Can we fix this relationship?
Q. I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...
A. 30 October 2009: The quality of a relationship, as I've said before, is not determined by how long you've been together, how many children you have or how many things you have in common. It is determined by how well you can work as a team to overcome obstacles.
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How can I forget him? Pleeze help!
Q. hey everyone!!! im 16 year old girl in love. the boy i love, loves me too, but we're both too shy and we never could tell each other how we feel. he tryed million times to talk to me and he did. we were finally gonna be friends but few day...
A. 30 October 2009: I would also recommend you continue to communicate via the internet, texting and phone.
If he does come back for second term, you may not feel the same way by then, but you'll be better able to ensure you are not starting all over again (overcom... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is accusing me of being unfaithful when I've done nothing wrong...How many accusations should I put up with?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now. She has never been in anything you could call a "serious relationship" before, so the whole thing is new to her. She has been with some nasty guys in the past, so she has some tru...
A. 30 October 2009: For those out there who are single and not yet in this predicament and for the original poster’s future relationships, I strongly recommend people DO NOT people with baggage. It is unfair for you to be punished for the misbehaviour of others... and ... (read in full...)
Am I the right size?
Q. What is the right girth for a 16 year old?...
A. 30 October 2009: duce00 said it perfectly. I echo this only so you know that women agree. Confidence, security, strength, a sense of humour, and a capacity to love are attractive to women. If you master those things, you will never have to doubt what sits in you... (read in full...)
Totally confused by all the mixed signals...
Q. I am 16 and a sophomore in high school. I have liked this girl for a while and we have become pretty close over the past month. One of my close friends is also pretty close friends with her and he says she told him she likes me and always asks for ...
A. 30 October 2009: I would NOT confront her ever. I'll come back to why later. First, I would encourage you to take comfort in the fact you did everything RIGHT! Good for you! You have no reason to second guess any move you made. If she likes you, she behaved... (read in full...)
Crush on a guy I don't even know?
Q. Hi, I'm having a crush on this one guy who doesn't even know. Although he is quite short, not good looking, but is very outgoing and funny. His jokes make me laugh all the time. And he and I share the same Chinese cultural background. So i...
A. 30 October 2009: Is it appropriate to let the Chinese Man know you are interested? As a white Canadian, I am unfamiliar with this aspect of Chinese culture, but I always find happiness when I aim for the things in life I actually want. If this is not possible, ... (read in full...)
Where can I talk openly about sex?
Q. Ok, this is probably not the best place to ask this, but since my question is where I should ask this question, here goes. Back story: I'm a geek and have always been one. I managed to get through middle school single (not for lack of trying),...
A. 30 October 2009: It depends on what you mean by "discussing sex". You won't find an outlet for sexual fantasy here, but open and honest discussion is certainly possible and seeking advice and the input of others with more experience is encouraged. For more ... (read in full...)
How do I get over his mistakes?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on, ups and down for 7 years. We have a daughter together which is 6 years old, that we love so much. Before he went to prison our relationship was going down the drain, he never was home, he sold ...
A. 29 October 2009: A female, anonymous is absolutely right! His other child is an innocent. He/she deserves to be embraced by his/her father and his/her half-sister (your daughter) and his/her step-mother (you). Good luck! :-)... (read in full...)
Am I too needy?
Q. simple: am i too needy of attention? i tend to get rejected from my boyfriend all the time to me it seems as if he'd rather go to a billiards than to just hang out with me.... i SWEAR he goes at least 4 times a week!...
A. 29 October 2009: You may want to invest in your own hobbies. My boyfriend and I share hobbies and we have separate ones. We would both be bored if all we did was "stay home and hang out". Everyone should have their own set of friends. It is good to miss you... (read in full...)
Should I end it if he doesn't trust me?
Q. please help me, i'm 16 and have been going with my boyfriend for 1year and 9months, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i really regret this and would never be unfaithful to him, however, my boyfriend has trouble ...
A. 29 October 2009: I would have a conversation with him. It can be done without accusation or anger. Being matter of fact, simply tell him that you are hurt he does not trust you and that the arguments are tearing you apart as a couple.
Ask for his input. How can... (read in full...)
How can I show him I moved on from the past?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I will reach our one year anniversary soon .We really love eachother but he lost my trust a while ago. Four months ago or so, we had a break where he was sexually engaged with another girl.. although they did not do anything...
