading his posts, even when he's wrong about a topic. This seems like one helluva man....
A. 10 November 2009: Thanks duce! I'll be there. I will be the one wearing the rollerblades, a smile and a hairpin.
Man, that Q attracts all kinds... :P... (read in full...)
Should I be alarmed by the timing of her personal grooming?
Q. I am a 44 y/o male engaged to a 42 y/o woman...we have been together for 1.5 yrs., our relationship has had it's ups and downs, however, we profess our commitment to each other. She seems to wear her ring with pride. Although, lately we have been in ...
A. 10 November 2009: I groom because I feel better when I am groomed. When going to a hot climate, it would be more comfortable, whether I am in a bathing suit or not.... (read in full...)
Mad crush!
Q. I must confess. I think I have a problem. Frankly, I've developed a mad crush on a writer here. He's just so damn witty and a clever writer too. I totally enjoy reading his posts, even when he's wrong about a topic. This seems like one helluva man....
A. 10 November 2009: There once was a Texan named q.
His giggle-guns are pointed at you!
You think you've got issues?
Well put away the tissues,
His wit will make them seem quite minute. ... (read in full...)
Mad crush!
Q. I must confess. I think I have a problem. Frankly, I've developed a mad crush on a writer here. He's just so damn witty and a clever writer too. I totally enjoy reading his posts, even when he's wrong about a topic. This seems like one helluva man....
A. 10 November 2009: Is this where we join the fan club for quit-witted q?... (read in full...)
Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?
Q. Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?...
A. 10 November 2009: I presume it is two weeks AFTER an abortion as two weeks OF an abortion would be h*ll and only your doctor could say for sure. The type of vaginal cream and the symptoms you wish the cream to addess are also important to the answer.
It's possible... (read in full...)
Should I move on or email him? It's an online, LDR.
Q. I have been talking to a 45 year old man (I'm 23) over the internet for about 5 months now. He lives about 13 hours away from me and I plan on moving to the state he lives in, in about 3 months (for college). Hes not married (is divorced). So we ...
A. 8 November 2009: You probably ARE over it... or maybe that is a brave face that I would encourage (fake it until you make it).
I CAN say, he wasted your time, beautiful lady. :-)
In the future, you will take online, as intense as it can feel, with a grain of ... (read in full...)
I'm worried! Is this an orgasm?
Q. Okay this is wierd!..but when having oral sex, and the guy is fingering a girl, and she tells him too stop, and he smiles and says i could feel that thing a jumpin, but he talks about having sex again, the next night...is that bad? Like should the ...
A. 5 November 2009: You pretty much know when its an orgasm. Aside from that, refer to eyeswideopen about the dangers of kissing and telling.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I move on or email him? It's an online, LDR.
Q. I have been talking to a 45 year old man (I'm 23) over the internet for about 5 months now. He lives about 13 hours away from me and I plan on moving to the state he lives in, in about 3 months (for college). Hes not married (is divorced). So we ...
A. 6 October 2009: My boyfriend of almost four years is 24 years my senior. It doesn't work for everyone, but it can and does for us.
Having said that, I would hesitate to take seriously anything that "develops" online.
While you can email him and ask if he go... (read in full...)
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