I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 2 October 2009: You like him. I knew THAT from the get-go.
Move on. Leave him behind. Don't act desperate.... (read in full...)
Emotional abuse?
Q. hi, i desperately need some advice, i have been with my partner for over 3 years now and then i found out that before i met him he used to download illegal porn and sell for money, as he said he needed the money. I found out that he lied on a few ...
A. 1 October 2009: Anyone subjected to emotional abuse would feel depressed.
Depression is often anger turned inwards. You are angry. THAT is a NORMAL reaction. However depression is counter-productive to well-being. Using your anger as a tool to aid you in l... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 30 September 2009: 1) Email?
2) Phone Call?
3) Approach him in the hallways at school when he is not around his friends?
Why would he get angry with you?... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 30 September 2009: I am not sure if you read everything I wrote. You don't know he said you were desperate. You heard from someone else that he said it. You don't know what (if any) misunderstandings may have been involved.
Ultimately, you have two choices.... (read in full...)
Why do girls look for robot guys?
Q. Why every girls hate emotional guys? Why they look for robot in guys? Would anyone like to guide me on this? Zahir, Pakistan...
A. 29 September 2009: I don't know any women who like men with no feelings. We generally do not like men who are "emotional puddles" or are overly emotional.
To help more, I would need more details. Do you have a scenario you'd like to put forward so we can understa... (read in full...)
I confessed to my teacher that I love him! He said it can never happen...
Q. i am a 17 year old girl and am in love with my teacher.He is unmarried, good-looking amd an absolute charmer.He is an extremely talented person and is loved by all his students.i have been his student for alomost one and a half year and i have a ...
A. 29 September 2009: Respect his honesty and compassion and enjoy your school crush (its harmless). Understand that he is a model or example of the type of man you would like to find for yourself when you are ready.
Its good to see that kind of man exists when you... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant if I got my period?
Q. I had sex about two weeks ago which links to my previous question two days age. I had unprotected sex whch I'm not proud of at all!!! It was my first time having sex period. Anyways I was wondering if I could be pregnant if my period came. My period ...
A. 29 September 2009: Yes you can have bleeding while pregnant and yes, some women may have a period which appears normal (as I understand it in my non-professional experience).
However, pregnancy tests are usually correct. I recommend a second one if you are unsure. ... (read in full...)
I love her but am no longer attracted to her
Q. Can I endure a relationship with a woman I love very much but to whom I am no-longer sexually attracted to what-so-ever, even though as a result that would mean having to look for extra-marital sex? ...
A. 29 September 2009: Well said, PAN!
It is common for the end of sexual attraction to be the first sign that whatever the couple is doing is not working. That does not mean it can not be remedied, but if you are unable to work together for a common happiness (which i... (read in full...)
I love her but am no longer attracted to her
Q. Can I endure a relationship with a woman I love very much but to whom I am no-longer sexually attracted to what-so-ever, even though as a result that would mean having to look for extra-marital sex? ...
A. 29 September 2009: Well said, PAN!
It is common for the end of sexual attraction to be the first sign that whatever the couple is doing is not working. That does not mean it can not be remedied, but if you are unable to work together for a common happiness (which i... (read in full...)
Pubic hair yes or no?
Q. I'm a boy of 18 years the problem is that i hav lots of pubic hairs, actually i have hairs on my hips and lots of hairs on my legs although i have no or very little hairs on my chest. I want to know will my gf or any other girl like my hairs on hips ...
A. 29 September 2009: My boyfriend is a hairy man. He has hair on his back, chest, etc., etc., etc. Sometimes he chooses to have me trim it with clippers (when it impedes his comfort or when we are going on a beach vacation), but that's his choice and not mine. I ... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 29 September 2009: CaringGuy is right.
One thing you should learn about school is that rumours are to be ignored; and I say that not caring how good the friend is who whispered it to you. They are not above mistakes.
