He is two years younger, should I give up because of the age gap?
Q. Omg plz plz help. I'm 15 and this boy I really really like is 14 but nearly 2 years younger than me. We've known each other for about 3 months now. At first we flirted and talked non-stop. When we went on a school residential we played truth or dare ...
A. 11 September 2009: I wouldn't let a good thing go because of a two-year age gap. You sound as though you've gotten on really well regardless of it.
Why don't you confess your feelings?
If you're too shy for that, then move on unless he makes a move.
Good lu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is torn between his wife and me
Q. When my boyfriend and I first met it was love at first sight. Not something I had ever believed in before especially at 28. After having our 1st date, he called and told me that he was separated with a daughter and going through a divorce. Not ...
A. 11 September 2009: He sounds like he has complicated his life beautifully.
Love does not conquer all. Sometimes the greatest love is the one we have for ourselves.
While I am sure you WANT to believe his version of events, how can you even be sure that he is ... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend wants to get back with me but I'm engaged, how do I tell him?
Q. I dated a guy in high school for 2 and a half years. During that time I fell in love with him. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first time, my first everything. We ended up being forced apart by my parents from some trouble we got into. ...
A. 11 September 2009: No. Someone will get hurt.
As for the rest of your post, please re-read what everyone else has written.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Since we had sex for the first time last week I keep getting sexual urges!
Q. My girlfriend and i have sex for the first time last week, the night before I went on holiday. Ever since ive been on holiday I get sexual urges and every girl I see looks like my girlfriend, why is this? Also Ive never been able to give my girlfrie...
A. 11 September 2009: The men have addressed the sexual urges. All I can add to that is that we women also have them. ;-) Yay for sex! The female orgasm is a delicious and elusive creature. I was not able to orgasm with a man until I found out how to give one to m... (read in full...)
Is he still in love with her?
Q. i have been with my bf for 2years now i love him alot but i sometimes feel realy small.last year i found out he was cheating on me and confronted him but then he droped the girl and thing slowly started mending.today i was with him then he said he ...
A. 11 September 2009: He is trying to tell you it is over, but isn't being direct. I'm sorry. It's hard to hear that. But now that you know, you have some thinking to do. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Opinions from guys only please!
Q. Hey guys!!! Well I just want to know when you look at her, stare at her, watch her, when you’re talking to your friends corner of your eye is going on her, when she smiles and laughs you watch her. All this above do you serious like her ...
A. 11 September 2009: This sounds like another post which had responses. Did you not like them?... (read in full...)
During sex he went too deep and I started bleeding! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend was having and it went in deep too deep to the point were it hurt, after i started bleeding, but i was due on so we think its probably that, but were just wondering if it could be something else, if it is my period then i have ...
A. 11 September 2009: Hmmm... (avoids the temptation to wonder out loud if you are old enough to be sexually active)... The female sex organ is designed to have a child come through it. It’s pretty sturdy. It is common for the act of love-making to bring upon an ... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend wants to get back with me but I'm engaged, how do I tell him?
Q. I dated a guy in high school for 2 and a half years. During that time I fell in love with him. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first time, my first everything. We ended up being forced apart by my parents from some trouble we got into. ...
A. 11 September 2009: You are 16 or 17 and are engaged? Wow. I would be inclined to think neither is for you. If you loved the first boy, you'd want to be honest with him no matter how hard it was to do so. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said that if I loved him I would have sex with him! Why cant he respect my wishes and wait?
Q. My bf said if I loved him, if I cared about him and if I wanted to make him happy, then I would have sex with him. Why would he say this? It really hurts for him to say this to me because I DO care, and I do love him and I so badly want to ma...
A. 11 September 2009: Thank you, Uncle Phil. I was going to say something like that myself.
You've asked him the hard question, "Will you dump me if I do not have sex with you." He answered yes.
That truth has not changed, despite his apologies. He WILL DUMP YOU... (read in full...)
I really need help before I go insane
Q. hey, I really need help before I go insane. I’m 17 almost 18. I was in a 2 year relationship with the girl of my teen years dreams (corny I know). I had to brake up with her because she kept getting drunk at party and cheating on me with othe...
A. 11 September 2009: You can either get over her or still be as close with her as you are now, but not both.
You can't get her back.
She cheated because she was drunk, at parties and wanted to be with other people. That's the truth. And it is normal. When yo... (read in full...)
She told me she wanted to be with me again, but then had a one-night stand.
Q. My mind is torn. I have dated a girl for three years. I went through a lot and was emotionally closed off for a long time. She finally reached her breaking point and left. It took her leaving me to realize the dark place I was in. While ...
A. 11 September 2009: To be honest, I don't think softtouchmale and I did view this from different perspectives.
I asked my questions hoping OP may see the answers for himself. Softouchmale added a few extra insights and that advice is gold.