A. 29 October 2009: I recommend you give him the blow job. If you light candles, sing songs and prepare a mating dance (or other fancy things to make it "sweet and romantic") it will all pale in comparison to the blow job.
Leave it simple. It is a powerful statemen... (read in full...)
Is this the beginning of physical abuse in the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a fight. It was bad, I would not give up without talking, he wanted to sleep (had a test the next morning) so he ignored me and my tears (I am extremely depressed lately and feel like I have no one to turn to, so there is a ...
A. 29 October 2009: A quote taken from the OP’s first follow up:
"After he punched me and made it look as if it was OK, I got up and said "It is OK? Well if this is OK, then it is fine for me to do this" and punched him. He got really mad. Then he made it look lik... (read in full...)
Is this the beginning of physical abuse in the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a fight. It was bad, I would not give up without talking, he wanted to sleep (had a test the next morning) so he ignored me and my tears (I am extremely depressed lately and feel like I have no one to turn to, so there is a ...
A. 29 October 2009: I have to agree with everyone here who says you've baited your boyfriend. I, too, would have wanted to lash out at you. You demonstrated absolutely NO compassion for your boyfriend who had a test in the morning and was trying to sleep. It was all ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he told his brother about me?
Q. All last year I had a really big crush on this guy. There were a lot of reasons that led me to believe that he liked me too, but we are both REALLY shy and never went any where. I thought I would get over him over the summer, but I didn't. This year ...
A. 29 October 2009: That is not the kind of behaviour a boy demonstrates when he is told his brother is into a girl. It is closer to what one might expect if the boy is shy and likes you himself. I hope this helps. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gave me an unwanted hickey?
Q. OK hi my name is mimmy.im 20 years old.and me and my boyfriends been together for 5 1/2 months. and he gave me a hickey.that i clearly didnt want.but If i tell him no he will stop and look at me and tell me why? why? you have another man at ...
A. 29 October 2009: UG! How frustrating! You have my sympathy.
Firstly, and I know this will sound silly, but grab a fork and rub the hickey with it. This will help it heal faster. Trust me, it works. I learned this in high school.
Secondly, tell your boyfri... (read in full...)
Why does my ex argue with me?
Q. My boyfriend and i agreed to just be friends - we talk to each other a lot, but whatever i say he always argues about it, even if it's just my own opinion, and i dont know why?...
A. 29 October 2009: He may have some resentment about the break up or maybe he is tense in his life right now. Who knows?
You have a right to express your opinion, and he has a right to dispute it, or state an alternate outlook. Perhaps he thinks that when you... (read in full...)
Should I let her past bug me?
Q. I found out that the women that i am dating for 6 mths has had 22 men in her past,some where relationships of 1 to 2 yrs in length but most where only a few mths in length and then she tells me that she has had 4 one nite stands.She is 35 yrs old ...
A. 29 October 2009: You should not let it affect your relationship. Her past is her PAST. It is not her future.
Every experience she has had has helped form the woman you have grown to care for. Accept her for who she is and enjoy your connection.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she like me?
Q. Ok so this is kinda complicated. There's this girl that I've known since she was born, we'll call her connie and I'm in love with her. She is my best friend's sister, we'll call him Ted and I know things will NEVER happen between us. It's kinda ...
A. 29 October 2009: I don't think there is a chance. I think you should go back to trying to convince YOURSELF there is no future. It's possible she thinks of you as a brother. If so, this would explain her feelings of discomfort with your affection.
Stop telling ... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him give the wrong impression?
Q. My husband and I have lots of problems and I just recently had a child. My husband has lots of lying issues and verb. abussive towards me..we my question is..I havent had sex in almost 6 months and I dont want to mess around with just anybody would ...
A. 29 October 2009: Hmmm... You do not want to have sex with just anybody and I presume it is because you hold yourself in high regard and value your body, as you should. You do not wish to have a cheap fling; you are above that.
Have you considered it this way?
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I lied to her... and now she ignores my messages.
Q. I am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i ...
A. 29 October 2009: I agree with quiet-echo. She should have been flattered. It was quite a compliment that you would try to seek her out and your lie was harmless. She over-reacted.
Her loss. ;-)... (read in full...)
Why is one breast smaller than the other?
Q. I am 13 years old. and I have come to know that my left breast is smaller than the right breast, it worries me. what should i do....