In grade (grammar/primary) school in Canada... (read in full...)
I need opinions from others. What's he playing at?
Q. Hi This is a long story so hear goes... Well there was this guy I met at a club. He saved me from another guy who was trying to basically attack me. We hung out for the night swapped numbers. He contacted me we would talk on the phone for hours,...
A. 24 September 2009: Good for you!
;-)... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, now he wants a second chance.
Q. I have a major dilemma. I was dating a guy for two years. After a year of dating, I moved to his city and we got a place together, where we lived for a year. We had discussed marriage, kids, etc. Well back in December his mother suffered a stroke ...
A. 23 September 2009: CaringGuy took the words out of my mouth. You can't be any more certain of your ex than you are of the new guy.
I hope you continue to move forward, be it with the new guy or not. What would happen if another tragedy happens? Would you expect y... (read in full...)
How could he do this to me?
Q. Hey, Basically my Ex broke up with me this month. It was because I'm off to uni, he told me he can't commit to a relationship or can't be in one. So fine, I was gutted but that's what he wants, right? Slowly getting over him, decided to have ...
A. 23 September 2009: I don't think you need advice, hun. This sucks a lot. Regardless of his motivation, he clearly wasn't honest, but I think you are doing the right thing for yourself.
Keep healing... when you're back from University, maybe he'll regret his deci... (read in full...)
Should I ask my son to live separately on his own?
Q. My son recently got married. He is staying at our place with his wife. Time to time we catch them play kissing games, or making out openly in the living room and everywhere in the house, although they would keep apologizing if they get caught. As ...
A. 23 September 2009: I agree.
Also, (this may be a Western Philosophy) he is a big boy. He is a big enough boy to get married. It's his job to find a home for them to begin their lives as a proper married couple. He should absolutely be living on his own with his... (read in full...)
Masturbation concerns.
Q. I've recently realised that when my penis is erect, it bends slightly to the right, it only bends slightly and i've assumed that it's been caused by masturbation. Is this normal?...
A. 23 September 2009: ;-) Great! Very happy to help!... (read in full...)
Creepy ex using our daughter to get to me!
Q. Hi I have a question regarding visitation. I have full legal and sole custody of my daughter due to the fact that he never showed up for the court dates. Child support is set up, but he has not paid a dime and he owes about 1,000 dollars. He is set ...
A. 23 September 2009: Document everything and call the police whenever necessary (they keep records, too). You've been given good advice here from others, so I don't want to be redundant.
However, as he has no rights and is not pursuing obtaining visitation, don't gr... (read in full...)
He still wants to be best friends, but won't explain why he broke up with me. I still love him!
Q. Hello, I'm just looking for a bit of advice really. My boyfriend of a year broke up with me recently giving me no reasons why. He said that I was still the most amazing girl he has ever met and there is no one else he is interested in, a...
A. 23 September 2009: I agree with CaringGuy almost entirely.
However, I am not going to tell you that your ex-boyfriend is rotten for two reasons. 1) You will reject everything I say after that and feel you have to defend him. 2) I don't think he's rotten.. a bit of... (read in full...)
Masturbation concerns.
Q. I've recently realised that when my penis is erect, it bends slightly to the right, it only bends slightly and i've assumed that it's been caused by masturbation. Is this normal?...
A. 23 September 2009: Absolutely normal.
And I agree, Masterbation didn't cause it.... (read in full...)
She said she wants 3 days to decide about the future of our relationship.....what does this look like from an outsider's perspective?
Q. hello i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and recently we seem to have drifted apart a bit i spoke to her about this last night because it has been an on going thing now for a while. Just to give you a bit of back ground we've been on ...
A. 23 September 2009: Good luck! We're keeping our fingers crossed for you.... (read in full...)
I don't understand what she meant!
Q. i have been friends with a girl for quite some time and hoping to get serious. I asked her as a joke how come you don't have a boyfriend and she replies i don't know you well enough to answer that. how am i supposed to understand this?...