Well said, softtouchm... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has decided to get face surgery without discussion, she's considering a breakup incase it goes wrong? What to do?
Q. My girl friend of a few months has decided to go for a face surgery without discussing the consequences with me. She has even gone to an extent where she would like to let go of this relationship fearing that I would not lover her anymore if the ...
A. 11 September 2009: I would presume her face is not the only reason you chose to get involved with this girl. If so, then I doubt the relationship will last. Faces change whether we have surgery or not.
"My girl friend of a few months has decided to go for a face s... (read in full...)
He won't give me his phone number but calls me his property...
Q. 4 months ago, a much younger man I met in real life came after me full guns. He won't give me his phone number, but doesn't call me either. We mostly communicate by chat or email. He claims he is divorced with shared custody. He claims he...
A. 11 September 2009: We teach people how to treat us using a number of forms of unspoken communication.
The way we treat ourselves is a big indicator of how we will allow ourselves to be treated by others.
If someone mistreats you and you return for more mistrea... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of winning this guy away from his fiance?
Q. Right, so my question is fairly straight to the point - do I have any chance of winning back this guy from his fiancee? Allow me to elaborate. I am in my mid twenties and for a couple of months (2007) dated an awesome guy that I fell madly in lo...
A. 10 September 2009: Hmm... all your friends said you didn't have a chance. You apparently are "shopping around" for advice until you hear one person say, "Yeah! Go for it!"
For that reason I won't spend much time on this, pointing out anything that someone else may... (read in full...)
When is it time to draw the line?
Q. Background: I have 2 children from a previous relationship. I have been with my fiance for 2 years and we have just had a baby together 2 and a half weeks ago. We had planned to get married, but put it on hold when we got pregnant and now...
A. 10 September 2009: Breaking up families (especially where children are involved) should never be a first resort, so I respect that you wish to work at this before you consider that as an option.
Your feelings (and I don’t get the impression you are asking anyone t... (read in full...)
Is he sending me mixed signals on purpose or is he just confused?
Q. I broke up with my ex four months ago (we dated six months). I did see him all summer because he is involved with my daughters hobby. We ended up having lunch twice in one week. After the first lunch I was reminded of how much fun we have ...
A. 10 September 2009: Well... I wouldn't ask him, if it were me. You already have and he responded. Asking again would make you appear desperate, and you aren't. I am generally suspicious when I hear people have dated for a short period and are "in love". Maybe yo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend no longer gives oral, how should I talk to her about it?
Q. Hi Ive been with my GF for just over a year now, theres talk of engagement, moving in together etc..in short its a serious relationship. We get on fab and when together the time flies by. But as far as intimacy goes things have gone downhil...
A. 10 September 2009: It's odd that you have that impression. I know many women who do not enjoy receiving and prefer to give.
Good luck OP. ... (read in full...)
He used to be smart and no-nonsense. Now he's a manchild.
Q. I am clueless what went wrong with this guy I dated for a year. He used to be very sensible and even if I wasn't so attracted to him, his being rational, smart and level headed made me fall in love with him thinking I found a man who is unique. He ...
A. 9 September 2009: My honest opinion is, write off the stuff of yours he has and the money he owes you.
There is no telling what is going through his mind, because he doesn't know.
You are a strong, sexy and independent woman worthy of a strong and independent ... (read in full...)
How can I show her I don't mind sharing her with my brother?
Q. Hi friends, There is some thing happened in our life. Mine and my wife's. My brother came and stayed with us for 3 months. He was 19 and my wife was 22. She once told me that he is playing around and in a tricky way, as if happens accidentally ...
A. 9 September 2009: You and your wife are far from the only ones to have had fantasies to have a threesome or to share your spouse/be shared with someone not your spouse (with spousal consent). Admittedly, your particular circumstances are more unique as it involves ... (read in full...)
How much time do I give him? Or do I just give up?
Q. I really like a boy who i have been spending a lot of my free time with. We IM everyday and we talk about a lot of things. We ended up making out at a party but he didnt say anything for the whole week after. Then at another party, a lot of people a...
A. 9 September 2009: If it were me, I would work on forgetting about him.
Perhaps by seing you move on, he will become more intrigued by you and will come to whatever decision he needs to.
Whatever friendship you had has obviously already been affected. I thi... (read in full...)
Every kind of relationship I have FAILS! Should I give up now, or could there still be hope?
Q. dear cupid, i am a complete and utter failure at every attemp of relationship i shoot for. whether that is a geunine relationship, fling, one night stand, or any thing not mentioned i crash and burn like the hindenburg and titanics bastard love ...
A. 9 September 2009: There is always hope and you are still young.
You are a special and wonderful person and the one you are meant to be with is no less special and wondewrful. She will be unique and rare. You may not find her until you are in your later twenties... (read in full...)