A. 29 October 2009: Everyone has one size of their body larger than the other. The left side is smaller because the right side of your body is dominant. You are right-handed... right?
Your right foot is also slightly larger as is your right hand, as compared... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: I met one of my best friends online. We tried dating, but it didn't work out. He and his wife are joining me and my boyfriend and a few other friends at my boyfriend's LakeHouse this November for my birthday.
The right connection for you will... (read in full...)
How do you know if the reason you get back with your ex is you, or the new baby?
Q. Am 16 wks pregnant. Broken up with partner. He is unsupportive but acting weird. When we were together - he would buy food cos he was practically living with me and I would cook it for him. He didn't want to go to any scans or hospital appointments ...
A. 29 October 2009: When you focus on your own happiness and the welfare of your baby, you no longer focus on the questions you've asked. If it makes you feel better to think this guy is the source of all of the problems, then go ahead and tell yourself that.
Then ... (read in full...)
What next for someone like me?
Q. I am a divorcee. My current girlfriend of 10 years standing now seems to have become indifferent to me. I moved to another country to live with her, leaving friends and family back in UK. Now she tells me she would be happier if I left. I feel st...
A. 29 October 2009: I agree with your friend and confidante. The truth probably pricked.
Here is more truth, as prickly as it may be. You've made that place your home, but it is HER home first and foremost. And you remain there out of convenience and financia... (read in full...)
What next for someone like me?
Q. I am a divorcee. My current girlfriend of 10 years standing now seems to have become indifferent to me. I moved to another country to live with her, leaving friends and family back in UK. Now she tells me she would be happier if I left. I feel st...
A. 28 October 2009: I’m sorry you are in this situation. It can be hard for any relationship to end, never mind one that has been longer than a decade or involves having moved so far from your “home-base”.
Do you have friends in Cyprus (your location flag)? Do you ... (read in full...)
Any idea what he thinks of me?
Q. ok... durin the summer went to a party with a bunch of my male friends ..there is one of them that i have a little crush on we actually liked each other at the moment... at the party we all started to drink ...he asked me to dance with him i said no ...
A. 28 October 2009: There is no way for us to know what he thinks of you based on what you've typed here, but you sent a clear signal you were not interested.
If he was interested then, I am sure he learned by your reaction, not to nurture those feelings. It would... (read in full...)
Overhead my boyfriend say he would have sex with some girl!
Q. I am 23 years old and am almost 6 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We love eachother very much. The pregnancy was planned, we both wanted and talked about it before it happened. I have a hard time tusting ...
A. 28 October 2009: I am going to bypass the part of your post where you mentioned that you are involved with a man who wants to marry you, but not yet and so you both decided to have a child now instead of waiting for that marriage. I won’t ask if you thought having ... (read in full...)
The Love Triangle
Q. I have two best friends that are not necessarily friends with each other. One of the girls was my aquaintance for the past 4 years and has now become very close with me. I go to her for advice and she comes to me with her problems. We can count on ...
A. 28 October 2009: I think you should mind your own business, as hard as that may be.
We are talking about a one-time “cheat” eight months ago and not an on-going affair, I presume. That doesn’t make it ok or forgivable, but it helps to dictate to me what I would ... (read in full...)
Will your first love ever come back?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend recently broke up with me during the first two weeks of her three month internship. We are both young and she wants to find herself and do her own things with no strings attached. She wants me to do the same. She doesn't want me ...
A. 28 October 2009: They are called First Loves, not Only Loves. Initially, she will be the standard by which you measure all other girls, and most will come up short. Eventually, she will no longer be such an influence (the what ifs will fade) and someone WILL be ... (read in full...)
How do you know if the reason you get back with your ex is you, or the new baby?
Q. Am 16 wks pregnant. Broken up with partner. He is unsupportive but acting weird. When we were together - he would buy food cos he was practically living with me and I would cook it for him. He didn't want to go to any scans or hospital appointments ...
A. 28 October 2009: People who stay together for children only, and not because they love the one they are staying with are not usually very happy in their "marriage" or "union".
I did not say this guy WOULD NOT be in it for the long haul... I said it is UNLIKELY... (read in full...)
I don't like my stature...
Q. i have a low self esteem problem.it's got to do with my height (am short), abt 5ft. i have been a radio presenter for a long time and people love my shows.besides am a good communicator and in journalism school now. i should be happy and proud ...