A. 23 September 2009: I presume that if she wanted to you to understand it, she would have been clearer.
Apparently, whatever her reasons, she doesn't feel comfortable telling you. Maybe she didn't spend more time on it because she didn't recongize the joke as a "fe... (read in full...)
She said she wants 3 days to decide about the future of our relationship.....what does this look like from an outsider's perspective?
Q. hello i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and recently we seem to have drifted apart a bit i spoke to her about this last night because it has been an on going thing now for a while. Just to give you a bit of back ground we've been on ...
A. 23 September 2009: Since you've already said you are going to give her space, sending a text saying it again is redundant.
Like you said, none of us knows what the outcome will be. Even if we were mind-readers, we can't reach into her mind and find an answer s... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 23 September 2009: Hey - some never figure it out.
;-)... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend smoking again?
Q. hey once again my girl friend quit smoking about 6 months back when we started dating because i convinced her to and i explaind that its a dirty habit and anything any one could think bad about smoking i told her but now its been half a year and im ...
A. 23 September 2009: Well it is certainly a good thing you explained to her the dangers of smoking. I mean, it's not like the negative effects of smoking is plastered all over cigarette packages in Canada (with graphic pictures), or her doctor's office walls or ... (read in full...)
Emotional abuse?
Q. hi, i desperately need some advice, i have been with my partner for over 3 years now and then i found out that before i met him he used to download illegal porn and sell for money, as he said he needed the money. I found out that he lied on a few ...
A. 23 September 2009: You obviously do have a self-esteem issue. Women who are confident in themselves do not allow themselves to be used by men.
His family probably doesn't like you because he has lied to them about you. He is engaging in behaviour with women th... (read in full...)
I need opinions from others. What's he playing at?
Q. Hi This is a long story so hear goes... Well there was this guy I met at a club. He saved me from another guy who was trying to basically attack me. We hung out for the night swapped numbers. He contacted me we would talk on the phone for hours,...
A. 23 September 2009: P.S. The "Who are you?" text was, in my opinion, brilliant! Good for you!... (read in full...)
I need opinions from others. What's he playing at?
Q. Hi This is a long story so hear goes... Well there was this guy I met at a club. He saved me from another guy who was trying to basically attack me. We hung out for the night swapped numbers. He contacted me we would talk on the phone for hours,...
A. 23 September 2009: This advice may sound blunt, and if so, I apologize in advance. I have had this conversation SO often with my girlfriends, efficiency has probably edited out the niceties, but I will do my best. ;-)
It sounds as though everything was going ve... (read in full...)
How can I pluck up the courage and talk to him again?
Q. I really like this guy at church but I've never had the confidence to chat to him before, but recently at a friends suprise birthday party he started talking to me. We spoke for a long time and he was making a lot of eye contact with me but i was so ...
A. 23 September 2009: There are two reasons why you are feeling so nervous about talking to him.
1)You like him quite a lot.
2)You feel there is a lot at stake if it doesn’t go well.
Both of these factors have built the idea of speaking to him again up in your min... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 23 September 2009: GREAT! Good luck and enjoy!
Now, while you are finding success, keep it up! Keep the words everyone has written in your mind and do NOT go back to your old ways... (I say this because often people change a behaviour, find success and then go ... (read in full...)
How can somebody live a lie forever?
Q. I am a married man who has been happily married for 12 years. I recently met a married woman who has been with her partner for the same amount of time. We started as friends but the relationship quickly grew into love. Just love, not sex. ...
A. 23 September 2009: We all have different ideas for what we consider a happy life. Personally, if I felt I loved another man, I could not start a family with the man I am married to, just so I did not hurt him or his family. However, I have encountered many people so ... (read in full...)
He wants to change my status of virgin to non-virgin
Q. I am 13 and there is is boy that i really like. we've been going out for about 3weeks and 1night we were talking on the phone and he said,"are you a virgin?" so i said "yes" and then he said "do you want me to change that?" i didnt say anything back ...