Sweet without being too sweet?
Q. How can you say sweet sentiments without being too sweet? It gets to a point where I feel like I sound like a really bad romantic novel....
A. 9 September 2009: What are you saying or inclined to say?
Boys aren't usually as interested in the "sweet nothings" that girls are. There are exceptions.... (read in full...)
Ex wants to be friends after our break up but does he mean it?
Q. my boyfriend of just about 2 years broke up with me about a week ago. no matter what i do, i just can't seem to get over him. when he broke up with me, he said it was because he couldn't see himself with me in the future and because we have nothing ...
A. 9 September 2009: I think your friend could have used more tact and avoided sharing this conversation with you. You could always ask her in the future, not to share anything with you that may hurt you. In the meantime, try your best to move on. Some tips I ha... (read in full...)
We have been married 10 months and I still can't have sex with him
Q. Hi.. I got married in the month of November but not yet had sex with my husband. I love my husband a lot but when it comes to sex when he inserts his finger I feel very painful and stop doing further. He desperately want to have sex with me but im v...
A. 9 September 2009: You know what? I just realized you are a virgin.
Is that why you feel pain? I apologize, as I completely overlooked this possibility. I have a nine year-old daughter and my virginity seems like it was forever ago.
Yes... You can have sex wit... (read in full...)
We have been married 10 months and I still can't have sex with him
Q. Hi.. I got married in the month of November but not yet had sex with my husband. I love my husband a lot but when it comes to sex when he inserts his finger I feel very painful and stop doing further. He desperately want to have sex with me but im v...
A. 9 September 2009: Sometimes life hands us uncomfortable circumstances, but you have to roll with the punches. Book a doctor's appointment and deal with the problem. One appointment asking questions that make you uncomfortable may open up a world of happiness and... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to believe my boyfriend when he says he is not interested in any other women...
Q. I'll try to make this as short and clear as possible. The thing is, i am insecure (as i have mentioned in my previous post) and probably will never overcome this character trait. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We are happy...well i ...
A. 9 September 2009: What would be the worst case scenario? Let's say he DID find another girl attractive, but preferred you for a number of reasons and then put her out of his mind. Is that such a bad thing? Apparently, if this was the case, he can't admit that... (read in full...)
My question is regarding a male friend of both myself and my wife, who is also an ex-boyfriend of my wife's.
Q. My question is regarding a male friend of both myself and my wife, who is also an ex-boyfriend of my wife's. Before I get all the advice about not having an ex-bf around at all, his former best friend (I'm now his best friend) introduced my wife and...
A. 9 September 2009: I don't know how long you've been married and friends with Bob, so I can't say this is a one-time thing any better than you can. I would agree that being nude in the hot tub probably left Bob with the impression he was doing nothing wrong. I am... (read in full...)
Every other aspect of my life is good but I find it difficult to make friends
Q. I am a 23-year-old man with Asperger's syndrome. My social skills are good [not being boastful], I am told, but I consider them to be average. Recently I've started to go to a particular gay bar in my local city during the daytime in an attemp...
A. 9 September 2009: I have gay friends and have been to gay bars as well, although I don't go there to meet new friends. I go to hand out with ones I already have.
If you feel comfortable at a gay bar, continue going. I simply find I enjoy the people I meet whe... (read in full...)
She told me she wanted to be with me again, but then had a one-night stand.
Q. My mind is torn. I have dated a girl for three years. I went through a lot and was emotionally closed off for a long time. She finally reached her breaking point and left. It took her leaving me to realize the dark place I was in. While ...
A. 9 September 2009: Sometimes, when we are really upset, we don't type or speak with appropriate fluidity and our message becomes somewhat garbled. I'm having trouble understanding your problem.
She had sex with a guy she had been dating and was emotionally involved... (read in full...)
I am seeing a wonderful man... so why am I so insecure?
Q. Hello, I am seeing a wonderful man, he is full of compliments and hugs and makes me feel great. So, why am I so insecure? He has a LIFE! lol.. he goes and does and stays busy and I sit and worry and am so afraid this wonderful thing we have ...
A. 9 September 2009: You said it in your question:
"He has a LIFE! lol.. he goes and does and stays busy and I sit and worry and am so afraid this wonderful thing we have will end!"
Go out and do things! Make your life enriched! Enjoy your friends and hobb... (read in full...)
We planned to have this baby and try to make things work, but all of a sudden he wants me to have an abortion!
Q. Hi Guys, Just want some outside opinion on a tricky situation. I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and last week we found out I am pregnant. I know it is iresponsible, but I don't want a lecture! We talked about it, and even though w...
A. 9 September 2009: If you have an abortion "because he wants you to" and that is the only reason, you may regret that choice for the rest of your life. If you stay with him after you've had an abortion to make him happy, you will resent him. And at this point, you ... (read in full...)
