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I'm worried! Is this an orgasm?

Q.   Okay this is wierd!..but when having oral sex, and the guy is fingering a girl, and she tells him too stop, and he smiles and says i could feel that thing a jumpin, but he talks about having sex again, the next night...is that bad? Like should the ...

A.   5 November 2009: You pretty much know when its an orgasm. Aside from that, refer to eyeswideopen about the dangers of kissing and telling. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Could my two friends be having a secret affair?

Q.   I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...

A.   5 November 2009: Whether YOU have feelings for one of them or not has nothing to do with whether or not it is your business, and frankly, I think you've added that just to try to justify your "interest". If person a and person b are involved, then it only involves... (read in full...)

I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!

Q.   36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...

A.   5 November 2009: To help you to drop it, ask yourself what you would do if you found out that she had slept with the man? After 33 years of marital bliss, are you really going to divorce her over this NOW? Probably not. You got suspicious enough to remember... (read in full...)

My daughter is ten! Is this sexual role play normal?

Q.   my daughter is ten and is friends with a girl the same age. my daughter told me about a year ago that her friend masturbates in their class at school (which i have since told the head teacher) and has now told me that this girl has been role playing ...

A.   5 November 2009: We all seem to be in agreement. The child (not the OP's daughter, the other one) appears to have learned all these ideas and behaviours somewhere and has a mother who doesn't trust or believe her. Something IS “wrong with her head”, although this ... (read in full...)

Why do I change so much?

Q.   Even when I try to avoid it, my entire life prior to a relationship feels like it gets erased-my relationships with friends and family change so much. It seems I change after the breakup now, which is an improvement as I used to change during the ...

A.   5 November 2009: This question is unclear. Do you change WHILE in the relationship? DO you lose friends while in the relationship or after? With clarification, we may be able to help.... (read in full...)

Read this email message and tell me what you think!

Q.   I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...

A.   5 November 2009: From the email, it sounds as though your husband did not come in as promised and that he has been sending signals that he "does not respect their 'friendship'". Obviously, heterosexual men do NOT talk like this. However, I wonder if your hus... (read in full...)

Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.

Q.   Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...

A.   5 November 2009: It is a very hard decision you've had to make. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

How can I encourage my boyfriend to drive to see me?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months, and we both live an hour away from each other. In the 3 months that we have known each other, I have always driven to see him weekly (sometimes twice a week), and he's only driven down to see me ...

A.   5 November 2009: If it's too much effort to come and see you, it usually indicates he is not "that into you". However, if you wanted to give it one last try, you could try to invite him to something he'd like that is local to you. For example, a concert,... (read in full...)

How can I get condoms discretely?

Q.   i'm only 13 years old and my girlfriend want us to have sex and i said i wont do it until we have a condom. she said she cant get one. i want to know a way to get a condom with out my parents finding out and not having to be imbaressed at the store...

A.   5 November 2009: Well, you won't like this advice, but if you're "man enough" to have sex, you are "man enough" to buy condoms. While I am glad you have refused to have sex without protection, I hope you change your mind and choose to abstain for now. If y... (read in full...)

I think he may be still in love with his ex...

Q.   ive been dating this guy for almost a year now and we have gone threw alot i lost a baby with him and we live 2gether well he had told me about his ex and blah blah blah he said he almost married her and crap well i know i should of did this but i ...

A.   5 November 2009: You've been with this man for almost a year... ALMOST a year. He bought a house with you (such a big commitment can speak LOUDER than words). He says he loves you and he's happy with you. I doubt he still feels this way for the other girl. T... (read in full...)

I think he may be still in love with his ex...

Q.   ive been dating this guy for almost a year now and we have gone threw alot i lost a baby with him and we live 2gether well he had told me about his ex and blah blah blah he said he almost married her and crap well i know i should of did this but i ...

A.   4 November 2009: How old is the email? Was it before getting serious with you? Can you explain how you love him? It’s hard to put that kind of thing into words... What do you mean you asked him to explain HOW he loves you? Are there different ways? Do you ... (read in full...)

Family: Where does your priorities lie?

Q.   Wife Question to husband Who do you see as our family? Husband Answer to wife You and the two kids of course Wife to husband No one else? Husband to wife No. No one else Husband to wife Who do you see as our family? Wife to ...

A.   4 November 2009: Is this a general question like a survey, an email forward you received that is a male/female generalization and meant as a joke, or a conversation you really had?... (read in full...)

Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.

Q.   Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...

A.   4 November 2009: I would begin by having a conversation with the father. I wonder why you dumped him instead of just conversing with him? Would you have broken up with him if you had not been pregnant? Having a child and deciding to raise him or her does not... (read in full...)

How can I overcome irritation when she doesn't call as promised?

Q.   Women not returning calls. I would like some advice on what do when a lady promises to call even though she knows she won't call. I have a friend who is a girl. Whenever she has an academic need she bombards my phone with calls. In fact one day ...

A.   4 November 2009: When a woman calls 11 times, she is as much a nuisance as would be a man. You pointed out you get more calls from women you do not have as much invested in, or care a bit less about. You are probably giving off a more nonchalant vibe? If so, that ... (read in full...)