A. 23 September 2009: WAY to GO!
And if you are struggling with finding the words, staying strong or are sad due to an unpleasant outcome, come back and we'll talk more...
Stay Strong! Hugs!... (read in full...)
I keep hearing stories about him and other girls.
Q. I am a lady aged 26 going out with a man aged 38 (he is divorced and has 2 children). I am in love with this man but the problem is I keep hearing stories about him and other girls. Today my good pal told me that a girl went to her to ask if my man ...
A. 22 September 2009: What happened when you asked the other girl?
I doubt your friend would lie to you. I think your boyfriend is practising the old "Best Defence is a Good Offense" strategy. Did his reaction deter you from asking the girl?
If he is not asking... (read in full...)
Should I ask my brother's ex girlfriend out???
Q. I am a brother who likes my brother's ex girl which they lasted for 3 weeks, I wasn't first interested in her but now I am, after seeing her around without my brother, what do I do?...
A. 22 September 2009: In the very least, and only if your brother wasn't hurt in the break up, and appears to be over her (and the break up isn't too fresh), you should speak to your brother about it. Do not proceed without his blessing!... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to think I'm terminally unattractive!!!
Q. This is a difficult one to come out with, as I'm genuinely beginning to think I'm terminally unattractive... I'm 26, have a great job, a fab circle of friends, enough freedom/money to go enjoy myself travelling, etc, but am permanently single. My ...
A. 22 September 2009: That can be frustrating and I sympathize. I can definitely say, however, that you are NOT "terminally" unattractive as I don't think there has ever been a documented condition of someone who died from being unattractive.
It is possible that you... (read in full...)
I need your opinions here. What does love feel like?
Q. There appears to be two types of love. One is the love for a sibling or family member, and the romantic love between intimate partners. I myself am devoid of either. I never have (and probably never will) felt love for another due to my abnormal p...
A. 22 September 2009: Hmm... well like the man born blind who wants to know what it is like to see, how would you answer that?... (read in full...)
I love him, but what's happening?
Q. hey, so i met a really fit boy and i fell in love with him, i asked him out and he said yes.i have been dating him for nearly 3 weeks now but i have got very shy and everytime i try to hug him or talk to him i mess up, so i asked my friends for help ...
A. 22 September 2009: It's a pleasure! :-)
Good luck and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
We've had a huge argument. How can I sort this?
Q. Hello, I'm in need of some help. I have been with a wonderful guy for 6 months and when we started off we saw each other as much as we could and fell in love, problem is i have a job that requires me to work different shift patterns and now...
A. 22 September 2009: You could start by "sorting out your head." Your insecurity and neediness drive this boyfriend away. You understand you are wrong and then repeat or escalate the behaviour.
You can say to him, "Listen, I was wrong. You are right and I have bee... (read in full...)
How do I nudge him to fall in love with me? Or come clean that he can't?
Q. I know you can't make someone fall in love with you, but does anybody have any tips to move it along? We spend all our free time together, can talk about anything, and never fight. I don't know what the hold up is. I let it slip that I had fallen ...
A. 22 September 2009: You should stop thinking about it so much. You aren't really allowing him time while you sit back and wait for the endearment to come. You do not allow time while you seek ways to hurry it along, are you?
Allow the time, and stop "waiting... (read in full...)
LDR and suddenly he's not responding
Q. Hey guys, im in a bit of a muddle atm. you see, im in this long distance relationship with this guy ive known since i was a baby. Im 16, and i left England to live in australia 2 years ago, at this time we had been dating for about 8 months. ...
A. 22 September 2009: This is an awful feeling and I sympathize. It appears he has a new girlfriend and has not had the decency to let you know. This is crummy and it can hurt.
If he won't respond to your contacts, I would move on. Don’t try to contact him, don’t to... (read in full...)