A. 28 October 2009: I have met a number of confident men who are short. One of my favourites is married to a tall, blonde and sexy woman. I have found that many men who are shorter than most are confident and powerful men. I like those qualities in a man. It makes ... (read in full...)
She seems to prefer the company of her dogs to me!
Q. Hi I could really do with some help, I have been dating this girl for about 12 weeks now (Which I know is still early days) and I am starting to feel like I am loosing interest in her. Its not because I am no longer attracted to her because I am...
A. 28 October 2009: The early days are the best time to set boundaries. You’ve made less investment in each other and it’s easier to walk away if it doesn’t work out. Also, the longer you let something you don’t like continue, the harder it is to make changes.
... (read in full...)
How do you know if the reason you get back with your ex is you, or the new baby?
Q. Am 16 wks pregnant. Broken up with partner. He is unsupportive but acting weird. When we were together - he would buy food cos he was practically living with me and I would cook it for him. He didn't want to go to any scans or hospital appointments ...
A. 28 October 2009: In answer to your specific question: you wait and see. If he wants to be with you, he'll come back and if he wants to be with the baby, he will come back to be with the baby.
You've only just broken up and it sounds like there was a lot of emoti... (read in full...)
I am going to the homecoming and I need tips! Help!
Q. Need help! Going to Homecoming and I need some ideas! My gf is going to wear either a purple or red dress. Need help!...
A. 13 October 2009: Need help with what, exactly? You oppose her choice of wardrobe colours? You want to know if you should match? You need directions on how to get there?
... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 9 October 2009: ~Steps over the debate hoping someone posts it somewhere other than a poster's question, so she can feel more free to participate, and addresses the OP.~
You're welcome!
I also advised you speak to your boyfriend, as many others did, too.... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 8 October 2009: Thanks for the clarification, marriedlady! See how we can learn from healthy debate? (Mutters to herself for not thinking to look it up, too... lol.)
It's unfortunate it occurred in the innocent OP's thread... I'm glad it hasn't detracte... (read in full...)
I accused her of cheating but it was just a friend!
Q. I broke up with girlfriend two months back. i dumped her for cheating on me on facebook but the contact turned out to be her childhood friend only. i did try to win her back but she was just unmoved saying that it was me who dumped her and she stood ...
A. 8 October 2009: You got mad because you thought she'd cheated; broken a sacred trust. She got upset with you because your groundless accusation did the same thing.
Do not waste anymore time on trying to win her back. She is not interested, as another poster s... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 8 October 2009: LOL Q! ;-) I don't know that this question IS about and for women, so feel free to add your input. Should she discuss it with her boyfriend?
I love debates; one can learn so much. However, this is probably not an appropriate forum to continue... (read in full...)
My bf rips my thongs on purpose. how can I make him stop.
Q. ill make this short and simple. my boyfriend keeps literally ripping my underwear everytime we have sex! we will get into the mood and he will legit RIP my thong off! im getting rly irritated because i keep having to buy new ones! i have told him ...
A. 8 October 2009: I agree... have him buy you replacement panties. Then he can rip them off you and you don't have to worry about it.
Any special favourites can be worn when you won't see him, or you can take them off yourself when you know things are getting ... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 8 October 2009: If you're crazy, so are most of us and since you have no other real-life oral sex experience to draw from, this is NOT a stupid question.
You can give a thousand blow jobs and still be a virgin. Since you aren't an intern and he isn't the Pres... (read in full...)
Where should I meet my internet/text boyfriend? His place or mine?
Q. ive been txting a man ive met on the internet for almost 2 months now and i am meeting him next week. he lives few hours away and i need to know the best way to approach this meeting. i am not going to sleep with him on the first night so i am ...
A. 8 October 2009: If he comes to your town, you have no obligation to spend the night with him in his hotel room. You can spend a lot of time with him and never set foot in there. You don't even have to go inside the lobby.
The other option (in my opinion)... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 2 October 2009: Yes! Here's to Q and his being him. (Raises a drink)
And here's to our friend, Illithid, who does NOT think all women are whores, and is dusting himself off and trying again.
Have a wonderful date. Take it one day at a time. Remain true ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 1 October 2009: My poor, broken-hearted friend... I will forgive the "are all women whores?" question because you are hurting. :-) No hard feelings, ok?
Yes, plenty of girls are honest, moral, Christian, slightly geeky and won't betray you. You have only dat... (read in full...)
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