What to do in a situation like this?

Q.   You are 27 After 6 months you cannot forget about her. You are learning Korean and plan on visiting Korea because you have been inspired by your emotions to do so. You try to convince yourself that this is not obsession You know you will n...

A.   4 November 2009: If I were 27 and in those shoes, I would STOP learning Korean and immersing myself in whatever would remind me of her. I would VERY consciously and deliberately work to focus my efforts and thoughts on things that build me up as a whole person b... (read in full...)

I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?

Q.   I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...

A.   4 November 2009: I would be surprised to hear a man could feel a hymen, but I've never been a man, so I can't honestly say. It's possible to break your hymen horseback riding, and a number of other non-sexual ways, so you may not have THAT as a worry. I CAN tell ... (read in full...)

Is it too soon for me to stay the night?

Q.   I've been seeing a fantastic woman for 3 1/2 months now. She is in the process of divorcing ,and has 2 kids, aged 16 and 18. They still live in the marital home.The problem is my girlfiend feels awkward me staying the night because of the c...

A.   4 November 2009: I think duce00 said it perfectly (although I don't remember Jerry MacGuire - saw it, but don't remember it), but I wanted to weigh in, in case it helped to know more than one person thought this way.... (read in full...)

What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.

Q.   I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...

A.   3 November 2009: I suppose if there IS a general stigma attached to piercings, it is "youth". It is true that mature adults do not seek them out, especially when they do not work in tattoo parlours or as a roadie. If it helps, those friends of mine who've h... (read in full...)

How do I build a sexual connection with an experienced woman with concern to the issue that I lack experience?

Q.   Hello everyone. I have a problem. I've been dating this woman and its gotten up to the third date. She is two years older than me, much more experienced, and voiced that she does not want bad sex. I've only had sex with one girl in my life and e...

A.   3 November 2009: Wonderful! And I also agree that you should take it slow!!... (read in full...)

What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.

Q.   I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...

A.   3 November 2009: I understand you are looking for input from under 20 year-olds but I thought I’d weigh in here, anyway. I am an under-35-year-old. I’ve had all kinds of friends who’ve had belly-button piercings, nose and lip piercings, nipple piercings, etc. ... (read in full...)

I lied to my date about basic info

Q.   I'm new to the whole online dating scene but I figure why not give it a shot. I'm a very personal person and I did not want to reveal that much information about myself in case I do not like the guy. So I chatted with this guy online and he wa...

A.   3 November 2009: In the future, just in case this doesn't work out and you start talking to people online again, feel free to say to people you barely know that you do not share certain bits of information until you know people better. This negates the need for... (read in full...)

How do I build a sexual connection with an experienced woman with concern to the issue that I lack experience?

Q.   Hello everyone. I have a problem. I've been dating this woman and its gotten up to the third date. She is two years older than me, much more experienced, and voiced that she does not want bad sex. I've only had sex with one girl in my life and e...

A.   3 November 2009: Wow.. That is a lot of undo pressure. Rest assured my friend. Like other posters have said, two people (usually) participate in sex. Bad sex is not ONE person's fault, since there are at least two participants. It’s like a good conversa... (read in full...)

I am want to cry, but he thinks it’s silly!

Q.   If something is bothering you to the point you feel so hurt and you want to cry but yet, in his eyes, it is so silly, and nothing to worry about. Is it worth getting frustrated over it and confront your significant other and make sure you do not ...

A.   2 November 2009: If something is bothering you and "ignoring it won't go away", then generally it is a good idea to talk about with your significant other. It would be helpful if you were more specific about WHAT is bothering you. If you can, we may be able to ... (read in full...)

How can I unborn a baby?

Q.   how can i unborn a baby i am 2 month of pregnat and if i tellmy dad he willkilll me and send him to jell i dient know i was pregnat me and him was pretecting are self but i dont know what happing and when plz help me dont tell me to go to a clinic ...

A.   2 November 2009: I understand that you are scared and confused, but I am going to ask you to THINK hard about this. You do not want the baby, but you are aware that you can not turn back time to "unborn a baby", or make yourself "un-pregnant". The only way to t... (read in full...)

Has anyone else felt this ache?

Q.   My period should be due next Week and it comes about every 30-32 days. 14 days after my period I had a ache on one side of my pelvic area. So I think I ovulated then.... Now I have been getting a ache since yesterday and it seems like it could be...

A.   2 November 2009: Your question was "Has anyone else experienced this?" While I agree you should see a doctor if you are concerned, to answer your question, I don't think I have experienced this. I am not 100% sure what kind of ache you are feeling. It is possi... (read in full...)

At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...

A.   2 November 2009: You are most welcome. :-) You are certainly welcome to try and "pick my brain" further anytime. ... (read in full...)

At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...

A.   30 October 2009: P.S. Do not lie about rape. If you choose not to divulge the father of your baby, simply say either "I don't know" or "I'm not saying." I prefer the latter. Once you are of an age when this is not a legal issue, it is in your best interest... (read in full...)

At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...