Every other aspect of my life is good but I find it difficult to make friends
Q. I am a 23-year-old man with Asperger's syndrome. My social skills are good [not being boastful], I am told, but I consider them to be average. Recently I've started to go to a particular gay bar in my local city during the daytime in an attemp...
A. 9 September 2009: Some of us can relate better with people in our age group and some of us can't, regardless of any "disorder" or "condition" or lack thereof.
It may be that you are better suited to having more mature friends because you are advanced beyond t... (read in full...)
Is he really into me?
Q. dear rock and roll,if you read this message please, please answer this as i guess you were named before as rif raf?i really appreciate your answers.so please please and please reply to my question.and let me know if you are really rifraf.but i ...
A. 9 September 2009: I'm not rif raf or rock and roll, but I think that he obviously enjoyed seeing you damp and in a towel and is trying to be flattering in his crude and immature way.
I would continue to ignore him.
Whether he likes what he saw or not, would he... (read in full...)
My girlfriend no longer gives oral, how should I talk to her about it?
Q. Hi Ive been with my GF for just over a year now, theres talk of engagement, moving in together etc..in short its a serious relationship. We get on fab and when together the time flies by. But as far as intimacy goes things have gone downhil...
A. 9 September 2009: "Clunk!"
That was the sound of sexlessintheuk hitting the nail on the head. If your fiancée enjoyed giving oral sex, she would still do it. That doesn’t mean she can’t learn to enjoy it a little more.
Discussing sex with a partner can be a... (read in full...)
Did what I said push him away?
Q. I need help. I've been dating this guy for over 2 months. while we speak each day sometimes more than once,he is never clear on the direction of where we are going. he recently invited me to a family bbq who i know pretty well and he expected...
A. 9 September 2009: One common flaw women tend to have is the "If you love me, you'll KNOW what I want, why I'm mad, (fill in the blank)”.
If you want a man to plan a day trip with you, and he doesn't, then suggest it yourself. Some people aren’t as imaginat... (read in full...)
B/f says to delete myspace or he won't take me seriously
Q. my boyfriend tells me to delete my myspace or else his not guna take me surious!! ok my boyfriend and i have been together for about 4 years. he tells me he loves me an cares for me, and i belive him i know he does i love him too and really care. ...
A. 9 September 2009: Well, I think (without reading the more detailed "other post") that my concern would be less for the MySpace page and more for the three year-old living with a meth addict.
I'm sure his nice family will still help you to raise your child and I do... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months and this is by far the best relationship I have ever had (and that includes two failed marriages). We are very much in love. The problem is she has gone away for a skiing holiday with her girlfriends for a ...
A. 9 September 2009: Good for you that you came here before acting on your feelings! You get more kudos for caring enough about this woman to question whether your reactions were right.
My boyfriend and I regularly take breaks from each other. We are both independ... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend what do I do
Q. i recently completly broke up with my son's mother that was with for about 3 years. i found out she cheated on me. i had a feeling something was going wrong with our relationship when she started going out to the bars with her single friends. i ...
A. 9 September 2009: I agree with those who've suggested you look into your legal rights as a father.
Focusing on the constructive task of investigating what lies ahead in terms of fatherhood WILL HELP you to get through the hurt you feel. Also, looking into wha... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big an age gap?
Q. Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...
A. 9 September 2009: To clarify:
I did not call you a rapist, but advised you of the legal scenario where I am. I went on to say that I didn't know the scenario in your area.
Then I closed saying that if there was no issue of legality, only the two of you could... (read in full...)
My mom wrote a very hurtful message on my facebook and now I hate her
Q. Hi all. I really need help here. I have a Facebook account, and I posted that I was interested in women and men for friendship and networking. I never thought deeply about it until a week ago when my mom sent me the following Facebook message...
A. 8 September 2009: Dear QuirkLady,
I think you are upset because of the following (but forgive me if I am wrong):
1) It was disgusting and tacky to have your personal business aired by anyone, no less your own mother, on the internet. That's understandable. ... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big an age gap?
Q. Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...
A. 8 September 2009: I don’t know what the legalities are involving 25 year olds and 16/17 year olds and sexual intimacy in your area. In my area as I understand it, your current circumstances would be considered statutory rape if there is sexual intimacy. Also in m... (read in full...)
He won't give me his phone number but calls me his property...
Q. 4 months ago, a much younger man I met in real life came after me full guns. He won't give me his phone number, but doesn't call me either. We mostly communicate by chat or email. He claims he is divorced with shared custody. He claims he...
A. 8 September 2009: Domination and submission is not for everyone, but there is no shame in enjoying any aspect of it, providing it is consensual and everyone gets their needs met. I agree with Quiet-Echo. He sounds like a novice dominant and he has already brok... (read in full...)
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