Did this guy ever like me? Is he using my friend as a rebound?
Q. Dear ,cupid I recently met a guy and he an I were kicking it off really well We got to point of where we can tell each other anything in just one month. But he lives 5000 miles away and when visited him on vacation he offered to take me out t...
A. 22 September 2009: Well, you sort of put him back on the market, so I would move on. I question the value of a friendship where people go out with someone a friend was interested in or dating, but that's up to you.
Aside from that I recommend you move on. The "Wha... (read in full...)
I love him, but what's happening?
Q. hey, so i met a really fit boy and i fell in love with him, i asked him out and he said yes.i have been dating him for nearly 3 weeks now but i have got very shy and everytime i try to hug him or talk to him i mess up, so i asked my friends for help ...
A. 22 September 2009: Lol... I presume your age is posted incorrectly because this is not a typical issue for a woman of 41 to 50 years old.
What's wrong with you, you ask? Nothing is "wrong". You are young. This is an immature reaction. You will grow out of it (a... (read in full...)
Cant get over her even after 9 months and we're both still single!
Q. i dated my ex for about one and a half years and we were really tight together. she broke up with me exactly 9 months ago, saying she doesnt love me enough. we have been friends since then and i'm still not over her. we got together for movies, etc ...
A. 22 September 2009: You won't get over her while you are her friend. You need to take some time to yourself to allow the healing process to begin before you can engage in any kind of friendship.... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't make an effort during sex, what to do so I can enjoy sex?
Q. Why my boyfriend like me on top during our sex? He is lacking of effort as to do some preliminaries not just jump into fucking. He does not want to kiss me all over my body specially my neck and back. I mean, he just touches my ears, neck, and run ...
A. 22 September 2009: I agree with CaringGuy. You need to have a conversation with him. Tell him what you like and what you want. Explain that you are getting bored and want to shake things up. Ensure that you are not accusatory. Be matter of fact. And be open ... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied to texts for a couple of days, and I don't know what to do!
Q. I met a guy a week ago and we really hit it off. He gave me his no and I texted him a few days later. He replied and we exchanged a few messages. Now though he's not replied for a couple of days and I don't know what to do. We don't stay that close ...
A. 22 September 2009: Allow him to initiat the next contact, but do not wait for it.
You certainly do not want him to think you are pining away like a love-sick teenager. ;-) Presumably, you want him to think you are a busy and interesting woman with places to go an... (read in full...)
I try to be nice to my ex because we have a child together but I hate the things he does!
Q. This isnt exactly a love question,but it does have to do with my ex boyfriend.We have a 5 year old daughter together and i broke up with him about 4 years ago.I really cant stand him,when i started dating him i was only 18 and still not the ...
A. 22 September 2009: How creepy. I feel for you.
I agree not to use access to your daughter as a tool to solve this problem. It could be detrimental to your relationship with her. She would resent you for denying her access to her father.
I think you should... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 18 September 2009: If you do anything, have it be a card or an e-card. Make it a funny one, not a cheesey mushy one.
I would prefer not to acknowledge it until he contacts you again. Then say "Oh, you had a birthday, didn't you? Next time we're together, I will b... (read in full...)
He wants to change my status of virgin to non-virgin
Q. I am 13 and there is is boy that i really like. we've been going out for about 3weeks and 1night we were talking on the phone and he said,"are you a virgin?" so i said "yes" and then he said "do you want me to change that?" i didnt say anything back ...
A. 18 September 2009: Firstly, you should be proud of yourself for looking for advice. I think you should stay true to yourself. You do not wish to have sex (good for you!) so don't.
You've only dated this boy for 3 weeks and frankly, if he's the type of boy who woul... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 17 September 2009: It is possible, but unlikely. You may have paved the way for another girl, though.
You get involved here at your own risk. Do not even allow your mind to travel into the "maybe-things-will-change" zone. VERY DANGEROUS. Soon you will be expec... (read in full...)
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