A.   30 October 2009: In lieu of parents, why not try speaking to your aunt. Again, ensure you understand what he means by "being by your side." It sounds as though (based on your last post) he intends to be with you for the long haul. However, she will want to know ... (read in full...)

At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...

A.   30 October 2009: In lieu of parents, why not try speaking to your aunt. Again, ensure you understand what he means by "being by your side." It sounds as though (based on your last post) he intends to be with you for the long haul. However, she will want to know ... (read in full...)

How do I change from being clingy and needy?

Q.   About 5 months ago, I got out of a 3 year relationship that turned abusive, and I am now currently dating this guy that I have known for about 6 years. We started out as friends, and for the past 3 months have been dating. I have really begun to ...

A.   30 October 2009: Your last question is not entirely clear. "And should I even attempt this relationship I am in again in the future?" If I am reading it correctly, then no. You should not attempt a relationship with this man in the future (you’re not in one with... (read in full...)

I love my ex to death but she has moved on!

Q.   my ex and i dated for 2 years we broke up bout 3 months and she got a new boyfriend. i wana be with her so bad im willing to do anything. i just dont see how she can treat me like im nothing to her and ignores me and tries to avoid me after 2 ...

A.   30 October 2009: She isn't doing anything to you. She is doing something for herself. Read your other two posts and see my input there. Leave this girl alone.... (read in full...)

At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...

A.   30 October 2009: As the others have said, you have to consider yourself and the baby. As young as you are, your parents are likely to be your best allies for the YEARS of commitment to that child that you say you are ready to make. I would ask the teacher ... (read in full...)

How can I show her I won't hurt her again?

Q.   What does it mean when you went out with a girl for 2 years and broke up for 3 months and she has a new boyfriend and you try and talk to her but she acts like she doesnt wanna have anything to do with you and tells everyone that she doesnt care ...

A.   30 October 2009: I think I already responded to your other post. To further that statement, you have to give her space. Stop trying to control what she does and accept that you may have no chance to win her back. Accept responsibility for the hurt you caused. ... (read in full...)

How can I get her to come back to me...?

Q.   Me and my ex went out for 2 years, we broke up about 3 months ago and in that 2 years i hurt her bad but i told her it would never happen again and it didnt she hurt me also. about a month and a half ago she got another boyfriend i wanna get back ...

A.   30 October 2009: You may never inspire her to come back to you. You sort of goofed up your chance, didn't you? It is entirely possible that whatever you did to hurt her has cut so deeply she can't forgive you. I wasn’t there and don't know what you did or what ... (read in full...)

I found out she cheated 2 years ago, now all she does is cry. How do I deal with this?

Q.   Hi Guys, If your partner of 20 years cheated on you just once and you found out by chance would you forgive and forget. She is the love of my life and a great mother. Apparently it happened with a mutual so called friend. I confronted her with thi...

A.   30 October 2009: Like hijacked dignity stated, we can't tell you what decision is right for you. It is normal for you to want time and space to consider your options and whether or not you wish to forgive her. I suspect that you would LIKE to, but aren’t s... (read in full...)

Would this letter make her reconsider our relationship???

Q.   Do you think the following letter would make the person it was sent to to reconsider our relationship: Hey, You are right nothing is more important than God or family. The pictures I have attached are of Alex. Alex moved in to the house that I l...

A.   30 October 2009: Your heart is broken and I am sorry for that. To be frank and honest, if I were not in love with someone anymore, NO letter would help me change my mind. I read an attempt to make her feel guilty in this letter. While it is only natural to want ... (read in full...)

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

Q.   Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

A.   30 October 2009: Your ex-friend being a busybody is a moot point. It distracts from your feelings of guilt. You have to address why you feel that way and where the relationship is going. With all due respect, I am starting to get confused by your posts. They ar... (read in full...)

My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. How can I get through this?

Q.   Married with 3 children under 8 years and as I thought happy. My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. According to him it was a lustful affair but he didnt sleep with her. After a few weeks he finished ...

A.   30 October 2009: I'm sorry this happened and I am sorry your husband told you. He felt badly, so to make himself feel better, he purged his bad feelings onto you. Now he can comfort himself with saying, “I was honest,” while you suffer. This was a second selfish ... (read in full...)

Our kids sleep with us... how can I tell my wife I think it should now stop?

Q.   I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a great relationship, We have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and an 8 month old son, my wife still exclusively breastfeeds our son and our daugther still nurses before bed and during the night. ...

A.   30 October 2009: I recommend you simply tell her as honestly as possible without accusations or anger. We can not control how someone will react to what we have to say, but we can do our best to prevent ourselves from fuelling negative reactions. Remind her that... (read in full...)

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

Q.   Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

A.   30 October 2009: It's time for a conversation, however you have breached the relationship rules and it may take a LOT of time and effort to repair the damage (rebuild the trust). I wonder why you did not initially express to him that you wished to engage in a pla... (read in full...)

Can we fix this relationship?

Q.   I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...

A.   30 October 2009: The quality of a relationship, as I've said before, is not determined by how long you've been together, how many children you have or how many things you have in common. It is determined by how well you can work as a team to overcome obstacles. ... (read in full...)

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